The Dildorks

Lately we’re both unenthused about doing kink with people we don’t have an emotional connection with, so this week we’re discussing the role of connectedness and intimacy in kink and sex. Camp Struggles | Demisexuality & Demiromanticism | What is Connection? | Fast Food Kink | Affirmation | Being on the Same Page | Authenticity & Honesty | Being Honored | Honey Play Box | Seduction | Crying | Romantic vs. Platonic | Edge Play | Getting Triggered | Roleplay Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Discover how dominance and submission weave into everyday life beyond the bedroom. The hosts share personal stories reflecting on authority, consent, and the ethics of kink dynamics. Explore the intriguing parallels between bartending and BDSM, revealing how feedback plays a crucial role. They also discuss TikTok creators who showcase desire while navigating sexual dynamics, emphasizing communication and mutual trust. Plus, learn how positive reinforcement can enhance intimacy and add joy to relationships, all wrapped in humor and insight.

This week we revisit the topic of group sex: threesomes, foursomes, and orgies. We discuss how our mindsets about group sex have changed over the pandemic, and offer some tips on initiating and negotiating. How to Find Someone | Unicorn-Hunting | Healthy vs. Unhealthy Motivations | Predicting Success | Experienced People vs. Newbies | Vetting | Self-Reflection | Negotiation | Feeling Included | Communication During Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’ve both tried a lot of sex toys, and this week we’re talking about some of the weirdest ones we’ve ever encountered, from the Lelo dick tuxedo to the butt plug-shaped shoes. What is “Weird”? | Teddy Love | Lunabelle’s Teddy Love Review | Wake-Up Vibe | Lelo Tux | Lifestyles Tuxedo Condoms | Plug of War | Funkit Chess | Hole Punch Evolver | Trump Butt Plug | Ainsley-T | Tongue Cupcake Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We both love strap-on sex, and this week we’re discussing our fave harnesses and dildos and our top tips for giving good strap. Our Strap Experiences | Strap-On vs. Handheld Dildo | Strap-On vs. Dick | Pleasure for Tops | Strapless Strap=Ons | We-Vibe | Sili Saddle | Tenga Eggs | Practicing Alone First | “Pegging” | Harnesses | Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit | Tantus O-Rings | Beginner Strap-On Recommendations | SpareParts Joque | Aslan Leather Jaguar | SpareParts Deuce | RodeoH | Dildos | Godemiche Ambit | VixSkin Goodfella | Proprioception | Stamina Exercises | Positions | Liberator Jaz | Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

In their 300th episode, the hosts talk about their top choices in various categories such as pain implements, dirty talk lines, fan encounters, fantasy threesomes, and more. They also discuss their favorite vibrators, places to do kinky things, and other podcasts. The hosts share funny moments and puns involving cleaning pipes, drug use, and Instagram interactions.

Privacy can be a tricky subject to navigate in sexual relationships, so this week we’re answering listener questions on the fine line between privacy and secrecy when it comes to sex and dating. Our Boundaries | Phone Access | Sharing Porn Info | Non-Monogamy Disclosure | Telling Children | Trauma Disclosure | Noisy Roommate | Hickeys Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Femmes are somehow both erased and revered in the queer community. This week we’re discussing Kate’s femme identity: what it means, how she arrived at that label, and the joys and difficulties of being femme.Transmasc Fem(me)ness | Cis Woman vs. Femme | Femme vs. Feminine | Clothes & Makeup | Tattoos | Tomboy Side | Male Gaze | Straights Dressing Queer | Butch/Femme Dynamics | Butch is a Noun | Gaydar | Femme Invisibility | Gatekeeping | Pronouns | Asking About Pronouns | Femmephobia Follow the Dildorks: Patreon | Twitter Follow Bex: Website | Twitter | Instagram | OnlyFans | JustForFans | ManyVids Follow Kate: Website | Twitter | Instagram | Books | Newsletter | YouTube Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we set out to have a discussion of creativity in kink, and it turned into a meandering discussion of that, Bex’s adventures at kink camp, our traumas, roleplay, boundaries and more.Bex’s Health | Classes as Aftercare | Suffering | Edge Play | Kink & Trauma | Screening Therapists | Turning Point | Seeking Sadists | Creativity Through Constraints | Flirty Roleplay | Non-Sexual Enjoyment | Knowing Your Boundaries | Palette of Permission | Nipple Stuff | Being Known | Clit Trust | Learning | Cum Cocktails | Follow the Dildorks: Patreon | Twitter Follow Bex: Website | Twitter | Instagram | OnlyFans | JustForFans | ManyVids Follow Kate: Website | Twitter | Instagram | Books | Newsletter | YouTube Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

In this entertaining discussion, Matthew Bischoff, an innovative app developer and spouse of Kate Sloan, dives into the fascinating world of sex tech. They explore the thrilling capabilities of kinky apps, customizable sex toys, and even 3D printing options. The conversation touches on the use of nanobots for enhanced pleasure and the privacy benefits of self-hosted wireless sex toys. With humor and insight, they highlight the intersection of gaming and intimacy technology, all while sharing personal anecdotes and reflections.