Enneagram and Marriage

The thinkers among us are equipped to shape the world with their innovating dreams that often become inspiring realities, sometimes even shaping the world abroad. However, for the people who are constantly dealing with an active brain, living in a family with others who are more heart or body-based can be a daunting challenge, to say the least. This episode covers our wise Fives, our brave Sixes, and our optimistic Sevens in depth. There are tips for dealing with the passions of each type in marriage and family for individuals and their partners, as well as fresh reminders for how to do one's own work for internal balance as we close out the year well together! Sites referenced: http://feelingswheel.com/  Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage   Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now!   Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record).   Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whatever your Enneagram type, 2020 is throwing all of us for a loop this holiday. The ups and the downs can bring out grief, loneliness, and a lack of direction, and we've decided to give you a healthy roadmap. Join Christa and her precious 4, Hannah in reminding us of ten ways we can embrace the both the beauty and the depths of this season. Don't forget ways you can connect with your people despite distance. Despite the business and strain this 2020, you're family is waiting for you to step in with love as you celebrate! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage   Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now!   Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record).   Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Heart types of the Enneagram have unique gifts in understanding others emotionally. As we open up our own hearts for learning from the feelings center with staff coach Melissa Thompson, Christa and Melissa take an honest view of how amidst caring for others, hearts types and others can unlearn codependency and learn to both protect and take care of themselves. Melissa offers tips for learning strong self-care and advocacy and how to give yourself grace as you so bravely fight for the emotions of others. www.ReflectionsCC.com find Melissa for coaching Melissa (@inspire2bu) • Instagram photos and videos Write us at enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com for information about coaching with Melissa! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage   Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now!   Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record).   Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This special fun episode takes a long look at love and the Enneagram on the big screen this time with some holiday fun added in! Join Christa and Olivia (who is back as a long-awaited guest!) as they finish the debate/conversations about not only the The Office and Gilmore Girls love interests but also take up typing the A-listers hanging out in a much-beloved Christmas fave, "The Holiday." This episode brings lots of laughs, and lighter conversation to our listeners as you head into your day!  Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage   Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now!   Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record).   Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Did you ever wonder what the differences are between males and females in personality? How about the types that are considered more masculine while others are called feminine types? Join Christa in dissecting not only human and animal studies in terms of gender but a type by type journey of comparing Enneagram traits. Christa shares both your research as a community as well as reflects on couples and families she's worked with over the past two decades. Don't miss out on ways you can grow!   https://www.judithsearle.com/sexuality-gender-roles-and-the-enneagram htps://typevolution.com/2017/07/26/feminine-masculine-essences-of-the-enneagram-types/  https://www.researchgate.net/publication/232438047_Gender_Diagnosticity_A_New_Bayesian_Approach_to_Gender-Related_Individual_Differences Masculinity/Femininity Test (surveydata.online) https://surveydata.online/gdia?resp=24223222121541214443523231512322313412423342553334244344 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1300/J082v23n04_04?journalCode=wjhm20 https://stanmed.stanford.edu/2017spring/how-mens-and-womens-brains-are-different.html Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage   Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now!   Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record).   Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On part 2 of the Enneagram Glow series, Christa and Alaina listen to marriage and family therapist Michael Shahan, MA, LMFT, an Enneagram 9, talk not only about the way trauma can be healed in marriage but also particularly about how the popularly paired 1-9 couple can glow together. In this episode, we cover less of the research and development concept of the glow (see "Discovering Your Enneagram Glow: Part 1" for background) and more of the actual process of healing one another's deepest wounds and personal issues in marriage. We got emotional in this episode and we hope you do too as you continue to work on your relationship glow! Websites & accounts mentioned www.MichaelShahan.com, IG: @michaelshahan_therapy Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage   Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now!   Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record).   Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This podcast covers the fascinating way that in marriage we create a union that is something more than either of us was before. The glow is our fun way of describing how we don't just learn our partner's type but we actually take traits on! This means each type takes on a different shade, depending on their partner's type and how then they can share their unique couple glow. Christa is joined by fellow creative Alaina Pompa, the artist and designer behind our new Enneagram Glow Guides as they introduce the concept, the contest, and talk about how very different their Type 7 marriages are! For your unique pairing guide visit: Glow guides Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage   Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now!   Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record).   Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every single type in marriage struggles with conflict. When is anger right? When should we curb it? What do we do in marriage with our anger and what can we do when we're holding onto our rage or hurts? Join Christa for a discussion of strategically and compassionately sharing hurts and dealing with conflict and anger with every type. This is an episode you don't want to miss, Enneagram love aside!   Habits of a Healthy Marriage by Richard Fitzgibbons MD http://files.drrobgrellman.com/pdf/authors/Forgive%20&%20Forget.pdf (Lewis Smedes forgiveness) https://baltimorecounselor.com/how-often-do-couples-fight-and-should-you-be-concerned/#:~:text=However%2C%20most%20couples%20fight%20about,only%209%25%20of%20the%20time. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage   Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now!   Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record).   Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's no secret that the holidays will be a bit different this year - and this on top of the fact that despite Hallmark movies, holidays in relationships aren't always a winning combo! Join Christa for an episode covering the realistic goals you can set for your holiday so you'll be blessed and able to give your very best to others! Special discount code for our new "Love With..." Enneagram merch!   Read more about Holidays and Relationships:   http://www.health.com/health/article/0,,20412109,00.html   Prepare for Advent with Biola’s Center for Christianity, Arts & Culture:   http://ccca.biola.edu/events/2020/nov/29/2020-advent-project-online-devotional-series/   Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage   Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now!   Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record).   Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You've probably heard of the counterphobic 6 but did you know that each of the Enneagram types has a countertype? Christa goes through each of the 9 types and discusses the countertype flowing in the other direction of the type's usual positioning. Different from the counterpassion, the countertype involves wanting the same result but using a different defense mechanism to get there! Find encouragement and balance here, learning about your best and worst ways of being both alone and together. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage   Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now!   Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record).   Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices