Adoptees On

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Today we are talking about celebrations with Pam Cordano, MFT because we are celebrating 200 episodes of the Adoptees On Podcast! Pam and Haley talk about how celebrations can often feel scary for us as adopted people because feeling joy or happiness can be disorienting (upper limit problem anyone?). Pam shares a few different reasons why we may feel that way, teaches us steps towards feeling happiness, and how to hold space for both good things and challenging things simultaneously. Full Show Notes Here Show Notes Recommended Resources 10 Foundations for a Meaningful Life (No Matter What's Happened) by Pam Cordano, MFT Read more about the "Upper Limit Problem" in The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks Connect With Us Pam Cordano, MFT: pamcordano.com | yourmeaningful.life | Twitter | Instagram | Email pcordano(at)comcast(dot)net Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Occasional Newsletter | Send a Note This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated.

Today we welcome back to Adoptees On, Brian Stanton. Brian shares with us how the pandemic morphed his script for a play into his fantastic new film @GhostKingdom. We talk about how relationships can shift for us as adopted people: building relationships with people we may believe are genetic relatives until it's confirmed they aren't, and how his conception story that Brian and his mother believed for decades got upended. Full Show Notes Here Show Notes Recommended Resources Brian Stanton's film @GhostKingdom www.atghostkingdom.com and find a screening here Adoption Truth and Transparency Worldwide Network The Search for Mother Missing: A Peek Inside International Adoption by Janine Vance Journey Of The Adopted Self: A Quest For Wholeness by Betty Jean Lifton Connect With Us Brian Stanton: Instagram | Facebook | thebrianstanton.com | @GhostKingdom Instagram | www.atghostkingdom.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Occasional Newsletter | Send a Note This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated.

I'm thrilled to bring you today's guest, Andrea Ross, author of Unnatural Selection: A Memoir of Adoption and Wilderness. Andrea shares how a health crisis lead her outdoors, and how a decade of spending time in the wilderness brought her a feeling of groundedness. We discuss the loneliness that adopted people can face and how we've both seen this theme of reconnecting with ancestral landscapes popping up more and more frequently. Full Show Notes Here Show Notes Recommended Resources Unnatural Selection: A Memoir of Adoption and Wilderness by Andrea Ross The Wisdom of Wilderness: Experiencing the Healing Power of Nature by Gerald G. May Adoption: The Making of Me podcast - Andrea's episode Notes for Colorado adoptees from a fellow adoptee, Anne: The Colorado Department of Human Services can give you your adoption file "If your adoption was handled by the state or a county, or the licensed child placement agency (LPCA) that handled your adoption has closed." I was able to receive this information even though I was not physically in Colorado. I just had to send a picture of my ID via email to confirm who I was. This service was free of charge. Colorado adoptees who want to get their OBC and Report of an Adoption (which is basically like an integrated birth certificate and lists your names pre- and post-adoption, your adoptive parents, your birth parents, the date, time and place of your birth, and the attorney who filed the court documents for the adoption), need to contact the Colorado Department of Public Health and Environment or go to their website. There is a form to fill out and a fee to pay for this service. One piece of information regarding sealed adoption information in Colorado is that circa 1990 all of the paper files were collected from the county courthouses to be microfiched and held centrally. So be prepared to receive copies of microfiche film that is potentially difficult to decipher. More info and links available here from Adoption Search Resource Connection (based in Colorado): www.asrconline.org/get-records Connect With Us Andrea Ross: www.andrearosswriter.com | Twitter | Instagram | Personal Facebook | Facebook Page Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Occasional Newsletter | Send a Note This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated.

Today we're back in the spirituality series and we are taking a look at cults and high-demand groups. My guests have both been impacted by cults and they have a theory that adopted people may be more susceptible to these types of groups. Donna and Sara have extensively researched cults since they got out and have a ton of knowledge to share with us. They both tell their personal stories of how they inadvertently found themselves in high-demand groups, how they got out, and what adopted people specifically need to know about cults. Full Show Notes Here Show Notes Recommended Resources Sara Easterly's previous appearance on Adoptees On E143 and Donna's E79 A Little Bit Culty Podcast The Vow: NXIVM Documentary on HBO Searching for Mom: A Memoir by Sara Easterly Terror, Love and Brainwashing: Attachment in Cults and Totalitarian Systems, by Alexandra Stein More reading, research, and resources on the topic: #iGotOut www.igotout.org | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook ICSA: International Cultic Studies Association Traumatic Narcissism and Recovery: Leaving the Prison of Shame and Fear by Daniel Shaw Terror, Love and Brainwashing: Attachment in Cults and Totalitarian Systems by Alexandra Stein BITE Model of Authoritarian Control by Steven Hassan Steven Hassan - What is a Cult? YouTube video with a whiteboard animation explaining the BITE Model Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships by Jana Lalich, Madeleine Tobias The Gift of Fear : Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence by Gavin DeBecker Educated: A Memoir by Tara Westover Sunderland, Paul "Relinquishment and Adoption: Understanding the Impact of and Early Psychological Wound" presentation for iCAAD London 2019, August 12, 2019. (His reference about religiosity/fundamentalism as something commonly seen in adoptees with developmental trauma comes in around 45 minutes in) Podcast episode Roys Report "What Makes a Church a Cult" with guest Steven Hassan Connect With Us Donna: Email adoptee3 [at] gmail [dot] com Sara Easterly: saraeasterly.com | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Occasional Newsletter | Send a Note This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated.

Today we welcome Jack Dermody to the podcast. We talk about family secrets in adoption and the impact it has on all the parties when they are revealed. Jack also gets personal and tells us what happens when you start closely examining your adoptee experience in your seventies. We talk about family preservation and adoptee support, and how that looks like community showing up for each other on a large scale. Full Show Notes Here Show Notes Recommended Resources @GhostKingdom by Brian Stanton Tree of Strangers by Barbara Sumner It Takes a Village by Hillary Rodham Clinton Connect With Us Jack Dermody: Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Occasional Newsletter | Send a Note

We are revisiting the topic of estrangement today. Earlier in 2021 we did several episodes that examined estrangement and what made some of us decide to break contact with our adoptive families. When I was producing that series I always wanted to have an episode where we could talk about what it would look like to go BACK to our adoptive family after a period of estrangement. Can you ever go back once you've left? Today Ellianna shares her experiences of reunion with her birth mother, and what lead to a decade-long estrangement from her adoptive family. She talks us through her decision-making process for reunification, and I was amazed to hear the depth of how she's looked back on this and processed all the things that have gone on in her life so far. Full Show Notes Here Show Notes Recommended Resources No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Dr. Richard Schwartz The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz Previous Adoptees On episodes about Estrangement (playlist on Spotify) or there's a list on the Adoptees On website here. Connect With Us Ellianna Javed: elliejaved [at] gmail [dot] com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Occasional Newsletter | Send a Note

Adoptee Remembrance Day is commemorated annually on October 30th. This episode has a collection of recordings that listeners have submitted to the show on what Adoptee Remembrance Day means to them. Haley also shares a way you can show up for fellow adoptees during November, using #DearAdoptees. Full Show Notes Here Recommended Resources Adoptee Remembrance Day - commemorated annually on October 30th What is Adoptee Remembrance Day? Adoptee Remembrance Day Facebook Page RSVP to the Adoptee Remembrance Day Event on Facebook Adoptees Connect on Instagram | adopteesconnect.com | Facebook Use the hashtag #DearAdoptees throughout November Dear Adoption, dearadoption.com | Instagram | Facebook Crisis Hotlines: Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 In July 2022, 988 will become the national three-digit code for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, some mobile carriers already support this number. USA Crisis Services Canada 1-833-456-4566 24/7 (text 45645, available 4:00pm - 12:00am Eastern time) Canada Crisis Text Line - text HOME to 741741 (USA & Canada) Crisis Text Line UK: text HOME to 85258 Crisis Text Line Ireland: text HOME to 50808 List of Suicide Crisis Lines Worldwide Sexual Assault Crisis Support (RAINN) 1-800-656-4673 (USA) Trans Lifeline 1-877-565-8860 (USA) Trans Lifeline 1-877-330-6366 (Canada) Connect With Us Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Occasional Newsletter | Send a Note

Do we have to choose between our biological family and our adoptive family? What about choosing between their religions or spiritual practices? Mar shares how they are both Jewish and Catholic. We talk through how they chose adult conversion to Judaism as a way to feel permanently grafted to their adoptive family. Mar is also very open about how recovery programs have helped them to identify as spiritual but not religious. Full Show Notes Here Show Notes Recommended Resources Adoptee Voices & their new E-Zine Adoptees & Addiction support group. You can hear Miguel talk more about it on Adoptees On episode 176 Connect With Us Mar Miram: rebelliondogs (at) yahoo (dot) com | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Occasional Newsletter | Send a Note

Our guest today is scholar and author Susan Devan Harness. Susan shares from an anthropological perspective about the policies in place behind the Indian Adoption Project and why Indigenous placement with white families was preferred by the government. She also shares some of the current action in the US courts to undermine and remove the Indian Child Welfare Act and why it is so critical for us to pay attention to the cascading effects this could have. We do get personal too, about what happened for Susan in her forties as she unravelled what being adopted really meant: being separated both from her original family and from her original culture. Full Show Notes Here Show Notes Recommended Resources Bitterroot: A Salish Memoir of Transracial Adoption by Susan Devan Harness Mixing Cultural Identities Through Transracial Adoption: Outcomes of the Indian Adoption Project (1958-1967) by Susan Devan Harness White Mother to a Dark Race: Settler Colonialism, Maternalism, and the Removal of Indigenous Children in the American West and Australia, 1880-1940 by Margaret D. Jacobs The Alliance for the Study of Adoption and Culture - Eighth Biennial Conference on Adoption and Culture, where Susan Devan Harness is one of the keynote speakers. Available virtually, most sessions were released on October 8, 2021 and there will be live Q&As October 22 & 23, 2021. Adoptees Off Script Book Club with Susan Devan Harness October 30, 2021 For Further Education: Podcast: This Land (Season Two) by Crooked Media Adoptees On episodes on the Canadian Sixties Scoop (Series 6): E110 with Dr. Raven Sinclair, E112 with Christine Miskonoondinkwe Smith, and E114 with Inez Cook Connect With Us Susan Devan Harness: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | susanharness.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Occasional Newsletter | Send a Note