Sons of Patriarchy

Need help? Contact Outreach Incorporated. Our scheduled episode for tomorrow has to be pushed back to next week (the reason why will be apparent when you listen), so I pulled this one out of the hopper! I spoke with Caleb Campbell of Disarming Leviathan and Pastor of Desert Springs Bible Church in Phoenix, Arizona. Need some sanity in this age of extreme political unrest, the takeover of our government, self-professed Christ Nationalists climbing the political ladder, all the while you're trying to figure out your friend or family member who seems to be enamored with it all? This is the conversation you need. Buy Disarming Levithan: Loving Your Christian Nationalist Neighbor Donate to help the survivor network ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Join: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Private Survivor Support Group⁠⁠⁠⁠. Sign up for our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠sonsofpatriarchy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to find resources, recommended reading, and more. Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ Examining Doug Wilson and Moscow: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ "Sons of Patriarchy" is brought to you by Producer, Writer, Editor, and Host: Peter Bell Original Music, Sound Design, and Mixing: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://aaronfeeneymusic.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Sarah Bader⁠⁠⁠⁠ Graphic Design: Anonymous Survivors SURVIVORS - THANK YOU, AND MAY YOU BE HEARD. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/sons-of-patriarchy--6517628/support.

Need help? Contact Outreach Incorporated. In this last episode of Season 1, I spoke with Dr. Karen Roudkovski, a Licensed Professional Counselor with her own practice, and an expert on trauma and abuse, with her own story of the same. Karen ties in every theme of Sons of Patriarchy Season 1, gives language to those searching and hurting, a listening ear to those who want to speak out, and the compassion to speak into those lives who have been destroyed by leaders of the church. May the end of Season 1 give you hope, peace, understanding, and the courage to move forward in the grace of the Savior. Because Jesus himself understands what you went through, are going through, and will go through. A sympathetic redeemer who heals you. Find Karen here. Buy Karen's books here: Understanding Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse Assessment, Spiritual Abuse Recovery Workbook, and Counseling Through the Storm Donate to help the survivor network ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Join: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Private Survivor Support Group⁠⁠⁠⁠. Sign up for our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠sonsofpatriarchy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to find resources, recommended reading, and more. Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ Examining Doug Wilson and Moscow: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ "Sons of Patriarchy" is brought to you by Producer, Writer, Editor, and Host: Peter Bell Original Music, Sound Design, and Mixing: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://aaronfeeneymusic.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Sarah Bader⁠⁠⁠⁠ Graphic Design: Anonymous Survivors SURVIVORS - THANK YOU, AND MAY YOU BE HEARD. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/sons-of-patriarchy--6517628/support.

Colleen McConnell, a former member of St. Paul's Presbyterian Church, and Megan Owen, founder of Mountain City Christian Counseling, share their harrowing experiences with domestic abuse in the PCA. They discuss the complexities of navigating church structures that often prioritize reputation over victim support. Colleen highlights her successful fight for justice within the PCA, while Megan reveals the harmful counsel she received from church leaders. Together, they advocate for reform and genuine care in faith communities, emphasizing the importance of empowering women to escape abusive relationships.

Need help? Contact Outreach Incorporated. I had the opportunity to sit down with Tia Levings to talk about her 2024 memoir, A Well-Trained Wife, her journey through the Patirarchy. Our second-to-last episode of Season 1, Tia's story weaves through every theme we have covered in this series. She made stops in the IBLP, Gothard, SBC, PCA, and CREC circles. She was controlled, manipulated, silenced, abused, and more. She was nearly sacrificed to the Patriarchy, on the altar of the cult. But she got out. May her story help you too. Buy Tia Levings' book here: A Well-Trained Wife: My Escape from Christian Patriarchy Follow Tia Levings on here: Decontrusting Fundamentalism Donate to help the survivor network ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Join: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Private Survivor Support Group⁠⁠⁠⁠. Sign up for our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠sonsofpatriarchy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to find resources, recommended reading, and more. Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ Examining Doug Wilson and Moscow: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ "Sons of Patriarchy" is brought to you by Producer, Writer, Editor, and Host: Peter Bell Original Music, Sound Design, and Mixing: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://aaronfeeneymusic.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Sarah Bader⁠⁠⁠⁠ Graphic Design: Anonymous Survivors SURVIVORS - THANK YOU, AND MAY YOU BE HEARD. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/sons-of-patriarchy--6517628/support.

In this compelling conversation, Caroline Garcia Osborne shares her harrowing story of grooming and spiritual abuse by Boyd Miller, shedding light on the alarming realities within the Orthodox Presbyterian Church. An anonymous woman corroborates Caroline's account, illuminating the systemic failures of church leadership in addressing abuse allegations. The guests reflect on their emotional turmoil and the urgent need for reform, advocating for accountability, healing, and a supportive framework for survivors to reclaim their voices.

Sheila Wray Gregoire, founder of Bare Marriage and author of multiple books on relationships, and Marissa Burt, author of "The Myth of Good Christian Parenting," dive into the flaws of traditional evangelical teachings. They challenge the notion of women as mere vessels for men, advocating for genuine intimacy that respects both partners' desires. The duo critiques punitive parenting methods and emphasizes nurturing over discipline, promoting equality in marriage and a reevaluation of influential doctrines that shape family dynamics.

Are you in the PCA, and need help navigating your situation? Contact: Advocacy from the Presbyterian Pew. Free live workshops of the PCA Book of Church Order (BCO): https://presbyterianpew.org/live-workshops/ Read and discuss the PCA report on Domestic Abuse and Sexual Assault. Donate to Advocacy from the Presbyterian Pew here. Follow Donna Westcott on X (@psychotheologin) and her website (donnawestcott.com). Here's Joyce's interview on Bare Marriage:  Why Did a Church Put a Marital Rape Victim under Church Discipline? Need help? Contact ⁠⁠⁠Outreach Incorporated⁠⁠⁠. Meet Joyce Rohe, former member of Rio Vista Community Church (PCA) in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, Lynna Sutherland, the founder of Advocacy from the Presbyterian Pew (and a PCA member herself), and Donna Westcott, a licensed professional counselor (and critic of "Biblical" counseling). What happens when you go against your church elders' wishes by divorcing your abusive and absent husband? They skirt the "process" and discipline you without trial. What happens when you try to navigate that very system? They use it against you. What happens when you try to seek "biblical" counseling for all the pain this causes you? They convince you it's your fault, that there's sin residing in you. In short, you're excommunicated. Donate to help the survivor network ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Join: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Private Survivor Support Group⁠⁠⁠⁠. Sign up for our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠sonsofpatriarchy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to find resources, recommended reading, and more. Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ Examining Doug Wilson and Moscow: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ "Sons of Patriarchy" is brought to you by Producer, Writer, Editor, and Host: Peter Bell Original Music, Sound Design, and Mixing: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://aaronfeeneymusic.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Sarah Bader⁠⁠⁠⁠ Graphic Design: Anonymous Survivors SURVIVORS - THANK YOU, AND MAY YOU BE HEARD. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/sons-of-patriarchy--6517628/support.

Need help? Contact Outreach Incorporated. The counterpart to Episode 13, It's Only a Matter of Rank. This time we have Beth Allison Barr (James Vardaman Professor of History at Baylor University, and author of numerous books), Sheila Wray Gregoire (founder of Bare Marriage, and author of numerous books), Cait West (yes, again!), and Hannah Oliver. The men are trained as leaders, and the women, as followers. The virtuous woman *only* stays at home, homeschools her children, satisfies her husband, and makes sure there's no ugliness in her. They are to stay silent, unless, of course, they've been approved to teacher other women to... stay silent. You can speak, as long as you tell other women not to. At the same time women are more liable to deceit than their male counterparts they also hold the power to cause their brothers to stumble. It's a whiplash, a system wherein you're told to be feminine, but not too feminine, smart, but not too smart, put together, but not independent. In summary, it's impossible. A standard you can never live up to. But there's another way, the way of Jesus. He who gladly took a rank below his, to give you a rank above yours. Buy Beth Barr's books here:  Becoming the Pastor's Wife, The Making of Biblical Womanhood Buy Sheila Gregoire's Books here: The Marriage You Want, She Deserves Better, The Great Sex Rescue Buy Cait West's book here: Rift Donate to help the survivor network ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Join: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Private Survivor Support Group⁠⁠⁠⁠. Sign up for our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠sonsofpatriarchy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to find resources, recommended reading, and more. Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ Examining Doug Wilson and Moscow: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ "Sons of Patriarchy" is brought to you by Producer, Writer, Editor, and Host: Peter Bell Original Music, Sound Design, and Mixing: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://aaronfeeneymusic.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Sarah Bader⁠⁠⁠⁠ Graphic Design: Anonymous Survivors SURVIVORS - THANK YOU, AND MAY YOU BE HEARD. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/sons-of-patriarchy--6517628/support.

Theresa Garcia Robertson, a former Covenant OPC member, shares her chilling story of grooming and abuse by Pastor Boyd Miller. Zach LeReaux discusses Doug Wilson's teachings, emphasizing the crucial role men play in addressing abuse. Caroline McKuen, founder of the Presbyterian Advocacy Coalition, highlights the systemic failures within church leadership when responding to allegations. Together, they tackle the longstanding cover-ups and call for accountability and reform, igniting a conversation on how faith communities can better support survivors.

Read about the woman's story at FBC Beggs here: https://tinyurl.com/5x7w6ddj Need help? Contact Outreach Incorporated. In this episode I spoke with repeat guest Cait West, a woman whose marriage and church (FBC Beggs in Beggs, Oklahoma, led by pastor Chris Gore) was taken over by the patriarchy, and Zach Wagner (author of "Non-Toxic Masculinity") about the Patriarchy. Patriarchy is not only toxic for the women subjugated under it, it's an impossible system for the men to exercise. It's a reaction to the perceived feminization of the church, of culture, and of society. It's an ideology wherein it's not enough to *be* a man, you must *do* manly things to prove it. And therein lies the problem, an identity wrapped up in performance rather than the gospel. Buy Cait's book here: https://tinyurl.com/27nvt34h Buy Zach's book here: https://tinyurl.com/6pt73vsb Donate to help the survivor network ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Join: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Private Survivor Support Group⁠⁠⁠⁠. Sign up for our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠sonsofpatriarchy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to find resources, recommended reading, and more. Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ Examining Doug Wilson and Moscow: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ "Sons of Patriarchy" is brought to you by Producer, Writer, Editor, and Host: Peter Bell Original Music, Sound Design, and Mixing: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://aaronfeeneymusic.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Sarah Bader⁠⁠⁠⁠ Graphic Design: Anonymous Survivors SURVIVORS - THANK YOU, AND MAY YOU BE HEARD. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/sons-of-patriarchy--6517628/support.