No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery

When my porn addiction recovery story started a decade ago, I believed that the cravings for porn were my main enemy. I thought that if I could just resist these urges, I’d be free. However, through years of working with men around the world and diving deep into my own experiences, I've come to understand that these cravings are merely symptoms of deeper issues. The true battle lies in preventing these cravings from emerging in the first place.Today, I share how to overcome porn addiction using practical, in-the-trenches solutions and strategies to not only stop porn addiction symptoms, but remove the desire for porn. You will come away understanding the types of thoughts and emotions that fuel cravings for porn, as well as how to break porn addiction using daily practices that anyone can learn and apply. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE EPISODESThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break the Addiction CyclePleasure Conditioning: Decrease Porn CravingsMore EpisodesSupport the showNo More Desire

One of the pillars for building a recovery mindset and lifestyle to overcome porn addiction is connection - or in other words having positive, fulfilling relationships.In today’s episode, I speak with Chris Reavis, professional coach, speaker, and author in the corporate space. He teaches how we can enjoy work more and build better corporate relationships with co-workers and leaders using brain science and evidence-based methods. As work is where we may spend about 1/3rd of our life, it’s important that we have good relationships and interactions with coworkers, bosses, clients, etc… If we are in a toxic environment, or we are constantly in conflict, or simply feeling lonely or disconnected, this contributes to the isolated, detached, chaotic thought patterns and beliefs that contribute to pornography addiction and other addictions. Building new habits to improve our work relationships and satisfaction contributes to the No More Porn Lifestyle and Mindset, and experiencing overall greater happiness, peace, and well-being.ABOUT CHRIS REAVISChris helps leaders turn naysayers into innovators, using proven neuroscience. He is a tech leader and 3-time bestselling author that loves removing obstacles from the workplace. He teaches others to find what’s causing their work issues and how to overcome them. If it’s time to leave, he helps them take the next best steps. If it’s time for a side hustle, Chris can teach them what works. Chris shares 13 evidence-based approaches that anyone can use to enjoy a much happier and more productive career.Chris is a multiple bestselling author, including the books Unleashed and Hashrate. He lives with his wife, son, and wonder pup Penelope in the Pacific Northwest.Check out Chris’s Free Mini-Course: How to Help Leaders Say "Yes" to Your Idea.You can grab Chris’s Best-Selling Book: Boost Your Bullsh*t Resilience at Work at thebsbook.com or on Amazon. Blog - How You Can Enjoy Work MoreBUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornSupport the showNo More Desire

Do you find yourself constantly asking, “Why do I struggle with porn addiction?” Or, ”Why is my spouse / child addicted to porn?” There are a lot of messages out there that will tell you porn addiction is about sexual urges. It’s about having a high libido. It’s about a desire for sex that isn’t being fulfilled. If a man wants porn then it’s his spouse’s responsibility to make sure he’s satisfied, and if he’s satisfied then he won’t want porn. I have news for you. That’s a bunch of BS. While natural sexual feelings do play a role in the desire for porn, porn addiction is not about sexual urges. It’s not about high libido. And it sure as heck isn’t about an addict’s spouse not “delivering the goods.”And I know that’s hard to hear, and the human brain and biology can be VERY convincing. It will tell you that you crave porn because you want sex and if you can juuuust get that craving filled in just the right way then you won’t want porn anymore. Let me tell you something else. A vast majority of the people I work with are married… And let me tell you something else, else. If I had a dime for every time someone has said “I just thought once I got married that all this would go away. I thought once I got married, I wouldn’t need porn anymore.” And that’s not how it works. Why? Today we’re going to talk about what actually causes porn addiction. Specifically we’ll talk about the 4 root causes of porn addiction. Why we develop a porn addiction, what keeps us hooked, and how to overcome porn addiction. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE EPISODESThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break the Addiction CyclePleasure Conditioning: Decrease Porn CravingsKeys for Confidence, Self-Worth, and Porn Addiction Recovery8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn Addiction"I'm triggered when I see a girl dressed immodestly" | How to overcome triggers and lustful thoughts with easeHow to Help SoSupport the showNo More Desire

If you're battling with pornography addiction, you're not alone, and there's a way out. I've been there, and I've come through the other side. Let's talk about how you can break free from porn addiction and reclaim your life.In today’s episode, I speak with Mark Collins, a Coach and Mentor who helps men uncover their true identity so they can build confidence, self-worth, and a life of deep meaning. Through my years of addiction, I often wondered what was driving this destructive behavior. For a long time, I thought it was simply sexual urges and desires; that I had a high libido and a need that had to be filled. How wrong I was. What Mark and I discussed can make a major difference for you in your path to overcome porn addiction. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSet Up a Free Call with JakeMARK COLLINS: FREEDOM FOR LIFEBOOK: Life Mastery | Live by Design, Not by DefaultFreedom for Life WebsiteFacebookInstagramYouTube Channel @_freedomforlife_MORE EPISODES8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornJeanine Gardner | Trauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn Addiction"I'm triggered when I see a girl dressed immodestly" | How to overcome triggers and lustful thoughts with easeHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsMore EpisodesSupport the showNo More Desire

Do you find yourself struggling to quit porn, barely making it past the first week or even the first few days? Today, I’m going to give you 8 rules to get you 3-months sober from porn.I remember how daunting it felt when I was grappling with a decade-long pornography addiction. I constantly wondered what would finally help me overcome this addiction for good. If only I could reach three months of sobriety, I believed, it would transform my life! Today, I want to share eight rules that helped me get three months sober from porn, launching me into a life of long-term sobriety.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Relapse (Without a Fight) Using The 4-Pronged Ownership ApproachThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionSupport the showNo More Desire

Recently, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Therapist Jeanine Gardner,  from Circles of Grace, part of LifeStar Salt Lake. She shared extremely valuable insights about how trauma, attachment, shame, and porn addiction are all interconnected, and how we can heal trauma and insecure attachments to overcome porn addiction. In this episode we cover: Why porn addiction (and all addiction) is very misunderstoodHow attachment wounds, trauma, and shame fuel porn addictionEpigenetics: How trauma is passed down through genetics multiple generationsInherited shame and how we can heal itRecognizing feelings as neither good nor badThe importance of the nervous system and how it plays into trauma and addictionMaking the unconscious consciousOvercoming escape and avoidant behaviors that harm us.Jeanine Gardner is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional with Circles of Grace. She holds a Masters in Social Work from Utah Valley University, and is trained in multiple specialties including Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Psychodrama and Experiential Therapy, Gottman’s methods, Somatic EMDR, and more. Jeanine Gardner’s approach to therapy is compassion-focused, warm, direct, and research-based. She seeks to create safety as she walks with her clients on their healing journey. To learn more about Jeanine Gardner and Circles of Grace, go to Circlesofgrace.health. There you can discover therapy services and life-changing workshops and retreats to help you heal relationships and overcome mental and emotional trauma.Follow Circles of Grace on FacebookFollow Circles of Grace on InstagramBlog Article: Trauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionBUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionSupport the showNo More Desire

So, you’re walking down the street, minding your own business, when BAM a girl walks by in a skimpy outfit. Thoughts of lust, fantasizing, and craving are running through your mind. Or, let’s say, you’re browsing online, minding your own business, when BOOM some ad pops up of women in swimsuits. You’re triggered. And these triggers have started you down the path to eventually acting out with porn. You feel like it’s almost inevitable. You’ve been working so hard to overcome porn addiction, and when stuff like this shows up out of nowhere, you just don’t know how to handle it. How do you keep your mind from running wild and getting lost in fantasizing and lust? You want to quit porn, but things like this seem to lead you right back to it, and it’s discouraging for you. You want to be a good guy, to treat women with respect, to be loyal to your wife, and to have a pure mind so you can do more good in the world. But you just don’t know how to beat porn addiction. Today, we’re going to talk about how to successfully handle these triggers. How to recognize what’s driving you toward addiction - beyond just the obvious lust or desire - and how to channel your thoughts in a positive direction so that triggers are actually an opportunity to become stronger than ever in your sobriety, and you can get rid of porn addiction for good.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Relapse (Without a Fight) Using The 4-Pronged Ownership ApproachThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionSupport the showNo More Desire

It can be so hard to know how to help someone with a porn addiction. We worry deeply for our loved ones. We try so, so hard to “knock some sense into them”; to tell them to get help, or to try and help them ourselves. We talk and talk and talk until we’re blue in the face, attempting to get through.Sometimes, our spouse or child will have moments of clarity, knowing they need help to quit porn. But, when we follow up to see if they’ve set up that therapy appointment, looked up that porn addiction recovery support group they talked about, or started that new daily spiritual or mindfulness practice, we are told that we’re being “crazy” or “controlling” by following up. Or they make up some new excuse as to why they “don't need to do that anymore”, why they “haven’t had time”, or why they’re “too overwhelmed” or have “too much going on.”We want our loved one to succeed, to feel happy, and to overcome porn addiction. But they don’t seem to want it as bad as we do. Or, perhaps they do want it, but they just can’t seem to gain any real traction. Today, I’m going to teach you how to help someone with a porn addiction in 3 steps. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Relapse (Without a Fight) Using The 4-Pronged Ownership ApproachThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionSupport the showNo More Desire

Do you ever wonder why you get sucked into porn addiction and everything else seems to disappear?You have a million important reasons for quitting porn, but when you get stressed you seem to enter this "funnel" that you can't see outside. It feels almost inevitable that you'll give in. I remember exactly how that was. I dealt with this habit for over 10 years, and it seemed impossible to overcome. Today, I'm going to teach you how to stop entering this "Porn Addiction Funnel". Coping with stress using porn addiction - or any addiction for that matter - destroys your life - you already know that! I'll tell you how to enter the "Mindfulness Funnel" to cope with stress instead in a healthy way that builds your life! We all have different ways of coping with stress, and addiction can be one of them. When you engage in addiction though, it leaves you wrung out and more stressed than ever, right? Then, you want to engage in more addiction to help you feel better. It's a terrible cycle!To quit porn, you need to build new habits of entering what is called the "mindfulness funnel".In today's episode, I teach you how to overcome porn addiction by replacing it with new, healthy habits. What have you tried so far to get rid of porn addiction? Internet filters, accountability buddies, talk therapy, church or religious programs…The No More Desire Intensive Recovery Program is unlike any recovery method you’ve experienced before. My clients don’t just quit porn, they lose their desire for it by building a recovery mindset and lifestyle. They use hands-on, daily exercises that retrain their brain and forge recovery habits that last a lifetime! If you want to overcome porn addiction for good, join my Porn Addiction Recovery Program.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Relapse (Without a Fight) Using The 4-Pronged Ownership ApproachThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionSupport the showNo More Desire

So you’ve got this monkey on your back. It keeps interrupting your life. You’ve been taught some mental habits to quit porn, but none of them seem to help. You’re tired of being addicted to porn. It increases your anxiety, it decreases your ability to connect with others, you feel more depressed, you don’t feel as motivated or driven. It’s sucking your potential away from you. You keep thinking all you need to do is try harder. Be determined to stop. Be more dedicated. Think more positively. BELIEVE in yourself. Think about your family. You just need more willpower!Or, maybe, you think that you just have a high libido (high sex drive) and so all of these sexual thoughts and urges are normal and you just need to learn how to say “no” and finally stop watching porn.I’ve got news for you, my friend. The world’s lying to you. None of these things are the answer. Instead of beating your head against a brick wall, and continuing to hurt yourself and your loved ones through your addictive behavior, it’s time to learn how to actually get rid of porn addiction.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Relapse (Without a Fight) Using The 4-Pronged Ownership ApproachThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionSupport the showNo More Desire