Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

Have you turned your will and your life over to the care of God? Are you ready to gain an understanding of how you violated your personal moral boundaries and allowed addiction to set into your life? From the Green Book of Recovery: In taking the 4th step, we begin to know ourselves for who we really are. Building on the foundation of the first 3 steps, we take stock of the feelings and patterns that have shaped our lives. We come to realize that our addiction is more than just unmanageable sexual activities; it includes an entire system of underlying thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. If we neglect this inventory, we risk being stuck in our old habits and mistaken beliefs, and our unexamined defects of character will eventually lead us to relapse. By looking honestly at our moral nature – the failings that kept us trapped in our addiction, as well as our virtues and aspirations – we start to move away from being self-centered toward being God-centered.   Today with a good understanding of Steps 1, 2 & 3, we are ready to move onto Step 4.     So, grab your favorite beverage and a notepad and join us as we take a deep look into who we are, why we do the things we do, and how we got here.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 27. Recovery Step 2: Porn Making You Crazy? Believing God Can Restore Your Sanity Episode 29. Recovery Step 3: 3 Things To Know When Leaving Porn Behind   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance.    

Is the holiday season hard for you after sexual betrayal? Or any date that reminds you of the devastation that sexual betrayal brings into a marriage? It sure was for us in the beginning.   What is a healthy way to deal with these triggers when they occur?   Today we are going to have a conversation about how these dubious dates affected our marriage and how we worked through them so that they are no longer as painful as they once were.   So, pop in your earbud, grab your favorite Christmas beverage and join us for a peek through the window into our holiday healing.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases.)  Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 22. How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance.    

Have you admitted your powerlessness over your porn addiction? Have you come to believe that a power greater than yourself can restore you to sanity?   These two questions encapsulate steps 1 and 2 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous 12-step recovery program.  In today’s episode we will unpack Step 3. which focuses on surrendering our plans and path. Are you ready to turn EVERY part of your life over to God? At this point in our program, we are simply willing to move forward. We decide to make a commitment to recovery, and to our spiritual growth.   So, grab your favorite beverage and something to jot down notes and join us as we reveal three things to know about giving it all to God and moving beyond our pornography and sex addiction. Wives, you will want to hear this too!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull Episode 27. Recovery Step 2: Porn Making You Crazy? Believing God Can Restore Your Sanity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance.  

What does Thanksgiving Day mean to you? Here in the United States, it is recognized as a national holiday on the 3rd Thursday of November each year. Today we want to look beyond what’s considered to be the traditional activities of this special day, such as gathering of family, turkey dinner with all the fixings, football, post dinner food comas, all the pies and of course, leftovers. And while all those are very special traditions; we want to take time today to reflect on what it means to truly give thanks and be grateful for what we have been given by God.   We do understand that the holidays can be a very difficult time for those who have experienced sexual betrayal. If you found out about your spouse’s infidelity around the holidays whether this month, a year ago or twenty years ago, memories, triggers and lingering difficult emotions can taint the holiday season. We have found that one of the best ways to deal with these negative experiences is to cultivate a heart of thanksgiving and gratitude. Today we will focus on giving thanks in our relationships with our spouses, families, others, and to God himself.   So, as you join us today, grab your favorite pumpkin spiced whatever and get out your notepad to jot down a few of the ideas we will be sharing with you in this episode.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases.)  Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 05. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance.    

Do you see yourself in this vicious cycle of chaos?   When we utilize technology to view pornography and use it for our own sexual satisfaction, then walk away from our devices, it can give us the illusion that we are in control. But how quickly do we shift from promising ourselves that we’re not going to do it again to contemplating what we've seen then anticipating our next opportunity to view only to inevitably return to using pornography to meet our own needs?   Last week we introduced the Step 1 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous 12-step recovery program. Today we will be talking about Step 2 which states, I came to believe that a Power greater than myself could restore me to sanity.   So, grab a pen and your favorite beverage and join us for an enlightening discussion that will give us hope that by reaching beyond ourselves this cycle of insanity can be broken, to experience freedom once and for all.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: (This post contains affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases.)  Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance.    

Does pornography use have a hold on you or someone you love?   Today we are talking about Step 1 of the 12-Step Sex Addicts Anonymous recovery program. This is Johnny’s chosen recovery program so we will be sharing what this step entails, how he approached this step and why it is so imperative to start here. We will also be hearing from Emily on how she views the process and progress of Johnny’s 12-Step recovery journey.   From the Green Book of Recovery: In our addiction we held onto the belief that we were in control of our sexual behavior and could successfully manage our lives. This kept many of us from seeing that we even had a problem. We told ourselves that if we had tried harder, we could have stopped. But our experience has shown otherwise. No matter how many promises or resolutions we made, no matter how strong our efforts and our determination, the behaviors eventually returned, along with their painful consequences. Only when we admit our powerlessness over these behaviors, and our inability to manage our own lives, are we able to begin walking a path of recovery.   We are grateful to the program of Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) that makes our recovery possible.   Grab a pen and something to write on and join us as we lay out the 12 steps of recovery with a deep dive into Step 1.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily     💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   _______ RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included) The Healing Apology (request .pdf at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d                      _______         RELATED EPISODES:        Episode 16. "It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?   _______ NEXT STEPS:   ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.    

What if you had been confronted with the fact that your life had become unmanageable and through this revelation you discovered that you were powerless over a major struggle in your life? And what if you came to believe that this major struggle in your life was an addiction? You may be asking, "How did I get here? What do I do about it and how do I get out of it?"      If there was a measurable way to reclaim the manageability in your life, would you want to take the steps necessary to repair your broken relationship with your spouse and gain peace for yourself? Even if it turns out to be the hardest work you've ever done?     If you are willing to do this hard work, there is good news!     Today we are going to talk about the discovery of addiction in our lives, how to recover from addiction and why to engage in a recovery program. Buckle up, here we go!     We pray this blesses you,     Johnny and Emily     💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   _______ RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included) The Healing Apology (request .pdf at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) Be Broken Ministries – Online care groups for wives wanting help to heal from sexual betrayal trauma. https://www.bebroken.org/wives                      _______ RELATED EPISODES: Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery   _______ NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.    

Up until now, we’ve been talking a lot about taking steps to stabilize, grieve, heal, and renew our marriages after sexual betrayal. We've covered heavy topics like confession, boundaries, apologies, and forgiveness. and in our last episode even dipped our toes into the waters of reigniting sexual connection and what true intimacy looks like.   But today, we're switching gears. We're going to take a step back from the weightier topics for something more lighthearted and enjoyable.   If you’ve decided to stay married and have been working through the recovery process, have you considered renewing your marriage vows?    Today we're going to explore the "why" behind renewing your vows, why we decided to renew our vows and unpack what renewing your marriage vows signifies as you move forward in your relationship.   So, grab your coffee or wine and get ready for a fun discussion that we hope brings you encouragement in your own healing journey.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily     💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included) The Healing Apology (request .pdf at support@beyondbrokenvows.com)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery Episode 05. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.    

Have you wrestled with this question? Can there still be a meaningful sexual relationship after experiencing sexual betrayal? The short answer is YES, but today, we're not diving into the world of makeup or guilt sex. Instead, we'll be delving into the realm of true intimacy.   Intimacy is often misunderstood as just being synonymous with love and sex. While sex is a part of it, there's a deeper layer involved. It's about gradually building a connection with your spouse, one that's rooted in honesty, vulnerability, and transparency. So, join us as we explore the intricacies of maintaining a strong bond through intimacy.   So, reheat your coffee or pour yourself a glass of wine and join us for an encouraging look at sex and intimacy in marriage after sexual betrayal.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily     💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included) The Healing Apology (request .pdf at support@beyondbrokenvows.com)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 06. Setting Boundaries After Sexual Betrayal in Marriage Episode 07. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1) Episode 08. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 2) Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.    

Hello Friend,   Have you experienced grief? We normally associate grief with the death and loss of someone we love, and we can also grieve the loss of something we are emotionally attached to like a job or home. But there is also a loss that occurs through betrayal. With this type of loss come the very same emotions that are common to losing someone or something dear to us.   After sexual betrayal, the loss of the relationship you thought you had can trigger the grieving process. Finding out about your spouse's hidden sexual behavior can be one of the most shocking betrayals you'll ever go through and the experience of being lied to and manipulated compounds the trauma and can even intensify grief. Grief in any situation is very painful and takes time and courage to process through.   So, grab your coffee or pumpkin spiced latte and join us as we look at grief through the lens of sexual betrayal in marriage.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily     💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included)                        RELATED EPISODES: Episode 04. Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery Episode 05. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal   Check out our videos on YouTube! @BeyondBrokenVows   Next Steps:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review.     ✔️If you have a question for Johnny and/or Emily, you can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com