

Soft Skills Engineering
Jamison Dance and Dave Smith
It takes more than great code to be a great engineer. Soft Skills Engineering is a weekly advice podcast for software developers about the non-technical stuff that goes into being a great software developer.
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Aug 17, 2020 • 25min
Episode 223: Feedback rage and making up for lost time
In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:
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Hello. Thanks for hosting such a great podcast. I recently finished binging all the previous episodes.
I’ve recently noticed in conversations with my team, whether synchronous or asynchronous, after I propose an idea or stake out a position, I easily get defensive if a teammate tries to give feedback on my idea.
I don’t mean to get angry, but I sometimes don’t notice until it’s too late.
I think it has gotten to the point where my teammates might have caught on, and I don’t want this to lead to a state where they never disagree with me.
Have you ever dealt with this, in yourself or others? How have you dealt with changing this mindset?
My first software developer job lasted two years. I didn’t learn much.
We deployed legacy Java apps with SCP
We had no tests
We didn’t have CI/CD
We were using a beta version of an old framework which we never upgraded
Our repos were not in sync with our production code
A lot of commented out code, dead code over the place
Using multiple languages across the board. We were using Java for something, Node for some, PHP for web/api, JS for client side. Basically the devs were cowboy coding to get the stuff out.
I am three years into my current role & have already learned so much more than in my first role. I feel like my first job set me back. How do I overcome this?

Aug 10, 2020 • 26min
Episode 222: Cowboy CTO and underpaid after promotion
In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:
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Hey, long time fan of the show!
Our current CTO came in as the result of a merger. For most of his life, he was a solo developer and owned his own company.
The struggles we are facing now are:
He is not responsive at all, neither via chat, nor email, nor any other communication tool.
He often says “I’ll do it” but then takes weeks to finish
He has thousands of unread emails in his inbox
When he writes tickets, the details are unclear for others
He codes way too much for a CTO, in my opinion, and his code is a bit messy compared to the other developers
Since he is a really nice person, we all want to give him feedback that makes him understand his role better, and to avoid being a bottleneck.
I know that changing another person is hard, but at the same time I know that he is motivated to become a good CTO.
How do I help him?”
Hi. I’ve only recently discovered your podcast this quarantine, and it’s been really helpful at work already. So when I was faced with this problem, I immediately thought of you!
I have been a professional software developer for just over a year and have received great feedback from my manager and team. During my performance review, I asked what I would need to qualify for promotion. I got the news that I had already been recommended for a promotion!
Meanwhile, a friend still in university got an entry-level job offer from my company that pays more than I would make if my promotion went through. Where I come from, there are no negotiations when companies recruit at universities, so it’s not a matter of them negotiating a better deal.
If the promotion does not come through I have no qualms trying to negotiate. If the promotion does comes through, would I come off as ungrateful if I bring this up? Am I asking for too much by wanting to be paid more at a higher position than what a new grad would be paid at entry level? I know it’s not an ideal world and I feel greedy as I type this, but I just want to be compensated for what I think I’m worth. I also think that it also comes down to my ego at some point. SEND HALP

Aug 3, 2020 • 12min
Episode 221: Current boss reference and getting paid to do nothing
In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:
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I’m in the process of quitting my job. I’ve been a developer here for a few years and made amazing friends. I love the people here but I am looking for a new challenge and a pay increase.
I was discussing my references for the new role with my partner and she said I should ask my current manager. I stopped hard in my tracks and said “absolutely not.” She works in healthcare and said she wouldn’t get a job unless her old manager gave a good reference. I dismissed this as not applying to software engineering. But the thought has stayed with me.
Would use your current manager as a reference? Am I wrong to not do this? At what point do you tell your current manager your looking to leave?
My manager does not know anything yet and I thought it would be “mean” to tell him I’m leaving and also ask for a reference. I do believe he would give a good reference though.
What are your thoughts?
Hey guys,
Should I stay at a job where I get paid to do nothing?
I took a new job as a data scientist a few months ago and since COVID-19 blew up I have had absolutely nothing to do at my job. I’m supposed to be working remotely but our team doesn’t get a lot of business and we’re mostly keeping a facade of being busy with “internal projects” and “training”. This was nice for the first few weeks but at this point I’m concerned about my career development.
Also, the job is more business-oriented than I expected while I would rather focus on building things. I would like my next job to be a machine learning engineer or a software developer role in some other domain. I’m worried that my “hard” engineering skills are deteriorating with every passing week.
All of this is made more difficult by the disturbed job market at the moment and the fact that if I stay at my role for another 7 months, I will receive a sizeable retention payment.
What should I do?
I love the podcast. Keep up the great work.

Jul 27, 2020 • 18min
Episode 220: Premature leadership push and credit and status
In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:
Questions
Hello,
I know you said you don’t read the compliments on air most of the time but this podcast is great. I just found it a few weeks ago and I love the positive fun approach to question answering. It has really made me think about software engineering outside of the ““make code do thing”” box.
Anyway, the question: I have been at the same company for 4 years. It is my first job out of college. I have ended up working in so many different languages and frameworks I don’t remember them all. I guess that’s just how things go. Recently I have been selected to take on a scrum master role and I feel I am quickly being groomed for management.
That was never really my goal. I wanted to build a depth of knowledge and always have my hands on code.
Will taking on these kind of roles hurt my chances at future technical roles? Am I dooming myself to managing spreadsheets and Jira tickets until I retire? Will I only communicate in Dilbert references?
My teammate frequently gives status updates or fields follow up questions about work that was mostly done by someone else. I am pretty sure they do this to be helpful not to claim credit for all the work. I just wish I could speak up about the work I contributed primarily to before they do so on my behalf. I wish it didn’t bother me since we are one team and I would rather focus on the progress of the team rather than receiving credit.
How should I respond to these situations in a way that allows me to not get bothered emotionally and also do what’s best for the team?

Jul 20, 2020 • 31min
Episode 219: Remote crickets and Manager Careering
In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:
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I took the cult’s advice and quit my job at a start-up!! Now I’m at a big company and the pace of work is REAL different.
In my previous life, if I asked a question, I would get an answer within the minute, or at the most, within the hour.
At my new gig, the response time on Slack can be 6 hours, and pull request comments so far are never – after a day has passed, I just send a Slack to ask for a response to the PR comment. I’ve noticed that if I schedule a Zoom call I have the best chance of getting a hold of them, but a video call sometimes feels like overkill.
I realize it’s due to my coworkers/manager being super busy, so I try to make my questions short, sweet and infrequent.
Still, I’m now missing deadlines because I can’t get an answer. How can I get my coworkers’ attention so I can do my work and meet my deadlines?
Engineering Managers support growth of their direct reports. Once you become a manager, it’s expected to own your own career development. How much should you expect your manager to support you in that?

Jul 13, 2020 • 33min
Episode 218: Referral underperforming and take a tech lead role
In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:
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Hey Dave and Jamison, really wish I found your podcast sooner as it has been a great insight into some of the challenges at work.
Last year, a fairly close friend reached out asking for a referral for an entry level position to my work. Trying to help him out, I figured absolutely! What could go wrong? (Foreshadowing intensifies)
About 3 months into his employment, my boss informally mentioned at a dinner how behind said friend was at a technical level. I brushed this off, and reassured him that he’ll catch up.
6 months into his employment said friend was written up a few times for a few different reasons: tardiness , performance (avoids taking tickets and calls), using phone too often during work hours, fell asleep at his desk.
7 months in brought in our yearly reviews, which he was denied a raise due to his performance history. He asked me if I thought this was correct, and I was brutally honest with him and agreed with that decision. He didn’t take this well, and resulted in an argument between us. At this point I was pretty frustrated with his performance, and it was definitely straining the relationship.
1 Year in (today), he was caught working on side-projects (paid) at work….. which resulted being put on a PIP / Final Warning. I got pulled aside by my boss and HR asking if I knew about it, I said I knew he had side work, but I wasn’t aware it was being done on company time. He’s on the verge of losing his job, but I can’t help but feel somewhat responsible for referring him.
All of above events have really hurt the friendship, to the point where I don’t think I would call him a friend. I’ve pulled him aside more than a handful of times asking what’s going on, or if I can help him in anyway but either resulted in a small improvement or a stubborn response that he’s fine at work.
Am I holding him to too high of a standard? I don’t think the friendship will heal anytime soon, which I am fine with, but am I responsible for referring them?
Thanks for your time guys, love the podcast and advice!
I’m currently a manager and applied for a manager role at another company. I heard back from the recruiter that the manager role was filled, but they were still hiring for tech leads.
I really want to work at this company, so I asked to interview for a tech lead role. But I really want to be a manager. I’m tempted to ask if they’d be willing to then interview me as if I were a candidate for the manager position I originally applied for.
Should I try to show them my readiness for a manager role (even though they no longer have a manager role available) just so I can be top of mind when a manager role opens up? Or should I just be happy falling back into the tech lead ranks and try to prove myself over time?
I really don’t mind starting out in the tech lead role and moving back up to management when I’m settled in at the company and an opportunity presents itself, but I can’t help but wonder if I could have passed the bar for the manager role I originally applied for.

Jul 6, 2020 • 30min
Episode 217: Quitting words and double COVID internship
In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:
Questions
Hi
Over time I have heard many different terms that all seem to equate to “I no longer have a job”. Some examples are quit, fired, laid off and terminated. What is the difference between these (and others) and what is best (both from benefits and emotionally) for the employee and the employer?
Note I am not planning to quit my job or fire someone, but I am curious to hear your views.
Hey guys, I love your podcast and find it super helpful for me as I start my career in tech. I am in a conundrum. I am a student and I took the opportunity Covid presented me to take up two internships instead of one. Both are at top companies. My question is I am feeling like I am drowning in work, how do I navigate through this and what are your general thoughts. Thank you in advance!

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Jun 29, 2020 • 32min
Episode 216: One-on-ones and inter-team power struggles
Topics covered in this podcast include the purpose of one-on-one meetings, a power struggle between front-end, back-end, and design teams, the importance of open conversations and healthy collaboration, and bridging the ownership gap within a team.

Jun 22, 2020 • 33min
Episode 215: Many jobs in one and junior git stickler
In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:
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Listener Ryan asks,
I am the only full-time software engineer at a relatively small company. There is also a contractor who has been with the company off and on for about 25 years.
How do I manage playing multiple roles when the development team is so small? I take the role of software engineer, team lead, software architect, product owner, project manager, designer, QA, etc. Some of those roles are full time jobs. How do I still make progress on development (i.e. coding)?
Hey guys, love the show. My question is this.
I work in a small startup. About a year ago our team documented what our git workflow would look like. We agreed on things like rebasing instead of merging to master, and never squashing our commits into one, that sort of thing.
One of our developers is now making a fuss about following these rules and constantly does their own thing. After speaking to them about it, they shut me down and said it is up to the individual developer to decide how they use these tools.
There have been some heated discussion on merge requests with this person telling our senior devs that they don’t want to hear their opinions.
This person started at the company 6 months before me, and I am only a junior engineer myself so I’m not sure if there is really anything I can do. I have been at the company for 2 years now.
I have offered to help them learn how to use git the way our team agreed but was told “no thanks, I’ll do it my way”.
What is the best way to navigate this situation? Is this something I should escalate to my manager, or should I just get over it?
Thanks for the help, can’t wait to hear you rip this one apart :P

Jun 15, 2020 • 30min
Episode 214: Jumping ship and saying "I can't"
In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:
Questions
We have just today been told that we may or may not have a job in 1 week. I feel lucky because I handed my notice in yesterday for a new job, but my colleagues are not in such a position. The company burned through all it’s money, and its only hope is that someone or some company who wants to buy the business in its current state.
How would you approach a situation like this? Is it best to just jump ship right away? What would potential new employers think when you told them the situation? What about my co-workers?
Long time listener, first time caller asker.
How do I tell my boss I can’t complete a task?
I’ve been with my current company for 6 months. In that time I’ve fixed a lot of problems that have blocked our current embedded system project because of my hardware design background. Sometimes I take a bit longer than projected, but I’ve been upfront about that and it’s all fine.
I was trying to implement a new feature and it was meant to take around 3 days of work to do, but after 3 weeks I just couldn’t quite get it to work. I asked for help and pulled out every trick in my arsenal and just couldn’t figure it out. I ended up having to tell my boss that I was out of ideas and letting him tell me to shelve it, but I could tell this disappointed him.
What should I do next time?
Show Notes
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4tvZJGNIhM
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gnolia


