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John Siracusa and Merlin Mann try to figure out exactly how they got this way. Hosted by Merlin Mann and John Siracusa.
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Jul 23, 2020 • 1h 18min
135: Clutch Foot
For a main topic, your hosts interrogate some additional axes for choosing media—especially the axis of available attention.
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Links and Show Notes: Things kick off with a huge thank you to everyone who gave Siracusa their money, followed by a survey of listener suggestions for the name of the member feed.
In follow-up, John shares some detailed updates on his chronically troubled toe. Merlin finds this content extremely challenging.
Merlin relates an upsetting Walgreens anecdote, and John shares his etymological research on when you learn the notes to sing. Merlin can't get his tween to one-ee-and-uh with him.
You really super-get this when you have a fresh baby. Legacy notions about the dangers of screen time are explored and debated. We can all agree that this is a tough time for kids and connection.
In the extended members-only episode, John and Merlin discuss the 2001 Satoshi Kon film, Millennium Actress. Go to https://www.relay.fm/rd to become a member today.
(Recorded on Tuesday, July 14, 2020)
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Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
Get an ad-free version of the show, plus a monthly extended episode. The origin of the doe-ray-me thing Depressing Twitter thread about a retired nurse Shark Tank (TV Series 2009– ) - IMDb Daring Fireball: Return and Enter Are Two Different Keys from Endymion by John Keats | Poetry Foundation Solfège - WikipediaSyllables are assigned to the notes of the scale and enable the musician to audiate, or mentally hear, the pitches of a piece of music being seen for the first time and then to sing them aloud. Through the Renaissance (and much later in some shapenote publications) various interlocking 4, 5 and 6-note systems were employed to cover the octave.
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Jul 8, 2020 • 1h 23min
134: Romeo Delta
Things kick off with an announcement on a new way you can help support the program. Also: can you choose to be tricked by your own clocks? What if every clock is different? What even is time?
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In follow-up, John has a very important haircut update. His barber was reluctant, and the experience was a little fraught. Do our ears and head really keep growing, or is that just a myth?
Merlin puts a hat on a hat on a hat, and John badly confuses his Mels.
Then, things move on to time. John has a history with clock manipulation and sometimes invites too many snoozes.
This turns into a broader meditation on punctuality and character. Are late people late for one reason or is it a whole situation? Can you know how long something takes until you really know how long it takes? Can you? (Spoiler: you cannot.)
John gets to the party early, and Merlin super hopes he actively offers to help with the crudités. Merlin used to be late for everything, and John interrogates how exactly that so drastically changed.
Also, why did we arrive at the airport six hours early, daddy? Breakfast muffin, honey. Please, just eat your breakfast muffin.
Merlin is grateful for people educating him (even when that's not their job). Unconscious bias is unconscious.
And, finally, Merlin had a pretty wild bug with the iOS beta, and you won't believe what happened next.
(Recorded on Tuesday, June 30, 2020)
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Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
Support Reconcilable Differences with a Relay FM Membership Help Support Reconcilable Differences Merlin Mann on Twitter: "You’ll never guess what I’m trying to fix. https://t.co/trhLzLYCtx" / Twitter"You’ll never guess what I’m trying to fix."
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'Parks and Recreation' Co-Creator Mike Schur Remembers Carl Reiner | Hollywood Reporter'[Michael] Schur pays tribute to the comedy legend, who appeared on a 'Parks and Recreation' episode alongside Amy Poehler. "For 98 years, comedy flowed through Carl Reiner, and radiated off him, and followed him like an obedient hunting dog, ready to follow his commands."'
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Jun 24, 2020 • 1h 21min
133: Shave Daddy
Someone has tampered with Merlin's bell, and John is looking forward to his "vacation."
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Links and Show Notes: This leads to an exploration of seemingly hippie-dippie workplace policies and how they actually get applied in practice. Especially for everyone who's not the boss.
In follow-up, John has an update on a recent addition to his home. Boy, they really wanna push those extra "features" on you, don’t they? No one should have to worry this much about water.
In further follow-up, Merlin has a huge update on something he finally persuaded his family to do for him. 🐱✂️
John has never seen Shark Tank.
Merlin is confused about the buttons on his keyboard, and John has thoughts on what’s in the actual code.
Merlin hates his clock. You can really tell when the people who make something don’t love it as much as you do.
John gets yet another free dingus, and Merlin loves him some surprise baby photos.
(Recorded on Tuesday, June 16, 2020)
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Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
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Jun 10, 2020 • 1h 26min
132: Bigger in Three Dimensions Than I’ve Ever Been
In America, you are not allowed to hit back.
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Links and Show Notes: Black Lives Matter.
(Recorded on Tuesday, June 2, 2020)
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Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
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Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
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And if they are not confused, I would hate to think what they were doing."
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May 28, 2020 • 1h 59min
131: The Past is a Grotesque Animal
For a main topic, John wants to talk about regrets, lost loves, and things that could have been different.
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Links and Show Notes: Things kick off with a review of recent household paper cuts. Breaking the AirPods Rule, not using the hand rail, and barely surviving the chute into the kill zone.
John hears the case of Merlin's exploding plumbing in order to adjudicate whether it constitutes an actual emergency. Service people are all about lead generation, but, John appreciates the input.
The consequent verdict leads to exploration of minimizing COVID attack vectors. Speaking of riding things out, again with John's toe. Just the one. Descript is also discussed.
John wants Merlin to talk about this, so he does. Witness his confessions.
(Recorded on Tuesday, May 19, 2020)
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Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
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Reconcilable Differences #20: Stove Vigilance - Relay FMThe main topic is trust your mechanic. How to survive working with the experts who diagnose and fix your problems. John's not a Dead Kennedys fan, and Merlin's just so irrationally mad about the state of his oven.
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"Mouth Noises and What?!"
Merlin Mann on Twitter: "Found another awesome use for @DescriptApp: finding all the instances of a beloved catchphrase. https://t.co/LwxpuzDRox" / TwitterBlank Check catchphrases!
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May 13, 2020 • 1h 33min
130: Good Quorn
John asks Merlin to talk about why he loves improv comedy so much.
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Links and Show Notes: Quarantine updates, Banana Results, follow-up on John's sleep heat needs, and home improvement is also sheltered-in-place for now.
What part of your brain do you want scratched?
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Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
Support Reconcilable Differences with a Relay FM Membership "Yes, and..." — EDMUND MITCHELL'"I want a divorce." Joan said. "Honey, what about the children!" Del said. "We don't have any children!" Joan replies.'
Harold (improvisation) - WikipediaThe form was further developed by improv teachers Del Close and Charna Halpern, as well as the Upright Citizens Brigade.
Improvisational theatre - Wikipedia'Well, you are about to start the greatest improvisation of all. With no script. No idea what's going to happen, often with people and places you have never seen before. And you are not in control. So say "yes." And if you're lucky, you'll find people who will say "yes" back.'
—Stephen Colbert
Status | improv, improvisational theater, comedy'Johnstone's "status", on the other hand, comes from the behavior of the characters in a specific encounter. He stresses that there is no neutral status.'
improv theater and comedyIn this wiki you will find games and exercises, but also other interesting things about improv. You can participate and bring in your own ideas.
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What is the difference between sketch comedy and improv? - Quora'Some groups (Second City, most notably) will use improv as a basis for their sketch. They will present a show of improv for the purpose of gleaning material which can be worked up into viable sketches. It should be noted that this is not "sketch-based improv," but "improv-derived sketch." While the improv is used as a launching point for the sketch, it does not make the sketch improv.'
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Apr 29, 2020 • 1h 35min
129: Chocolate and Toy Story
How do you get your family to watch really good movies?
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Links and Show Notes: Things kick off with Merlin bemoaning John's emerging role as his primary existential creditor. John reminds Merlin that all that grinding is just continually sharpening him.
In follow-up, your hosts thank the many, many listeners who remembered the movie that John and Merlin clearly could not. Turns out, it was not "Batman." Or "The Notebook."
This leads naturally into a main topic that pulls together a bunch of previously discussed topics: how do you get your family to watch really good movies? Like, high-quality movies. Not bad movies, but good movies. As we all know, John is a tough rater, but his diligence has paid off. Merlin's kid hasn't shown much interest in The Godfather.
We learn that John has given Merlin his pasta sauce recipe, but Merlin hasn't tried to make it yet, and, when he does, he'll probably do it wrong. Related: do not ask for John's pasta sauce recipe, because it is not supported.
Finally, John may have discovered a Secret Weird Thing about bananas, which—you guessed it—leads to more homework for Merlin.
(Recorded on Tuesday, April 21, 2020)
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Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
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Apr 17, 2020 • 1h 5min
128: Ciao, Francesco Rinaldi!
The guys end up talking about the confusingly-titled resurrection of Merlin's old podcast. John has questions, and Merlin does his best to respond.
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Links and Show Notes: Things kick off with John describing an unknown movie in bullets and Merlin thinking it sounds a little like Batman. Of course, this just ends up leading to John chiding Merlin for not utilizing his quarantine time to finish his long-overdue homework.
Sometimes, you wanna give yourself a blue ocean, even if you never end up changing very much. Much like Neil Peart said.
This leads to a nostalgic stroll through the before times of the internet. Back when you had to buy all the misspellings and just hope you came up high on AltaVista. Also, what comes after Google? Man, the web used to be such a primitive, ugly affair. Time was, putting a field and two buttons on a web page was some pretty radical stuff. Brand names and regional fizzy drink appellations are briefly debated.
Finally, the baked ziti topic somehow also rises from the dead. And, John is still affronted that Merlin feeds his family that execrable swill from a jar.
(Recorded on Tuesday, April 7, 2020)
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Music: Merlin Mann
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Apr 2, 2020 • 1h 43min
127: Advice Nurse
In a main topic, your hosts try to share some ideas on sustainably working remotely from home
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Links and Show Notes: On top of all the sheltering-in-place, John is nursing a new injury, and Merlin doesn't love hearing it described at all. This leads to some medical technology discussion plus an on-air debriding agent demo.
History and experience can be pretty good teachers, but working yourself to a damaged nub is a terrible game for the young and should be considered harmful.
And, then there's the technology we use to stay connected and the managers who need to manage. Were you aware that Tom totally knows Craig Chaquico?
Listen, team, there are going to be a lot of adjustments, but also some great opportunities. We swear.
Hang in there, stay inside, and please take care of yourselves.
(Recorded on Tuesday, March 24, 2020)
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Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
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Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
Support Reconcilable Differences with a Relay FM Membership Craig Chaquico - Wikipedia Dr. Pascarelli's Complete Guide to Repetitive Strain Injury: What You Need to Know About RSI and Carpal Tunnel Syndrome: Pascarelli M.D., Emil: 9780471388432: Amazon.com: Books Accidental Clicking"John Siracusa joins me to discuss RSI in depth, drawing on both of our experiences we look at what works, what doesn’t and why you should care. Keyboards, trackpads, trackballs, mice, chairs, we cover it all."

Mar 20, 2020 • 1h 55min
126: Social Distancing
What makes for a good car movie?
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Links and Show Notes: Things kick off with some soap talk, and then there's a deep dive into the current state of…things. Stay home, friends.
There's some follow-up on Billy Joel Results.
John thinks it's different for car people, and Merlin saw a Tesla. Sometimes, it can be difficult to enjoy media that gets details you care about wrong.
For homework, please watch FX on Hulu's Devs.
(Recorded on Tuesday, March 10, 2020)
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Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
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