Seeing Other People

I’m joined by an anonymous 27-year-old woman who opens up about starting to date someone and suddenly not hearing from him for days. She shares how she thought she was getting ghosted and assumed he blocked her, only to find out via Instagram that he was hit by a car and was in a coma. We hear how she processed this news, how she was not in a position to get updates on his condition because of how recently they had met, and how what led them to getting back in touch, and how they navigated their new friendship turned relationship. Finally, we discuss inter-abled dating, and how we’re so quick to judge people and often have limitations in our mind about who we can and can’t date.Please consider donating to Cody’s GoFundMe or sharing it with your network. Anything helps! https://www.gofundme.com/f/donate-to-codys-recovery Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by Evan Marc Katz, the world’s first dating coach (2003!), four-time author, and host of the Love U Podcast. Evan and I chat about where women are going wrong in dating when it comes to taking breaks from dating, going on dates, and getting into relationships. We learn which dealbreakers matter, ways to figure out if a relationship is right and how to know if it’s time to leave. Evan helps answer listener questions about getting over someone, whether or not you’re wasting your time, and more.Head to evanmarckatz.com/ilana to get gifted resources from Evan!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by Liz Mina to talk about approaching dating from a place of security and curiosity rather than the fear of being alone. We chat about dating as an adult after never having romantic interests in high school, why society should stop putting pressure on people to find partners at a certain age, how being an only child has impacted her dating life, and the importance of having vulnerable conversations on early dates. Finally, Liz shares what it’s like dating as a Middle Eastern woman and how religion and family values have played a role in her relationships. Follow Liz on TikTok @lizmina5 and on Instagram at @liz.mina Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In honor of my 29th birthday, I spent time reflecting on some of the most meaningful moments, the biggest turning points, and the hardest lessons learned in my 28 years. I put together a list and I'm so excited to share them with you in this special episode. We cover life, love, friendship, career, family, and everything in between. Thanks for being on this journey with me and cheers to 29!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm joined by Rachel Schwab, AKA @justbecauseitspretty, to discuss what her dating life was like before meeting her person and how she ended up getting engaged to her first ever Hinge date. She shares how she felt going into her first date with her now-fiancé, whether or not she was anxious after it, why she's glad they talked about exes on their third date, and when/how they DTRd. We hear how they navigated long distances while he was also a full-time medical student and how they communicated their needs. Finally, we discuss Instagram vs. Reality of getting engaged! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

TW: Eating disorders & body image struggles. Julie Griggs and Danielle Dietzek, my friends and the cofounders of Fourplay Social, are back on Seeing Other People. We discuss why the question "Why are you still single?" is so problematic and how society perpetuates the belief that we aren't complete until we find our partner. Danielle opens up about her struggle with body image and weight gain, sharing how it's held her back in her dating life along with ways she's worked to overcome her insecurities. We talk about do's and don'ts for getting your personality across on your profiles, why you should not write people off too soon, and what we've all learned from each other.  Follow Fourplay on Instagram and TikTok!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm joined by a 36-year-old woman who opens up about the relationship she found herself in shortly after getting divorced from her ex-husband of 11 years (and the father of her two children). We hear how she and this man met, what their relationship started out like, and how they soon developed a dominant/submissive relationship. She shares how she later found out he was still married and that she was not the only "other woman." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm joined by Laura Belgray, author of the book "Tough Titties: On Living Your Best Life When You’re the F-ing Worst" to discuss how to let go of what other people and society expect of you. We chat about embracing your flaws, owning your timeline, not comparing yourself to others, how your worth doesn't need to be attached to someone else liking you, and more. Laura shares her dating mishaps and adventures from when she was in her 20s, the pressure she felt to want to have children when she wasn't sure what she wanted, and the beautifully uncommon story of how she and her now-husband met. Learn more about Laura at talkingshrimp.com, get the book at toughtittiesbook.com, and follow her on IG @laurabelgray Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm joined by my friend Carly, aka @kicksbycarly, to talk about the most frustrating aspects of modern dating. We chat about matching with someone you're excited about and then the convo never going anywhere, multi-yearlong situationships, dating someone who lives too close to you, whether or not athletes are looking for something serious, seeing your friends get into relationships and feeling left behind, and more.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sam Panitch and Joey Lane are back for another round of Ask The Guys Anything! We chat do's and don'ts for profile photos, prompts, and starting conversations. We debate whether or not you should send roses, slide into someone's DMs after seeing them on an app, whose responsibility it is to send the first message, and more. Follow Sam @sam_p_Panitch and check out Elevation NationFollow Joey @thejoeylane on IG and @Joeysmoke14 on Twitter and check out Drive The Lane Podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.