How Can I Say This...

It doesn’t matter if they’re down the hall or across the street: being in community with other people can be hard work. We’ve probably all experienced a noisy neighbor or inconsiderate coworker who doesn’t seem to be aware of how their actions affect others. How do we address those problems with the people we live and work with in a way that doesn’t make things worse? My guest is Derek Pratt, founder of 4ward With Progress Inc. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information at www.howcanisaythis.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are times in most relationships when we’re faced with one of two situations: we feel a need to protect ourselves, or we feel a need to protect someone else. Every once in a while, especially when it comes to giving feedback, those two things can happen at the same time! How can we act in a way that establishes boundaries while still being kind? In this episode, we take a look at two listener questions: dealing with negative people and sharing difficult feedback with a colleague who’s having personal issues. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information and resources at howcanisaythis.com.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In an ideal world, relationships that end would do so clearly and with no loose ends. Each person would walk away feeling like they’d tied a nice neat bow on the matter. But we don’t live in an ideal world, and endings can be messy and feel incomplete. What do we do when we are left with lots of loose ends and no one to help us tie them up?In this episode, we’re going to do a deep dive into a listener question about how to find relationship closure alone when it’s not possible to do it together. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. Learn more, submit your questions, and subscribe at howcanisaythis.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’ve all found ourselves in arguments where we reach a stalemate. Neither person seems willing to budge on what they need, and frustration builds instead of goes away. After all, what I want is what I want! Isn’t that what I’m arguing for? Well, it turns out there’s more at stake than what we think. And one way to get past the frustration is to find out what that is. What are some ways we can get at what really matters in a disagreement? In this episode, I’m joined by mediator Veronica Cravener, who provides insights about what gets in our way in difficult conversations and how we can best share our needs, wants and interests with others. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. Learn more at howcanisaythis.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s a time and place for everything, and that includes emotion and intimacy. Most of the time it’s clear when we can show emotion and wear our heart on our sleeve. But sometimes, especially in professional environments, it can be more challenging to know how to respond when a clear need for empathy presents itself. We want to connect as human beings while still respecting boundaries. What’s a healthy way to walk that line with people we care about? Leadership Coach Grace Judson joins to me to discuss this and more. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information and resources at www.howcanisaythis.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How can we offer our perspective in a thoughtful way that doesn’t put someone on the defensive? In this episode, we’ll be looking at some listener questions about telling it like it is to someone you care about, intergenerational conversations, and lopsided friendships. Submit your question and find more information about this podcast can be found at howcanisaythis.com. Hosted by Beth Buelow, PCC. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I welcome etiquette consultant Arden Clise to the show, and together we respond to listener questions on giving and receiving sensitive feedback, as well as how to establish boundaries when you value your privacy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Conflict coach Cinnie Noble joins me in conversation about what constitutes healthy and unhealthy conflict. We also offer some perspectives to a listener that's dealing with passive-aggressive behavior. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode features listener questions about how to gracefully exit a client relationship, tell someone their help isn’t needed, and extract yourself from a TMI conversation. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Psychologist and author Laurie Helgoe joins me to talk about dealing with bullies and narcissistic types. We also respond to listener questions about someone who won't take "no" for an answer and how to connect with others as an introvert. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.