Enneagram and Marriage

It's never easy to face squarely that the person we signed up to marry has changed - or worse, that we've changed and no longer feel the same level of desire together. In these critical middle seasons of marriage stages of fighting for your family and partnership, we need every tool we can get to add joy and decrease resentment together. Join Christa and world-renowned couples therapist and author Dr. Tracy Dagleish, Ph.D., Enneagram 1 (1-9 marriage), as we discuss exactly what you can do when you find you and your spouse are bringing out the worst criticisms in each other.  Get Dr. Tracy's book here! https://a.co/d/fv5vEJv Give Dr. Tracy's Instagram a follow! https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/ Get the freebie on her website! www.drtracyd.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Once we pull back the curtain under our conflicts and see what's hindering us, we can work on our issues with one another - that is if we're emotionally regulated. In this quick episode, Christa will help to stabilize you and your conflicts further by helping you open up your relationship window of tolerance. Don't miss this regulating episode right here! Get Christa's book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing" here paperback, Audible, or Kindle! Use the Baker code "EMBOOK40" for 40% off and free US Standard Shipping here! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we’re joined on the pod by Drs. Bill and Kristin Gaultierre, psychologists and spiritual directors who help us to find one another's gifts amidst the rubble of soul wounds as we learn to offer Christ's compassionate healing to one another. They do this with us with structure but also gentleness and care as a mature 1 & 2 pairing. You won't regret taking the time to dig underneath the anger, shame, and anxiety to journey through the soul with grace and healing from God and one another right here with us. Follow Drs. Drs. Bill and Kristin Gaultierre on Instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/soulshepherding/ Visit their website here (and find their book here!): www.soulsheparding.org  here:https://www.instagram.com/soulshepherding/ Visit their website here (and find their book here!): www.soulsheparding.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

85% of adults will have experienced a traumatic event by the time they’re 18, which means that virtually all married individuals need good ways to cope with trauma. In today’s brief episode, Christa walks you through five tried-and-true methods for walking through traumatic conversations and situations in marriage, with as much resiliency as possible. She'll share tips for working through your triggers and enduring vulnerabilities, as well as practical, logical steps, and lots of love. Do not miss this episode before the holiday! Watch on YouTube here!  Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of your relationship needs and don't forget the code "EMBOOK40" for 40% off Christa's new book! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The last thing you want are holiday arguments between you or your extended family to carry forward to future generations and this week's shows are aimed at helping you to process, love, and set the boundaries you need. We welcome expert and author, Courtney J. Burg, author (Thomas Nelson, 12/12/23, Loyal to a Fault: How to Establish New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting) to the pod today to help you truly find your way together this season, as we discover how boundaries can become an important bid for healthy connection. Watch on YouTube here! Find Courtney's website here, including her book "Loyal to a Fault: How to Establish New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting", along with her bonuses, and her wonderful course here! Pre-order Courtney's new book, Loyal to a Fault, here!  *Thank you to the Personality Path for including this podcast on their list of the top Enneagram podcasts of 2023! You can take their test, which has been taken by over a million people right here! Get all your relationship needs met here at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, join Christa and Melody Hardin, Enneagram Nine as they walk through each Enneagram type through the lens of Marvel characters. Join us as we hack out each type in nuanced detail with some superhero fun typing Iron Man, Black Widow, Loki, Bucky, Roadie, Dr. Strange and more and bring joy but also meaningful insights as we enjoy a lighter moment on this Hallo-week episode! Get Christa's book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing" here paperback, Audible, or Kindle! Use the Baker code "EMBOOK40" for 40% off and free US Standard Shipping here! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We get scared as humans when we feel our pair bond is threatened and today's episode is designed to empower you to feel both safe and loved together, type by type. Listen to tips for your partner of each type and find not just goals but systems to carefully place these specific tips into actionable steps so you can truly begin thriving more and more together, starting today! Get my book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing" here paperback, audible, or Kindle! Here's the Instagram contest! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

To find our truest mission, it's not only important to find our personal gifts, but there's a deeper joy in marriage in finding collective missions, too, not just to be self-serving as a couple. Here in this episode, Christa helps you to find synchronization together with your partner, to encourage growth in one another as well as celebrate one another's gifts and struggles. She brings her husband Wes, Enneagram 1 also on as he helps you to learn to sit with your spouse's gifts and struggles with grace, a lesson we all need in an ongoing way. Tune in here! Use the code "EMPOD40" for 40% off here and free shipping at BakerBookHouse.com Visit www.enneagramandmarriage.com for all of your relationship needs today! Watch episode on YouTube! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Though each of us is unique, today on this E + M short, we're talking about the three most common reasons why couples cite divorce and ways to prevent your own relationship from becoming a passive casualty. One of the main ways we will keep this episode hope-filled is that we're also sharing tools for the specific timelines where issues tend to crop up and take down 43-44% of married couples. Don't miss this noteworthy, logical, and encouraging episode that will help you sit up, take note, and move into a healthy direction together today! Get the 52 Week Glow Relationship Planner here! Use the code "EMPOD40" for 40% off here and free shipping at BakerBookHouse.com Visit www.enneagramandmarriage.com for all of your relationship needs today! Watch episode on YouTube! HAVE A QUESTION? Do you have a question about how the Enneagram can help your marriage or any relationship issue at all? Share it here via audio call for Channel Mom Radio and Christa can talk about it on air/the Channel Mom podcast this coming week as well as on the E + M Instagram Live! 303-873-1935 (leave aa question for Christa here for Channel Mom) or visit Christa on Instagram here on Thurs 12 PM EST to ask a question there! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When we're not honest with our spouse and with God about what's actually going on inside, we bring that darkness and the layers of hiding to our spouses and families. Whether you're hiding from each other because you feel hopeless, angry, hurt, or believe that being honest will drive you even farther away from your goals of connection, this is a MUST-LISTEN episode guiding you and your relationship back to true intimacy.  Christa is joined by Justin Davis, best-selling USA Today author (Being Authentic is Greater Than Being Perfect: How Transparency Leads to Transformation), Enneagram 8 (8-3 pairing), who joins us to speak of his own marriage and how he increasingly learned the importance of confession, prayer, and bringing secrets from the darkness. If you want a walk closer to humility, authenticity, and integrity, don't miss this episode helping you to draw closer to God and one another in marriage, family, and a healthy community. Show Notes: Justin Davis', "Being Real > Being Perfect: How Transparency Leads to Transformation" is right here:  Find Justin and Trisha's Refine Us marriage ministry here, where they help couples all over recover from trauma, including infidelity recovery Get Christa's new book The Enneagram in Marriage, available now wherever books are sold, or get it at 40% off with free standard shipping when you order from BakerBookHouse.com and use the promo code EMBOOK40. Link: https://bakerbookhouse.com/products/516448   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices