ADHD-ish

Episode #5 - Driving With The Emergency  Brakes OnMost women with ADHD operate with a fast-moving brain that is difficult to stop. However, since women are more relationship-oriented and tend to follow rules more effectively, they tend to be able to suppress their hyperactivity with an effective and more controlled response to certain situations. This is what I call driving with emergency brakes on.Sooner or later, this suppression can manifest in the form of anxiety, depression, chronic headaches, and various types of obsessive mannerisms and thinking.  This in turn may become problematic and further hinder women to function as they should, without limiting their potential...I believe that the key for women with ADHD to fully realize their gifts is to own to their sense of self and skip normality.  It may help to embrace this by choosing a field or career that maximizes our need for fast pace and high energy.  One can work in a single field or have multiple careers for as long as the activities align with one’s vivacity and principles.  One can also make changes within their environment that will fit their personality and needs.It’s never too late (or too early) to realize that it's time to release the emergency brake and fully live to your true potential.Referred to in this episode:Edward Hallowell’s “Delivered from Distraction: Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder” This episode is brought to you by:The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching) Diann Wingert CoachingIf you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve  (https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com) Social SharingFacebook:  https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoachingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/diannwingertcoaching/   LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/ 

A growing number of people, especially women, are opting for the unstable, insecure, risky, and exciting path of working for themselves, either in partnership, collaboration with others, or flying solo. And most of them would choose to do it again, even if they aren't experiencing the level of success they set out for.Choosing the self-employment path typically means financial instability and insecurity, social and emotional isolation, added stress and pressure on romantic/intimate relationships, and increased challenges with mental health, but certain personal attributes may contribute to both choosing the entrepreneurial path and being successful as an entrepreneur.  I don't believe there is one type of person who is destined to be an entrepreneur, nor do I believe that all entrepreneurs are alike. There are many different paths to entrepreneurship and many different personalities that succeed in this lifestyle. But what I do believe is that there are several personality attributes or characteristics that make it more likely that a person will choose to be an entrepreneur sooner or later and in this episode, I share them with you. Referred to in this episode:Seth Godin’s Blog:  “A Job Without a Boss: Are you a freelancer or an entrepreneur?”Entrepreneur: Those with ADHD Might Make Better Entrepreneurs. Here’s Why This episode is brought to you by:If you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve. > Diann Wingert CoachingSocial SharingFacebook:  https://bit.ly/DWC-FacebookInstagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-InstagramLinkedIn:   https://bit.ly/DWC-LinkedIn

In this episode, Diann talks about how most people think that their brain works on their behalf, helping them to achieve their personal happiness, but little do people know the hard truth that it really doesn’t operate this way, but rather the other way around. It is true that our brain can be likened to a computer with regard to how it operates, but unlike a computer, our brain never gets an upgrade, updates, or even extra storage so thoughts we adopted as children continue to drive our thinking in spite of years of life experience.  The brain is focused on the prime directive of your survival instead of your continued growth and learning,.  As a result, the brain is resistant to change, that is why it takes much of a person’s will and effort to change the way we think.  The good news is that you can do something about it and that’s what we’ll discuss in this episode. This episode is brought to you by:The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching) Diann Wingert CoachingIf you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve  (https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com) Social SharingFacebook:  https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoachingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/diannwingertcoaching/   LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/ 

One of the things that is the most frustrating to a woman with ADHD is that she usually can’t produce her brilliance on demand.  Try as she might, her creative, innovative, intuitive, out of the box abilities aren’t available to her at all times, like an ATM machine she can always make a withdrawal from.  Sometimes she appears to be an absolute genius at work at life, and other times she feels like a hot mess loser. This can result in a pretty nasty case of Imposter Complex, which is not an actual psychological disorder, but a pretty common cause that holds many bold, brilliant, badass women back from achieving their full potential. In this episode, Diann talks about Imposter Complex and why women with ADHD are particularly prone to experiencing it. Imposter Complex is the term used to explain why gifted women tend to dismiss their success as being the result of luck, being in the right place at the right time, or even diversity policies, rather than grit, determination, and brilliance.  We might believe that we are being held back by others, but we often accept less than we want and deserve because of our own self-doubts and insecurities.Diann also refers to the importance of living in your Zone of Genius, another important concept from the popular book, The Big Leap by author Gay Hendricks and how doing so is one of the most significant changes we can make to start creating an ADHD friendly business and lifestyle. Mentioned in this episode: Imposter Complex (link to Tanya Geisler’s TED-x talk) https://youtu.be/J3Em-IIAQ6IThe Big Leap by Gay Hendricks ( link to Amazon.com listing) https://www.amazon.com/Big-Leap-Conquer-Hidden-Level/dp/0061735361This episode is brought to you by:The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching) Diann Wingert CoachingIf you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve  (https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com) Social SharingFacebook:  https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoachingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/diannwingertcoaching/   LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/ 

If you have an interest-based brain,  the fact that a task, project, or goal is important isn’t always enough to get yourself to do what needs to be done, especially if it happens to be important to someone else, but not to you.  This leads to all kinds of resistance, procrastination, and outright avoidance and this is one of the aspects of being an adult with ADHD that is the most frustrating.  But, what if you understood that your brain works differently and important is not the driver that gets you going?   In this episode,  Diann shares her concept of the Four ADHD Drivers, which she playfully refers to as Fancy, Gritty, Shiny, and Fomo and why you need to figure out how to make the task at hand more like one of them in order to get yourself to take action.   Hey, we don’t always get to do only the things that we are really interested in, but it’s no surprise that those who are able to create a life based on their interests are able to leverage their ADHD gifts in the most powerful way.  Think Michelle Rodriguez (acclaimed actress), Simone Biles (Olympic gymnast) and Lisa Ling (award-winning journalist) who have created highly successful careers around their interests, because of, not in spite of their ADHD.This episode is brought to you by:If you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve. > Diann Wingert CoachingSocial SharingFacebook:  https://bit.ly/DWC-FacebookInstagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-InstagramLinkedIn:   https://bit.ly/DWC-LinkedIn