
The Trouble with Sex
Relationship & Sex Therapist Dr. Tammy Nelson gets up close and personal with leading, sex-positive experts and influencers to examine hot topics and answer your questions about pleasure, sexuality, relationships and the most forbidden aspects of the human experience.
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Dec 9, 2019 • 30min
Hercules The Pleasure Coach
Do you have secret fantasies you wish you had the confidence to explore? Have you ever experienced a sensual massage? Are you curious about kink? Meet Hercules The Pleasure Coach as he talks with Dr. Tammy and invites us to experience his world of Therapeutic Touch, BDSM, Cuddle Therapy and Happy Endings. GUEST BIOHercules The Pleasure Coach is a sex, intimacy & relationship educator, writer, blogger, speaker, activist, coach and permission giver, who has been working with and teaching people about the power and pleasure of intimate touch for over 20 years. As a trained massage therapist who has been in practice for 30 years, Hercules is the creator of a form massage called Therapeutic Sensual Massage for which he does for his Pleasing Hands massage practice. In addition is a trained practitioner for Bondassage.Hercules focuses his work & expertise on various topics of sex positive awareness, sexual and intimate practices, Open Relationship & BDSM Lifestyles but never limits himself to talking about other areas of sex & life. RESOURCES & INFORMATION· Send us your questions: The Trouble with Sex · This episode is sponsored by UBERLUBE – The Luxury Lubricant. Go to uberlube.com to get 10% your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. · Join The Trouble with Sex Community, support the show and get exclusive perks, special access to Dr. Tammy, extra resources, offers and deals. Go to patreon.com/thetroublewithsex for more now!· Learn more about our guest Hercules at pleasinghands.com.· Book a Couples or Individual Intensive Session with Dr. Tammy at her Santa Monica, CA or New Haven, CT office. Email: drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. · Want more Dr. Tammy? Read her books: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats and Getting the Sex You Want.· Learn more about our guest, Hercules The Pleasure Coach at http://www.pleasinghands.com. · Listen to our full theme song here! NoTroublewithSex_ThemeSongInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Nov 25, 2019 • 25min
Mindfulness & Reinventing Sex for Women
Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus calls in from San Diego to talk with Dr. Tammy about the awkwardness of dating, hook up culture, and how having a mindfulness practice can empower you to find the relationship and sex life you deserve.GUEST BIOSociologist and intimacy coach, Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, is the author of the new book, From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women. Dr. Jenn is a national speaker on sexual consent, couples intimacy, women’s empowerment, gender communication, erotic play, and mindful sex. She has presented two TEDx Talks, is the co-host of the podcast Sex Talk with Clint & the Doc, and has over 1.5 million hits on her In the Den with Dr. Jenn YouTube video series.RESOURCES & INFORMATION· Send us your questions: The Trouble with Sex · This episode is sponsored by UBERLUBE – The Luxury Lubricant. Go to uberlube.com to get 10% your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. · Join The Trouble with Sex Community, support this podcast and get exclusive perks, special access to Dr. Tammy, extra resources, offers and deals. Go to patreon.com/thetroublewithsex for more now!· Book a Couples or Individual Intensive Session with Dr. Tammy at her Santa Monica, CA or New Haven, CT office. Email: drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.· Want more Dr. Tammy? Read her books: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats and Getting the Sex You Want.· Learn more about our guest, Dr. Jenn's courses, books & podcast at DrJennsDen.com. · Listen to our full theme song here! NoTroublewithSex_ThemeSongInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Nov 7, 2019 • 34min
Sex Before, During and After Pregnancy
Dr. Tammy gets real with sex therapist Dr. Stephanie Buehler about how the joys of having a baby and parenthood often take a serious toll on a couple’s sex life. Find out what to expect, why you should prepare in advance, and how to stay intimately connected and fulfilled as you expand your family.Guest BioDr. Stephanie Buehler is a licensed psychologist and AASECT- certified sex therapist. Dr. Buehler is affiliated with Hoag Hospital in Newport Beach, CA where she works with breast cancer survivors and BRCA “pre-vivors.” She speaks all over the world about cancer and sexuality, and trains sex therapists through her AASECT- certification program. Dr. Buehler is the author of a bestselling textbook, What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know about Sex, and Counseling Couples Before, During, and After Pregnancy: Intimacy and Sexuality Issues. RESOURCES & INFORMATION · This episode is sponsored by UBERLUBE – The Luxury Lubricant. Go to uberlube.com to get 10% your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. · Join The Trouble with Sex Community, support this podcast and get exclusive perks, special access to Dr. Tammy, extra resources, offers and deals. Go to patreon.com/thetroublewithsex for more now!· Book a Couples or Individual Intensive Session with Dr. Tammy at her Santa Monica, CA or New Haven, CT office. Email: drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.· Send us your questions: The Trouble with Sexl· Connect with Dr. Buehler at The Buehler Institute· Train to be a Sex Therapist in Southern California: LearnSexTherapy.com · Books:What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know about Sex, and Counseling Couples Before, During, and After Pregnancy: Intimacy and Sexuality Issues. · Want to hear our full theme song? Listen here! NoTroublewithSex_ThemeSongInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Oct 31, 2019 • 28min
The Love Story Behind IMAGO Relationship Therapy
In this confessional interview with the renowned creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and authors of the bestselling book Getting the Love You Want, Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt reveal intimate details about their sex life for the first time, and Dr. Tammy shares her own personal and professional transformation after discovering Imago.Imago Relationship Therapy is a form of relationship and couples therapy that focuses on transforming conflict into healing and growth through relational connection.Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are internationally-respected couple's therapists, educators, speakers, and New York Times bestselling authors. Together, they have written over 10 books with more than 4 million copies sold, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples - celebrating it's 30th anniversary in print. In addition, Harville has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times.Harville and Helen are co-founders of Imago Relationships International, a non-profit organization that has trained over 2,000 therapists and educators in 51 countries around the world.RESOURCES & INFORMATION· This episode is sponsored by UBERLUBE - Feeling is everything. Go to uberlube.com to get 10% your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. · Join The Trouble with Sex Community, support this podcast and get exclusive perks, special access to Dr. Tammy, extra resources, offers and deals. Go to patreon.com/thetroublewithsex for more now!· Contact us and send us your questions at The Trouble with Sex.LEARN MORE about Imago Relationship Therapyo WATCH: Oprah Talks Imagoo ARTICLE: Oprah’s Guide to Imagoo ARTICLE: An Inside look into an Imago WorkshopBOOKS TO READo Getting the Love You Wanto Getting the Sex You WantCONNECT o Harville & Heleno Imago Relationship TherapyWant to hear our full theme song? o LISTEN: NoTroublewithSex_ThemeSongInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Oct 11, 2019 • 41min
Sex, Body Image & Girl Boners
Think you know what a Girl Boner is? Curious to find out?From lack of proper sex education to the over sexualization of women in the media, we live in a culture of mixed messages, where many of us exist completely disconnected from our bodies, our sexuality and our power. In this episode, Dr. Tammy and acclaimed sexuality writer, and host of Girl Boner Radio, August McLaughlin get personal as they talk about body image, eating disorders, embracing pleasure, claiming your power - and yes, Girl Boners.This episode is sponsored by UBERLUBE - Feeling is everything. Go to uberlube.com to get 10% your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. Join The Trouble with Sex Community, support this podcast and get exclusive perks, special access to Dr. Tammy, extra resources, offers and deals. Go to patreon.com/thetroublewithsex for more now!Resources mentioned on this Episode:Click here for the results of Dr. Nan Wise's MRI study about human sexuality that Dr. Tammy and August reference during the show. Dr. Tammy recommends the legendary Louise Hay's Best Selling Book – You Can Heal Your Life.ENJOY!Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Jun 19, 2019 • 22min
When You're the One Who Cheats
Dr. Tammy dissects monogamy, infidelity and how we humans unknowingly spilt off and shut off parts of ourselves throughout our lives - putting our relationships and our happiness at risk. Learn why people in long term partnerships often need to work on their erotic relationship twice as much as their companionship. Find out tips on surviving infidelity, and how to be honest with yourself and your partner(s) by always living with integrity – even if You’re the One Who Cheats. RESOURCES & INFORMATION · Send us your questions: The Trouble with Sex· Join The Trouble with Sex Community, support this podcast and get exclusive perks, special access to Dr. Tammy, extra resources, offers and deals. Go to patreon.com/thetroublewithsex for more now!· Book a Couples or Individual Intensive Session with Dr. Tammy at her Santa Monica, CA or New Haven, CT office. Email: drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.· Want more Dr. Tammy? Read her books: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats and Getting the Sex You Want. · Listen to our full theme song here! NoTroublewithSex_ThemeSong Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Jun 5, 2019 • 25min
Married but Dating – Behind the Scenes of Ashley Madison
There is not much more stigmatizing in American culture than being caught cheating. Yet, married but dating websites are more popular than ever – and for more reasons than you might think. In part one of this two-part series on infidelity, Dr. Tammy asks Isabella Mise, the Communication Director of Ashley Madison, about her own views on cheating as they dive behind the scenes of one of the most controversial online dating sites, and the anatomy of affairs. RESOURCES & INFORMATION · Send us your questions: The Trouble with Sex· Join The Trouble with Sex Community, support this podcast and get exclusive perks, special access to Dr. Tammy, extra resources, offers and deals. Go to patreon.com/thetroublewithsex for more now!· Book a Couples or Individual Intensive Session with Dr. Tammy at her Santa Monica, CA or New Haven, CT office. Email: drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.· Want more Dr. Tammy? Read her books: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats and Getting the Sex You Want. · Listen to our full theme song here! NoTroublewithSex_ThemeSong Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

May 29, 2019 • 22min
Dating & Sex After #MeToo - #WhatNow?
It’s graduation season, and today’s youth are coming of age in the post #MeToo era. During this transformative time in our culture, power paradigms between men and women have finally begun to shift, victims of sexual abuse & misconduct have a voice, and young people are more emotionally prepared than ever to protect their bodies and watch out for each other. But for all these positive steps forward, there is also more fear and confusion around dating and desire than ever before. In this episode, Dr. Tammy talks with, Clinical Psychologist and Sex Therapist, Dr. Deborah Berry about young relationships, having hot sex, and how good communication is not just knowing how to say no, but also when to say maybe, and why a positive and enthusiastic yes may just lead to the most pleasurable experience of your life. #WhatNow. *Parents, educators and podcast listeners – this episode is a sex positive introduction on how to talk about consent, new sexual relationships, and how to have healthy communication with a sexual partner. RESOURCES & INFORMATION · Send us your questions: The Trouble with Sex· Join The Trouble with Sex Community, support this podcast and get exclusive perks, special access to Dr. Tammy, extra resources, offers and deals. Go to patreon.com/thetroublewithsex for more now!· Book a Couples or Individual Intensive Session with Dr. Tammy at her Santa Monica, CA or New Haven, CT office. Email: drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.· Want more Dr. Tammy? Read her books: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats and Getting the Sex You Want. · Listen to our full theme song here! NoTroublewithSex_ThemeSong Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

May 20, 2019 • 30min
Let's Talk About God & Sex
What if there was a revered religious leader who spoke about faith, God and sexuality in a positive and inclusive way? What if we had a mainstream, spiritual teacher who taught us to love and respect each other’s bodies while enjoying the pleasures of the flesh without guilt and shame? What if this person was Jesus? In this episode of The Trouble of Sex, Dr. Tammy talks openly with Reverend Beverly Dale about sex, pleasure, female empowerment - and how to be a good, honorable & sexually healthy Christian.RESOURCES & INFORMATION · Send us your questions: The Trouble with Sex· Join The Trouble with Sex Community, support this podcast and get exclusive perks, special access to Dr. Tammy, extra resources, offers and deals. Go to patreon.com/thetroublewithsex for more now!· Book a Couples or Individual Intensive Session with Dr. Tammy at her Santa Monica, CA or New Haven, CT office. Email: drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.· Want more Dr. Tammy? Read her books: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats and Getting the Sex You Want. · Listen to our full theme song here! NoTroublewithSex_ThemeSong Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

May 13, 2019 • 23min
Kink, Consent & Coming Out
From gay kink to gender pronouns, Dr. Tammy and journalist/filmmaker Joseph Jaafari answer your questions as they discuss the complexities of being LGBTQIA in the world today and how to - safely and consensually - let your freak flag fly. RESOURCES & INFORMATION · Send us your questions: The Trouble with Sex· Join The Trouble with Sex Community, support this podcast and get exclusive perks, special access to Dr. Tammy, extra resources, offers and deals. Go to patreon.com/thetroublewithsex for more now!· Book a Couples or Individual Intensive Session with Dr. Tammy at her Santa Monica, CA or New Haven, CT office. Email: drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.· Want more Dr. Tammy? Read her books: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats and Getting the Sex You Want. · Listen to our full theme song here! NoTroublewithSex_ThemeSong Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson