

Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
Modern dating sucks, but dating expert Ilana Dunn is here to make it suck just a little bit less. Seeing Other People is your go-to podcast for honest conversations about dating, relationships, and everything in between. Each week features three types of episodes: Cohosts for Life on Mondays, where Ilana and her husband Jake open up about the everyday moments that shape their relationship; Tuesday episodes with impactful guests who help you navigate the complexities of modern dating; and Unfiltered episodes on Thursdays, where anonymous guests share their most raw and relatable experiences. No matter your relationship status, this show is here to help you a little less alone.
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Apr 10, 2025 • 46min
From Anxious to Secure: Hobbies, Healing & Hot Takes on Dating
In this solo catch-up, I’m giving you a life and mindset update from changing my Instagram handles to finally breaking through a running plateau that had me feeling stuck for months For the heart of the episode I share how pouring into activities outside of work, social media, and my relationship transformed my anxiety into confidence. I break down how hobbies helped me learn to like myself again—and why that made my relationship with myself and Jake even stronger. Plus, I answer some of your juicy listener questions: If your boyfriend’s parents help pay for the engagement ring…is that in or out? How to stay independent while living at home in your 20s? Meeting the fam for the first time—what to bring? Long-distance communication: how much is too much?Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com! Go to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 8, 2025 • 54min
Feeling Behind? You're Exactly Where You Need to Be
Carleigh Ferrante from the Mostly Dating Podcast is back again to discuss the joys and challenges of dating, relationships, and growing into yourself. We talk about how creative date ideas can deepen connection, why maintaining individuality in relationships is essential, and how navigating different life timelines doesn’t have to create distance between partners. We unpack the importance of open communication, embracing change, and staying grounded in who you are—even in love. Follow @mostlydating on IG! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com! Go to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 1, 2025 • 47min
This Mindset Shift Will Change Your (Dating) Life
In this episode, I sit down with executive coach and author Keren Eldad to explore how the same perfectionism and overachievement that drive success can also sabotage our relationships. We discuss the trap of seeking external validation in dating, how people-pleasing can lead to unfulfilling connections, and why high achievers often struggle with vulnerability and intimacy. Keren shares powerful insights on breaking free from the need to "perform" in love, embracing authenticity, and building relationships that feel as good as they look on paper. If you've ever felt like you're chasing an ideal in dating rather than real connection, this conversation is for you.Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 27, 2025 • 1h 4min
"She Was Cheating On Me With Her Step Brother"
In today's episode, our anonymous guest from Louisiana shares the intense and tumultuous story of his longest relationship, which lasted four years. What begins as a typical college romance soon takes a series of shocking turns, uncovering dark family secrets, emotional turmoil, and betrayals that test the limits of trust and love. From unsettling revelations about his ex-girlfriend's upbringing to the jaw-dropping discovery that her previous boyfriend was actually her step-brother, this story is filled with drama, heartbreak, and personal growth. Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 25, 2025 • 47min
Why Some Breakups Feel Impossible (And How To Get Through Them)
I sit down with author, podcaster, and relationship coach Allison Raskin for a raw and insightful conversations about love, heartbreak, and moving forward. Allison opens up about her broken engagement that left her blindsided—and how she rebuilt her life, redefined her self-worth, and unexpectedly found love again.We discuss why some breakups feel impossible to move on from and how overthinking can impact relationships. Allison discusses the biggest mistakes people make in dating and how to break free from them, why you do not need to be fully healed before dating again and what helped her learn to trust love after experiencing such a painful loss. Pre-order Allison’s new book, Save the Date, out April 8th: Order hereBook a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 20, 2025 • 47min
How to Stop Overthinking Every Text | Solo Q&A
Time for a solo episode! ’m catching up with you on everything that’s been on my mind—dating, friendships, and some personal struggles I’ve been working through. I dive into defining the relationship, why second thoughts in dating are totally normal, and how to overthink a little bit less. Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 18, 2025 • 45min
Why Dating Feels Harder Than Ever (& How To Fix It)
Therapist Laura Caruso joins us to share her perspective on why so many people feel like the dating pool is worse than ever, the biggest mistakes people make, and how to break free from unhealthy patterns. Laura discusses the pressure of finding a partner, why women should consider dating outside their age bracket, and when to have the tough conversations about commitment. We dive into emotional attachment, self-sabotage, why waiting for someone to “come around” might be keeping you stuck, and how she unexpectedly found love when she wasn’t even looking. Want to hear more of our episodes with therapists? This playlist has them all! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 13, 2025 • 54min
"Freezing My Eggs and Freeing Myself from Dating Anxiety"
Erica Borsak opens up about the realities of living alone, dating with a food allergy, and why she decided to freeze her eggs. She shares her experiences navigating dating apps, the pressure of singlehood, and how focusing on herself changed her perspective. We discuss independence, setting personal milestones, and the challenges of modern dating. Plus, Erica reflects on health struggles, societal expectations, and what she’s looking for in a partner.Being single doesn’t have to suck. Check out these episodes about embracing and making the most of singlehood! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 11, 2025 • 47min
I Needed To Be Single To Be My Best Self with Greg Grippo
Greg Grippo opens up about life after The Bachelorette, his journey through grief, and finding happiness on his own. He shares why he took a year off from dating, the pressure of finding “the one,” and how therapy reshaped his mindset. We discuss emotional independence, slowing down in relationships, and the lessons he’s learned about love. Plus, Greg reflects on anxiety, personal growth, and what he’s looking for in his next partner.Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.Need more of the guys’ perspective? This playlist has all SOP episodes with male guests! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 6, 2025 • 1h 1min
How to Be a Good Friend When Your BFF Has a Baby
Your best friend, sibling, or coworker is pregnant or just had a baby—now what?! If you’ve ever wondered how to support a friend through pregnancy, postpartum, and the transition into parenthood (without being annoying), this episode is for you. I sit down with my friend Jamie, a new mom, to get the unfiltered scoop on what to say, what NOT to say, and how to actually show up for your friends in this life stage—even if you have zero experience with babies. We talk about the biggest mistakes people make, the things new moms secretly wish you’d do, and why your friendship doesn’t have to change (even if everything else does). Whether you’re single, dating, or just nowhere near parenthood, this is the ultimate guide to being a thoughtful, supportive, and not cringey friend during this huge life transition.Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.


