ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Sprinters are amazing at short bursts of energy for a short period of time. However, if your vows were anything like ours they had something like “as long as life shall last” (until death do us part, forever, etc). That is not a short period of time, that’s not until the next commercial break, or until this gets too hard. Marathoners or distance runners know that they have to pace themselves. They're in it to run the race. For them to complete it they need know that... Nutrition matters Supporters are key Planning makes a difference Shoes and clothes will impact the results. The same thing plays out in your marriage... instead of all of the different facets of a race, it’s knowing what is important for you to run the race. These include your: Emotional Intimacy Physical Intimacy Spiritual Intimacy Recreational Intimacy Financial Intimacy In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what's you need to do to run the race as you view your marriage as a marathon not a sprint. EPISODE SPONSOR | Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking the Intimacy in Your Marriage Remember back to your wedding day.  We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt.  Your marriage was going to last forever.  You were sure of that.  And then…reality set in.  You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while.  You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same.  Is it just a part of life?  Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes?  You don’t have to! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Looking at the world, especially your marriage, from only your point of view is short sighted. By doing this... you are only taking your feelings, wants and desires into account. Over time this lack of perspective can lead to little consideration from the perspective of your spouse. What they may be going through, how the world looks to them, what they are struggling with. It's time to have some introspection time about being able to see what your marriage looks like from your spouse's eyes. Here’s the thing. Many of us are horrible at seeing things from another’s point of view. We are inherently selfish and use our perceptions, our point of view as the point of view that we focus on...this can lead to a short sighted view of your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about looking at your marriage through your spouse’s eyes, not just through your own narrow lens. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags  Your marriage can be better than ever... With effective communication you will… Stop feeling angry and frustrated with your spouse (and avoid this affecting other areas of your life), develop lasting solutions for your marriage so you can get through anything together, restore honesty, openness and transparency with each other so you can live together with love and trust, but most importantly... create the “happily ever after” that you both deserve. Grab He Zigs, She Zags today and get started! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Having sex is a beautiful experience that you and your spouse get to enjoy together. Unfortunately, there are times when having sex goes by the way side. It's at this moment when you realize that it's time to change it up. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge is just the way to have a new experience and learn about yourself and your marriage. Here's a few things you can expect to learn during a challenge: It’s a way to put each other first, even for us there can be times where we take each other for granted. It requires that you focus on all aspects of intimacy for a concentrated amount of time. This allows you to see where you need to pay more attention and be more intentional in your marriage. It’s fun, challenging and a goal you complete together. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the three marriage lessons they have learned from completing their fifth 7 days of sex challenge over the last six years. EPISODE SPONSOR - 7 Days of Sex Challenge: Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Life is stressful, but when you are too busy (or tired) to find some time for sexual intimacy, it can really seem unbearable. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge makes it easy for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. Meet Jeff & Mandy from Marriage More Meet Casey & Meygan from Marriage365 Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your marriage isn't going the way that you expected when you said "I do" to your spouse. Actually... Your spouse has expressed that it's time for the two of you to either separate for a time or get a divorce. You need to know that you are not alone. We know this doesn't make things better and yet we get many emails each and every day from couples who are where you are. In all honesty our society, as a whole does not set you up for success. Most people come into marriage with no real idea on how to make a long term relationship work. In many cases you take a reactive stance instead of a proactive stance in your marriage. This means that you will react to circumstances as they come instead of actively creating the environment that you wish to have. Living in a disposable world has created an interesting dynamic in marriage. Everything from the clothes that you wear to the cars that you drive are made so that you can get a new one even before you need it. If this model isn’t making you happy anymore or seems to have lost its luster then get a new one. That’s great when your tires wear out, not so great when the two of you have drifted apart because you aren’t working on your marriage. The old isn't working for you and the drift has certainly started... It's time for you to save your marriage. In today’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do to begin the process so that you can answer the question, "how do I save my marriage". EPISODE SPONSOR - Save My Marriage There can be many reasons why you find yourself needing to save your marriage an emotional or physical affair, continued fighting and conflict, being separated due to work, ailing parents, or personal choice, mental or behavioral issues and/or pornography, alcohol, or drug abuse. You now find yourselves creeping to the edge of divorce when there is little to no emotional intimacy, spiritual connectedness and physical/sexual intimacy A divorce brings change. This should not be taken lightly at any time. If this is you, now is the time to get help. Grab Save My Marriage today. Contract of Reconciliation Worksheets One-on-One Strategic Coaching Session Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The time is right and you are ready to make love to your spouse. You've been romancing each other and it's your time to initiate sex. There are certain rituals that you both may have before you make love. These may include, but not limited to... Dimmed lights Light candles or turn them on Warm the bed (turn on electric blanket) Turn up the heat Turn on the sound machine Take a shower Essential oil diffuser On the other had what you do afterwards also plays a part in your sexual intimacy. You may... Hurry up to get the towel or the sheets are going to get dirty. Aren't the sheets already dirty? Jump up and out of bed to get cleaned up or you may bask in the joy as you cuddle. No matter what time it is or what may be coming up you take a shower to clean off. There's also the do we put clothes back on or sleep naked. Both the before and after sex rituals are an area that need to be looked at and discussed in your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the many rituals that can take place before and after sex because there's a lot more happening than just the physical act. EPISODE SPONSOR Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Scheduling Sex & The Intimacy Lifestyle Where Are Your Priorities The Truth Shall Set You Free Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you first met your spouse there was this time when each of you were each others priority. You made sure that you spent time together and if something got in the way you'd reschedule that obligation. As time has past the priorities of life have now take over. Instead of making sure you and your spouse have time together it's everything else that takes priority. Is this the way you want to live your life and marriage? We don't think so because you are listening to this show. It's time to take action, pick one specific change, that you want in your marriage today. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of choosing your priorities instead of letting your obligations dictate your life. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse… forever. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Strategic Coaching with Alisa DiLorenzo Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There’s a reason that things are so good at the beginning of a relationship... Both you and your partner are putting forth effort into making the relationship work, into learning all about each other, and being on your best behavior. Then comes the ring, the wedding and life: kids, bills, obligations and the two of you... well you get relegated to the back burner. All those little things that were so important in the beginning don’t seem so important as the two of you have the stability and commitment of the marriage. The reality is a different story though. When you don't invest in your marriage and get back to basics this is a recipe for disaster. Why? Because your spouse's need to know that they are valued and desired. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about going back to basics and the importance of continuing to do what you did at the beginning of the relationship to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse… forever. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

To tell the truth or not to tell the truth? That is something you may ask yourself when talking to your spouse. It's something that seems so minimal and yet it can have a huge impact on your marriage foundation. There are topics that are not always easy to bring up to your spouse. Topics that can make you feel uncomfortable or “fudging” things a little bit. The reality is that you aren’t “fudging” things you are destroying your foundation. When you and your spouse are able to tell the truth and be open with each other that is when your marriage begins to grow. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how and why it matters that you tell the truth when you are talking to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR – The Perfect Love Letter Checklist When you grab The Perfect Love Letter Checklist you will receive 5 simple steps to never get stuck on what to write about, discover the secret ingredients to craft the perfect love letter, no matter how uncreative you think you are, exactly what to say to make your spouse melt every time, and how to deliver your romantic letter in a way that will WOW your spouse. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Divorce Is Off The Table Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

the book 50 Shades of Grey has become the most successful erotica book ever to be written. It's a #1 Best Seller with over 100 million copies sold. In it's path it has left many who have read it yearning for more in their marriage. The problem is that you feel let down and unsatisfied with what you have. Erotica, the written form of pornography, impacts you as much as someone who is viewing naked pictures on the internet. The hold erotica has on you, your mind and how you view your spouse are as detrimental. It's time to realize that if you desire more in your marriage then it is time to ditch the erotica so that you and your spouse can experience true sexual intimacy. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about a women’s dirty little secret...also known as erotica. EPISODE SPONSOR – How to Argue Less (in 2 Minutes) Stop Bickering With One Simple Movement. It Really Is This Simple, Try It And Be Amazed... You'll instantly learn how this One Simple Movement can breaks the tension and changes your body language as it diffuses the situation in a LOVING and respectful manner. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you choose to only have sex when your kids are away or when everyone is, can be limiting in terms of when the two of you can be sexually intimacy. Giving yourself permission to have sex when the kids are home can be liberating. Your kids are not going to die if they find out that their parents have sex. In fact, they might just feel a bit more secure about their family knowing that their parents are choosing to be sexually intimate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do to become more comfortable having sex when the kids are home. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse... forever. Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine The Sex Talk Blueprint Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices