
From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody Steurer
The goal of healing isn't just stopping the crisis. It's ultimately moving into genuine and meaningful connection with ourselves, each other, and the world around us. Join licensed therapist and author Geoff Steurer and his wife, Jody Steurer, as they share ways to move out of the crisis of sexual betrayal and relationship betrayal trauma toward connection. The information in these discussions transcends religious and cultural lines, as we all seek the same healing power of connection.
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Jan 13, 2022 • 45min
Settling into the journey of healing from betrayal trauma - Jeni Gessel aka "Scabs" - Episode 124
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us
- You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing. - Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.
Click here for more info.
Podcast Description
I was thrilled to sit down with Jeni Gessel (aka: "Scabs"), who was the host of the podcast "Love Rice" and has coached and supported women healing from betrayal trauma for years. She is currently finishing her licensure to be a therapist. She's been on a long recovery journey through healing from betrayal trauma and I wanted my listeners to hear what it sounds like when someone has accepted and settled into the long journey of healing. She share lessons on acceptance, wholeness, authenticity, and how to surrender to the journey.
More on Jeni's Background:
I help people calm anxiety and rebuild after betrayal trauma. I believe that wellness is our natural state of being and because of this health and healing are within reach. I am your advocate during your personalized healing process. Betrayal Trauma, intimate deception, or infidelity is incredibly painful and complicated. You might feel confusing emotions like intense fear, numbness, and anger. You might feel lost or the intense anxiety of holding it all together. I help people like you find clarity, peace, and a sense of self-trust.
You can sign up for a free betrayal trauma support group on Facebook where Jeni and her colleagues answer questions live every other week: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1667836370046685/?ref=share
https://www.arizonafamilyinstitute.com/Jeni-Gessel-LAC
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Jan 6, 2022 • 49min
How families can be a resource in addiction recovery - Danny and Emily Deaton - Episode 123
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse
Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us
- You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing. - Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.
Click here for more info.
Podcast Description
Family members can both help and harm those recovering from addiction. Having the right education and resources makes all the difference for families who want to help. I had the privilege of interviewing Danny and Emily Deaton from "Your Living Proof" about how families can make a difference in the lives of those they love who are struggling with addiction. In this episode, we discuss:
Danny's journey through addiction and recovery
How they see families helping/harming the addiction recovery process
What families need to understand about addiction
How family members can be most helpful
You can purchase a 4-course bundle from Your Living Proof. Use the code: GS10 to save 10%. Here are the details of their online course bundle:
This bundle is for every mother, father, sister, friend who is ready to know what THEY can do to start fighting for their loved one’s life. The bundle includes over 2 hours of personal instruction from Danny so you can learn and master the following concepts:
The three roadblocks families unknowingly place in their loved one’s path.
The four lies that keep everyone in a holding pattern.
Why it is impossible for your loved one to do this alone.
Two addiction principles that will move you from insanity to progress.
Addiction myths – busted
Three hinge points that will create the structure required to influence the outcome.
What you must immediately stop doing.
Creating your own emergency kit.
More on Danny and Emily's Backgrounds:
Once a homeless, incarcerated drug addict, Danny Deaton is now a husband, father of three, and 14 years clean and sober. Danny is the founder and owner of Living Proof Recovery Services; a company whose mission is to save families who are losing the battle of addiction inside their home. He also hosts the Your Living Proof Podcast and has produced workbooks and online courses for individuals and families who need support in understanding their role in their loved ones recovery. Danny’s passion and love for life is indisputable when he shares his motto “our secrets keep us sick” with families, schools and communities all around the country. Danny’s favorite people are his wife Emily and his 3 energetic children who happily reside in the mountains of northern Utah.
Additional Resources:
https://yourlivingproof.com
Follow on Instagram @yourlivingproof
https://instagram.com/yourlivingproof?utm_medium=copy_link
Follow on FB @yourlivingproof
https://www.facebook.com/yourlivingproof/
Email: danny@yourlivingproof.com
Call: 801.850.2661
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Dec 16, 2021 • 52min
Refusing the victim mindset even when you've been victimized - Lindsay and Danny Poelman - Episode 122
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse
Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us
- You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing. - Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.
Click here for more info.
Podcast Description
When you've been betrayed by your spouse, it's important to make room for the initial shock and work toward emotional and physical safety. However, it's tempting for someone who has been victimized to stay frozen in the victim position. Also, this doesn't only apply to betrayed spouses. Most individuals who struggle with sexually compulsive behaviors or other addictions often feel victimized by their histories, mental illnesses, relationships, or other outside factors.
In this episode, I interview recovery coaches, Lindsay and Danny Poelman, who teach about how to take personal responsibility through the recovery process no matter what has happened to you. In this episode, we talk about:
Their recovery story
Why couples focus so much on the other person's recovery/healing instead of their own.
What focusing on your own healing looks like
Actionable steps each person can do to take personal ownership of their own healing
How to stay connected as a couple while they work recovery together
Additional resources from Lindsay and Danny:
https://lindsaypoelmancoaching.com
https://www.dannypoelman.com
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/lindsaypoelmancoaching/ (@lindsaypoelmancoaching)
https://www.instagram.com/dannypoelmancoaching/ (@dannypoelmancoaching)
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Dec 9, 2021 • 51min
Creating a sexually safe relationship - Tammy Hill - Episode 121
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse
Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us
- You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing. - Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.
Click here for more info.
Podcast Description
Creating a sexually safe relationship in marriage is difficult for many couples, even when there's not been betrayal. However, when you add the element of betrayal, it makes creating a secure sexual connection even more challenging. I invited Tammy Hill, LMFT and AASECT member, to join me on the podcast to talk about:
How couples can begin exploring this topic safely
What she considers the hallmarks of a sexually safe relationship
What societal myths keep couples from experiencing a safe sexual relationship
What men need to be aware of
What women need to be aware of
What if there is betrayal? Previous trauma? Health issues?
More on Tammy's Background:
Tammy Hill, LMFT, ASSECT Member has a private therapeutic practice, and teaches courses on marriage and sexuality at Brigham Young University. She has a new children’s book, “God Made Girls and Boys” that can be found on her website www.tammyhill.com Her second book, “Your Body and the Plan of Happiness” will be finished next year. She hosts the "Live Your Why" Podcast on Apple and Spotify. She snd her husband, Jeff Hill, have a combined family with 12 children, with 35 grandchildren and more in the way!
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Dec 2, 2021 • 32min
How to stay optimistic and motivated after a recovery setback - Geoff Steurer - Episode 120
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse
Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us
- You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing. - Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.
Click here for more info.
Podcast Description
Some call them relapses. Others call them slips. Regardless of what you call it, setbacks in recovery are often a huge source of shame, disappointment, and emotional turmoil. They reopen old wounds, impact trust, and have the potential to generate a lot of hopelessness. The way you respond to your own setbacks in recovery can make all the difference in your progress.
In this episode, I respond to a few questions from a man who is working through his own recovery process and was feeling discouraged after a recent setback. Here are the questions:
How do you find optimism and emotionally recovery quickly after a relapse?
How do you deal with a sexual dream? They happen sometimes and, dang it, it always precedes a difficult day.
How do you stay willing when you know your willingness is the only thing saving you from relapse? It gets tough to not worry when not worrying is the only thing saving you.
How can I handle emotions of discontent or stress or loneliness when my normal schedule is interrupted by a trip or event? It definitely happens a lot, and I don't want it to be an Achilles heel for me.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Nov 18, 2021 • 1h 17min
Setting boundaries with family during the Holidays - Geoff & Jody Steurer - Episode 119
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse
Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us
- You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing. - Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.
Click here for more info.
Podcast Description
The Holidays are upon us and that means family and friends gathering. This can be something you dread or something you cherish. Either way, it's going to require healthy boundaries if you're going to stay sane! Join me and my wife, Jody, as we answer questions from our listeners on their most challenging holiday boundary questions.
My wife, Jody, is the co-host of the podcast, Speak up Sister
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Nov 11, 2021 • 54min
Building a shame-free marriage in recovery - Hayden and Savannah Paul - Episode 118
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse
Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us
- You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing. - Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.
Click here for more info.
Podcast Description
It's possible to build a healthy marriage when recovering from a pornography addiction, but several important things need to be in place. I interview Hayden and Savannah Paul, a couple who are committed to building a shame-free marriage as Hayden works through his addiction recovery. Hayden was transparent about his struggle with pornography early in their dating relationship and has taken charge of his own recovery. If you want to hear what it takes to build a shame-free marriage in recovery, listen to what this couple is doing.
More on Hayden and Savannah's Background:
Hayden and Savannah Paul were married on January 24, 2020. Since then they’ve been living in Sandy, Utah. Hayden and Savannah seek to change the conversation surrounding pornography with a focus on de-shaming the problem so true healing can occur. They host a weekly podcast titled “I Stand at The Door.” It’s geared toward helping parents, youth and church leaders understand and navigate the complicated issue surrounding porn. Hayden personally fought a 10-year battle against this struggle and after learning many lessons has now, for over a year, felt the peace and freedom that comes from the Atonement of Jesus Christ.
Savannah is a native of Illinois and a returned missionary from the Las Vegas West mission. She finished her degree in nursing at BYU this past April and gave birth to their baby, Walker, a week later. She loves to sing, play the piano, and watercolor. Hayden grew up in Sandy and served his mission in Budapest, Hungary. He is an infantry rifleman in the United States Marine Corp and currently serves in a reserve capacity with 4th LAR Charlie Company. He loves being a dad and throws their baby around more than Savannah would like. Hayden also works for Operation Underground Railroad, an organization dedicated to the rescue and rehabilitation of children who are in the bonds of sex trafficking.
https://www.istandatthedoor.com/
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Nov 4, 2021 • 58min
How burnout can make you stronger - Valerie Hamaker - Episode 117
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse
Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us
- You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing. - Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.
Click here for more info.
Podcast Description
If you're feeling burned out, you're not alone! We're all feeling the effects of the worldwide pandemic, economic uncertainty, political divisions, and family challenges. It's a tough time and many people feel like they're reaching their limit. However, my guest on this episode, Valerie Hamaker, says that burnout is actually an invitation that puts us in contact with our true selves. She teaches that burnout is the perfect opportunity to dig deeper and do life in a better, more supportive way. Come listen as she breaks down how we can do this without feeling the need to do more.
More on Valerie's Background:
Valerie Hamaker is an individual and couples therapist with special training in trauma recovery, sexual health, depth psychology, and issues of spiritual development.
Valerie presents nationally on a variety of topics and most recently has turned her focus to the tackling of issues of burnout from a depth psychology lens.
Valerie’s podcast Generation Exhausted is a weekly commentary on the recovery of burnout in marriage, gender roles, parenting, institutional religion, and body image and she has recently launched an online community in her website [www.exhaustedGen.com] where she supports people live in their burnout recovery journey.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Oct 28, 2021 • 46min
How we build trust with others (part 2) - Hank Smith - Episode 116
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us
- You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing. - Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.
Click here for more info.
Podcast Description
This is part 2 of my interview with Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others. Make sure to listen to part 1 (episode 115) as well!
More on Hank's Background:
Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture.
Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year.
Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children.
Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway
Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com
Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast
Facebook: hanksmithcds
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Oct 21, 2021 • 47min
How we build trust with others (part 1) - Hank Smith - Episode 115
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse
Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us
- You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing. - Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.
Click here for more info.
Podcast Description
My guest this week is Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others. This is part one of a two-part interview. Stay tuned for the second part of this interview in the following episode.
More on Hank's Background:
Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture.
Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year.
Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children.
Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway
Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com
Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast
Facebook: hanksmithcds
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
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