Seeing Other People

Divorce lawyer Jonathan Merel joins the podcast to share what he’s learned about love, marriage, and relationships from his years in family law. We talk about why couples file for divorce, how often people start the process but end up reconciling, what healthy couples have in common, and the truth about prenups. Jonathan also shares his personal perspective on love and commitment—and advice for couples looking to strengthen their relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jake and I are officially in our new apartment (!!) and we’re unpacking all the highs and lows of moving week — including Ilana’s unexpected side gig babysitting our TaskRabbit’s kid. We also get into what it’s like being in the thick of marathon training, the gorgeous wedding we just went to, and our hot take on why wedding speeches matter way more than people think. Book a move with Roadway here and use code ilanadunn10 for 10% off local moves or 5% off long distance moves! ALL links⁠ here⁠ (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at⁠ nutrafol.com⁠ promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at ⁠Quince.com/seeingotherpeople⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by musician Brett Altman, who recently left his finance career of 9 years to finally pursue music full-time and discovered that owning your story can completely change the way you date. We get into why you should never shrink yourself for someone who sees parts of you as a red flag, how to actually meet people IRL (yes, even at a bar), and what it takes to make a friends-with-benefits situation successful. Brett shares his journey from Hoboken “finance bro” to musician, and how his viral track Pretty Long Island Girls is sparking real conversations about love, dating, and connection outside the apps. @brettaltmanmusic Submit your questions or share why you and your partner are cohosts for life at⁠ speakpipe.com/sop ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Miriam Katz just launched one of the boldest projects in the dating world: a podcast where she interviews every single person she’s ever dated. They talk about what it’s really like to sit down with exes face-to-face, and the surprising insights Miriam has gained about love, closure, and self-discovery along the way. Ilana and Miriam also explore how past relationships shape us, the challenges of turning personal history into public content, and the moments that were unexpectedly healing—or hilariously awkward. Check out The Ex Appeal podcast on Spotify and follow along @theexappealpodcast ALL links⁠⁠ here⁠⁠ (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at⁠⁠ nutrafol.com⁠⁠ promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at ⁠⁠Quince.com/seeingotherpeople⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s our final episode in this apartment before the big move, and Ilana’s type A side is showing in full force during the packing process. In between boxes, we answer your questions about dating and relationships. We talk about whether it’s a red flag if someone doesn’t text while they’re away, what to do when you can’t stop thinking about the guy who wasn’t ready, how to move forward when something casual is rekindled, and the timeless dilemma of craving sparks while knowing you deserve stability. ALL links⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠ (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at⁠⁠⁠ nutrafol.com⁠⁠⁠ promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at ⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/seeingotherpeople⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this solo Q&A, I’m answering your biggest dating and friendship dilemmas — from why your ex still watches your Instagram stories, to how to say no to being a bridesmaid, to figuring out if “I’m not ready for a relationship” is the truth or just an excuse. We’ll talk jealousy, first dates, situationships, and how to trust again after heartbreak. Submit your questions or share why you and your partner are cohosts for life at⁠ speakpipe.com/sop ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

After years of back-to-back heartbreaks, author Abby Rosmarin hit relationship rock bottom and made a radical decision: she stopped dating—completely—and committed to an entire year of choosing herself. Abby shares how she went from chasing love to enjoying her own company, and rebuilding from the inside out. We talk about loneliness, self-discovery, codependency, sexuality, and why, for her, being single with cats really does beat being lonely with the wrong person. Her new memoir The Year of Dating Myself is out now! Learn more at abbyrosmarin-author.com. ALL links⁠⁠ here⁠⁠ (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at⁠⁠ nutrafol.com⁠⁠ promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at ⁠⁠Quince.com/seeingotherpeople⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week we’re recording from Jake’s childhood bedroom, which of course led us to wonder what 13-year-old Jake would think of his life now. We share our life updates, what we’re grateful for, how we started packing way too early, and how football season is going to affect when we see each other. Then we dive into fall date activities—everything from apple picking to haunted houses—and decide which ones we’d actually do and which we’re passing on. ALL links⁠ here⁠ (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at⁠ nutrafol.com⁠ promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at ⁠Quince.com/seeingotherpeople⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Trigger Warning: Abuse. This anonymous guest shares the story of being with her ex for over eight years, navigating betrayal, abuse, and heartbreak—including infidelity, a pregnancy, and the chaos of planning a wedding that never happened. She reveals how their relationship ended abroad just weeks before her wedding, the shocking ways her ex continued his betrayal, and the lessons she learned about boundaries, self-worth, and resilience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm joined by my friend, fashion designer and founder of Maison Des Nus, Balim Tezel. We talk about what it’s like to build a life from scratch—moving to the U.S. for college, creating a chosen family in NYC, and launching the brand she dreamed of since childhood. Balim shares what dating for the first time in her twenties taught her about herself and what she was looking for, how she unexpectedly met her boyfriend Vinnie, and how his steady support helped her navigate the isolation of being far from home, especially during the four years she couldn’t leave the U.S. while waiting for her green card. Follow Maison Des Nus @maisondesnus on IG & @maisondesnus on TikTok Submit your questions or share why you and your partner are cohosts for life at⁠⁠ speakpipe.com/sop⁠ ALL links⁠ here⁠ (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at⁠ nutrafol.com⁠ promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at ⁠Quince.com/seeingotherpeople⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.