It's a Good Life

“You bet on me, you bet on this system and this philosophy, and you bet on yourselves. And then, in turn, each one of you became a role model and an example in your own markets, in your own communities that became pebbles in the pond.” – Brian Buffini   Buffini & Company recently celebrated its 25th anniversary. To mark the occasion, Brian spoke to some of the earliest adopters of the working by referral system. In this episode, these special role models recall their memories of the first events and when and where they met Brian. They also share why they were drawn to the system to begin with, why they committed so strongly to it and how their lives have been changed as a result.    YOU WILL LEARN: Why they took a chance on the system. What they have learned about success over the years. Why they have continued to follow the system for over two decades.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Buffini & Company MasterMind 100 Days to Greatness   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Consistency breeds trust and, without trust, you don't get referrals. Do the things you're good at, the things you enjoy, and just do those consistently. And it will pay off.” – Todd Nordstrom  “Have clarity, absolute clarity, and then be persistent and consistent because you will get where you want to go. If your mind is very clear, if your vision is clear, your decisions are easy.” – Judy Adler “Being committed to your goals and reviewing goals is a huge benefit.” – Larry Hassan “Run your business like a business. Consistency is important. If you don't know how to do it, get a coach, get some help. And listen to what you're told and do what you're told, not what you think is the best thing.” – Margaret Barton “Read, read, read, read. And, in the reading, you help to learn who you are and what gift you have to give to other people.” – Sam Elzie “Give it away in slices and it will come back to you in loaves. Operate from abundance and not scarcity. And in our business, where so many agents feel like there's competition, there is no competition, we are our own competition.” – Edith Elzie “This has been my life's work.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“We all need help. Don't go it alone.” – Brian Buffini Over the past year, people everywhere have been asked to go it alone, whether through stay-at-home orders, self-isolating or social distancing. This has led to the illusion that we’re fine by ourselves, but nothing could be further from the truth. In this episode, Brian shares why people are designed to connect with each other, why there’s no shame in reaching out and asking for help when you need it and why we’re always better together than apart.   Watch the video episode : https://bcove.video/3t5DqaL   YOU WILL LEARN: Why we go it alone. Why it’s so hard to ask for help. The payoff of not going it alone.    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Episode 166, Discipline Equals Freedom with Jocko Willink Episode 101, Tough Times Never Last, Tough People Do, With Master Motivator - Les Brown Episode 066, An Interview with Brian Tracy – The Living Legend of Personal Growth Part One “Cool Hand Luke,” movie  “Think and Grow Rich,” by Napoleon Hill “You’ll Never Walk Alone,” by Wintley Phipps   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Self reliance always runs out of runway.” – Brian Buffini “There are no extra prizes for pride.” – Brian Buffini “It takes a tremendous amount of security in yourself to say, ‘I need help’.” – Brian Buffini “If you can't ask for help without self-judgment, you cannot offer help without judging others.” – Brené Brown “Asking for help is ultimately ‘I want to learn’.” – Brian Buffini “Fear and self-doubt have always been the greatest enemies of human potential.” – Brian Tracy “None of us are as smart as all of us.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Peak performance is nothing more or less than getting our biology to work for us rather than against us.” – Steven Kotler A state of flow is an optimal state of consciousness when we both feel our best and perform our best. In this episode, Brian interviews Steven Kotler, one of the world’s leading experts on human performance. Steven shares how to achieve flow and unlock peak performance – those moments in time when the impossible becomes possible. Topics discussed include: why our biology is hardwired for three levels of goals, why practicing distraction management is key and why there is power in invisible skills. YOU WILL LEARN: Why everyone can access flow. How to trigger flow. How to focus and achieve complete concentration.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: https://www.stevenkotler.com/ Flow Research Collective https://www.flowresearchcollective.com/radio “The Art of Impossible,” by Steven Kotler “The Rise of Superman,” by Steven Kotler “Flow,” by  Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Whenever you see people accomplishing the impossible, you tend to see people in a state of flow.” – Steven Kotler “Flow is a massive amplification of skills.” – Steven Kotler “I work for the boss. The boss is who I am yesterday that made my to-do list.” – Steven Kotler “In peak performance, motivation gets us into the game. Learning allows us to continue to play. Creativity - creative problem solving - it's how we steer. And flow, which is a state of optimal performance, is how we turbo-boost the results beyond all reasonable expectation.” – Steven Kotler “If you use the system the way it's designed to be used, you just get farther faster with a lot less fuss.” – Steven Kotler “You can never have too many arrows in your quiver.” – John Barth   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“By having a bucket list, it gives you something to hope for. Hope is a very, very powerful thing.” – Brian Buffini The past 18 months have been extremely challenging for everyone, but the time has now come to look to the future again. In this episode, part of a Facebook Live recording, Brian shares how to plan for what lies ahead by revisiting and updating your bucket list. A Q&A session also addresses topics such as when to invest out of state, whether there is a property bubble and how to handle negotiations in such a hot market. Watch video:  https://bcove.video/3dNouda YOU WILL LEARN: The three elements of a successful bucket list. What a bucket list gives you. How to create your own bucket list.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: MasterMind Summit The Peak Experience BombBomb Partnership Announcement 100 Days to Greatness The Pathway to Mastery–Advanced Episode 36, The One Decision That Makes a Millionaire   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Human beings are fantastic at surviving, but after a while you want to do a bit more than just survive.” – Brian Buffini “It's time to have something to hope for. And maybe it's not exactly what you wanted, but it could be something that you wanted and it's a new experience. And it's a powerful thing.” – Brian Buffini “There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind.” – C.S. Lewis “The greatest joys of life are happy memories. Your job is to create as many of them as possible.” – Brian Tracy “I’m very, very proud of our industry, and especially now.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Don't tell me I can't do it. Tell me what I have to do so I can do it.” – Dick Hoyt It’s possible to achieve incredible things in life simply by making up your mind. In this special episode from the Buffini & Company vaults, Brian interviews trailblazing athlete Dick Hoyt, who recently passed away. Dick shares how his son, Rick, born a quadriplegic and unable to speak or control his limbs, told him he wanted to participate in a 5-mile benefit run for a lacrosse player who had been paralyzed in an accident. From that first race, when Dick pushed Rick in his wheelchair and his son confided how he didn’t feel disabled when they ran together, they went on to complete over 1,000 races, including marathons, duathlons and triathlons. Topics discussed include: How their running journey evolved, how they broke new ground and barriers together and how they overcame the criticism and negativity they encountered.   YOU WILL LEARN: How Dick always maintained a positive mindset. How Dick managed and prioritized his time. Why short and long-term goals were vital to the success of Team Hoyt.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Dick & Rick Hoyt Team Hoyt MasterMind Summit Boston Marathon Ironman Interview   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “I made up my mind that we're not going to be discouraged. And we're not going to take no for an answer. And we're going to go out there and do the things we want to do.” – Dick Hoyt “We've come a long way and we've been able to break down a lot of barriers along the way and that’s because we never gave up and we never take no for an answer.” – Dick Hoyt “If don't have your mind made up and set, you're not going to be able to accomplish the things that you want to accomplish.” – Dick Hoyt “You can’t get discouraged. You’ve got to be very, very brave.” – Dick Hoyt “I look forward to every day and the challenges that may come ahead.” – Dick Hoyt   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The secret to managing our self-talk well is using combinations of tools.” – Ethan Kross Some of the most important conversations we ever have are with ourselves. In this episode, Brian interviews Ethan Kross about his book, “Chatter.” Ethan explains why we all have an inner voice and how we can learn to harness it to live a healthier, more satisfying and more productive life. Topics discussed include: distance self-talk, temporal distancing, the power and peril of other people, invisible support and the Nadal Principle.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why we can lose perspective when trying to solve a problem. Why small shifts in how we think can make a huge difference. Which tools we can use to rein in our mental chatter.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “Chatter,” By Ethan Kross Episode 40, Getting Caught Talking to Yourself “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself,” by Shad Helmstetter “Man’s Search for Meaning,” Viktor E. Frankl “The Energy Bus,” by Jon Gordon   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Language can be our friend.” – Ethan Kross “Sometimes it's just a gentle nudge to think differently that can make a difference.” – Ethan Kross “We can often give advice to others better than we can follow that advice ourselves. So other people are in a prime position to help us work through our chatter.” – Ethan Kross “When you're struggling with chatter, be very deliberate about who you seek out support from.” – Ethan Kross “There are things we can do in the world around us that influence the things happening between our ears.” – Ethan Kross   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“When you're in a funk, it's time to go back to the fundamentals of personal growth and development, because I believe the greatest way to get out of a funk is to grow.” – Brian Buffini Life is designed to have peaks and valleys. We all have highs and lows along the way – that just means we’re human. In this episode, Brian explains why everyone experiences a funk sometimes and how to best get past it. Topics discussed include: the three kinds of funks that exist; why positive self-talk matters; the difference between isolation and solitude; and why you must be careful what you read, watch and listen to.     YOU WILL LEARN: Reasons why you can get into a funk. How to navigate a funk when there is no instant fix. Steps to take to get out of a funk.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “Chatter,” by Ethan Kross “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself,” by Shad Helmstetter Episode 40, Getting Caught Talking to Yourself “Boundaries,” by Henry Cloud Episode 61, The Strangest Secret – by Earl Nightingale Episode 200, As a Man Thinketh Episode 220, Napoleon Hill’s Powerful Principles for Perilous Times   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “We have highs, we have lows, we have times we're fired up, we have times when we're just at the bottom. There's nothing wrong with you, you're human.” – Brian Buffini “It takes grit to be relentlessly positive.” – Brian Buffini “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” – Brené Brown “We all need people. And we all do better with people.” – Brian Buffini “One of the most life-giving things in the world is to serve somebody else.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The question is, can you figure out your engine, your vehicle, so you can start doing better in your own environment?” – Rich Diviney What are the key attributes for success in even the toughest situation? In this episode, Brian interviews retired Navy SEAL Commander Rich Diviney about his book, “The Attributes.” Rich explains how, through close observation of the most elite optimal performers, he learned to identify the hidden drivers of performance that explain how someone will succeed, both as an individual and as part of a team. Topics discussed include: the unique SEAL mindset, the difference between skills and attributes and the defining qualities of real leadership. YOU WILL LEARN: The five attributes of optimal performance. How everyone possesses these attributes to varying degrees. Why you must understand and cultivate your own attributes.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Attributes Draper Kauffman “The Shawshank Redemption” movie “Key to Yourself,” by Venice Bloodworth   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Courage cannot exist without fear.” – Rich Diviney “There's a distinct difference between being in charge and being a leader. Being in charge is a noun, and being a leader is a verb.” – Rich Diviney “One of the most important jobs of leadership is oftentimes not to be in the front at all, it’s to push your people up front.” – Rich Diviney “Humility is a difficult thing. Because as soon as you think you have it, you've lost it.” – Rich Diviney “Laughter is a binding element that hacks into courage and allows us to keep going.” – Rich Diviney “Be resolute in the outcome, but don't dictate the pathway. You have to be adaptable - the pathway is going to change.” – Rich Diviney   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I’ve never met an Irishman who didn’t hope for more.” – Brian Buffini   Ireland might be a small country, but it’s one of the most influential in the world. In this episode, recorded as a special Facebook Live on St. Patrick’s Day, Brian shares three reasons why so many Irish people achieve phenomenal success worldwide and explains how these unique principles can help you win, no matter where you’re from. This episode also features a bonus Q&A session in which Brian discusses topics including how to deal with a hot market, how to get clients to refer you and why it’s important to keep connecting with customers who move out of state.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why it’s vital to have a wishbone. How to develop a backbone. Why everyone needs a funny bone.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: EPIC, The Irish Emigration Museum “The Commitments” movie “The Shawshank Redemption” movie Episode 201, This Too Shall Pass – an Interview with Dr. Lawrence Yun The Peak Experience   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.” – Oscar Wilde “You’ve got to have a backbone. You’ve got to have some toughness. If you want to succeed in life, you’ve got to be tough enough to do it.” – Brian Buffini “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.” – Samuel Beckett “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.” – Confucius “We need a bit of laughter. We need a bit of life.” – Brian Buffini “Laughter is the best medicine. And the best medicine is in short supply in today’s world.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“If you have the right heart and the right motives, and you go about this the right way, you will be a person of influence. You will become a master of influence.” – Brian Buffini The art of persuasion can be a powerful force for good, but it must be done for the right reasons and in the right way. In this episode, inspired by Robert Cialdini’s classic bestseller “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion,” Brian shares three more principles of influence and persuasion. Topics discussed include: why it’s important to slow down and break bread with people, why actions speak louder than words and why you must lead yourself before you can lead others.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why the likeability factor is so important. How to be an effective leader. Why the principle of scarcity must be authentic.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion,” by Robert Cialdini Episode 267, The Power of WHO – an Interview with Bob Beaudine Episode 227, The Leader’s Edge “Love is the Killer App,” by Tim Sanders “Emotional Intelligence 2.0,” by Travis Bradberry The Peak Experience MasterMind Summit   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “To positively influence people, you have to really make a deep impression on how you make them feel.” – Brian Buffini “We want to do business with people we like.” – Brian Buffini “It's amazing how interesting people find you when you're interested in them.” – Brian Buffini “I find that if I'm kind to myself and gracious to myself, I can be kind and gracious to others.” – Brian Buffini “The power of doing the right things, in the right way, with the right intent - and maintaining that standard for yourself - is a deposit in your own mind and your own heart that will be the making of you.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.