Love in a F*cked Up World
Dean Spade
Why do so many of us act our worst in relationships? How can we hold on to our liberatory values even when strong feelings are involved? For 25 years, Dean Spade has been working in movements for queer and trans liberation and to end police, prisons, immigration enforcement, and war. In his new podcast, Love in a F*cked Up World, Dean and his guests offer concrete tools for building and sustaining strong relationships, because our connections to each other are the building blocks of our resistance.
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Jun 25, 2025 • 16min
Hard Feelings
Morgan Bassichis, an anti-Zionist and comedy artist, joins Dean Spade to explore handling hard feelings like jealousy and possessiveness. They discuss the importance of embracing emotions without shame and using humor as a tool for understanding. The conversation emphasizes self-compassion and playfulness in navigating complex emotions, especially within friendships and sexual relationships. Listeners are encouraged to view feelings of envy as opportunities for connection and creativity, paving the way for more fulfilling interactions.
Jun 11, 2025 • 44min
adrienne maree brown
adrienne maree brown joins Dean Spade for the first episode of Love in a F*cked Up World. adrienne and Dean talk about collectivity, working in fractals to overcome feelings of overwhelm, pleasure, and letting go of ownership and possessiveness to build abundant support systems.Transcript available at https://deanspade.net/podcastBooks, podcasts, and more from adrienne maree brown: https://adriennemareebrown.net/ @adriennemareebrown adrienne maree brown's books:Loving Corrections (AK Press, 2024)Holding Change: The Way of Emergent Strategy Facilitation and Mediation (AK Press, 2021)We Will Not Cancel Us And Other Dreams of Transformative Justice (AK Press, 2020)Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good (AK Press, 2019)Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds (AK Press, 2017)Octavia's Brood: Science Fiction Stories from Social Justice Movements (AK Press, 2015) Grievers (AK Press, 2021)Maroons (AK Press, 2023)Ancestors (AK Press, 2025)adrienne maree brown's podcasts:How to Survive the End of the World (with Autumn Brown)Octavia's Parables (with Toshi Reagon) Also mentioned in this episode: WALL-E (film, 2008)Fumbling Towards Repair: A Workbook for Community Accountability Facilitators by Mariame Kaba & Shira Hassan (AK Press, 2019)Woman on the Edge of Time by Marge Piercy (Knopf, 1976)SURJ: A home for white people working for justiceCatalyst Project: Anti-Racism for Collective LiberationMovement Memos podcast by Kelly HayesDaniel Hunter (educator and activist)
Jun 9, 2025 • 2min
Introducing: Love in a F*cked Up World with Dean Spade
For over 25 years, Dean Spade has been working in movements for queer and trans liberation and to end police, prisons, immigration enforcement, and war. His new podcast, Love In A F*cked Up World, offers concrete tools and conversations about how we can build and sustain strong relationships, because our connections to each other are the building blocks of all of our movements.
