The Dildorks

Subspace and topspace are two highly sought-after types of experience in the kink world – but what are they, and how do you access them? This week we’re discussing kinky headspaces! How Important Is It? | What Is It Like? | Topspace vs. Domspace | Surrender & Mastery | Spacey Interactions | Snapping Out of It | Aftercare | Continual Topspace | Hypnotic Triggers | Comedy Pacing | When It Hits You | Communication | Soothing Anxieties | Switching Within Scenes | Removing Distractions | Bondage Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing the intersections of sexuality and social media with Katrin Tildenberg, Ph.D., and Emily van der Nagel, Ph.D., two researchers and lecturers who just released a fascinating new book called Sex & Social Media! Sex & Social Media: the Book | Long-Distance Collaborations | Tumblr Ethnography | Tumblr Porn Ban | GoneWild Subreddit | What is Sex? | Future of Sex Online Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re talking to Aryn, an astrologer, podcaster, and sex and relationship coach. They fill us in the answers to our crucial sexual astrology questions, such as: Which planets govern your kink identities? Are all Pisceans bottoms? Is Capricorn the daddy dom sign? Queer Shorthand | Alternate Spirituality | Love & Sex Signs | Switches | Aries | Body Parts | Virgo | Capricorn as Daddy | Other Signs’ Best Qualities | A Chart’s Influence | Asking For Their Birth Time | Saturn Return | Queers vs. Straights | Chani Nicholas | Chris Brennan | Erotic Renaissance Podcast Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

The hosts celebrate their 200th episode and reflect on their evolution in opinions on sex and relationships. They visit a sex shop and discuss luxury toys, power exchange, and first experiences with power dynamics. They explore the taste of genital fluids and share their experiences of having sex on a first date. They discuss the process of discovering and understanding orgasms and introducing sex toys to a partner. They also provide information about their writing and gratitude towards their supporters.

Conditions like ADHD can affect your whole life, including your sexuality and relationships, in really interesting ways! This week Kate interviews Bex about how his ADHD manifests and how he manages the difficulties that come with it. Recognizing it | Definition | Doesn’t Everyone Have That? | Diagnosis | Make It Sparkly | Dating Another ADHDer | Sex & Kink | Impulsivity & Surprise | Gender & Testosterone | Hyperfocus | Distraction During Sex | Disclosing | Cheating | Planning Scenes | Supporting a Partner Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Chronic pain can make your sex life tricky, but it doesn't have to ruin it! This week Bex interviews Kate about her mysterious chronic pain disorder, how it manifests in her sex/kink, and what makes it easier to handle. Pain History | BJ Interference | “Depression-Related Pain” | Disability Impostor Syndrome | Type of Pain | Impact on Sex Life | Intoxication | Hypnosis | Lucked Out | Caregiving | The Handy | Pillows | My Pain Diary | Liberator | Protocol | Topping | Sexy Accoutrements | Medications Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Topics discussed include gauging interest in conversations, asking engaging questions, the effects of limited conversation on social skills, handling repetitive conversations, promoting social media and Patreon, and random personal experiences.

This podcast explores conversational skills, including adaptability for neurodivergent individuals, interpreting interest in texts and dating apps, asking meaningful questions, understanding nonverbal cues, the power of pausing and silence, and charitable shout-outs and music recommendations.

Why do we sometimes call kink “play”? How does it relate to the games we played as children? This episode is a meandering philosophical discussion of the role of play in our lives – including our sex lives! Collarbone Play | Ass Play | Re-Watching | Recess | Play vs. Consuming Media | Critical Thinking | Childhood Sexuality | Capitalism | Repetition | Learning | Empathy | Non-Playful Play | Play Pretend | Vulnerability | Childhood Games | Healthy vs. Unhealthy Outlets | Needing Play | Roleplay | Challenges | Erotic D&D | Trans Justice Funding Project | Survived & Punished Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It’s a weird time to be celebrating Pride, to say the least… This week we’re talking about some ways you can access a little Pride magic even in these stressful times. Rocky Horror | Unorthodox “Churches” | #CelebratePrideQuietly | Going to Protests | Critical Resistance | You’re Wrong About Stonewall | Making Gay History | Two Headed Girl | The Offline Dating Method | Disclosure | How to Survive a Plague | Paris is Burning | Pose | Sense8 | An Unkindness of Ghosts | These Thems | Crafts | C. Murphy | Queer History | Desire Brainstorming | Finding Community | Media Audit | New York Toy Collective | Funkit Toys | Wet For Her | Queer Porn | How Can We Celebrate? | Non-Binary Inclusivity | “Looking Straight” | Center for Black Equity | The Okra Project | Chosen Family Law Center Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.