Adoptees On

A mashup of true crime and disenfranchised grief? Yes! We are learning about adoptee parricide from Dr. Tracy Carlis, a clinical psychologist who I've had the absolute honour of learning from in-person. In this episode, Dr. Carlis shares her personal story of search and reunion, including some exciting recent DNA search updates. Then we shift the conversation to her work in forensic psychology and she teaches us what we can glean from some incredibly tragic situations of adoptee parricide. TW: We are going to discuss violence graphically at a few points during this episode, including a mention of sexual violence. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Dr. Tracy Carlis: drtracylcarlis.com | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Sue Green, a psychologist from Australia who was actively involved in the landmark Victorian Adoption Act of 1984 shares her personal story with us. We dig into what lead her to become an adoptee advocate, who now teaches other therapists and mental health professionals how to truly be adoptee-competent in working with our loss and trauma. We also touch on some interesting facts about adoption in Australia that will likely surprise you. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Dr. Sue Green: vanish.org.au | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Dear Adoption, is joining up with Adoptees On again today! Reshma McClintock, the founder of Dear Adoption, is back and she brought us another letter that we are sure most adopted people will relate to. We also talk about a recent trip to Washington, DC that Reshma was a part of, where for the first time adult adoptee voices were invited and represented in the adoption conversation. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Reshma McClintock: Instagram | Facebook | reshmamcclintock.com | Calcutta is My Mother | Dear Adoption, Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Mary O'Rourke shares the difficult news she received in her non-identifying information at age 21. We discuss her reunion, the added complexity of coming out twice as queer, and how she ended up finding a grief support group and an adoption-competent therapist. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Mary O'Rourke: Instagram Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Liz shares about the shift her life took in her late thirties as she started to examine her adoption more closely. We talk about how Liz believes we can reveal who we truly are through writing, and how building our own narrative instead of accepting the ones that are placed on us can bring about tremendous growth. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Liz DeBetta: www.lizdebetta.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

You may remember Jemma's first appearance on the podcast where her biological mother adopted Jemma back. Well, things have changed quite a bit from that happy ending. Jemma felt it was crucial for adoptees to know the ups and downs that reunion can bring over the years. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Jemma Sullivan Twitter | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Revisiting a fave episode... next week we have an update from Jemma! Can you really be adopted back into your family of origin? Today I get to introduce you to Jemma Sullivan, and she shares some incredibly painful realities of having a narcissistic adoptive parent, it's not all gloom and doom though - I promise you need to wait to hear what happens at the beginning of Jemma's new chapter with her first mother. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Revisiting another fave Healing Series episode. Adoptees often struggle in intimate-partner relationships because we had our trust broken at a very early age. In this episode of the healing series, Marta Drachenberg, LMHC, and Haley discuss some personal examples of relationship issues that seem to keep repeating themselves. Marta teaches us what to look out for, how attachment styles affect our relationships, and how some disagreements with our partners can actually be caused by adoption-issues in disguise. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Marta Drachenberg, LMHC: marta.drachenberg [at] gmail [dot] com | http://martadrachenberglmhc.com/ Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Revisiting a fave Healing Series episode today! Marta Drachenberg, LMHC, teaches us about the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, something she feels is particularly effective for adoptees. Marta explains that our best advocate and healer is found within ourselves! IFS helps us to discover the 8 Cs that come with self-leadership: calm, creativity, compassion, curiosity, courage, clarity, connectedness, and confidence. If traditional talk therapy has not been working for you, Internal Family Systems may be a good fit. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Marta Drachenberg, LMHC: marta.drachenberg [at] gmail [dot] com | http://martadrachenberglmhc.com/ Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Revisiting a fave episode from 2018. Listen in to an incredibly intimate conversation between Janet Weinreich-Keall and both of her fathers, Emil Weinreich, and Gordon Keall. We discuss Emil's shock of discovering he was a father to an adult daughter, how Gordon embraced Emil with open arms, and the inspiring relationship they've all built together. We also ponder, where are all the fathers? Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Janet Weinreich-Keall: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | janetweinreichkeall.com Anne Heffron: Beyond Adoption: You Facebook | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram 1 and 2! | Email: anneheffron(at)gmail(dot)com | anneheffron.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail