The Dildorks

This week we’re delighted to chat with Leigh Cowart, the author of one of our favorite recent books, Hurts So Good: The Science & Culture of Pain on Purpose! We discuss sexual and nonsexual masochism, some of the brain science behind pain, and the process of writing their incredible book. Hurts So Good | Recording the Audiobook | The Origins of Masochism | Sexual vs. Nonsexual | Lightbulb Moment | Hot Peppers | Polar Plunge | Hot Ones | Being Witnessed | Hook Suspension | Physiological Predisposition | Learning to Like Pain | Arousal & Pain | Focus | Pain Processing Techniques | Psychedelics | Subspace | Emotional Pain | Post-Fifty Shades | Spanking with Our Books Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing the ways service kink manifests in our relationships currently, and what our biggest service-related fantasies are.Teacher/Student Fantasies | Sexual Service | Day-to-Day Service | Initiating Service | Caregiver/Little | “Good Girl” Feeling | Dopamine Machine | Learning to Receive | Gratitude & Feedback | GSRM Coaching | Anticipatory Service | Good Service | Clarifying Questions | Remembering Details | Long-Distance | Housework | Oral Service Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Societal stigma and misconceptions about toys for penises are challenged. Different options for male sex toys are explored, including Tenga eggs, Fleshlights, and wand vibrators. The benefits of cock rings and gender-affirming toys for trans and non-binary individuals are discussed. Non-gendered sex toys are highlighted, and recommendations are given. The hosts share information about their workshops, social media, and Patreon, and discuss a pegging workshop and personal preferences.

How can we use the idea of “archetypes” in our kink scenes? This week we’re discussing some of our favorite kinky archetypes and how we incorporate them into our play. What Are Kinky Archetypes? | No Punishment | Benefits vs. Limitations | Media Influences | Fanfiction | Submissive Archetypes | Teacher/Student | Masochists | Attractive Archetypes | Honorifics | Headspace | Non-Gendered Archetypes | Cis White Dominant Men Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

A lot of people combine sex with alcohol, but how can one do so in the safest and kindest way possible? This week we’re discussing the important intricacies of sex while tipsy. Harm Reduction | Consent | Arousal & Sensitivity | Lowered Inhibitions | First Dates | Intentionality | Booze vs. Weed | Chaturbate Profile Templates | Non-Drinker | Hangover Advice | Advantages | Pre-Negotiation | Flirting at Bars | Invoking #MeToo | Semenology | Serving Drinks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

The hosts reflect on their sex and kink adventures in 2021, set goals for 2022, discuss the evolution of squirting, share their favorite toys and products, explore sexual fantasies and personalized porn, reflect on vulnerability and tough conversations, rediscover masturbation, and express gratitude to listeners.

Happy holidays! We’re finishing off the year by answering some questions about penis size, lesbian sex, sex work, and other sexy miscellany. Scissoring | Dick Size Comparison | A-Spot Dicks | First Time with a SW | Chaturbate Profile Templates | Waiting for Marriage | Medical Issue | Medical Arousal Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re still pontificating about sexting! In this week’s episode, we share our thoughts on sending and receiving nudes, sexting in public, being a polite sexter, and more. Re-Reading Sexts | Sexting Etiquette | Stepping Away | Parentheticals | Masturbating vs. Not | Photo Consent | Text-Friendly Kinks | Public Play | IRL Awkwardness | Taking Nudes | Asking for Compliments | Partner Doesn’t Like It | Voice vs. Text | Replying to Nudes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Now more than ever, sexting is a key way many people are expressing their sexualities. This week, we share our current thoughts on, and approaches to, sexting! Skeleton Game | Assessing Sext Compatibility | Kink vs. Vanilla | Getting Sexy | Initiation & Consent | HotCherry | Dealbreakers | Face-Slapping | Subs & Bottoms | Parentheticals | Emojis Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

If you know what figging is, then you know that this episode where we got figged during the recording is gonna be a wild one. If you don’t know what figging is… prepare to find out! Introductions | History | Method | First Impressions | Anal vs. Vaginal | Kinks to Combine It With | Safety | Transference | Snapping Off | Fermentation | The Enhanced Male | Magic Wand Rechargeable | Fun Factory Manta | Aftermath Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.