Aww Shift

In this episode, our guest is Jen Sincero. She is an American writer, speaker, and success coach. She's one of New York's Bestselling authors. She's also known for the "You are a badass book series." Today, we will unravel why she started writing, how her journey was, and ultimately learn from her. [1:35]Why should I listen to you? I believe that certain people resonate with others, so I found that my books have been successful because my readers resonate with how I write.  [3:07]How did you find your voice and confidence? Keep writing. Finding a writer's voice isn’t easy, but you’ve got to keep doing it. If I like something or I find it funny, I put it into writing. I also have a rule that if something is too scary or vulnerable for me to say, then I have to put that into writing. [3:07]How did you find your voice and confidence? Nobody wants to read something from a guru or somebody who is entirely unrelatable. They feel you can relate to the trenches if you’ve been to the channels. They think they can relate to you if you’ve experienced what they are going through. I’m all for privacy as well for the private person, I don’t capture everything, but if it’s something that I’m scared to share because it is so true and makes me look stupid, I put it in too. [5:07]How did you guide people through that? Well, my whole journey started around money because I had a lot of things going on in my life, so I was always broke. So in my 40s, I was living in an alley, a garage, and driving a car. Being broke is boring, and each time, I feel disturbed because I know I can achieve more. Then, I started focusing on making money. Permitting myself to make money was the first step, and I write a lot about that in all my books.  [7:55]How did you come out of the broke mentality because most people don't? The first step was that I made the decision to make money, and I think that is so important. What people do is a fake decision. People make decisions, but when it gets hard, they begin to compile excuses of why they don’t need to do it. An actual decision means you’re looking for ways, not reasons not to do it. So, that was my first decision, and I started to read money books and self-help books even though I was afraid. I started attending money seminars and hired a coach, which was a big piece. [10:12]What were some of the biggest obstacles your coach helped you to overcome mentally to start making money? I returned to the bank to return my credit card, and my coach said, this could be the most essential $7000 I’ve ever spent, and just do everything I say. She promised to stick right by my side to get me where I wanted to be, so it was a financial investment and doing every terrifying thing my coach told me to do. She told me that I had only two options which were broke and cool or rich and cheesy. I still found my marketing voice, so I signed up for classes. My focus was on making money, so the longer I wrote my marketing stuff, the more I found my authentic voice. [13:30]Did your books do well as expected? I was a writer before I was doing any other things. So when I started reading all the self-help books, my write-up was exciting and was like taking all this information and putting it in a different voice but also sharing my journey. If my broke ass can get rich, then other people can. [14:30]In your journey, what were the other kinds of stuff that you uncovered beyond it? I wrote badass habits at the pandemic's peak, and I am today. Your habits create a reality. Your thoughts create your belief. Your belief creates your actions, your action creates your patterns, and your habits create a reality. If you are broke and you keep making brokeass decisions, that is your reality. Most of our habits are unconscious, so wellness is the first step in any transformation. Becoming aware of your bad habits and consciously working on them. It said, "I can't afford it" to "I can do it." When I was intentional about making more money, I had to discard the negative belief about money. What comes out of our life comes into our life. [21:20] What do you say to people scared of not being accepted? A lot of my friends supported me. Some didn't, and I had to let go of them. If they are not ready to support my growth, I should let go of them. [22:50] What should be the next step in finding real friends? Reading books, educating yourself, attending entrepreneurship programs, coaching classes, and so on will help you meet new people. [24:20] What are the anchor points of everything you discuss? Try out crazy and amazing things. Do something crazy in the direction of what you want to create. You are still in your comfort zone if you are not doing crazy things. [30:00] How do you create something that will make you know your infernal values? The truth is you've to be excited. If you are not excited, others won't be excited. When I started my online business, I didn't know what I was doing, but I still did it anyway. Even though I didn't know what to teach or how to teach, I gave it a trial.  [39:22] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? I think God should answer that. Key Quotes [2:43-2:46] If people don't know you enough to dislike you, they will never know you enough to love you. How to connect with Jen Sincero   Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/JenSincero   Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/jensincero/?hl=en   Twitter:https://twitter.com/JenSincero/

In this episode, our guest is Rabbie Mannis. He is an author, rabbi, philanthropist, public speaker, and philosopher. Philosophy helps us gain clarity in life, and he has gotten vast knowledge not from the schools he attended or what he has done to become a rabbi but from thinking from a great process that allows us to extract great lessons that we apply to the world.    [2:12] Why should I listen to you? There is no way you should listen to me unless you’ve heard something you are interested in. If I say something that has meaning for you, then OK.   [3:11] What is your life, and why are you the one who wrote the book? I happened to be very fortunate. The book for my education wasn’t acidic philosophy. Among observing orthodox and practicing Jews, there are different philosophies. The philosophy I was given and raised with is so unique that I couldn’t wait to share what I learned as a teenager. I can stay more before sharing, but this information is dynamic. I‘ve got to get out there and share. I couldn’t wait to start teaching, talking, and sharing. Before the internet, I never thought it would go worldwide, but the internet is a blessing. For this purpose, it is the greatest. So, philosophy is the major shift.    [5:00] What is unique about your philosophy? Earthquakes shift both religion and psychology. Let’s start with psychology. For all of history, what made people do something is needed. You’ve got to plant, or else you will starve. You have got to make a place safe for you, which makes us do the necessary work.  In recent years, needs have increased dramatically, and in austere times, there was only one need: don’t die. You need to survive, but today’s requirements are so countless. We need it so many times. You have to have a lot of things that cause depression. But psychology comes in and offers a solution to your depression. But what psychology says is pretty simple. You don’t know some of your needs. You have subconscious needs and suppress conditions, which are much more severe than the needs you are depressed about. So out of desperation, I turned to Religion for help but found out that you will still have requirements even after death. So, here is what I think is the future of psychology, and this is the major shift in the philosophy I was raising. If you search deeper within yourself, you will discover that you don’t need anything. You have no needs.   [9:54] How do you reach that phase of getting deep? Reaching isn’t easy, but it is there, and I think that is what we mean when we say, why can’t you just accept me for who I am. But figuring out who we are isn’t an easy task too. You don’t know who you are because it’s not a bunch of needs but a need free of conditions. We are free of markets. We didn’t ask to be born because we don’t need to be in the world. People who are not born do not complain, so all the needs that drove us up to this point are the need to survive. But today, there is more. People want to live. So all of a sudden, death is not the significant threat it used to be. The solution for people who get easily depressed is to help somebody else.   [18:20] How do you live with the mentality that you don’t need a thing if you’ve chosen to stay alive? The other thing we are learning from is a challenging experience. People worried about life and living high would tell you they are still disappointed. The suicide rate among this set of people is very high. So the pleasure that we do get from these things in life. Suppose I’m not here to survive, then why I am here. This question is no more extended philosophy but a desperate question. For thousands of years, every religion has told you that you are in trouble and need God to give you what you need. So you have to beg him, offer sprayers before he gives you what you need, but the truth is he needs nothing. He is God. You don’t need to beg. Don’t threaten people. Just tell them why they should be here.    [21:30] If it is a faith-based thing, then you believe that you need eternity?   The only logical answer is if I don’t need to be here and didn’t ask to be born, then why am I here, and why was I born? I can’t tell my parents because they also reproduce without their consent. I now know it’s not out of my needs, and I have to figure out whose needs. So, here is the second shift, and it is that we get the whole thing backward. Humans are needy, and God needs nothing makes no sense. Only God needs because he is the creator, and how can someone who created the entire universe not need anything. The person who says he needs something acts like God, and only God lives. God is your creator. You are just a guest who can come and go anytime. But the positive side believes that you are not needy but needed. The logical conclusion of why I am here is that someone needs me. I am here for someone else needs. That is the motivation. I can live a meaningful life without satisfying my needs, which is incredible. But religion saying that we’ve got to live a life of service before we can go to heaven is wrong.    [32:30] How do you frame this so that people accept this mentality of not needing anything? It is much better to be needed than to be needy. When I pile up needs that are not true, I become choked, which is wrong. Let me give you an example of when things are bad. We realize something that we’ve known all along. For example, a surgeon who loses a patient. He tried, but the patient died on the table. How does he handle that? The doctor will continue to be a doctor because he will attribute it to forces beyond himself, and if he believes in God, God decides, not him. So when you fail, you will realize that it isn’t your plan, but when you succeed, it’s all your credit. The bottom line is I didn’t create the world, and that is why we always ask the same question over and over again what the purpose of my being is? You say you need a goal, but there is something in humans that can’t be exempted. If I don’t feel needed, I won’t stay here.    [38:08] How do we find purpose, or do we live in pursuit of it? That is what the bible is. Here is the third shift. Everybody thinks the bible is a set of laws to govern lousy behavior and get you to heaven, but it is wrong. God is the name, and he told us what he needs in the bible. It’s all a description of him. What he hates and loves, and the Bible tells us what we can do for him. I don’t need to have needs anymore because I am required. So that is a massive shift in religion and psychology. Psychologically, I don’t have a necessity, but religiously God has needs as a supreme being, and no one else has the right to needs. It’s a divine thing to have a need.    [42:48] How do you operate in this world without being frustrated? It is unfortunate when people I see people cry because they do not have what they need. It is unnecessary suffering, but the fact that I have something to offer to them so that they can light up is much better. That’s why you’ve got to be confident. If God created you, he would provide and give you what to eat. God needs you to eat.    [44:58] How do I differentiate needs from wants? Want comes under the category of freedom of choice. You choose to enjoy, but you decide what to want. Needs imply that you have no choice. Everything in your life is significant. It’s all about God. He needs you to eat, sleep, and so on.   [48:50] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? He made many promises, but the significant one is that if you be with me, you will be mine and make me complete.    Key Quotes [8:35-8:40]If you look inside, you will discover inside needs. [12:15-12:20]It’s not that I am needy, but what makes my life meaningful is that I am needed. [27:20-27:25]When you are serving, and nobody gets the benefits, you are not doing. [47:57-42:00]Anything that is needed of you is divine.   How to connect with Rabbie Mannis  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ManisFriedman/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rabbimanisfriedman/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/manisfriedman Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/manisfriedman

Today, we have two guests and are Mike and Angie Lee. They are brother and sister, and they have been able to build a wellness brand called “SOUL.” In today’s discussion, we will find out the Aww shift moment they have had individually and together and what they have been able to do to put their experiences out in unique ways as influencers, business owners, and impacters.    [4:08]Why should I listen to you? That is an excellent question. I think someone should listen to me because I have interesting perspectives and am inquisitive about many things. This has helped me have some exciting conversations, and I believe my gift is bringing that level of curiosity to others.  Mike said he has a lot of empathy, so he chose to help people for a living. I feel I can relate to a lot of people because I have been through a lot.    [7:00]What are the Aww shift moments you have had in your career? The main thing is the genesis of when we started our awareness company. In 2013, I was on top of the world, young, undefeated, but my body started shutting down. I was sick and in a hospital for almost two years. I started having systemic information and migraine, and I was shutting down. It was one of the darkest times in my life that I still deal with, but I think that moment was a massive shift for me because, to be honest, before that, I was all about the ego. I was doing well. Everything was all about me but getting sick and being knocked down changed my perspective on things that changed me as a human being and set me on a new trajectory in life. I started diving into a lot of work, including mindset, draft working, and outside medication. It changed me into a better person.   [9:50]Tell us about your journey and some of the Aww shift experiences you have learned from? I think the battle I have always been fighting, which has been difficult for me, is my career. Life happens, but my job is what I struggle with. It’s like my gift, but it is also something that I battle with, and maybe that is why I’m so committed to expressing myself and empowering women.    [11:54]What advice would you give people during an emotional battle? That’s a great question. I think for me, the biggest thing is to have fun and laugh. When I was in that state, I was more miserable than ever, so from that, I learned that it’s not about that minute. You have got to have fun, laugh, and find ways to enjoy the moment. We take these experiences seriously and end up being hard on ourselves, making things more difficult. We should wait until something massive happens before we can find or experience joy. We should see joy as a necessity.     [16:55]As siblings in the same business, how do you find a place to keep mutual respect and work ethic? I know what she loves doing and the things that don’t interest her. So, it will be unfair to make her do the things she doesn’t want. We sometimes get annoyed at each other because we want to do things differently. Understanding what each person is good at and keeping them in their lanes. Being honest and thoughtful is very important too.   [19:44]When you have moments when you are not doing so well, how do you communicate things that the other party doesn’t want to hear? There’s no point in using a tool that won’t help the problem. Empathy is needed. You should put your emotions in check and come out with compassion. I think this resonates with people.    [25:00]What is your journey of building a brand together? Our secret is that we still have a lot of personal time. I attend to customers’ messages. I show up as much as I can. These days, companies don’t show the face behind their products, which significantly helps us. People are craving intimacy. They want to know and connect with the owner. People will buy from someone who shows up consistently, shares their story, and so on, and I’m grateful for that. I’ve learned that it is community and customer service first, followed by the product. If you can build a community, it will be easier to sell your products. The mistake most people make is focusing on the products first. They are not getting feedback on what their customers will prefer, which is wrong.    [28:10]Who is the person that you want to help? Our biggest three pinpoints are anxiety, sleep, and stress, and we found out that the people we are trying to help now have a lot of pressure and focus right now, and I think there are so many reasons for that. We know how essential sleep is, but people still find it has to have a good sleep. Those are the three pinpoints that we came in and addressed. I think I was taking CBD because I had anxiety caused by the medications and the tough time I was going through.    [36:20]What are some of the things that have allowed you to build this eight figures business, and how did you feel when you wanted to start? The birth of something is fantastic. Seeing an idea of nothing burst into something that I receive a lot of DMs about is astonishing. We didn’t know if it would work, but we tried it. We weighed out the things we would lose if we didn’t try it. The price of not trying something is tough too. You’ve got to try something out. You might try things and fail, but one thing is that you will learn some lessons. We had no idea of what we were doing, but we continued. Nobody knows what they are doing, but they are just willing to try things out, and I think collaboration is one of our greatest moments.    [48:18]What promise did God make to the world when he created you? According to Mike, God said that he would turn pain into a payment of gift, and he would also be able to help other people get out of pain. Angie said, ‘To give people a pause through laughter regardless of what they are going through.   Key Quotes [26:09-26:11] People will choose to buy from brands that they trust rather than a brand they haven’t heard of. [26:30-26:32] If you can build a community, it will be easier to sell your products.   How to connect with Mike and Angie Lee Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mysoulcbd/ Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/soulhealthnwellness/posts/

  In this episode, our guest is Zack Windahl. He has helped thousands of people understand the Bible better and grow closer to God. He runs the brand Sunday and is the author of several books, including the Bible Study, the Bible Study: Youth Edition, and the Sunday Journal. He has gone through a cold journey being a man of faith. He is someone who has been able to use his confidence and also help others in their journey.    [1:50] Why should I listen to you? I think I have a unique perspective about life-based on how I was raised, what happened to my family, the kind of process I went through, questioning many things, questioning my faith, and figuring out what I wanted to do with my life.   [2:20] How were you raised? My mom is a 4-time cancer survivor. When I was four years old, she was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and had only a 5% chance of living. When I was 15 years, she had breast cancer. Literally, from 4 to 15 years, I saw my mum on a deathbed, which is years of transformation. She would always look at me and say: "Zack, it could be so worse, and I may not be here today, so you need to appreciate every single day for what it is and always look at how God is moving in your life because that is going to get through anything that comes your way." I had a vast, aww shift moment. God performed miracles after miracles, but I still questioned my faith and tried to figure out what this was about and what I wanted to call myself.   [4:00] Was faith always part of the family? If there was, why did you begin to ask questions about it? Yes, my parents were believers earlier, and when my mum had cancer, they dedicated their lives to God. I experienced God moving in many ways for most of my life, but I still fell out of my faith. Even though I saw God moving in incredible ways, I also cared more about what was happening in the world and what people go through. I tried to figure out what I wanted to do with my life.  [5:00]What called you into curiosity? When I graduated from college, I got involved in many entrepreneurial things. I allowed other people to impact my relationship with him, which I think many people do right now, and that is why people are deconstructing their faith because they allow other people into it. Everything fell apart, and I was at a crossroads in figuring out what I wanted to do with my life. I was a Christian who knew nothing about the Bible, and I went to Australia to study the Bible in-depth as much as possible. I learned until I knew I'd gotten hold of something I could help others with.   [11:09] What was the process of saying that I get this note and I'm going to package them up for people? I think I knew I was going to do some sort of entrepreneurial things. I was leading a small group at a time. I was learning and getting my content set, and I felt like I was supposed to help people because so many people read the Bible but don't understand it. I prayed about it, spent nine months adding to my notes, taking down a lot of opinions, asking questions, helping someone read through the entire Bible, and also figured out what the book means to themselves, and so I had this product, but I don't know what to do with it. I didn't know how to make a book, but people started to give me money I wasn't expecting. I reached out to Christian leaders about my idea but was told not to do it. I made up my mind to do it, and I started. I printed the first thousand copies, but it didn't do well after it came out. I kept pushing forward, ran ads, connected with the right people, started a team, and over the next few years, we grew the business. We've shipped over 300,000 packages and over a million books sold. We did everything independently until recently, when we reached out to distributors to shift to the next level.   [14:35] What were some of the things necessary for you and get your team and have a vision they could buy into? Everything we created was to help people grow their relationship with God and understand their Bible better. When building out this team and getting people behind it, I kept a full-time job I was paying people before paying myself a dollar. Every dollar that I made was mainly for the business. I realized that I knew what was good and bad at some other things. I hire other people who are suitable where I'm evil and always focus on the level I want the business to attend.   [18:00] What do you do at the moment when you feel overwhelmed? That is why it is essential to be surrounded by the right people. My wife is of great help and impact in my life, especially when I'm going through challenging moments.   [19:30] What are the other products in the brand? We have a book called: "The best season planner," a 90-day planner. We also have another book called: "Launch with God." This book helps people to launch their businesses in partnership with God. I'm a massive advocate for mental, physical, and spiritual growth and growth in other areas. We have a new book coming out this year that talks about finding faith, gratitude, and being optimistic every day. [20:50] Where did the book blossom from? Like I said about my mom, she shifted my mindset about life. I posted on my Instagram story and asked if people believe that the world is getting better or worse. 84% of people think that the world is getting worse, and I find that fascinating. Then I asked myself, why the people believe the world is getting worse? Is it becoming harder or easier to become a Christian? What we should focus on is how God is moving instead of focusing on how bad things are.   [28:40] Has leaning on Bible Study helped strengthen your relationship with God by assisting others to maintain theirs? One hundred percent because it gives me hope. It drives me to grow deeper and have better answers to things. The more I see people grow, the more I want to dive deeper. It's cool to see people excited about certain things I lost, and I know I have to come up with something extraordinary every morning.   [38:28] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? He will help you see where I am moving in the world and be hopeful for the future.   Key Quotes [23:20-23:25]If you start following people who share negative things, you will begin to feel negative. [23:26-23:40] If you follow people that are uplifting and hopeful for the future and showing off the incredible things God is doing, you will respond to that and live that way for life.   How to connect with Zach Windahl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zachwindahl/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ZachWindahl/ 

  In this episode, our guest is Cathy Heller. She is a business coach, spiritual coach, and best-selling author. She is also the host of a podcast called: DON'T KEEP YOUR DAY JOB". She is a successful person who has a cool journey of navigating life and doing so much stuff having great business success. This is an individual who has a calling and has been able to do more with it. [1:30] Why should we listen to you? I'm pretty sure that people are going around in VR headsets all day, and it's presenting a false illusion for them that's controlled by 96 percent of our brain, which is our subconscious mind, and it's telling us how limited we are. I want to show you that there is no such thing as thinking beyond the box. The illusion is the box. [2:40] How did we get to the point of not realizing that 95% of this is the base number? I spent years in meditation and learning how to be a witness to what was happening on my path to obtaining the answers that I was looking for. I began my self-discovery journey when I was fifteen years old. It's not just what you think, as you probably know, every thought is accompanied by feelings, and feelings produce chemicals in the brain. What truly happens is that we think something, feel something, and get ahead of ourselves, which leads to stress, and then our cells produce negative things, and we withdraw. As a result, we have people who say they aren't good enough, or that they aren't capable. This is a fake feeling that appears to be genuine. As a result, we must adopt a mindset of overcoming that feeling as quickly as we can each day. [7:25] What is the catalyst that drove you into this area of understanding? My mother had been depressed for a long time. My father married three times throughout his life. There was a lot of disturbance, and I found it to be very depressing. I began my search for happiness and discovered that many individuals believe that happiness is the polar opposite of depression. Happiness has a deeper meaning. It's a place where your soul takes control and you realize you have more potential than you realize. That's what we're looking for. We're all looking for ways to improve ourselves. So, because of my parents, I had to find new ways to feel alive, and now I'm on a mission to help individuals who are walking around with a fake feeling that they believe is genuine. [12:30] How do we unravel this? We unravel it by realizing that we need to start asking new questions. "What do I need to do?" is the question that everyone is asking. "How do I need to be?" is the true question. The question of how must be addressed. Realizing that you don't have to accomplish anything is the gateway to your expansion. The coherent signal is the most powerful force on the planet. We are conditioned to believe that love must be earned, and that is not true love. You don't give love for the sake of giving it. The only thing people/the world asks of us is that we love them. Take a look around you, at your family, your career, and everything else, and you'll notice that everyone just wants to be happy. [15:30] How do you trigger this energy and express it in a way that allows your life to change outside? When I teach someone, 98 percent of what I teach them is energy, and only 2% is physical. Let's take a closer look at this in more detail. There are three solid steps to follow if you have a job and want to start a side hustle like a business. Select it, sell it, and skill it are the three options. You must select. It doesn't matter if you try multiple things; in fact, you should, and once you've chosen one, make sure you give it away for free to people to test before selling it. Most times, what people have is a courage problem, not a business problem. There is no failure. It is rather called feedback. When a customer gives you a rating of 1-7, it's not that impressive but a 9-10 rating means that they'll recommend you to others and that is a pathway to having a successful business. [23:18] What makes a 9-10 rating? There are just two words and they are radical and perceiving. You must be making things, listening to your customers' needs, and making them feel that energy. Why does Amazon do more business than other online stores? It's because they are studying you differently. Business is the bedrock of any relationship and what this means is thinking of what the other person wants. [25:40] How do we get someone to take these concrete steps and apply them? When we look, we look for a greater vision and that is where the energy comes from. If you can't see your business growing to be a successful one, then your customers can't see it. It starts with you. The positive thought and mindset must start from you and this is what gives you the whole energy that you need. The combination of that energy and your vision won't make you lose and it will make you become what you're meant to be. [31:57] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? God said, "She's going to show you a mirror of how amazing you are and you're going to believe it".   Key Quotes [24:32-24:36] The only thing we receive is that which we give away. [28:38-28:41] When someone can see what other people can't see, it moves the world. [29:30-29:35] The power of vision is amazing in such a way that if you have one, other people will get behind you.   How to connect with Cathy Heller Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cathy.heller/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cathyhellerbiz/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/cathyheller?    

  In this episode, our guest is Gabby Bernstein. She is an American author, motivational speaker, international speaker, and podcast host. She genuinely cares about life and other people. She is not just a product of business success but self success, and through that, she has been able to help other people achieve success. She is also the author of nine different books and is the No.1 New York best-selling Author. [1:55] Why should we listen to you? It would help if you listened to me because my presence makes you feel good. My presence enables you to recognize your authenticity and how to stay in your authentic truth. I believe that it is not by my words but by the presence that I bring. [3:30] When you connect with people, do you really open up to them? Whatever the reason may be, I try to connect. I'd love to answer this question with an example. I went for my regular treatment, and I connected with the woman in charge of my treatment. I started asking her questions out of curiosity, and she opened up. Through our conversation, the beautiful truth came through. She talked about her addictions, finances, and her family. She didn't know who I was, but we spent hours discussing how she could navigate her family and her habits. It was a beautiful moment. I'm not recommending that we go about discussing our lives with random people, but I'm recommending that we should be real and share our authenticity with others. [6:58] Where did you get the energy for that?  I energetically decide when I'm going to open my door and when I'll shut it. I choose when to talk and when I'm not going to talk. Sometimes, I'm consistently elevated depending on the kind of connection I get during the conversations. It is not always the hour. It may be a brief encounter of happiness or pleasure that people derive when they meet it. I make sure I reply to every person I meet with kindness and compassion. [10:08] Why is this the right book right now? Happy days: The guided path from trauma to profound freedom and peace, the book is called. Moving from somewhere to Happy days is a journey, and I had the privilege of undergoing the trip and coming out the other side. I went through a series of mental breakdowns and pain. I was doing all the beautiful things in the world but still going through pain inside. At a point, I had a dream, and I remember being a victim of child sexual abuse. When I woke up from the dream, I was tensed and terrified. I was afraid, but that dream opened me up to the journey of freedom. Through the plan, I discovered why I was always scared and went through a series of mental breakdowns. In that moment of undoing the emotional abuse that had caused havoc on me, I knew I would write a book. [14:15] Why don't some people know how to confront this situation? Many people find it hard to shut down those experiences, some do not even remember, and some do not want to talk about them. Unfortunately, your body remembers it. The way you brush your teeth is even a response. People tend it walk over it rather than face it. Pretending to get over it will only cause a wreck rather than healing. [19:05] How many times do you find people punishing themselves because of their trauma? A chapter in that book talks about shame, and it is named: "Speaking the Unspeakable." The reason why people don't talk about their trauma is because of shame. Shame shuts us up and makes us think that we are not good enough. Shame makes people believe that they are a piece of shit, and nobody will accept them for who they are, and in a bid to avoid this, people shut up. A lot of people experience this, and I also did. The trauma makes us believe that we are inadequate and unworthy, and we believe it. Unfortunately, thinking it only leads to self-punishment. [21:20] When can I expect to have any bit of freedom from trauma? It would help if you were willing. When you have even the tiniest willingness, that is when God can enter. That is when you are open to solutions on how to help yourself. Willingness is the first step to happy days. You must be ready to help yourself. Willingness will help you to know that you did it for yourself. Even when the journey is rough, willingness will keep you going. When you are willing to help yourself out of trauma, God will open doors for you. He will give you the time, energy, and resources. You must be ready. [24:13] What keeps you on happy days as you help other people? I feel grateful every day and feel like I have an extraordinary life doing this. Whenever I feel disconnected, I practice the principles I talked about in this book and find peace. I have been able to show up at different times because it is like a mission. When you are on a mission, you are not alone. I know that I am not alone and that God is in me. I know that God is working through me, and I must allow him to work in others through me. People are going through a lot, and the country's situation isn't helping, so I wrote this book to save people. [28:05] Did you talk about skills and practices in the book that will make people believe that it's, is not just a one-way thing? Yes, I talked about practices and behavioral patterns that can help you. The book introduces you to techniques that can help you heal on your own, or you take a step forward by opening up to a therapist. The book also talked about practices for navigating your nervous system.   [32:00] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? The world would be shown in a gentle and softly way.   Key Quotes [17:38-17:50] When you have unresolved trauma, you can't live your entire life running from it, but if you have the tinniest willingness to tap into freedom, you will be set free. [29:40-30:00]  The book gave me the confidence and permission to step into the unknown inside me and also encouraged me.     How to connect with Gabby Bernstein Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gabriellebernstein Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabbybernstein/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/GabbyBernstein/

In this episode, our guest is Ryan Blair. He is a father, husband, and business leader who was able to navigate craziness into impacting millions of lives. He has successfully created something that impacted millions of lives not just from the aspect of the business but from the heart. He is now in the direction of taking what he has experienced, and what he has learned and bringing it to the world of entrepreneurship and humanity. [3:10] Why should we listen to you? I speak from love and when I talk to people, I do it with love. Love is my energy. My energy is love and so when I speak to people, I speak with love. [5:26] What is the story that progressed you to the level that you are right now? I grew up in a household with low vibration. I had a difficult childhood, growing up in an atmosphere where my basic needs were not provided. I last saw my father when I was 13 years old. My mother struggled with alcoholism. I was dissatisfied, but I eventually channeled my urge to be powerful into a street brawl. I was imprisoned for four years. I wrote the judge a letter appealing for mercy when I was 17 years old. The court signed the letter, I was freed, and that was the start of a new progression in my life. [7:38] What was the reason why you wrote the letter? I wasn't a good writer, and I had a hard time spelling, but I was determined to speak with the judge. What I told him was that I accepted responsibility for my mistakes and expressed regret, as well as writing to the judge pleading with him to release the other convicts out of love. He read the letter and agreed to let me go to college, but cautioned me that if he saw me again, I would be sent to prison. I had to adjust my entire life at that time. [9:44] What was the moment you decide to venture into entrepreneurship? I was assigned to a mentor who was a successful entrepreneur. My father came from a working-class family. All three classes had been seen by me. The poor, the wealthy, and the middle class, which was where I started. I made the decision to become an entrepreneur at one time. I understood I didn't need to be a lawyer or a doctor before I can employ others. [11:40] How was your first business and what are some of the things that made you successful later on? My first business wasn't very successful but it taught me a lot. I got it to about a million dollars but it wasn't a scalable business. I was into computer repairs but nobody was ready to invest because it was not scalable. I was so pissed off that I swore to learn what scalability is all about so that one day a venture capitalist will invest in me. My next business was skpe pipeline which failed and I had to start all over again [13:40] Where did the idea for visuals come from and how did you grow it to be such a conglomo impactful business? Sky Pipeline cut the two founders of vice house and nick started calling. Black mullen asked I'd love to help them build their business. I fell in love with the research guy named Dr Michael Seidman and his products and I thought to myself that I could be a part of this project and help them bring it to the marketplace. I brought a venture capitalist and we raised 100 million dollars for the business. We then turned it into a 600 million dollar business. I must say that I was a strategic and conditional partner more than the others. They possessed strong fields in marketing and sales and the combination of all of us is what made that company a special company. [16:23] With this new venture, why was it the next call for you? I went through a major correction in my life. I lost my mother and mentor to the cold hands of death. I channeled all of my energy into success and status-seeking which was a great strategy to get my mind off the pain that I was suffering from. My mother's transition made me look into the corner of my soul, shadow, and psyche, and I looked for every piece of anger, and unhealed trauma. I spent two years of my life reemerging with some new wisdom and a new way of life to share with my fellow entrepreneurs. I went deeper into meditation, and psychology and when I emerged I found out that I could help a lot of people with this newfound knowledge that I've received. [20:40] As you navigate, what do you see are some of the pitfalls that as your work kind of dials in that you're uncovering that most people do not realize they are battling with on this journey? The majority of individuals are unaware that they have a lot of hearing to do. You know, the way most of us were raised didn't meet our needs• We may have had excellent parents, but in many cases, our parents didn't know any different because parenting as a whole is still a relatively new idea. Most people have closed their hearts so the formula I use is to help them heal. I go deep into their healing, they grow through healing and when they grow, they have to heal again. I will tell you that an entrepreneur's job is to solve a problem in the external marketplace and the way you solve that external problem is by solving the internal problems on the inside of your walls.                                                                                               [23:25] How do you reach the people who need it but don't know they need it yet? I resisted it and then my life got to a point where I was open. So, I need someone who is open when they go through a life change. The good news is that we are always going through life changes as individuals so those are the primary people that I work with. Like we always say, execution is everything. Most people I find that have a high degree of confidence know what to do but not how to do it because something inside of them is sabotaging their capacity. So we have to make them realize that it is not the skill that is the issue, it is the fact that they've not developed a vessel capable of acquiring the skill.   [28:27]  How do people not ruin their lives as they start executing? Your primary job in life is to manage and maintain the highest degree of positive energy that you can. I have to make sure that the energy that I bring to my time is the highest quality energy that I can.  Money handles itself because if you have the energy to correct and bring it to the table.                            [37:50] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? I am here to inspire. So God said, "This is my son, Ryan and he's going to go through hell and back and he's going to create quite a story of inspiration along the way".   Key Quotes [24: 20_24:25]  Execution like we always say is everything. Every great leader will tell you that what you look [26:40_26:45] Capacity is a person's physical, and mental ability to power, and produce productivity to the operator   How to connect with Ryan Blair Website - https://altercall.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/realryanblair/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/RyanBlair  

In this episode, I am humbled to have Erin Skye Kelly. She is an award-winning and bestselling author who has helped thousands of people pay off millions of dollars in consumer debt and ultimately change their lives.   Despite her terrible stage fright and general Canadian awkwardness, she has shared the stage with legendary motivational speakers such as Tony Robbins, Phil Town, and Gary John Bishop.   Erin's seminars and workshops are judgment-free zones of equal parts personal growth, rock concert, and love. She is hired to work with ordinary humans who want to achieve extraordinary things. Because of her track record of helping people create a trajectory of success, the phrase she most often hears when people meet her for the first time is, "Wow. I thought you'd be taller."   [03:18] Why should we listen to you?   When it comes to finances, the person you should listen to is yourself. Your instincts will always tell you if the financial decisions are correct. Another thing is to research and find resources that connect with your financial situation. They will help you a lot.   [05:57] How do you deal with people in debt/financial instability? Self-Awareness is the key when you know how to interact with money and how it works all around. It is also essential to understand how the financial systems work and how they are designed to put us in an unhealthy economic environment to make profits. In this case, I make them look a step back, realize how they got into debt, how the system is designed to get them there, and how to face the situation and change their mindset. [08:22] How do you take that kind of thing rooted? Self-awareness is still essential in this part also, knowing what matters more than the other will assist you in staying away from debt. It would help if you also were cautious about what we put on social media because there is no extend to what we can consume. The pressure that comes with social media can highly affect our decisions regarding finances.   [11:00] What is the essential thing that drives your thoughts? When reality hits you, you open your eyes and see what is important to you. It is the core relationships around me, my kids, the things that are aligned with me, and my spending. Many go through horrible experiences to find their worth which is okay. [16:43] What is the tie in the book, and how does it help with debts? The book is about emotional debt that privileged people have on their credit cards, and they don't want to settle, how emotional debt is taking away from life, and when we can reverse engineer it. The book also talks about removing shame, living authentically, living more interesting, and creating your identity. [22:07] Erin explains the four categories of experiences It's basically where you take everything that you do in terms of habit or behavior in a given week. You divide them into four categories. Class four experiences are things that don't feel good, and they're not good for me. Class three experiences are things that feel good, but they're not good for me. Class two experiences are things that might not feel good, but they are suitable for me. Class one experiences are things that feel good and are suitable for me. [33:31] How much do you think accountability matters to someone in debt? Accountability depends on trust. It should always be the person you know and trust. Because laying down your financial status to anyone is not safe. Financial infidelity among partners is normal, and this is because it may not be safe for partners to open up their financials to the other because of their behaviors. And so the accountability. [41:00] When was the book first written, where did it comes from, and who was it for? I wrote the book for the 20-year-old version of me that ought not to have gotten into debt in the first place. So the way the book is divided, it's three phases. The first phase is the financial foundation, Understanding how to pull all the pieces together and everything that I wish I had known when I was younger. Phase two talks about consumer debts and paying off debts aggressively and effectively, and finally, phase three words about wealth building. [47:04] What promise did God make to the world when he created you? Without this question, we all wonder aimlessly, and if you are struggling with money or finances, this question is critical. The promise that God made to the world when He created me is my entire purpose. In the book I have, I say, as I quote, "God, let my life be a love letter to you." The goal is about making everybody feel seen and heard and loved wholly and completely for who they are today and able to call them into who they are created to be. Key Quotes [35:23] "Accountability is critical, but it matters who it is." [38:17] "cutting the expenses is to its lack of mentality and thinking."   How to connect with Erin Skye Kelly Website - https://www.erinskyekelly.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/erinskyekelly/?hl=en Twitter - https://twitter.com/erinskyekelly?lang=en    

In this episode, our guest is Brian Dawkins. He is a coach and also the author of a book titled, “Blessed by the best”.  He has successfully climbed to the top of the success level but the cool thing is we are going to talk about the things that happen behind the scenes, how he became successful, and also pass the message to other people.   [2:48] Why should I listen to you?       My personality is really to listen more than I speak. I know how to be in my workspace and when it’s time for me to speak, I know what to do with it. Being blessed to have had some of the success that I have in life, I understand the significance of framing/reframing a situation and what that situation can bless you within the present to have your future.       The level of success that I have also attained helps me to know that I have wisdom that should be shared with somebody else.   [4:58] What is the moment that shifted you to where you are now?       While growing up, I was the smallest kid in the neighborhood and I always thought I had to fight which I did. I went through diverse of pain and disrespect and at some point, I had to use those things as a platform to grow. The majority of success that I have had in my life has come out of pain and that pain has taken me to different heights that I would never reach if I had not made use of the pain and disrespect to grind and work harder.     I was able to make use of the negative things that happened to me as part of my growth process and that is one of the main ingredients for success.  [8:50] If you think it wasn’t supposed to be you, where did you get the ability to attain the height of success?          I was blessed to have my parents around me. My father not only played the role of a parent but also proved to be a man. One of the things he taught me was that whatever you start, you must finish. He developed in me the mindset that I should always give more than what is expected of me. What I learned from him became a part of me and also a major principle in my life.          My mum also taught me that you don’t start a fight and not finish it. You must fight in a way that they have to pull you off the person. So my dad taught me how to grind and my mum taught me how to fight.   [13:26] How did you show up differently whenever you make a mistake?        I’m extremely hard on myself so I am brutally honest with whatever I see. I wasn’t solely a perfectionist but I expected a whole lot of myself. Whenever I make a mistake, I am extremely hard on myself and I make sure that I get back to practice. So, I always make sure that I never make the same mistakes whenever I recognize them.       I was treated badly by my team and as time pass by, I begin to love them and develop the mindset of never letting them down.    [20:25] Did you ever experience the fear of being judged by people when you want to talk about what you are going through?      What I’m going through is not for everyone. I call it cerebral wellness and it is important to me. First, I can not do it alone. As men, we were made to believe that it is wrong for us to be emotional. We should always bottle up our emotions but at a point, l had to speak up. I begin to talk about what is affecting me without the fear of being judged.         [22:48] How did you navigate to the shift moments especially when you don’t have an outlet?        When you think you don’t have an outlet, you do. There is at least one person you can always communicate with.   [33:05] What are the things that help you get back on track whenever you make mistakes?      If you expect to always have success without a fall, then you are already in the wrong space. You will fall short and you have to pelf to fall short at some point in life. You are not trying to fall but you will at some point. If you fall and it hurts you, you might have to take a count.     I might need to take a little time but I will definitely rise. [36:13] What are the things that work well for you?        The first thing that works for me is the power of the pause. I breathe a little and then explode. During this process, I begin to express gratitude for the things that I’m grateful for. I recognize that the things I fail at don’t make me a failure. With gratitude, I learn that failure is temporary and it shouldn’t last. It is just for a season.        With this, I learn to recognize what I can learn, how I can grow, ad, how I can get better. I recognize that I make mistakes but I do not dwell on them. I make room for it to move on and replace it with powerful thoughts.   [43:45]  How did you know it is time to give back to the world through a book?    I never thought I would write a book. In the book, I talked about how I had speech impairment which is stuttering, and how it got worse. I was emotional and sometimes I go far than my tongue and mess up the whole speech. So I couldn’t think that I would become a public speaker and also write a book.      The book isn’t about football even though it has football in it but it will show you how I developed a positive mindset and principles that helped me. It is my hope tI hope I achieved success and also learn to take time out of your schedule to also apply the same mindset and principle. [57:00] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?     What God said was, “The passion that this smart child would operate in will be something that will bless whosoever comes in contact with him”.    Key Quotes   [4:23-4:28]  There is no meaning to a moment except for the meaning we give to it.   [6:40-7:00] The majority of success that I have had in my life has come out of pain and that pain has taken me to different heights that I would never reach if I had not made use of the pain and disrespect to grind. [24:50-25:05] If the stuff that I have bottled up inside of me is causing me to act the way I am, why would I think I can dump them on another person and not expect them to respond similarly or worst.   [41:56-42:03] If you can control your thoughts, you can control the direction you are going.   You can find Learn more about Brian Dawkins Website - https://briandawkins.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/briandawkinssr Twitter - https://twitter.com/BrianDawkins Linkdin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/brian-dawkins-sr-8a48474a/

In this episode, our guest is Emmanuel Acho. He is one of New York’s Bestselling Authors and also the creator of Uncomfortable Conversations with the Blackmen.                  Emmanuel Acho is part of the people who don’t set defense. He knows what he stands for and what he stands against. He is not just someone with a strong opinion but with a strong set of experiences that leads to opinions that have weight.   [2:53] WHY SHOULD WE LISTEN TO YOU?   I picked up a football and I made it into the National Football League. I picked up a pen and I became a NO. 1 New York Best Selling Author. I picked up a microphone and I won an army. So, my works and credentials truly speak for me. I barely talk but when I do, then I must be saying something very important.   [6:00] WHERE WAS YOUR IDENTITY CREATED?   While growing up, I watched my parents work hard and progress through their hard work so I can say that is where my identity came from. To me, success is oftentimes a more committed dedication and opportunity while luck is when operation meets opportunity. While luck is relevant without operation, it is also irrelevant without opportunity. I don’t believe my identity is in my athlete. My identity is truly in my character and work ethic.   [11:45]  Whenever things fall apart, why was it one of the most painful moments, and what do you take from it?   I learned that it is important to keep going to work, keep excelling and keep getting better. Sometimes in life, you have to choose not to see what you see. You just have to choose not to believe your eyes in some situations.   [14:13]  I do not believe in it that all your goals kind of fall apart, what is your perception about this?   Chapter 11 of  Illogical, my latest book in partnership with Oprah is called goals are dumb. Goals are stupid. If you set a goal and achieve it, congratulations but what if you could have done more? If you set a goal and do not achieve it, you will ruin your self-esteem and self-efficacy. Instead of setting goals, have an objective with no limitations.     [22:18] Where do you know when to listen to some people?   It takes a lot of discernment. The apple air pod has a transparency function and a noise cancellation function so do we humans too. We have to ultimately live life with both. Sometimes, you have to completely cancel out any form of noise while sometimes you just have to let in some feedback so that you can improve as a human being.   [25:30]  What promise did God make to the world when he created you?   I am not super talented, or super skilled but I’m obedient and I think God’s promise is that he is going to bring forth someone obedient enough to use his skills to try to change the world.   KEY QUOTES   [17:40-17:41] A goal is an end at which energy is aimed while an objective is simply energy aimed in a direction.   [20:35-20:36] All we focus on in life is what we can see and what we can quantify not realizing that some of our biggest hardship moments are unquantifiable.   Learn more about Emmanuel Acho   Twitter - https://twitter.com/EmmanuelAcho YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/Acho/featured Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/emmanuelacho/?hl=en Linkdin- https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmanuel-acho-ba35a2b9/