Power of Purity | Helping Men to Honor God with their Sexual Gift

In this new series talks about the importance of "brain management". Sometimes it's hard enough to fight the battle when the enemy is on the outside of me, but what do I do when the enemy seems like he's on the inside of me, because sometimes it feels like the enemy is me! My own thoughts and my own emotions sometimes gang up on me and conspire against me in a very powerful way, and it's at these times I need a self-awarness to fight agaisnt my very own thoughts and emotions in the attempt to manage what's going on between my ears on the inside of me. Brain management! In this series Tony identifies and shares common "lies" that often hold power over men in their struggle with sexual purity. Examples: "I can't resist temptation." (That's a lie because you can resist temptation.) "My sexual sin is my wife's fault." (That's a lie because you're responsbile for your own choices and actions.) "Lots of men look at porn so it's no big deal if I look at porn." (That's a lie because what other people do does not give you the right to do the same thing.) It's incredibly important that we have the ability to identify the lies, because if we beleive a lie, it becomes our truth, because we're believing it's true, even thought it's a lie, and the lie therefore assuems a positon of power and authority in our life, and we then begin to act and make decisions based upon the lie. To be the men of purity God is calling us to be we need "brain management". We need the abiltiy to take rebel and mutiny thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ. We need to renew our minds so we can approve the good, pleasing and perfect will of God. We need to gird out loins with the truth and figth the lies with the sword of the Spirit. Welcome to "Brain Management", and be BLESSED in Jesus' Name!

In this new series talks about the importance of "brain management". Sometimes it's hard enough to fight the battle when the enemy is on the outside of me, but what do I do when the enemy seems like he's on the inside of me, because sometimes it feels like the enemy is me! My own thoughts and my own emotions sometimes gang up on me and conspire against me in a very powerful way, and it's at these times I need a self-awarness to fight agaisnt my very own thoughts and emotions in the attempt to manage what's going on between my ears on the inside of me. Brain management! In this series Tony identifies and shares common "lies" that often hold power over men in their struggle with sexual purity. Examples: "I can't resist temptation." (That's a lie because you can resist temptation.) "My sexual sin is my wife's fault." (That's a lie because you're responsbile for your own choices and actions.) "Lots of men look at porn so it's no big deal if I look at porn." (That's a lie because what other people do does not give you the right to do the same thing.) It's incredibly important that we have the ability to identify the lies, because if we beleive a lie, it becomes our truth, because we're believing it's true, even thought it's a lie, and the lie therefore assuems a positon of power and authority in our life, and we then begin to act and make decisions based upon the lie. To be the men of purity God is calling us to be we need "brain management". We need the abiltiy to take rebel and mutiny thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ. We need to renew our minds so we can approve the good, pleasing and perfect will of God. We need to gird out loins with the truth and figth the lies with the sword of the Spirit. Welcome to "Brain Management", and be BLESSED in Jesus' Name!

In this new series talks about the importance of "brain management". Sometimes it's hard enough to fight the battle when the enemy is on the outside of me, but what do I do when the enemy seems like he's on the inside of me, because sometimes it feels like the enemy is me! My own thoughts and my own emotions sometimes gang up on me and conspire against me in a very powerful way, and it's at these times I need a self-awarness to fight agaisnt my very own thoughts and emotions in the attempt to manage what's going on between my ears on the inside of me. Brain management! In this series Tony identifies and shares common "lies" that often hold power over men in their struggle with sexual purity. Examples: "I can't resist temptation." (That's a lie because you can resist temptation.) "My sexual sin is my wife's fault." (That's a lie because you're responsbile for your own choices and actions.) "Lots of men look at porn so it's no big deal if I look at porn." (That's a lie because what other people do does not give you the right to do the same thing.) It's incredibly important that we have the ability to identify the lies, because if we beleive a lie, it becomes our truth, because we're believing it's true, even thought it's a lie, and the lie therefore assuems a positon of power and authority in our life, and we then begin to act and make decisions based upon the lie. To be the men of purity God is calling us to be we need "brain management". We need the abiltiy to take rebel and mutiny thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ. We need to renew our minds so we can approve the good, pleasing and perfect will of God. We need to gird out loins with the truth and figth the lies with the sword of the Spirit. Welcome to "Brain Management", and be BLESSED in Jesus' Name!

Keelie Reason is back as a guest on The Power of Purity Podcast for the second time. She was on the show in the early days on episodes 41 & 42. Keelie oversees a ministry called... Love Hope Aventure... which focuses on intimacy in marriage. Keelie is also a blogger and has posted over 1,000 various articles on topics related to marriage with an emphasis how to experience healthier sex in your relationship and marriage. In this episode, among other things, Tony and Keelie discuss... sexual discrepancy between parnters how the lower sexed person becomes the gatekeeper of sex different arousal templates arousal and sex - which should come first? Keelie writes the following on her website: Our goal is to help you get the resources you need to have a better marriage relationship. Also, we talk really openly and candidly about sex. Not that we share specifics to what we do in the bedroom…instead we offer real resources for husbands and wives that want more information about sex, foreplay, and how to be more adventurous in the bedroom. Keelie is married to her highschool sweetheart, Austin, and they have 3 boys and live in Dallas Texas. lovehopeadventure.com

Keelie Reason is back as a guest on The Power of Purity Podcast for the second time. She was on the show in the early days on episodes 41 & 42. Keelie oversees a ministry called... Love Hope Aventure... which focuses on intimacy in marriage. Keelie is also a blogger and has posted over 1,000 various articles on topics related to marriage with an emphasis how to experience healthier sex in your relationship and marriage. In this episode, among other things, Tony and Keelie discuss... sexual discrepancy between parnters how the lower sexed person becomes the gatekeeper of sex different arousal templates arousal and sex - which should come first? Keelie writes the following on her website: Our goal is to help you get the resources you need to have a better marriage relationship. Also, we talk really openly and candidly about sex. Not that we share specifics to what we do in the bedroom…instead we offer real resources for husbands and wives that want more information about sex, foreplay, and how to be more adventurous in the bedroom. Keelie is married to her highschool sweetheart, Austin, and they have 3 boys and live in Dallas Texas. lovehopeadventure.com

Dr. Michael Sytsma is a licensed professional counselor and certified sex therapist. He earned a Ph.D. from the University of Georgia in Marriage and Family Therapy, and his dissertation topic was "Sexual Desire Discrepancy in Married Couples". Dr. Sytsma has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and founded Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and co-founded Sexual Wholeness, Inc. Dr. Sytsma is the co-author of a new book, along with Shaunti Feldhahn, entitled "Secrets of Sex & Marriage - 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference". In the research for this book Dr. Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn did the largest nationally representative survey ever conducted with married couples about sex. This research, entitled "The Marriage Intimacy Project" (MIP) was conducted over the span of three years, involving a large research team, professional survery companies and several partner organiazatons to gather, analyze and organize input from more than 5,300 individuals using anonymous surveys and interviews. Through this research the authors identified eight simple, transformational factors to help move couples from disconnection to delight. This book reveals the most importat sex-related issues for the average couple - offering workable solutions and lasting hope. The book is not a "sex manual:, but it is a fascinating and practical field guide that will help couples more intimately understand one anohter and create the marriage they've always wanted. Please note - Tony interviewd Shaunt Feldhahm in episodes 108 & 109 of The Power of Purity Podcast is you'd like to check it out! Visit intimatemarriage.org

Dr. Michael Sytsma is a licensed professional counselor and certified sex therapist. He earned a Ph.D. from the University of Georgia in Marriage and Family Therapy, and his dissertation topic was "Sexual Desire Discrepancy in Married Couples". Dr. Sytsma has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and founded Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and co-founded Sexual Wholeness, Inc. Dr. Sytsma is the co-author of a new book, along with Shaunti Feldhahn, entitled "Secrets of Sex & Marriage - 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference". In the research for this book Dr. Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn did the largest nationally representative survey ever conducted with married couples about sex. This research, entitled "The Marriage Intimacy Project" (MIP) was conducted over the span of three years, involving a large research team, professional survery companies and several partner organiazatons to gather, analyze and organize input from more than 5,300 individuals using anonymous surveys and interviews. Through this research the authors identified eight simple, transformational factors to help move couples from disconnection to delight. This book reveals the most importat sex-related issues for the average couple - offering workable solutions and lasting hope. The book is not a "sex manual:, but it is a fascinating and practical field guide that will help couples more intimately understand one anohter and create the marriage they've always wanted. Please note - Tony interviewd Shaunt Feldhahm in episodes 108 & 109 of The Power of Purity Podcast is you'd like to check it out! Visit intimatemarriage.org

On July 6th, 2021 Tony's wife left him, and she filed for divorce 28 days later. Since then it's been 18 months at the time this episode series is being posted, and it absolutely has been the most difficult time of Tony's life. Nothing else is even close. It's been the deepest and darkest valley of his life, and it's been the greatest loss of his life. After 18 long months, in this series Tony reflects upon 12 lessons he's been learning during this difficult time in his life. Tony has learned that there are at least 2 different kinds of pain in this world. One is what Tony calls "stupid pain" and the other is what Tony calls "redemptive pain". One is pain that is wasted and the other is pain that accomplishes somethihg of significance and value. One is useless pain and the other is pain with a purpose. It's kind of like when you have to have surgery, because in a very odd way the doctor is going to help you by "hurting" you even more. He's going to cut you open, and in a very real way perpetrate even more pain upon your situation and life. You're going to have to get stiches, and you're going to have to go through recovery and physical therapy. But at least it's "pain with a purpose". It's pain that's accomplishing something in your life. It's "redemptive pain". As Tony considers the very difficult and painful situation he's been living through, in this series he comtemplates the lessons that he's learning. These lessons are much deeper than lessons of the "head" because they're lessons of the "heart". In this sixth episode of the series Tony shares lessons 10, 11 & 12! "I pray this series will encourage you and help you with the painful things you're facing in your life at this time". Tony

On July 6th, 2021 Tony's wife left him, and she filed for divorce 28 days later. Since then it's been 18 months at the time this episode series is being posted, and it absolutely has been the most difficult time of Tony's life. Nothing else is even close. It's been the deepest and darkest valley of his life, and it's been the greatest loss of his life. After 18 long months, in this series Tony reflects upon 12 lessons he's been learning during this difficult time in his life. Tony has learned that there are at least 2 different kinds of pain in this world. One is what Tony calls "stupid pain" and the other is what Tony calls "redemptive pain". One is pain that is wasted and the other is pain that accomplishes somethihg of significance and value. One is useless pain and the other is pain with a purpose. It's kind of like when you have to have surgery, because in a very odd way the doctor is going to help you by "hurting" you even more. He's going to cut you open, and in a very real way perpetrate even more pain upon your situation and life. You're going to have to get stiches, and you're going to have to go through recovery and physical therapy. But at least it's "pain with a purpose". It's pain that's accomplishing something in your life. It's "redemptive pain". As Tony considers the very difficult and painful situation he's been living through, in this series he comtemplates the lessons that he's learning. These lessons are much deeper than lessons of the "head" because they're lessons of the "heart". In this fourth episode of the series Tony shares lessons 8 & 9! "I pray this series will encourage you and help you with the painful things you're facing in your life at this time". Tony

On July 6th, 2021 Tony's wife left him, and she filed for divorce 28 days later. Since then it's been 18 months at the time this episode series is being posted, and it absolutely has been the most difficult time of Tony's life. Nothing else is even close. It's been the deepest and darkest valley of his life, and it's been the greatest loss of his life. After 18 long months, in this series Tony reflects upon 12 lessons he's been learning during this difficult time in his life. Tony has learned that there are at least 2 different kinds of pain in this world. One is what Tony calls "stupid pain" and the other is what Tony calls "redemptive pain". One is pain that is wasted and the other is pain that accomplishes somethihg of significance and value. One is useless pain and the other is pain with a purpose. It's kind of like when you have to have surgery, because in a very odd way the doctor is going to help you by "hurting" you even more. He's going to cut you open, and in a very real way perpetrate even more pain upon your situation and life. You're going to have to get stiches, and you're going to have to go through recovery and physical therapy. But at least it's "pain with a purpose". It's pain that's accomplishing something in your life. It's "redemptive pain". As Tony considers the very difficult and painful situation he's been living through, in this series he comtemplates the lessons that he's learning. These lessons are much deeper than lessons of the "head" because they're lessons of the "heart". In this fourth episode of the series Tony shares lessons 6 & 7! "I pray this series will encourage you and help you with the painful things you're facing in your life at this time". Tony