The Clarity Podcast

Sam Farina returns to the podcast to have an insightful conversation on a model used to bring resolution to conflict at home, at work, and with God. You will not want to miss it. Please send questions for Back Channel with Foth to aaron.santmyire@agmd.orgLink to Conflict Wheel peaking Clearly using the Awareness WheelPsychologists have studied what effective communication looks like for married couples for decades. After uncovering what factors contribute to effective communication, some clever people have combined these ideas into a simple model that we share here. This model is known as the Awareness Wheel and Listening Cycle. Communication skills can improve all kinds of relationships. We hope you find this short tutorial useful and even purchase the book if you would like to learn more.Before we explain Awareness Wheel and Listening Cycle communication, here are some simple ground rules for communication in general:Rules for the both of you:The speaker has the floor. Don't cut off the speaker or finish his or her sentences.Share the floor (take turns)No problem solvingSpeaker:Say "I" statement, Speak for selfShare your feelings without putting down your friendBe specific and brief about your perceptions and feelings (2 - 3 sentences)Stop and allow your listener to paraphrase (if the paraphrase is not accurate, politely restate what was not heard the way you intended it.)Listener:Choose a "Caring Connection" emotional brain state. You won't be able to listen effectively if you are in a protective emotional state like "Anger", "Fear" or "Panic". See the Feeling Words ListSay "You" statements providing a summary of what you heard the speaker say. (The speaker gets the focus)Don't rebut (refute by evidence or argument) but instead paraphrase what the speaker said. Focus on the speaker's message (Don't offer your thoughts yet. Wait until you have the floor.)Invite the speaker to correct saying "Is that right?" or add more saying "Tell me more."Below is the Awareness Wheel Diagram as presented by:Miller, Sherod, Phyllis Miller, Elam W. Nunnally, and Daniel B. Wackman. Talking and Listening Together: Couple Communication I. Littleton, Colo.: Interpersonal Communication Programs, 1991. Print.Awareness Wheel:The Speaker (from above) will be most complete in his description of an issue if he explains his full awareness. Starting from Sensory Data, the speaker can move clockwise around the circle to avoid confusion about how he stands on any issue.When speaking, talk through your Awareness wheel using the first person, "I" statements.Sensory dataInformation gathered using your senses: sight, sound, smell, taste, touchExternal data: The data you gather from other people.Verbal, but mostly nonverbal, behaviors: facial expressions, gestures, movement, posture, scent, tones, wordsIntuitive sensations: memories, associations, insights, hunches, dreams, intuitionsBodily sensations: goose bumps, a chill, fatigue, stomach tightness, headacheThoughtsThe meanings you make out of the sensory data you receive - eg. beliefs, interpretations, expectationsWords that signal thinking processes: assumptions, benefits, conclusions, evaluations, guesses, reasons, ideas, impressions, judgments, metaphors, needs, objections, opinions, predictions, principles, values. NB: Influence of Family of Origin, cultural, societal & gender 'norms'FeelingsYour responses to your interpretation of thoughts, sensory data & wants in a situation. You can use the brain state feeling word list to describe what you're feelingWantsYour desires for yourself and for others, short or long term, general or specificIncludes: aspirations, dreams, drives, goals, hopes, intentions, longings, objectivesActionsWhat you say and do in response to sensory data, thoughts, feelings and wants - relates to past, present, and future.Actions result from how you process sensory data, thoughts, feelings, and wantsActivities, agreements, commands, commitments, contracts, promises, words

Josh Richardson whose family started Otterbox and LifeProof, and co founder of AngelArmor joins us on the podcast today to discuss PlusNothing and the impact of the Gospel on his life. To order copies free of charge go to: Plusnothing.com

Pastor Al Toledo joins us on the podcast today to share about the DNA of a Leader. He challenges us to be Privately Healthy and Publicly Fruitful. I found the DNA of a Leader course to be challenging and insightful. You can purchase the book and access the videos at- https://www.dnaofaleader.orgPlease send questions for Back Channel with Foth to aaron.santmyire@agmd.org

Stephen Blandino returns to the podcast to discuss his teaching on Followership. He provides valuable insight for us no matter what level of the organization you serve at. Please send questions to Back Channel with Foth to aaron.santmyire@agmd.org

Pastor David Wigington joins us on the podcast for a timely conversation about God of the Longview- Trusting a Timeless God in a Hurried World. Pastor David provides wisdom and insight you will not want to miss. Please send in questions for BackChannel with Foth to aaron.santmyire@agmd.org

Dr. Lois Dodds director of Heartstreams Resources joins us on the podcast today for a valuable and pertinent conversation on the Pandemic and our Emotions. Dr. Dodds provides deep insight for us. You can find more resources and the book Pandemic Emotions by Dr. Dodds at: https://www.heartstreamresources.orgCOVID Comfort- Prelude to Heavenhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ngtxh3GFF4

Gina Butz joins us on the podcast today to have an insightful conversation on transition. Heather and I are currently living in transition and found her book to be such a breath of fresh air. https://www.amazon.com/Making-Peace-Change-Navigating-Transitions/dp/1627079718

Pastor Larry Osborne joins us for a timely conversation on his book Leading Like a Shepherd. He provides amazing insight into leading like Jesus and not drifting into pop leadership theory.

Lauren Wells returns to the podcast to discuss her new book The Grief Tower. Lauren provides wisdom and insight for families as they navigate the grief and loss that is common in the life of being a Third Culture Kid. https://www.amazon.com/Grief-Tower-Practical-Processing-Culture-ebook/dp/B08TRWY12R/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=the+grief+tower&qid=1612944412&s=books&sr=1-1

Joe Dallas joins us on the podcast today to have an important conversation about our sexuality and seeing it through the lens of the Bible and not being swayed by our culture. You will not want to miss it.