That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding

Find out the unlikely story of how novelist Victor Hugo learned to delay gratification in order to write The Hunchback of Notre Dame. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"If you're going, I wish this was different. I understand why laundry is important. I would really like to be wearing clean clothes. I would really like to be able to walk in my closet and know where my things are and not feel overwhelmed. "Like, congratulations, you're motivated." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Sometimes plans work for a bit and then they stop suiting us or they stop suiting the circumstances. Sometimes they were never quite right in the first place. And if you get stubborn and dig your heels in because you said you'd do it this way even when that's not working, all that does is disadvantage you and the progress you could be making if you weren't setting yourself up to fail" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, I am going to talk about four teeny tiny things that are making a bigger difference to my dehoarding efforts than, in all fairness, they should. They are punching above their weight, as ideas go. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"We need to be the one to break the cycle before the thing you've inherited passes down to the next generation. You might think that your inheritance is cash or a house, but it could actually just be trauma. So be the one to break the cycle." - Dr Jan Eppingstall For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Really early on, I was like, this isn't about the stuff. This just isn't about the stuff." - Tracy McCubbin, professional organiser and child of a hoarder. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Tracy McCubbin Tracy on Instagram Tracy on TikTok Making Space, Clutter Free by Tracy McCubbin Make Space for Happiness by Tracy McCubbin Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The portrayal of hoarders is really damaging. It contributes to stigma. It's very othering, people talk about like we’re some separate species to look at in a zoo. And I think dramatising what is a mental illness i s... well, it's unhelpful, but I think it goes beyond unhelpful, into actively destructive. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Each step in each of those cycles just perpetuates the other steps. And so we spiral downwards, because we feel we can't get out of the cycle.  And the thing with vicious cycles, by definition is that you're setting yourself up to fail. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ jMYBSEiDcsULd5Ss3h87 Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"We're wired to connect, we need others to co-regulate our emotions and in order to feel a sense of belonging, we'll do anything to achieve this." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"The work is how do you get out of defensiveness and into generosity?" - Couples therapist Laura Silverstein, on couples and hoarding.   For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.