The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

This episode covers how Mel Robbins' "Let Them Theory" applies to leadership through self-differentiation. Show Notes:⁠The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About⁠ by Mel Robbins⁠“The Let Them Theory” Book Summary, Chapter-by-Chapter ⁠by Vanessa Van Edwards⁠Become a Patron⁠ for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠⁠Two for Tuesday⁠⁠ email newsletter.

Mel Robbins doesn't say it, but her Let Them Theory resonates with family systems theory. Here's how.Show Notes:The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About by Mel Robbins“The Let Them Theory” Book Summary, Chapter-by-Chapter by Vanessa Van EdwardsBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Being a non-anxious presence doesn’t come naturally. Here’s what you can do to better prepare for difficult situations. Show Notes:People With High Emotional Intelligence Use 5 Simple Words to Become Exceptionally Persuasive by Bill Murphy Jr.

Joe Rigney's War on Empathy was inspired, in part, by Edwin Friedman. Here's where I agree and disagree with him.Show Notes:The Sin of Empathy — A Conversation with Joe Rigney - AlbertMohler.comThe Anatomy of a Steer by Joseph RigneyBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Explore the battle between control and curiosity in dealing with anxiety. Discover how Martha Beck’s and Edwin Friedman’s ideas intertwine to reveal the anxiety spiral and its effects on creativity. Learn how understanding the amygdala's role can transform leadership and encourage a more curious approach. Dive into strategies for self-regulation that unleash creativity even in anxious environments, fostering a greater sense of well-being and purpose.

A paradox in leadership is that we think we can control more than we actually can. This leads to micromanaging, which is more damaging than helpful. This episode shows how leadership through self-differentiation is different and more effective.Show Notes:How to Solve the Leadership Paradox | Inc.com by David FinkelBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Here's how Dr. Sunita Sah's definition of defiance is self-differentiation and how you can do it skillfully.Show Notes:DEFY : The Power Of No In A World That Demands Yes — Sunita SahBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Evolutionary forces have created two competing psychological needs that contribute to happiness. Here's what they are, as well as the difference that self-differentiation makes.Show Notes:⁠For a happier life, we must balance two old psychological needs ⁠by William von Hippel⁠The Hadza: Hunter-Gatherers of Tanzania⁠ by Frank Marlowe⁠Become a Patron⁠ for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠⁠Two for Tuesday⁠⁠ email newsletter.

Self-differentiation is about knowing your own goals and values, which builds resilience. Here’s the research that shows why.Show Notes:How To Be Resilient: 5 Secrets To Success When Life Gets Impossible by Eric BarkerBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Dr. Michael Kerr, who studied under Murray Bowen, identifies two levels of self-differentiation. Here’s what they are and why they matter to the non-anxious leader.Show Notes:Interview with Michael Kerr 2007 from the Family Systems InstituteDr. Michael KerrBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.