

Discerning Marriage
Theology of the Body Institute
Listen to Elizabeth's intro episode here (https://discerningmarriage.fireside.fm/1)!
Discerning Marriage is a weekly podcast hosted by Elizabeth Busby, MTS, MS, LMFT. She is co-founder with her husband Ross of Discerning Marriage Ministries and the Next Step program. Regardless of your state in life, you can begin preparing for marriage right now. Whether you are single, dating, seriously dating, engaged, on a break, or grieving a breakup, you can make use of this time for fruitful growth toward becoming a healthy and holy spouse. Intentional discernment of marriage starts today, even if you haven't given or received an engagement ring.
This podcast is also great for clergy and laypeople who prepare couples for marriage and parents who have teens and adult children who are dating and pursuing marriage!
Elizabeth has an undergraduate degree in Psychology from Texas A&M University (whoop!), and she earned a Master's degree in Theological Studies from Ave Maria University, where she wrote her thesis on how St. John Paul II’s Theology of the Body can aid in the discernment of a vocation to marriage. Additionally, she holds a Master's degree in Counseling with a focus on marriage and family therapy from Southern Methodist University, and she works as a Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a passion for helping people fall in love with Jesus and helping people discern and live God’s joyful plan for holy marriages and family life.
Next Step is a parish-based course written for seriously dating couples who want to discern more intentionally with each other. There is a lot of structure in place for people who are discerning a vocation to celibacy, but there isn’t a similar support network for people discerning marriage. Since the majority of the population is called to marriage, there is a glaring need for resources that can be used to help guide this discernment. Elizabeth and her team seek to fill that need with the Next Step program. Learn more here: https://www.discerningmarriage.com/next-step-program.
This podcast is presented by Theology of the Body Institute, which promotes around the world John Paul II's revolutionary teaching on human life and love — the Theology of the Body. Learn more about the Institute's offerings here: https://tobinstitute.org.
Endorsements
"I first met Elizabeth Busby in 2009 when she was a college student working with a TOB ministry at Texas A&M. Now she’s not only a loving wife and mother, but also an accomplished professional counselor bringing John Paul II’s TOB to bear in all she does. She has worked alongside my colleagues and me since 2014 coordinating our network of intercessors and has become a trusted partner in our ministry. We are delighted to be launching her podcast Discerning Marriage under the TOB Institute umbrella. Having already been interviewed by Elizabeth about my own vocational discernment for the show, this podcast is going to be a great gift both for those looking for answers to questions about vocational discernment, and for those who just love hearing how God works in other people’s lives."
Christopher West, Th.D.
President, Theology of the Body Institute
Discerning Marriage is a weekly podcast hosted by Elizabeth Busby, MTS, MS, LMFT. She is co-founder with her husband Ross of Discerning Marriage Ministries and the Next Step program. Regardless of your state in life, you can begin preparing for marriage right now. Whether you are single, dating, seriously dating, engaged, on a break, or grieving a breakup, you can make use of this time for fruitful growth toward becoming a healthy and holy spouse. Intentional discernment of marriage starts today, even if you haven't given or received an engagement ring.
This podcast is also great for clergy and laypeople who prepare couples for marriage and parents who have teens and adult children who are dating and pursuing marriage!
Elizabeth has an undergraduate degree in Psychology from Texas A&M University (whoop!), and she earned a Master's degree in Theological Studies from Ave Maria University, where she wrote her thesis on how St. John Paul II’s Theology of the Body can aid in the discernment of a vocation to marriage. Additionally, she holds a Master's degree in Counseling with a focus on marriage and family therapy from Southern Methodist University, and she works as a Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a passion for helping people fall in love with Jesus and helping people discern and live God’s joyful plan for holy marriages and family life.
Next Step is a parish-based course written for seriously dating couples who want to discern more intentionally with each other. There is a lot of structure in place for people who are discerning a vocation to celibacy, but there isn’t a similar support network for people discerning marriage. Since the majority of the population is called to marriage, there is a glaring need for resources that can be used to help guide this discernment. Elizabeth and her team seek to fill that need with the Next Step program. Learn more here: https://www.discerningmarriage.com/next-step-program.
This podcast is presented by Theology of the Body Institute, which promotes around the world John Paul II's revolutionary teaching on human life and love — the Theology of the Body. Learn more about the Institute's offerings here: https://tobinstitute.org.
Endorsements
"I first met Elizabeth Busby in 2009 when she was a college student working with a TOB ministry at Texas A&M. Now she’s not only a loving wife and mother, but also an accomplished professional counselor bringing John Paul II’s TOB to bear in all she does. She has worked alongside my colleagues and me since 2014 coordinating our network of intercessors and has become a trusted partner in our ministry. We are delighted to be launching her podcast Discerning Marriage under the TOB Institute umbrella. Having already been interviewed by Elizabeth about my own vocational discernment for the show, this podcast is going to be a great gift both for those looking for answers to questions about vocational discernment, and for those who just love hearing how God works in other people’s lives."
Christopher West, Th.D.
President, Theology of the Body Institute
Episodes
Mentioned books

Jan 30, 2024 • 8min
Episode 57: Marriage Will Destroy You.
Elizabeth explores the profound impact of marriage on personal transformation. Does marriage destroy or refine? Join us in this insightful discussion as we delve into the complexities of relationships, the sacrament of marriage, and the journey towards authentic holiness.
On The Discerning Marriage Podcast, we accompany you on the journey to discover if marriage is God’s will for you, and if you already know that you’re called to marriage, we want to help you bring glory to God in your vocation.
You're missing the view! Watch this episode on YouTube
Try Next Step: A Course for Discerning Marriage
📚 Get Elizabeth's ebook "10 Questions to Ask at the Beginning of Your Relationship" for free
🔥 Get 3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on Theology of the Body
⚡️ Join our Patron Community! Your monthly gift helps us continue to put out the message of Theology of the Body to the world
📚 Want to attend a course at the Theology of the Body Institute online or in person? Click the link to view our schedule
📍 We might be coming to a city near you! Check out our Made for More event schedule
🛍️ Check out our store!
Learn more about Discerning Marriage Ministries here.
Send a question to host Elizabeth Busby here.

Jan 23, 2024 • 7min
Every Woman Wants This One Quality In a Man.
Elizabeth tells us the one quality women seek in a Christian man. Learn why being a man who prays is the secret ingredient to a fulfilling relationship. If you're seeking to be a better husband or are on the path to marriage, this video is a must-watch.
On The Discerning Marriage Podcast, we accompany you on the journey to discover if marriage is God’s will for you, and if you already know that you’re called to marriage, we want to help you bring glory to God in your vocation.
You're missing the view! Watch this episode on YouTube
Try Next Step: A Course for Discerning Marriage
📚 Get Elizabeth's ebook "10 Questions to Ask at the Beginning of Your Relationship" for free
🔥 Get 3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on Theology of the Body
⚡️ Join our Patron Community! Your monthly gift helps us continue to put out the message of Theology of the Body to the world
📚 Want to attend a course at the Theology of the Body Institute online or in person? Click the link to view our schedule
📍 We might be coming to a city near you! Check out our Made for More event schedule
🛍️ Check out our store!
Learn more about Discerning Marriage Ministries here.
Send a question to host Elizabeth Busby here.

Jan 17, 2024 • 6min
Why Women Shouldn't Trade Up.
Elizabeth delves into the topic of women "trading up" in marriages and why it's not a good idea. Addressing both the emotional and financial aspects, we explore the importance of honoring vows and staying committed. Discover the key to lasting happiness in marriage and why faith plays a crucial role. If you're navigating challenges in your relationship, this video provides valuable perspectives and guidance.
On The Discerning Marriage Podcast, we accompany you on the journey to discover if marriage is God’s will for you, and if you already know that you’re called to marriage, we want to help you bring glory to God in your vocation.
You're missing the view! Watch this episode on YouTube
Try Next Step: A Course for Discerning Marriage
📚 Get Elizabeth's ebook "10 Questions to Ask at the Beginning of Your Relationship" for free
🔥 Get 3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on Theology of the Body
⚡️ Join our Patron Community! Your monthly gift helps us continue to put out the message of Theology of the Body to the world
📚 Want to attend a course at the Theology of the Body Institute online or in person? Click the link to view our schedule
📍 We might be coming to a city near you! Check out our Made for More event schedule
🛍️ Check out our store!
Learn more about Discerning Marriage Ministries here.
Send a question to host Elizabeth Busby here.

Jan 8, 2024 • 7min
The Four Horsemen of Relationships. (They'll Make You Miserable)
Join Elizabeth as she unfolds the Four Horsemen of Relationships and how they will harm your relationship and communication with your significant other. In this video Elizabeth talks about the research of John and Julie Gottman and how their findings have concluded that criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling will hurt your relationship and potentially lead to divorce.
On The Discerning Marriage Podcast, we accompany you on the journey to discover if marriage is God’s will for you, and if you already know that you’re called to marriage, we want to help you bring glory to God in your vocation.
You're missing the view! Watch this episode on YouTube
Try Next Step: A Course for Discerning Marriage
📚 Get Elizabeth's ebook "10 Questions to Ask at the Beginning of Your Relationship" for free
🔥 Get 3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on Theology of the Body
⚡️ Join our Patron Community! Your monthly gift helps us continue to put out the message of Theology of the Body to the world
📚 Want to attend a course at the Theology of the Body Institute online or in person? Click the link to view our schedule
📍 We might be coming to a city near you! Check out our Made for More event schedule
🛍️ Check out our store!
Learn more about Discerning Marriage Ministries here.
Send a question to host Elizabeth Busby here.

Dec 29, 2023 • 2min
If You Can Say "YES" to THIS, He/She Might Be the One.
Elizabeth poses a crucial question that can determine if your partner is truly meant for you. Discover the litmus test for a lasting relationship and gain insights into making a healthy and holy discernment.
On The Discerning Marriage Podcast, we accompany you on the journey to discover if marriage is God’s will for you, and if you already know that you’re called to marriage, we want to help you bring glory to God in your vocation.
You're missing the view! Watch this episode on YouTube
Try Next Step: A Course for Discerning Marriage
📚 Get Elizabeth's ebook "10 Questions to Ask at the Beginning of Your Relationship" for free
🔥 Get 3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on Theology of the Body
⚡️ Join our Patron Community! Your monthly gift helps us continue to put out the message of Theology of the Body to the world
📚 Want to attend a course at the Theology of the Body Institute online or in person? Click the link to view our schedule
📍 We might be coming to a city near you! Check out our Made for More event schedule
🛍️ Check out our store!
Learn more about Discerning Marriage Ministries here.
Send a question to host Elizabeth Busby here.

Dec 13, 2023 • 6min
Episode 48: I Know How Your Relationship Will End.
Elizabeth knows how your relationship will end. In this video we discuss a crucial topic: the fate of your relationship. Is it headed for marriage or a breakup? Elizabeth explores the significance of intentional dating and offers insights into the vulnerability required for authentic relationships. Learn why dating casually may hinder your ability to discern marriage and discover the beauty that comes from embracing vulnerability. Don't miss out on valuable advice for navigating the complexities of relationships.
Try Next Step: A Course for Discerning Marriage
On The Discerning Marriage Podcast, we accompany you on the journey to discover if marriage is God’s will for you, and if you already know that you’re called to marriage, we want to help you bring glory to God in your vocation.
You're missing the view! Watch this episode on YouTube
Try Next Step: A Course for Discerning Marriage
📚 Get Elizabeth's ebook "10 Questions to Ask at the Beginning of Your Relationship" for free
🔥 Get 3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on Theology of the Body
⚡️ Join our Patron Community! Your monthly gift helps us continue to put out the message of Theology of the Body to the world
📚 Want to attend a course at the Theology of the Body Institute online or in person? Click the link to view our schedule
📍 We might be coming to a city near you! Check out our Made for More event schedule
🛍️ Check out our store!
Learn more about Discerning Marriage Ministries here.
Send a question to host Elizabeth Busby here.

Dec 6, 2023 • 9min
How to Know If You're Ready to Get Married.
Elizabeth Busby discusses how to know if you're truly ready for marriage. From dispelling common misconceptions to embracing humility, Elizabeth covers three essential signs to consider before taking the plunge. Don't miss this insightful guide to preparing for a lifelong commitment!
On The Discerning Marriage Podcast, we accompany you on the journey to discover if marriage is God’s will for you, and if you already know that you’re called to marriage, we want to help you bring glory to God in your vocation.
You're missing the view! Watch this episode on YouTube
Try Next Step: A Course for Discerning Marriage
📚 Get Elizabeth's ebook "10 Questions to Ask at the Beginning of Your Relationship" for free
🔥 Get 3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on Theology of the Body
⚡️ Join our Patron Community! Your monthly gift helps us continue to put out the message of Theology of the Body to the world
📚 Want to attend a course at the Theology of the Body Institute online or in person? Click the link to view our schedule
📍 We might be coming to a city near you! Check out our Made for More event schedule
🛍️ Check out our store!
Learn more about Discerning Marriage Ministries here.
Send a question to host Elizabeth Busby here.

Nov 28, 2023 • 7min
Why Marriage Prep Is Shorter Than Driver's Ed.
Elizabeth delves into the topic of marriage preparation. Why is it that marriage prep radically shorter than driver's ed? Elizabeth passionately shares her insights and introduces an innovative solution to this challenge. Don't miss out on this thought-provoking discussion that could transform your approach to discerning marriage.
Next Step: A Course for Discerning Marriage: https://tobinstitute.kartra.com/page/NextStep
00:00 Introduction
00:22 Discerning a Vocation
00:51 Time Spent Discerning Marriage
02:02 Contrast with Celibacy
04:01 Next Step: A Course For Discerning Marriage
On The Discerning Marriage Podcast, we accompany you on the journey to discover if marriage is God’s will for you, and if you already know that you’re called to marriage, we want to help you bring glory to God in your vocation.
You're missing the view! Watch this episode on YouTube
Get 3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on Theology of the Body
Click here to join our Patron Community! Your monthly gift helps us continue to put out the message of Theology of the Body to the world. Thank you!
Want to attend a course at the Theology of the Body Institute online or in person? Click here to view our schedule
Shownotes
Learn more about Discerning Marriage Ministries here.
Send a question to host Elizabeth Busby here.

Nov 20, 2023 • 10min
Breaking Up And Getting Back Together.
Elizabeth delves into the challenging topic of breaking up and getting back together. Discover valuable insights on rebuilding trust, navigating post-breakup changes, and approaching the renewed relationship with fresh eyes.
📚 Get Elizabeth's ebook "10 Questions to Ask at the Beginning of Your Relationship" for free: https://tobinstitute.kartra.com/page/xIt287
On The Discerning Marriage Podcast, we accompany you on the journey to discover if marriage is God’s will for you, and if you already know that you’re called to marriage, we want to help you bring glory to God in your vocation.
You're missing the view! Watch this episode on YouTube
Get 3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on Theology of the Body
Click here to join our Patron Community! Your monthly gift helps us continue to put out the message of Theology of the Body to the world. Thank you!
Want to attend a course at the Theology of the Body Institute online or in person? Click here to view our schedule
Learn more about Discerning Marriage Ministries here.
Send a question to host Elizabeth Busby here.

Nov 13, 2023 • 8min
Episode 44: Struggling with Chastity in Dating?
Elizabeth discusses the challenges of maintaining chastity in a relationship while deeply loving Jesus. We discuss the importance of embracing your desires, the impact of past sex education, and the significance of sexual intimacy in God's plan. She shares practical advice on how to avoid crossing physical boundaries and maintain chastity. Discover strategies to strengthen your relationship while upholding your dignity.
On The Discerning Marriage Podcast, we accompany you on the journey to discover if marriage is God’s will for you, and if you already know that you’re called to marriage, we want to help you bring glory to God in your vocation.
You're missing the view! Watch this episode on YouTube
Get 3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on Theology of the Body
Click here to join our Patron Community! Your monthly gift helps us continue to put out the message of Theology of the Body to the world. Thank you!
Want to attend a course at the Theology of the Body Institute online or in person? Click here to view our schedule
Shownotes
Learn more about Discerning Marriage Ministries here.
Send a question to host Elizabeth Busby here.


