The Dildorks

We were both in a real weird mood this week and it shows. Whoops. Enjoy this mess of an episode about gratitude, recent aggravations, and life as a Sex Person. Pizza & Video Games | Spanking | Listener Appreciation | Sex Friends & Vanilla Friends | Thank You | Gift-Giving | Reaction Anxiety | Hobbies | Buck Angel | Misgendering | Phone Sex | Feedback | Morning-After Text | Dating Your Species | 50 Hot Ways to Ask For Consent | PizzASMR Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, a civil discussion of sexual labels devolves into a rant about bisexual erasure before your very ears! Find out what labels we do and don't use, how our identities have shifted over time, and what rage-inducing things people say and do to bisexuals. Validity | SuicideGirls | Coming Out | Gender Shifts | Super Gay | Binary | "Not Queer Enough" | Self-Erasure | Boyf | Double Standard | The Power of Dick | FYI, Still Bi | Label-Free | Sapiosexuality | Kink Identities | Non-Monogamy | Carpet-Munching Bitch Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Princess Kali, author, former pro domme, and erotic humiliation expert, discusses the appeal of humiliation play, how to approach it thoughtfully, and the importance of emotional language, negotiation, and aftercare in BDSM scenes. The podcast also explores healing through reenactment, the dynamics of dominance and submission, and the inclusive teaching offered by Kink Academy.

This year for Halloween, we watched the scariest thing we could think of: Fifty Shades of Grey! Get your hands on the unrated version and watch along with us – or just listen as we complain about the coerced consent, food thievery, and bad accents in this nightmare of a movie. (Sorry for those few minutes of silence around 46:00 where we had connection issues! Feel free to skip past 'em.) Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Friends with benefits: a fantastic idea, often poorly executed! This week we're discussing FWBs: how to find one, how to keep one, why they're great, and ways these copulationships can go horribly wrong. Solo Poly | Sexual vs. Romantic | Time & Trust | Easy Sex | Intimacy | Same Page | 10 Commandments of Successful FWBs | Comfort | Casual Love Letter | Ruining the Mood | How to Find a FWB | Negotiation | Attraction | Off the Cuffs Podcast | Informed Consent | Messy Endings | DM Slides | Condom BJs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We're showing off our cunning linguistics this week and talking about dirty talk! Find out about Kate's passion for porn captions, Bex's boner for aloof doms, and our favorite and least favorite filthy words. Yes/No/Maybe List | Diligent | Absentmindedly | Filthy | Power Exchange | Affirmation | Mental Stimulation | Porn Language | Bottom Guilt | Submissive Dirty Talk | Come For Daddy | Napoleon | Moist | Horny | Jizz | Boner | Sweetheart | Faggot | Pathetic | Fingerbanging | Pussy | Slave | Squirm Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We were so excited this week to talk to Lynsey G, journalist, author, and porn critic! She chatted with us about how porn has changed, how amateur porn affects the industry, what kind of porn she likes best, and more! Porn Critic | DVD Reviews | Improvements | Feminist Porn | Porn Awards | Amateur Porn | MakeLoveNotPorn.TV | "Watching Porn" | Sex Toy Reviewing | Plzur | Tom of Finland Dick | Chemistry | Tristan Taormino | Negotiation | Sex Ed | Porn Around the World | Mickey Mod Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

First dates: so fun, so scary, so rife with potential! This week, we discuss what makes a good first date, the best and worst ones we've been on, and whether sex after a first date is a good idea. Spreadsheet | First First Dates | Family Names | Awkwardness | Asking | Date vs. Not | Best Dates | Activities | Conversation Starters | Passions | Sex | Flirting | Good Sex Predictors | Negotiation | Alley Makeouts Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Orgasms! We love 'em. You probably do too. Hear all about our first orgasms, what gets us off now, and how testosterone is changing Bex's orgasms, among other climactic tidbits! O: The Intimate History of the Orgasm | Firsts | JoEllen Notte | Partnered Sex | Testosterone | Grain of Rice | Tenga SVR | Multiples | Build-Ups | Urban Tantra | Edging | Denial | Blue Clit | Over the Edge | Spreadsheet | Different Types | Consistency | Hacks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we sneezed and grumbled our way through a discussion of exhibitionism. Find out why we like showing off and why we don't – and why we occasionally fake our orgasms! Consent | Validation | Fisting | Storytelling | Anxiety | Authenticity | Fake Orgasms | Noises | Laughter | Voyeurism | Threesome | Looking | Winks | Enthusiasm | Body Parts Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.