Writing Your Resilience: Building Resilience, Embracing Trauma and Healing Through Writing

Send us a textHave you ever wondered how a single moment—a glance, a mistake, a shimmering flash of memory—can hold the power of an entire story? Or how the smallest details of an ordinary life can reveal something vast about who we are and what we long for? In this episode, I talk with award-winning author Sue William Silverman about her newest book, Selected Misdemeanors: Essays at the Mercy of the Reader. Together, we explore the art of flash nonfiction—those short, revelatory pieces that illuminate our obsessions and turn ordinary moments into profound reflections on love, loss, and self-forgiveness.Episode Highlights3:35: Why Title This Selected Misdemeanors6:36:Playing with Unifying Devices in Your Books 11:18: Understanding Flash Nonfiction16:20: Creating Alternative Essay Constructions 22:10: Finding Specificity and Moving Away from Abstraction 30:43: Sue’s Writing Advice for Surviving 2025 and BeyondResources for this Episode: About Finding Your Voice and Crafting Stories that Ignite the Soul with Sue William SilvermanAcetylene Torch Songs: Writing True Stories to Ignite the Soul by Sue William SilvermanSue’s Bio: Sue William Silverman is an award-winning author of nine works of nonfiction and poetry. Her new book, "Selected Misdemeanors: Essays at the Mercy of the Reader," is a collection of flash essays. Her book on the craft of writing, "Acetylene Torch Songs: Writing True Stories to Ignite the Soul," won the 2024 IPPY Silver Award. Her memoir-in-essays collection, "How to Survive Death and Other Inconveniences," won the gold star in Foreword Reviews INDIE Book of the Year Award. Other works include "Love Sick: One Woman’s Journey through Sexual Addiction," made into a Lifetime TV movie; "Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You," which won the AWP Award; and "The Pat Boone Fan Club: My Life as a White Anglo-Saxon Jew." She’s co-chair of the MFA in Writing program at Vermont College of Fine Arts. Her media appearances include The View, Anderson Cooper-360, and PBS Books.Connect with Sue: Website: www.SueWilliamSilverman.comFacebook: @SueWilliamSilvermanInstagram: @suewilliamsilvermanConnect with your host, Lisa:Get Your Free Copy of Ditch Your Inner Critic: https://lisacooperellison.com/subscribe/Website | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook | LinkedIn Produced by Espresso Podcast Production

Send us a textToday, we’re diving into a topic that trips up so many writers—vulnerability. How much should you share? When does honest writing become oversharing? And why does your most powerful work sometimes feel like it completely sucks? If you’ve ever been told your story isn’t raw enough—or that it’s too raw—you’re not alone. In this episode, I’ll break down the two extremes writers fall into, share a framework for finding the right kind of vulnerability, and show you how to use uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure to create stories that feel true, resonant, and safe for both you and your readers.Episode Highlights2:32: Defining Vulnerability3:54: Uncertainty, Risk and Emotional Exposure in Storytelling5:24: When Your Work Isn’t Vulnerable Enough7:03: Crafting Compelling Scenes 8:15 When Your Writing Is Too Raw 10:56: What Do Your Readers Really Want15:00: The Most Important Question to Ask Yourself 18:11: The Secret Reason You Think Your Writing SucksResources for this Episode: The Fawning Trauma Response with Ingrid Clayton Connect with your host, Lisa:Get Your Free Copy of Ditch Your Inner Critic: https://lisacooperellison.com/subscribe/Website | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook | LinkedIn Produced by Espresso Podcast Production

Send us a textThis week, we’re kicking off a new Editors’ Roundtable segment on the podcast, where I dig into key writing issues with the two trauma-informed editors I’m training—Kristin Sancken and Lynn Shattuck. In our first conversation, we explore metaphors—what they are, how to craft them, and how to recognize the ones that truly sing on the page. Let’s dive in.Episode Highlights5:23: What Is a Metaphor7:15: Exercises For Creating Metaphors9:40: Metaphors We Love (or Hate)18:00: Our Writing Strategies23:57: Discovering What Works32:00 Navigating the Metaphor of HomeResources for this Episode: Sanctuary of the Holy Others Substack by Kristin SanckenOxygen: A Parlor Trick by Kristin Sancken (see page 19)Loss of a Lifetime: Grieving Siblings Share Stories of Love, Loss, and Hope edited by Lynn L. Shattuck and Alyson SheltonWhy I Rang the Cancer Bell by Lynn ShattuckThe Lion Women of Tehran by Marjan KamaliGroup: How One Therapist and A Circle of Strangers Saved My Life by Christie TateOur Double Time by Michael O’SiadhailEssay on Creating Hermit Crab Essays by Randon Billings NobleDitch Your Inner Critic Now MasterclassKristin’s Bio: Kristin Thomas Sancken was born in Panama, raised in Mexico, and came of age in Minnesota before settling in Charlottesville, Virginia, where she lives with her husband, two children, and an exuberant Golden Retriever. Her writing has earned numerous awards and appeared in publications including The Guardian, HuffPost, and Columbia Journal. You can find more of her writing at her Substack, Sanctuary of the Holy Others.Lynn’s Bio: Lynn Shattuck writes on topics like grief, parenting and mental health. She was a columnist at Elephant Journal for ten years, where several of her essays on the topic of grief and sibling loss and parenting went viral. Lynn co-founded the website lossofalifetime.com, a hub of resources and community for those who’ve experienced sibling loss. She co-edited the essay collection, The Loss of a Lifetime: Grieving Siblings Share Stories of Love, Loss, and Hope, which was released in June of 2025.Connect with Kristin: http://www.sancken.com/Instagram: @ktsancken_writerThreads: @ktsancken_writerConnect with Lynn: www.lossofalifetime.comwww.lynnlshattuck.com Connect with your host, Lisa:Get Your Free Copy of Ditch Your Inner Critic: https://lisacooperellison.com/subscribe/Website | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook | LinkedIn Produced by Espresso Podcast Production

Send us a textWhich memories shimmer inside you? Which ones refuse to let you go? Those luminous, haunting moments are often the raw ingredients of the story you’re truly meant to tell. In this episode of Writing Your Resilience, I sit down with newsletter follower and memoirist Marianna Marlowe, author of A Portrait of a Feminist as she shares how she used shimmering memories to craft her memoir-in-essays that explores memory and identity through a feminist lens. Together, we talk about her writing process, what feminism really means, how to write from a feminist perspective, and the surprising ways feminist self-care shows up in a writer’s life.Episode Highlights2:20: Writing as Both Pleasure and Contribution 11:17: Constructing a Memoir-in-Essays Through a Feminist Lens15:21: The Role of Identity in Storytelling17:58: The Power of the Gaze23:00: The Difference Between Memoir and Academic Writing 28:37: Feminist Self-Care Resources for this Episode: Safekeeping by Abigail ThomasShimmering Images: A Handy Little Guide to Writing Memoir by Lisa Dale NortonWhat They Don’t Tell You About Menopause with Dr. Mary Claire Haver on The Marie Forleo podcast Buy Portrait of a FeministMarianna’s Bio: Marianna Marlowe is a Latina writer who lives in the San Francisco Bay Area. After devoting years to academic writing, her focus now is creative nonfiction that explores issues of gender identity, feminism, cultural hybridity, intersectionality, and more Her short memoir has been published in Narrative, Hippocampus, The Woven Tale Press, Eclectica, Sukoon, and The Acentos Review, among others. She’s the author of Portrait of a Feminist and Portrait of a Mestiza, which will be published in March, 2026.Connect with Marianna: Facebook: marianna.marloweInstagram: mariannamarlowe_memoirWebsite: mariannamarlowe.comConnect with your host, Lisa:Get Your Free Copy of Ditch Your Inner Critic: https://lisacooperellison.com/subscribe/Website | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook | LinkedIn Produced by Espresso Podcast Production

Send us a textHave you ever wondered what it really means to grieve a friend—someone dazzling, flawed, and deeply loved? Or how laughter, silence, and even text messages can become part of the story we tell about those we’ve lost?In today’s episode of Writing Your Resilience, I talk with writer Eirinie Carson about her breathtaking debut memoir The Dead Are Gods and her forthcoming novel Bloodfire, Baby. Together, we explore how writing can both preserve and transform our grief, why it’s so important to show loved ones in their full humanity, and what it means to let go of a story that once felt like holding on to the person themselves. Plus, Eirinie will share one of the most surprising things she learned about how we structure a book and the conversations it encourages as well as what gets silenced. Episode Highlights2:50: The Power of Capturing Your Memories4:15: Writing for an Audience8:30: Holding Space for Your Experiences11:26: The Challenges of Releasing a Grief Memoir 21:00: The Relationship Between Laughter and Grief 25:00: How Your Book’s Structure Impacts the Way You Market It Resources for this Episode: Preorder Bloodfire, BabySkunk AnansieEirinie’s Bio: Eirinie Carson is a Black British writer living in California. She is a mother of two children and sits on the board of The Writers Grotto in San Francisco. Her work has appeared in LitHub, Mother Magazine, The Notre Dame Review, Mortal Mag, Electric Literature, The Sonora Review and others.  She was the NEA Distinguished Fellow at the Hambidge Center, and she and her work have been supported by Mesa Refuge, Hedgebrook and the Virginia Center for the Creative Arts. Eirinie's first book, The Dead Are Gods (Melville House, 2023), was critically acclaimed by Oprah Daily, Nylon Magazine, Shondaland and The Washington Post as well as winning a Zibby Award. It was also named one of Kirkus Reviews Best Books of 2023.Connect with Eirinie:Website: www.eiriniecarson.comInstagram: @eirinieeeeBluesky: @eirinieee.bsky.socialTiktok: @eirinieeeeConnect with your host, Lisa:Get Your Free Copy of Ditch Your Inner Critic: https://lisacooperellison.com/subscribe/Website | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook | LinkedIn Produced by Espresso Podcast Production

Send us a textHave you ever wondered if what you’re doing is truly aligned with your soul’s purpose? Or maybe you’ve had that nagging feeling that something’s off—that you’re not quite on the right track. How do you know when it’s time to stay the course, and when it’s time to pivot so you can do more of what you love and let go of what no longer serves you? In today’s very personal episode of Writing Your Resilience, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my own writing and business life to share the pivot strategy to better align my business and claim more of my writing time.  Episode Highlights3:00: Heeding Your Inner Call8:00: Identifying Your Guiding Principles 18:54: Crafting Your Symbol and Tagline 21:54: Clarifying Your Why and How33:00: Conquering Your (My) Greatest Fear Resources for this Episode: Check Out My New Website“3 Ways I’m Gently Reinventing My Work Right Now” on Off the Grid with Amelia HrubyBuy Your Attention Is Sacred Except On Social MediaBuilding a Writing Career Without Social Media with Amelia HrubyUsing Human Design to Break Through Writing Blocks with Maha MamishLeaning into the Mystery of Our Stories with Brett Will TaylorThe Legend of the PhoenixMindy at Fairy Tale Social A Well-Trained Wife by Tia Levings The Part that Burns by Jeannine Ouellette Connect with your host, Lisa:Get Your Free Copy of Ditch Your Inner Critic: https://lisacooperellison.com/subscribe/Website | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook | LinkedIn Produced by Espresso Podcast Production

Send us a textThis week, we’re talking about something our culture often dismisses but your writing life desperately needs: rest. In this episode, I’ll share why rest matters, how you can create more of it—even when life feels full—and the surprising lessons I learned during my own summer break. Grab your pen and notebook and get ready to explore the radical power of doing less.Episode Highlights1:26: Why I Decided to Take a Month Off5:30: Connecting with Your Inner Compass10:23: The 3 S’s of Rest 15:23: Why Doing Less Can Lead to More 18:15: My Biggest Takeaways21:44 Three Ways to Capture Your Best Ideas Resources for this Episode: Learn about Marie ForleoTips for Improving Your Sleep HygieneJulia Cameron on the Benefit of Morning Pages Do You Need a Rest Before You Rest by Tia LevingsConnect with your host, Lisa:Get Your Free Copy of Ditch Your Inner Critic: https://lisacooperellison.com/subscribe/Website | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook | LinkedIn Produced by Espresso Podcast Production

Send us a textHave you been told you’re a people pleaser or found yourself saying yes when you meant no, without even thinking about it? Have a friend who struggles to express their feelings or share their preferences? If so, you might have encountered the fawning trauma response. Join me and Ingrid Clayton, author of Fawning, and the memoir Believing Me, as we unpack the misconceptions regarding this trauma response, share our experience, strength, and hope, and show you how to join the unfawning revolution she’s spearheading with her new book. Episode Highlights1:30: The Fawning Trauma Response5:51: The Problem of Co-dependence10:04: Complex Trauma’s Impact on Our Nervous Systems12:50: Fawning’s Influence on Writing 22:29: The Energetic Signature of Your Book28:45: The Unfawning Process43:45: The Role of Tears Resources for this Episode: What is the Fawning Trauma Response by Ingrid Clayton How to Stop Gaslighting Yourself with Ingrid ClaytonBelieving Me by Ingrid ClaytonIngrid’s Bio: While Ingrid has a clinical background, she believes there is no theory, diagnosis, or therapy that can replace the power of shared experience. Her memoir, Believing Me, is written from the heart, where all our hurt lives—so it speaks the same language. In addition to raising her beautiful son, Ingrid believes that gaining the courage to write Believing Me is her greatest achievement to date. Her latest book, Fawning, addresses an often-overlooked piece of the fight-flight-freeze reaction to trauma—explaining what it is, why it happens, and how to help survivors regain their voice and sense of self. Connect with Ingrid: Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/Instagram and YouTube: @IngridClaytonPhDGet a free copy of her PDF on the fawning response: https://www.ingridclayton.com/fawningtraumaresponseGet a copy of Believing Me: https://www.ingridclayton.com/booksOrder your copy of Fawning now: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/779579/fawning-by-dr-ingrid-clayton/ Connect with your host, Lisa:Get Your Free Copy of Ditch Your Inner Critic: https://lisacooperellison.com/subscribe/Website | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook | LinkedIn Produced by Espresso Podcast Production

Send us a textDo you struggle to see yourself as creative? Or have you ever wondered where your creativity comes from, and how to maximize it? This week, I’m joined by Jacob Nordby, founder of A Writing Room Collective and author of Blessed are the Weird: A Manifesto for Creatives, and The Creative Cure, a powerful guide to reconnecting with your creative self. In this week’s episode, Jacob and I dive deep into the healing power of creativity, trauma, and the inner wisdom we all carry within us. Grab your pen, open your heart, and join us as we discuss how to nurture your creative intuition, overcome the obstacles of comparison and fear, and how creativity can be the bridge back to feeling truly alive.Episode HighlightsThe Authentic Work of CreativityThe Trifecta of Rejection, Trauma, and SocializationPolyvagal Theory and the Creative ProcessThe Role of Intuition in CreativityConnecting with Your Body’s WisdomRecovering Our Connection to Our True NatureResources Mentioned During this Episode:www.creativecurebook.comwww.creativeselfjournal.comThe ACES TestPolyvagal Theory and the Ventral Vagal StateThe Seven ChakrasHuman DesignWriting Rituals with Natalie BusterWriting Down Your Soul by Janet ConnerSeeking Wisdom by Julia CameronJacob Nordby is a co-founder of A Writing Room Collective, Heal + Create, The Institute for Creative Living Foundation 501(c)3,  and the author of several books, including Blessed Are the Weird – A Manifesto for Creatives and The Creative Cure. He previously worked as the marketing director for a traditional publishing house and oversaw the launch of many bestselling books. A working author and creative guide, he has a passion for helping writers solve their challenges and enjoy the satisfaction of sharing their work with the world.Connect with Jacob:Website: https://www.jacobnordby.com/The Creative Cure book page: www.creativecurebook.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/jacobnordby/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jacobnordby/Creative Self Journal Gift: https://www.jacobnordby.com/creative-self-journal-gift/Connect with your host, Lisa:Get Your Free Copy of Ditch Your Inner Critic: https://lisacooperellison.com/subscribe/Website | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook | LinkedIn Produced by Espresso Podcast Production

Send us a textHow do you dive into the marrow of an experience we’ll all one day share, yet so many of us struggle to talk about? And how do you write into a topic so widely covered that it feels impossible to say something new? Today, I’m joined by Amy Lin, author of the stunning micro memoir Here After, as we tackle these questions head-on. Together, we’ll explore the raw realities of grief, how Amy’s memoir acts as a powerful container for this universal experience, the magic of the micro-form, and what it takes to create something experimental. Plus, I’ll share a transformative tool to expand how you see your stories—and uncover the truths hiding within them.Amy’s Bio: Amy Lin lives in Calgary, Canada where there are two seasons: winter and road construction. She completed her MFA at Warren Wilson College and holds BAs in English Literature and Education. Her work has been published in places such as Ploughshares and she has been awarded residencies from Yaddo and Casa Comala. Here After is her first book.Resources Mentioned During This Episode:The Unseen Shore (Part One) by Amy LinYi Shun Lai’s Post “People’s Names Are Important”Lily Be “The Donas of Humbolt Park” More about Lily BeIt’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People with Dr. Ramani DurvasulaEpisode HighlightsThe Container of Grief The “Good Signs” of GriefPerformative Grief versus the Reality of Grief The Five Stages of Grief DebunkedThe Power of Micro Memoir The Story Neighborhood Exercise The Marrow of Living Amy’s Best Writing Advice Connect with Amy: Substack: https://atthebottomofeverything.substack.com/Website: amydawnlin.comInstagram: @literaryamyTikTok: @literaryamyConnect with your host, Lisa:Get Your Free Copy of Ditch Your Inner Critic: https://lisacooperellison.com/subscribe/Website | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook | LinkedIn Produced by Espresso Podcast Production