The Adversity Advantage with Doug Bopst

How To Turn Your Pain into Success!   “If we would only do our own part and reclaim that inner heroism, then we wouldn't have to wait for these heroes that we're all waiting for, to lead us to better days.” -Robin Sharma   I am sure you will today's guest as he is an icon in the personal development world. You certainly may have read heard of his books or maybe you have come across his inspirational content online.  But, today I am trying to take our conversation down a new path and really get deep into the mind of Robin Sharma.   Robin Sharma is one of the top leadership experts in the world and has written books that have sold over 15,000,000 copies. His clients include rock stars, royalty, billionaires, celebrity CEOs, and companies such as Starbucks, Nike, GE, The Coca-Cola Company, NASA and Microsoft.   All the things he will be sharing with us will hit you differently and will surely blow your mind! Interesting topics we talked about:   Why people should cultivate a morning routine and how it can not only help them, but transform their life   Robin’s view on pain and how to move through it in a way that can help people become a better version of themselves   Robin’s view on mindset and why it's just as important to work on the other three interior empires: Heartset Healthset Soulset   The 20/20/20 formula Move Reflect Grow   How can somebody actually achieve greatness if they really want to?   How to rewire the brain program and change the bad habits or the way they talk to themselves that have been robbing them from joy and peace in their life   The best way to pivot from a bad day   The advantage of limiting the use of phone for social media   The cognitive bandwidth Takeaways:   Rising at 5am is the period of greatest quietude in this age of dramatic distraction.   Internal mastery or personal mastery precedes every other type of mastery.   Your beliefs drive your behavior.   Genius is less about genetics and more about your daily habits.   If you want to change your bad habits, take note of the following:   Ask yourself, “What does your terroir look like?”   Terroir is what makes a great wine. Robin talked about it and used this word in a very meaningful way. Listen to this episode to know what this means!     Remove the joy stealers from your life.   1% wins. Small, daily, seemingly insignificant improvements, when done consistently over time, lead to stunning results.   Meditation is powerful.   Under every excuse lives a fear. And if you recite your excuses long enough, you actually believe they are true.   Remember that even in this time of intense suffering during the pandemic, there is so much to be grateful for.   It's important to develop your own scoreboard for success.   It’s important to develop your own accounting system for winning.   Your story is a self-fulfilling prophecy.   Changing your story about who you are and what do you want to stand for in the world is the beginning of transforming your performance. Connect with Robin Sharma:   Website: https://www.robinsharma.com/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robinsharma/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RobinSharmaOfficial/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/sharmaleadership   Twitter: https://twitter.com/robinsharma   Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/AM-Club-Morning-Elevate-Life/dp/1443456624 Connect with Doug Instagram: www.instagram.com/dougbopst Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dougbopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/   Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188   More on Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss:   www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst   Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Secret To Overcoming Limiting Beliefs   If you are struggling to change the way you talk to yourself or feel that you are having a hard time reaching your goals, overcoming your limiting beliefs will help you change all of that!    Being unable to believe in yourself and being always doubtful about your capabilities are two of the most common struggles people are trying to deal with these days. Many of us are having a hard time shifting from thinking negative things about ourselves, to staying optimistic and believing that we can achieve anything we want.   I believe in order to overcome those struggles you must take responsibility for yourself and seize your power back. So today’s conversation is going to focus on doing just that.    So I’d like to welcome Natalie Jill to the podcast today.    You may recognize Natalie Jfrom her online fitness programs, her book or her Leveling Up podcast or through her content on social media where she reaches millions of people.   Natalie is a Fat Loss Expert turned high-performance coach. She helps women change their conversation around age, potential, and possibility. She does this through simple and fun unique methods that are super relatable to anyone. I know she mainly helps women, but if you are a male and listening to this we can all relate to what she shares including the secrets to overcoming limiting beliefs,  creating anything you want from nothing, the blessings of being real and raw, why you need to lose the victim mindset and also her incredible story of overcoming some major turmoil in her life....   13 years ago, Natalie was a divorced single mom, broke, overweight, in debt, and had lost her house and her confidence. She has been through a lot, but these challenges didn’t stop her. Instead, she used them as a motivation to completely turn her life around. She started sharing what she’s going through and telling people what she is doing about it. That’s how she attracted people following along because there are tons of people who can relate to her story.   With all the challenges Natalie has gone through, how exactly did she use those experiences to help her with what she does with coaching and helping people improve   How did Natalie manage to deal with all the hardships she has gone through and stay positive during the crazy times   Creating anything you want from nothing   Victim mindset   Ownership and personal responsibility   How to pivot out of the false assumed truth (FAT) during COVID   How does DVA (decide, vision, action) work?   Natalie’s parenting style as a single mom to her daughter   COVID’s impact on Natalie’s business   Natalie’s thoughts about what’s holding women back from seeing results in their lives   The biggest blessing from being real and raw online Takeaways:   Sharing your struggles about hardships and sharing what you're doing about it is empowering.   We all have a purpose and we make our own luck.   Everything, especially when it comes to our bodies, and health and fitness, it's all mindset-related.   We can be an entirely different person by changing just three things: Your thoughts Your actions Your habits   It is always our responsibility. It is no one else’s fault.   We have to recognize the false assumed truths first, before we can start shifting them.   When you serve and you come from a place of giving, serving and helping and you're generous, it can help you too.   If you don't believe in yourself, find someone else who does.   When in doubt, tell the truth.   When you tell the truth and you show what’s real, then you're not going to be sensitive to triggers. Connect with Natalie:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliejillfit/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nataliejillfit Twitter: https://twitter.com/nataliejillfit Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/nataliejillfitness   Leveling Up Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/leveling-up-creating-everything-from-nothing-natalie/id1436973433   Connect with Doug   Instagram: @dougbopst   Facebook: Doug Bopst   Private Facebook Group:   https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188   Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift   More on Soul CBD Gummies:   Click the link below and enter the code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off Soul CBD Gummies!    www.mysoulcbd.com   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if I told you the way you breathe could potentially be destroying your health?!   I got your attention didn’t I?   Don’t be scared I have just the guest today on the show, that I will introduce in a moment that is going unpack all things on “the breath” and help inspire you to breathe properly so that you can improve your ability to function cognitively, mentally, emotionally and physically.    Today’s guest is James Nestor, an author and journalist who has written for Scientific American, Outside, The New York Times, and more. His latest book, Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art was released earlier this year and was an instant New York Times and London Sunday Times bestseller. Breath explores how the human species has lost the ability to breathe properly--and how to get it back. This is a book I could not put down once I started and It was absolutely “breath taking” for so many reasons..no pun intended.   Breath will be translated into more than 30 languages in 2021. Nestor has spoken at Stanford Medical School, the United Nations, Global Classroom, and appeared on more than 60 radio and television shows, including Fresh Air with Terry Gross, the Joe Rogan Show, and more.   Be ready to have your mind blown by the wisdom James shares which is all based on his research and experience. Show Notes: Many of us might not know that breathing has a huge impact on our physical, mental and emotional health. But, it’s how we breathe that is the most critical. Having James on this show will absolutely be helpful for us to know the importance of proper breathing in our daily life.   The reason why James decided to study about breathing is because back then, even though he was doing all the right things to become healthy, he still suffered from a lot of respiratory illnesses such as constant bronchitis, mild pneumonia, and wheezing. He thought that getting sick was just normal because he lives in the city, until his doctor suggested for him to take a breathing class. And that’s how it all started.   You will be enlightened by the results of the experiment James and his team conducted. He will be showing us facts as we talk about the following topics:   The importance of nostril breathing and why we are breathing wrong   The findings in doing the experiment where he plugged his nose for 10 days and how it impacted:   Blood pressure Heart rate Sleep  Fatigue Anxiety Mental capabilities Stress   How breathing affects three struggles people are facing during these days:   Immunity Stress Sleep   The damages mouth breathing can do to our nose muscles   The correlation with breath work and helping people heal from trauma and/or grief that are usually the reasons why people get into drug addiction   James’ experience with managing his own stress levels   The importance of holding our breath and what it does as a whole on our body   How to properly breathe to calm your anxiety The Book “Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art”   Everyone can relate to James’ book because we all breathe.    Basically, what James is trying to encapsulate in this book is to describe to people that there's this amazing resource right in the front of our faces — and that is proper breathing. Takeaways:   Breathing is a pillar of health. It is the thing that ties all of the different systems of the body together.   Our nose is our first line of defense for our health.   We have to understand our physiology, how our body processes air, how gas exchange works, how oxygen feeds our hungry cells. And once we understand that, we can really appreciate why it's so important to breathe correctly.   If we can become aware of our breath, we can then take control of it.   What breath holding allows us to do is become more comfortable with the increase of CO2.   When we take control of our breathing, we can influence all our organs’ functions down to our immune systems. Connect with James:   Website: https://www.mrjamesnestor.com   Twitter: https://twitter.com/mrjamesnestor   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/MrJamesNestor   Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art https://www.amazon.com/Breath-New-Science-Lost-Art/dp/0735213615   Connect with Doug Instagram: www.instagram.com/dougbopst Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dougbopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/   Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188   More on Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss:   www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst   Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Heal Your Past and Set Yourself Free!!!!   Unfortunately, most people are chasing external validation and haven’t healed from their past. The lack of forgiveness for themselves and others can rob anyone from experiencing authentic joy and fulfillment. We all have insecurities — it may stem from what we see on social media, something painful that we experienced in childhood or in a previous relationship.  If left untreated, these inner demons can lead to deep levels of anxiety, fear, depression and stress.    So with that being said, I have the perfect guest today that will help you understand the importance of healing our past, specifically our inner child and how it can set you free.    Many of you will recognize today’s guest Christine Hassler from her top rated podcast, her books and her work as a master life coach.   In this episode we chat about things such as why we need failed relationships to grow,  the tremendous power of forgiveness, the definition of an expectation hangover, what does healing really mean and why she believes nothing isn’t healable and much more.    More on Christine:   Christine Hassler is a Master  coach, facilitator and speaker with over 15 years of experience. She is the best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change your Present and Get What you Really Want and is the host of top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It” where she coaches people live on the show. Christine is known globally for her ability to identify what is holding someone back and compassionately guide them to clarity.  She also works with companies and organizations to increase the productivity and decrease the stress of their employees. Christine has a Masters degree in Spiritual Psychology and implements elements of NLP, psychology, spirituality, science and a lot of her own diverse life experience into her work.  She’s appeared on: The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style, and The New York Times.  Christine believes once we get out of our own way, we can show up to make the meaningful impact we are here to make.   So let’s get this healing conversation started and help me welcome the incredibly gifted Christine Hassler to the show.    Connect with Christine:   Website: christinehassler.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christinehasslerpage Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinehassler/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/christinhassler Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/over-it-and-on-with-it/id1050321415   Connect with Doug   Website: www.dougbopst.com/ Instagram: @dougbopst Facebook: Doug Bopst Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188 Website: www.dougbopst.com/   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why You Must Deal with Your Mental Health Before You "Make it."   There are so many people that believe they will be eternally satisfied once they have "made it."   How many times have you said or heard someone say when I get into a new relationship, I will experience happiness or whenever I hit my salary goal or have financial success I will get out of this rut.   We hear that stuff time and time again and we all know that it can make us happy short term, but then our old habits and patterns come back. If you aren’t happy with the person you see in the mirror, none of that other stuff matters.   So I encourage you to really pay attention to what my guest today has to say and our discussion in why you have to take care of your mental and emotional health and not focus so much on things externally.   Today, I had the opportunity to chat with Apolo Ohno — America's most decorated Winter Olympic Athlete of all time, best selling author and highly sought after keynote speaker (he also won Dancing With the Stars).   In this episode, you will gain a lot of life changing lessons based on his personal experience. We get into many topics such as the importance of managing your mental health, how to navigate transitions, dealing with pain and failure, his best practices and so much more.   Show Notes:    When we hear the word “athlete”, the first thing that comes to our minds is that we expect them to be strong and capable of staying focused and be well-driven, especially those who are at the peak of their career. Little did we know, they’re also struggling with mental health problems.   Apolo will be talking about the Olympians’ struggles and the HBO documentary The Weight of Gold that premiered this past summer that showcases how the pressure of being an olympian can massively impact your mental health. It also encourages people to ask for help and not be afraid to open up if they are struggling mentally.   As a dedicated mental health advocate, he will make us understand that this anyone can have battles with their mental health. It doesn’t matter who you are or how much you have achieved. He will also be sharing some points that can enlighten everyone about where the struggles of an athlete usually come from   Just like all of us, one of the biggest parts of the adversity of being an Olympian athlete is that they are unsure of what’s going to happen once everything they currently have is all gone — may it be material things, money, or fame.    Apolo will give his insights about how important it is to immediately identify your strengths and weaknesses, understand the process, and be willing to embrace change so that you’ll know what to do once you have decided to move on to the next chapter of your life.   Apolo also encourages the listeners to constantly ask this question:   "What do you want from life and what does life want from you?"   We all need to know our purpose and meaning. We just have to take time to reflect, and look within.   Quote:   “What's being thrown at you is out of your control. How you respond, react, and maneuver through this life experience is powerful, and it is within your control.” -Apolo Ohno   Connect with Apolo:   Website: https://apoloohno.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/apoloohno/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ApoloOhno Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ApoloOhnoOfficial   Connect with Doug Instagram: @dougbopst Facebook: Doug Bopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift   More on Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss:   www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst   Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We can’t deny the fact that there are a lot of people who are so afraid to be judged by others because of their failures. Many are also afraid to open up and share their own stories and take a chance on themselves because of their lack of credentials or because they are fearful of looking like a fool.   But, what if I told you the very thing you MUST do to be successful is to put yourself out there, fail and not be afraid to look like an idiot.    There are also a fair amount people that read book after book only to find themselves in the same place in their lives. Or they may keep jumping from podcast to podcast and unable to move the needle either personally or professionally. Many are having such a hard time really applying what they have learned from past personal development material because they don’t take the time to really process it, implement It and stay consistent.  If you happen to experience any of those, then this is the right episode for you! Those are some of the many topics that my guest and I are going to talk about.   My guest today knows all about being successful, discovering talent, podcasting, being a parent, overcoming adversity and creating a massive a side hustle. A side hustle that is now one of the top podcasts in the world that he co hosts with his wife Lauryn that now has over 80 million downloads just to give you a hint as to who this might be. Another hint is that That podcast is called the Skinny Confidential Him and Her Podcast.   The story doesn’t stop there after boot strapping, self producing and monetizing their own podcast, it inspired him to co-found Dear Media Podcast network where he is the CEO.    Dear Media is the first and leading podcast network focused on female voices, audiences, and narratives. With close to 40 shows under management and growing Dear Media is changing the podcast/audio landscape and amplifying female voices. Dear Media is also changing the way talent interacts in this medium. Dear Media's business model brings opportunity not only to podcast channels but any channel that touches a talent's brand.    My guest today is Michael Bosstick and will share his tips for people to become confident and be unbothered about other people’s judgements so that they can continue to move forward and achieve their goals. He will also provide some of the most surprising advice on what it takes to be successful and so much more!   Get ready to listen and take note of his advice and also make sure to implement what he has to say into your life. It will all be worth it!   The Skinny Confidential Podcast:   The podcast started as a side hustle. Michael was earning other businesses and Lauryn was running her brand. The podcast was a side thing they did as a hobby. And since then, it's obviously become a decently successful show. In addition to that, it was the catalyst to kick off the Dear Media Podcast Network, and the entire network -- the team, the 50+ shows represent would not be possible and not be represented, if Michael didn't take a chance and jump into the show with Lauryn and have that sh*tty thing that ultimately looked really foolish doing in the beginning, but now has kind of proven itself out.   Michael’s Advice:     For the people who are afraid of judgments:     No matter what you do, you're going to look a little stupid, a little foolish, a little bit silly in the beginning, but ultimately on the other side of that is where you'll find happiness and success.      For anyone who is afraid to open up and share their stories:     People can’t find success long term if they're not authentic. If you don't bear it all and you don't put it out there in an authentic way, there's no longevity, which it really like reinforces and enables you to go out there and just be yourself.     For people who are struggling to implement what they’ve learned from podcasts and books:     Everything starts with actually taking a step of action -- step one.    The mistake people make is that they tend to start thinking from A to Z instead of A to B. If you actually go and do the first thing you could potentially do, and you take step one and do the main thing that you can do right now, it will absolutely lead to the rest. You will figure it out along the way you need to build momentum.    People that actually have success in life are the people that take massive amounts of action.   Current Struggles:   Michael will be sharing about some of the struggles and discomfort he dealt and the importance of just staying in your lane, accepting the things that work for you and not worrying about what other people think.   He will also talk about the biggest challenges they are facing right now and will be sharing his tips on how to get through it every single day.   This is really interesting. Tune in to this episode and your perspective will surely be influenced in a better way!   Words of motivation from Michael:   People that have those judgments and actually care about what you're doing and judge you for failing are the real losers.   The moment you feel triggered is the moment you should stop, pause, and say, “Why?” Connect with Michael: https://www.instagram.com/michaelbosstick https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-bosstick-21584b124/ https://twitter.com/michaelbosstick   Dear Media: https://dearmedia.com/ https://www.facebook.com/dearmediastudio https://instagram.com/dearmediastudio https://www.youtube.com/c/DearMediaStudio https://twitter.com/dearmediastudio https://www.linkedin.com/company/dear-media   The Skinny Confidential Podcast: https://tscpodcast.com/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-skinny-confidential-him-her-podcast/id1093028505 https://open.spotify.com/show/2kNTiKHCrrydRj0eFbrAWO?si=7qZ-0zOKQHubLo_F2SJhig   Connect with Doug   Instagram: @dougbopst   Facebook: Doug Bopst   Private Facebook Group:   https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188   Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift   More on Soul CBD Gummies:   Click the link below and enter the code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off Soul CBD Gummies!    www.mysoulcbd.com     Learn more about your ad choices. 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Brian Koppelman, co-creator of Billions, shares advice on overcoming feeling stuck and following your passion. Topics discussed include journaling, gratitude, the power of evolving, the link between creativity and mental health, the transformative power of exercise, the early career grind, the importance of saying no, and taking small steps towards progress.

Let’s face it, today there are many people struggling with their finances.   People have lost their jobs, some have been furloughed, some have had their income drop and this pandemic has impacted so many in such a way that has left them feeling fearful, uncertain, anxious and stressed on what’s to come.   So today, I wanted to bring on the show an expert that will help you better your financial situation right now.    My guest today is Rachel Cruze —  an American author who specializes on the subject of personal finance. Her book Smart Money Smart Kids, co-authored with her father, Dave Ramsey, reached number one on The New York Times Best Seller list in 2014. She’s also the host of the Rachel Cruze show.   We are going to talk about budgeting, family and of course finances. And with the difficult situation happening around us, Rachel will share some of her tips and strategies on how people can effectively manage their money and be financially secure until they live a life that is debt-free!   So if you are one of the many who got affected financially during these difficult times, and you are having a hard time with planning and handling the budget for yourself and your family, this is the perfect episode for you! What's it like growing up with Dave Ramsey as a Dad?   Rachel’s Mom and Dad, obviously, were really intentional with teaching them how money works, but it was not something that they obsessed over.   They were never given an allowance. They were always on commission. “You work, you get paid. You don't work, you don't get paid.”   What can Rachel say about people falling into this comparison trap with impulsive spending, and how to prevent it?   Social media has become so normalized, like it's a part of our everyday life.   People are on it constantly and the hard thing is mostly what people see are the best parts of everyone's life -- great vacations, great meals that are being cooked. And that's how we've been for almost a decade of seeing these things over and over. And assuming that's how life should be.   And if people are not meeting that, then the avenue of debt is right there for us to walk right down and get it because we think it's normal.    We have to shake out what is normal, because what's normal is “broke”, we're finding that 78% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck.   The Four Walls   Rachel points out that during these tough times, it's most important to take care of the four walls that surround you which includes:   Food Shelter Utilities Transportation   Tune in to this episode and digest what Rachel said about these 4 walls. You will surely gain something that is really helpful and might change your perspective when it comes to handling money!   Rachel will also talk about how she manages to protect her energy and make sure that she’s taking care of herself to be a beacon of light to everybody.    And just like everyone else, Rachel also faced some adversity in her life! You better listen to this as she tells her story and what she learned from it. Words of wisdom from Rachel:   “Money is just a tool to create a life that we love. But it is not life. We're not working just to make money.”   “Control what you can control and don't make decisions based out of fear.” Connect with Rachel:   Website: https://www.rachelcruze.com/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rachelramseycruze   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelcruze   Twitter: https://twitter.com/rachelcruze YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/rachelcruze   Connect with Doug   Website: www.dougbopst.com/   Instagram: @dougbopst   Facebook: Doug Bopst   Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188   Website: www.dougbopst.com/   More on Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss:   www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst   Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you are someone who is in pain, stuck in a "rut," struggling with fear or uncertainty?   Congratulations, you are in the right place.  Today's guest says that you MUST use your pain as a motivator to take the small steps to change your life.   Today is a special treat. I have been tracking down this guy to get this interview for quite some time and after hearing who it is you will understand why. Many of you will recognize today's guest from his highly acclaimed podcast. Some of you have may have read his books or just heard of his incredible accomplishments online.   He hosts one of the most popular podcasts out there and his show was the first major podcast to feature my story.  I am so blessed that the tables have turned and I’m now able to pay it forward and have him as a guest on my podcast.   He is also one of the fittest humans alive. Just to give you an idea he completed 5 ironman distance triathlons on 5 different islands of Hawaii in less than a week. He is also a recovery warrior, having over 20 years of sobriety.  Today we get into some parts of his journey that you may not be familiar with.   I am very excited that Rich Roll joins me on the show today. Rich is the host of the highly popular, Rich Roll podcast. His memoir "Finding Ultra: Rejecting Middle Age, Becoming One of the World’s Fittest Men, and Discovering Myself” was a best seller.  His newest  book "Voicing Change" is available for sale tomorrow and will undoubtedly be equally successful.   In addition to being a podcast host and author, he is also a plant based nutrition advocate and ultra endurance athlete.  He is a beacon of light to people worldwide as an inspiring  example of transformation, courage and healthy living. He is the epitome of using Adversity to his Advantage!   “Change is not only possible, it's freely available to you.” -Rich Roll   Get ready to have your mind blown by the incredible wisdom and inspiration he's gained from his personal and professional experiences.   We chat about the following topics and so much more:   Rich’s effective way of dealing with anything he’s struggling with   Why surrendering and letting go of what you can't control is so important to get yourself out of a hole   How staying connected to people that inspire you is helpful for your recovery   How can someone go from being in such a fear-based mindset to living more with faith   Developing such incredible conversational skills despite being shy in younger years is possible   Why is it so important to play the long game when it comes to trying to achieve your goals   How Rich uses his podcast as a healthy outlet and a major act of service   The steps you can take for someone who's struggling   Some of the biggest actions Rich personally takes that gets  his mood up   Rich’s advice for someone who wants to change the way they talk to themselves and create lasting change in their life:   "Change is not only possible, it's freely available." -Rich Roll   He shares that it starts with taking one very small action and building off of that. It's not going to happen overnight.   "If you are in pain, congratulations, that's the best place to start. Use that pain as a motivator, as a lever to actually get you up off the couch. Whether that's literal or figurative and start to manifest in very small nuggets, the life that you would like to lead." -Rich Roll   He talks about beginning with very basic actions. It could just start with simple steps such as writing down the things you are struggling with in your life and jotting down the things you want to give more attention to. Another "first step" example can be putting your shoes on to go for a walk because you have aspirations to run a marathon.    "It's not about quitting your job overnight and making some broad dramatic statement. It really is about these tiny things that you commit yourself to." -Rich Roll   Rich shares that If you are having trouble staying committed or on track, find an accountability partner that you can trust.   "Ask yourself, how committed are you to change and are you willing to take some uncomfortable actions in order to shift your reality?" -Rich Roll   Rich’s Latest Book: Voicing Change   It's an aesthetic compilation of wisdom that showcases many of the life changing conversations between Rich and many of his guests.   The inspiration for this book is really a desire to canonize some of the wisdom and inspiration that Rich received as a result of hosting his podcast.   It's also a way of honoring the many guests that he had on the show, and also honoring the audience.   He wanted to do it in an aesthetically pleasing way. Which is why they decided to go with a coffee table book format.   Get the book here:   richroll.com/vc   Connect with Rich:   Website: richroll.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/richroll/    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/richrollfans   Twitter: https://twitter.com/richroll   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/richroll     Rich’s Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-rich-roll-podcast/id582272991   https://open.spotify.com/show/2TGszFKJEbQuEXrWduK63l?si=ojo6Qb6dSWCjvWvnSOAIeg   Connect with Doug   Website: www.dougbopst.com/   Instagram: @dougbopst   Facebook: Doug Bopst   Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188   Website: www.dougbopst.com/   More on Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss:   www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst   Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  My guest today is the former Miss United States and sports anchor, Whitney Miller. She has found her true calling helping individuals and couples as a love, sex and relationship coach. Her experiential journey to self-mastery started 5 years ago with her well publicized open relationship with an ex fiance.   Whitney has since joined forces with some of the leading scientists and researchers in the field, and now hosts talks and workshops around the world. She believes that regardless of your relationship construct, monogamous or open, there are always ways to create more love, better sex, and healthier, happier relationships.   If you are someone who struggles dealing with your personal insecurities, and you’re tired of  hearing people tell you what to do with your life, then you should listen to this episode. Whitney and I will be talking about her incredible backstory, having a strong mindset and how to overcome you deepest insecurities to improve your self confidence and become your best self.   Whitney’s Backstory:   Whitney was naturally gifted. She started doing gymnastics and soccer by the time she was four. That's the only thing that she knew and she loved competing. She loves trying new things and doing pretty well at it.   Pageantry was a complete out of the box for Whitney because growing up, she used to be a tomboy playing sports with the boys in the neighborhood and keeping up with her brothers.   She was at the age of 15 when she started competing in a pageant. On that same day, she also had a surfing contest. She showed up to rehearsals, all sunburned, clearly not taking the pageant seriously at all. But she went into it and was just trying to see what it was like. And that’s what her mindset was.   Her parents always told her, “Whitney always does what she wants to do, like we can tell her to do one thing, but she's going to try to figure it out on her own.” Whitney’s strong mindset   She ended up winning the pageant and that's when she started to understand the pageant industry.    When I'm 15 years old, she had a very naturally athletic body, which is great for sports, but not great for pageants, particularly back then.   According to Whitney, 15 or 16 years ago, having abs and arms wasn't really considered sexy or feminine on a woman. And so I was constantly told, “You need to be softer. You need to get rid of some of your muscle. You need to not work out so much.”   Her main secret is that she wouldn't let anyone say what she should do, or how she should be.  She’s going t o just be authentically herself.    Again, she ended up winning Miss Texas, and winning the swimsuit, which is really interesting, because she still had my very athletic body. So she won swimsuit, went to Miss Texas. And when she went to Miss United States, she kept the same mindset.   How Whitney handles her insecurities:   For Whitney, people just need to understand that insecurities are just part of our lives. And insecurities exist to teach us.    Whitney always tries to see how she can transform her insecurity into something that can be one of her greatest teachers, that can actually lead to a life that she really wants to live.   The Momentum   We make a choice and we get a little bit more momentum. We keep going until we start to just feel that way and we're gonna mess up. We're human, we're not always going to be perfect and stay on that course.   By gaining that momentum, we gain confidence, because we start to trust ourselves that we're making the right decisions for ourselves.   Tune in to this episode to know more about Whitney’s journey and life lessons that she will be sharing!   Get Coached By Whitney:   Whitney's TogetherNLove Mentorship Program   Connect with Whitney:   Twitter: https://twitter.com/whitnlove   Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/Miss2Jits   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whitnlove/   Connect with Doug   Instagram: @dougbopst   Facebook: Doug Bopst   Private Facebook Group:   https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188   Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift   More on Soul CBD Gummies:   Click the link below and enter the code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off Soul CBD Gummies!    www.mysoulcbd.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices