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On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Laura Tisdel to answer listener questions. A mom wonders how to deal with the privilege disparity between her biracial black daughter and her white son after she noticed her son getting preferential treatment at daycare. Plus, a mom asks about taking the fall for her daughter when her daughter feels uncomfortable standing up to a friend. For Slate Plus, the hosts talk about the parenting vices they won’t be giving up in 2020. Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations:Laura recommends Rivers, Roads & Rails, a game where you collect pieces to make transportation pathways, plus Catherine Newman's list of her favorite games.Dan recommends Azul, a tile strategy game where you pretend to be building Portuguese tile art. Jamilah recommends Surviving R. Kelly Part II: The Reckoning on Lifetime.Additional Reading: The Color Complex by Kathy Russell, Midge Wilson and Ronald Hall.In 2020, Skip Your Resolutions—Embrace a Vice by Slate Staff.Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833. Audio engineering by Merritt Jacob.Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. HostsDan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California.Laura Tisdel is a book editor at Penguin Random House.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah is joined by former MADAF host Gabriel Roth to talk about their New Year’s parenting resolutions. Plus, they answer a listener question from a mom wondering if her husband’s napping is selfish. For Slate Plus, Jamilah and Gabriel compare the parents they thought they would be with the parents they actually are. Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends the Creatable World Deluxe Character Set, gender non-conforming dolls from Mattel. Gabriel recommends building Lego sets with your kids, specifically the Hogwarts™ Whomping Willow™ Lego set.Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. HostsJamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California.Gabriel Roth is Slate's editorial director for audio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From yelling at kids to teens gallivanting around Europe to breast milk taste tests, 2019 has been a year of wonderful questions and conundrums from you—our fellow parents. On this week’s special edition: our favorite moments from this year’s Slate Plus segments. If you like what you hear in this episode, sign up for Slate Plus. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. HostsDan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah is joined by Rebecca Lavoie to answer this week’s listener questions from moms contemplating changing schools because their biracial daughter is bothered about not fitting in, and a mother whose childcare provider is offering to do it for free. How can she ensure her neighbor is properly compensated for this service? For Slate Plus, Jamilah and Rebecca take advantage of Dan’s absence and respond to his article “The Decade in Dads” article with the Decade in Moms. Sign up for Slate Plus here.Recommendations:Jamilah recommends My Quotable Kid: A Parents' Journal of Unforgettable Quotes.Rebecca recommends recording your kids, stashing the audio away and surprising yourself with this self-made time capsule years later.Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. HostsJamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California.Rebecca Lavoie is a host of the podcasts Crime Writers On … and … These Are Their Stories: The Law and Order Podcast. She is the co-author of four books with her husband, Kevin Flynn: Our Little Secret, Legally Dead, Notes on a Killing, and Dark Heart. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you have any school-aged children in your life, you know that lockdown and active shooter drills have become a routine part of their school experience. These drills now take place in 95 percent of American schools. What you’re about to hear is a collaboration between Slate and The Trace, a nonprofit newsroom covering gun violence in the United States. It’s an audio project featuring firsthand accounts from kids of all ages about what it’s like to go through these drills. We hear a lot about school shootings, but we’re only starting to have a larger conversation about how they affect even those kids who may never go through one. You can hear more from the students at slate.com/lockdown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by guest host Michelle Herman, novelist, professor, and Care and Feeding columnist. They answer listener questions from a parent looking for ways to make Christmas enjoyable and a mother who is feeling left out of mother-child bonding experiences. For Slate Plus, Dan tells Lyra’s favorite new joke. (It’s awful.) Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations:Michelle recommends asking your kids for advice. And not just tech advice! Jamilah recommends How to Be a Family: The Year I Dragged My Kids Around the World to Find a New Way to Be Together by Dan Kois. Perhaps you’ve heard of it? Dan recommends “Hush,” a Season 3 episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Hosts Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California. Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.Michelle Herman is a novelist and essayist in Columbus, Ohio. Her books include The Middle of Everything: Memoirs of Motherhood and an advice book for children, A Girl's Guide to Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and guest host Katherine Goldstein answer listener questions from a parent looking for ways to enjoy family visits and a neighbor who is worried for the kids next door who were left behind. For Slate Plus, what should you NOT say to someone expecting twins. Sign up for Slate Plus here.Recommendations:Jamilah recommends matching outfits with your kid.Katherine recommends Shrinky Dinks as a creative way to pass a few hours.Dan recommends That Was Awkward: The Art and Etiquette of the Awkward Hug from Emily Flake.Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.HostsJamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California.Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.Katherine Goldstein is a journalist as well as the creator and host of The Double Shift, a reported, narrative podcast about a new generation of working mothers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are live from the Miami Book Fair where they are joined by Pamela Paul, author of How to Raise a Reader and Adam Mansbach, author of Fuck, Now There Are Two of You. This week the hosts discuss scaring their kids with inappropriate books and making the most out of children with different schedules.For Slate Plus, the hosts discuss if parenting really is harder nowadays—or do we just hear more about the trials and tribulations in books, blogs or even, ahem, podcasts… Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations:Jamilah recommends non-traditional Thanksgiving dinner. Dan recommends game-ifying Christmas stockings. Pamela recommends Lucy Knisley’s book You Are New. Adam recommends the book Laugh Lines: Forty Years Trying to Make Funny People Funnier.Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Hosts Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this engaging discussion, traveling mother of three boys, Elizabeth Newcamp, shares her humorous parenting misadventures. She delves into the delicate topic of telling children about being unplanned, suggesting a loving approach. The conversation also explores strategies for making genuine friendships as a military family, emphasizing overcoming rejection fears. Lastly, Elizabeth recommends the U.S. National Park Service’s Junior Ranger Program as a fun family activity, while the hosts reminisce about their own amusement park experiences and the joys of parenting.

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and guest host Greg Lavallee answer listener questions from a parent whose daughter is afraid of the water and a mom who needs a response strategy for a disrespectful kiddo. For Slate Plus, the hosts strategize date night. Are microdates the solution to a busy schedule? Or is it worth the effort of hiring a babysitter to go out? Sign up for Slate Plus here.Recommendations:Jamilah recommends a newfangled entertainment destination… a place where you could spend hours without spending any money…. The MALL.Greg recommends Shashibo, a mesmerizing magnetic puzzle.Dan recommends Boom Blast Stix for little kids and Telestrations for bigger ones.Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.HostsDan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Greg Lavallee is the director of technology at Slate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices