Curated Questions: Conversations Celebrating the Power of Questions!

Episode Notes[00:00] Introduction: Seeing Through the Myth[01:06] Welcome to Curated Questions[01:28] Ken's Backstory[02:05] Rethinking American History[03:05] Discovering Hidden Truths[03:58] Impact of Redlining and Racism[05:14] The Church's Complicity[06:19] Systemic Inequality[06:52] Influential Authors[08:26] The Reality of White-Body Supremacy & Lynching[12:52] Repentance and Reconciliation[13:24] The Unfulfilled Promises[16:38] The Walk Begins[17:38] Challenges and Conversations[18:34] Physical and Emotional Struggles[19:51] Community Reactions[21:40] Encounters and Reflections[22:26] Privilege and Protection[23:29] Friends and Fears[25:04] Blue-eyed Devil[26:13] Lessons from the Walk[27:10] Confronting Racism[28:23] The Importance of Listening[28:53] Mistakes and Apologies[29:39] The Impact of the Walk[32:56] Building New Communities[34:05] Final Thoughts and Gratitude Resources MentionedAn Indigenous Peoples' History of the United States (ReVisioning History) by Roxanne Dunbar-OrtizThe Color of Law by Richard RothsteinSister Citizen: Shame, Stereotypes, and Black Women in America by Melissa Harris-PerryThe Color of Compromise: The Truth About the American Church's Complicity in Racism by Jemar TisbyCaste: The Origins of Our Discontents by Isabel WilkersonJames BaldwinNikki GiovanniClint SmithChimamanda Ngozi AdichieChristina SharpeResmaa MenakemC. Vann WoodwardJames W. LoewenToni MorrisonAngela DavisFrederick DouglassOctavia ButlerTa-Nehisi CoatesWilliam Loyd GarrisonIbriam X. KendiMary Turner and the lynching rampage of 1918Emmett TillMalcolm XLorton Prison in VirginiaWagshal's DeliBlack Lives Matter PlazaWashington PostTheresa VargasBeauty PillProducer Ben Ford Questions AskedIf this was the case, and 50% of this book was wrong, what do I do with the 50% that is correct?How is a Black family supposed to build generational wealth when redlining is legal?How would this knowledge would inform my understanding of the lived experiences of the Black women around me?What tendrils might this endorsement of state-sanctioned terror might have in today's sanctuaries?Why didn't Black service members get access to the GI Bill after returning from the World Wars?How is the Republican adoption of the Southern Strategy to disenfranchise Black voters starting in the 1950s still functioning?I questioned, how can this country move forward if we don't embrace the truth?Where did all the people sitting on picnic blankets go?Did we expect the passage of the Civil Rights Act to change all the deep-seated hatred and bigotry?How might this residue coat the rest of our society in both visible and unseen ways?Are you packin'?You think you got something to say, don't you?Are you a racist?What this project would accomplish. How was it going to make a difference in her life?

Episode Notes[00:00] Introduction: The Power of Questions[01:24] Meet Jeff Wetzler[03:14] The Power of Questions in Childhood[04:38] Encouraging Questions in Families[05:57] The Sacred Invitation of Questions[08:01] Quality vs. Crummy Questions[09:11] Designing Effective Questions[14:08] Listening to Learn[14:43] The Three Languages of Listening[16:07] Practical Exercises for Better Listening[19:02] Question Strategies[23:38] Rediscovering Natural Curiosity[24:00] Breaking Through the Shell of Suppressed Curiosity[24:28] Injecting Curiosity Sparks[25:26] Heart-Centered Curiosity[26:22] Living a Life of Curiosity[27:09] The Importance of Scheduling Space for Curiosity[27:51] Balancing Busyness and Productivity[31:07] Broadening Perspectives Through Diverse Interactions[32:54] Building Bridges Through Empathy[35:15] Living the Questions[36:12] The Overlooked Importance of Reflection[37:51] The Right Now Question[40:14] The Energy of Curiosity[44:20] Awe and Wonder in the Other[46:02] Final Thoughts and Takeaways Resources MentionedAsk: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You, For Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life by Jeff WetzlerEmily IrvingAskApproach.comHow to Learn Something from Anyone... (and Why To Try) Jeff's TEDx TalkKevin KellyAction DesignBrian MorganDavid CantorFamily Systems TherapyJenny AndersonChris ArgyrisOrganizational LearningRilkeDiana McLain SmithRishi JaitlyJeff Wetzler on LinkedInBeauty PillProducer Ben Ford Questions AskedWhen did you first understand the power of questions?Why does this happen?How does this work?Why is this going on?Did your parents encourage that, or is that just who you were at that point?When you were growing up, how welcome were questions for you?Were you encouraged or discouraged as a kid?Did she indicate that she's overcome that at all?Can you say some more about how the second Amazing power of questions is they are Relationship Builders a sacred invitation?What are your thoughts on working through and drafting questions for something that you can prepare for?Are you trying to ask a question because you wanna prove a point or look smart or get someone to do something?Are you really asking it because you wanna learn?Does that make sense?Does the other person agree?Is it clear to them?Do I understand what you're saying?Do I agree with what you're saying?What's your reaction to that?How does that land with you?How does that sit with you?What does that make you think?How much richer would life be?How are you?What are some elements of listening to learn?What are you listening for?What's the person saying?What are the feelings that they're displaying?What are the feelings that they're expressing?What behaviors are they taking in the conversation?What did I hear the first time around?What might you be missing?How can you start to train yourself to listen for the others?What did the person say?What was the information?What was the content?What were the emotions that were being expressed or displayed?What were the behaviors or actions that they were taking?How could that possibly be demoralizing to him or anybody?How long does it take to get good at this?What are recommendations or ideas for cracking that hard shell that may have grown over our curiosity?What might I be missing?What else could be going on in the situation?How else might someone look at the situation?Can we actually use empathy as a gateway in?Do we surround ourselves with people who think just like us, or do we surround ourselves with people who think differently?Do we surround ourselves with people who have the same general patterns of life experiences, or can we surround ourselves with people who have different life experiences?How do we use our time? What do we read?What do we look at on social media?What movies and TV shows do we watch?Can we use all of that to kind of stretch our imagination of what's true in the world?What's out there in the world, what's possible in the world?How do we use our time in the sense of, are we packing our schedule so tightly that we're just doing, doing, doing, moving on from one thing to the next to the next?Are we making space to just get bored, just to wander, to let our mind make connections?How does one muster the courage to be curious about others?How do we get that courage to really learn to listen?What can I learn here?What can I learn from this person?How do they work?What makes them tick?What do they believe?How is their behavior rational from their worldview?What does that look like for you?How do you live the questions?How do I challenge my thinking?Has there been a section of the book that maybe you think doesn't get as much attention as you thought that it might?What is your right now question?How can I and all of us access curiosity more deeply, more often?Is that fair?How would you define that?What is going on here?Do you have any thoughts or encouragement about questions that we haven't explored yet?Where are the best places for folks to track you down and to learn more about what you're doing?

Episode Notes[00:00] Introduction: The Power of Showing Up for Yourself[01:04] Curated Questions: A Resource for Personal Growth[01:27] Introducing Shelbie Morgan: A Force for Good[02:46] Shelbie's Early Life and Parental Influence[03:41] The Role of Choices and Freedom in Shelbie's Upbringing[07:12] Volunteering and Its Impact on Shelbie's Life[08:12] The Importance of Giving Back[09:27] Shelbie's Passion for Sports and Extracurricular Activities[11:05] The Value of Education and Continuous Learning[12:17] The Influence of Family on Financial Literacy[19:22] Curiosity and Its Role in Shelbie's Life[20:55] Shelbie's Love for Gaming and Its Connection to Curiosity[23:36] The Hustle, Budget, and Glow Podcast: Mission and Vision[26:10] Shelbie's Journey in Entrepreneurship and Financial Wellness[29:24] The Grind and Money Management[29:31] Interviewing Entrepreneurs[29:48] Talent and Passion in Business[30:23] Developing Grit and Passion[30:37] Managing Your First Dollar[30:55] Corporate America Experience[31:56] Effective Communication and Saving[32:04] Understanding Your Finances[34:09] Subscription Spending[36:36] Monthly Bills and Savings[37:32] Emergency Funds and Investments[38:57] Entrepreneurial Aha Moments[43:55] Manifestation and Vision Boards[52:18] Self-Care and Prioritizing Yourself[55:44] Final Reflections and Takeaways[58:24] Reflections and Insights Resources MentionedHouston Food BankHouston AstrosHead for the Cure for brain cancerMyers-BriggsJim CramerPlant FitnessDave RamseyRobert KiyosakiHustleBudgetGlow on YouTubeGrub It Up vegan bakeryHustleBudgetGlow@gmail.comShelbie Morgan on LinkedInBeauty PillProducer Ben Ford Questions AskedWhen did you first understand the power of questions?What did that look like as far as your parents encouraging you on in questions?What do you wanna wear today?What do you want for breakfast in the morning?What should I pack for your lunch?How do you think volunteerism has shaped how you're living life today?What might be some questions that might encourage kindness or you think might have informed how you exercise kindness in the world?Anything resonate there at all?What did you get out of it?Did you enjoy it?Did you have a good time? Would you do it again?What are the next steps for these less fortunate people?How are other people gonna show up for them in their lives beyond today?What else can we do next?What else can we do to help this person?How could you help them more, and in what way?Why do they have to live like this?What can we do?Why aren't people helping them like somebody do something?How does curiosity work into your life?How does that show up for you?When's the last time you played your game?What questions are not asked often enough about money?What are you spending your money on that you're not using?What are my bills?What am I spending each month on my bills?How much money do I have every two weeks?What do I have left to allocate at the end of each week, end of each month?What can I do with those funds?Why do I wanna save and invest this money?What does that overlap look like for you?How do I envision my life once I achieve these things?Is it gonna be more or less what you thought it would be?How are you gonna embody those things?There's so much beauty in this world, why not go see it?Were there any pivotal questions, whether it was mentors asking you or any questions that you asked yourself specifically, that helped you get to where you are today?Does this add value to my life?Does this bring peace?Do I feel like my nervous system goes into shock when I'm around this person or in this environment or doing this thing, or, do I feel joy and happiness and calm?When's the last time you betted on yourself?Where are the best places for folks to track you down and learn about the things that you're interested in?How can you create structured choice opportunities in your relationships or work to help others develop confidence and decision making skills?What consistent service commitment. Could you establish to stay connected to your community and maintain perspective on your own blessings?In what areas of your life are you still holding back from, showing up as your complete authentic self? And what would change if you did?What am I spending money on that I'm not using?What are my actual monthly bills and expenses?How much do I have left to allocate towards saving and investing?Why do I want to save and invest this money - what's the purpose?What is one essential question you could ask yourself weekly to maintain awareness and accountability in the areas of your life that matter most, whether that's finances, relationships, health, or personal growth?

Episode Notes[00:00 The Secret to Effective Interviewing01:08 Introduction to Curated Questions01:29 MK Palmore's Background and Career03:09 Joining the FBI: Initial Expectations03:59 The Importance of Interviewing Skills in the FBI05:08 Military Background and FBI Training05:55 Diverse Skills Program and Military Influence09:39 Practical Interview Training at the FBI15:12 Creating Psychological Safety in Interviews20:17 Building Trust and Effective Communication24:26 Developing Confidence and Overcoming Imposter Syndrome27:36 Public Speaking: Preparation and Mindset29:23 Engaging the Audience: Techniques and Strategies32:57 The Role of Questions in Professional Settings41:05 Leadership and Cybersecurity41:28 The Prevalence of AI in Conversations41:46 Challenges of Leadership in Tech42:03 The Impact of Poor Leadership42:44 Leadership Development in Companies43:15 The Importance of Investing in People44:19 Conversations with Small to Medium-Sized Organizations45:17 The Future of AI and Leadership46:08 AI as a Force Multiplier46:40 AI in Learning and Development47:42 Adopting AI in Business Processes48:51 The Disruption of AI in Various Industries55:27 Curiosity and Professional Growth58:52 People-Centered Leadership01:07:04 The Role of Reflection in Leadership01:12:00 Final Thoughts and Reflections01:16:12 Reflections and Insights Resources MentionedApogee Global RMSFederal Bureau of InvestigationUS Marine CorpsOcean VuongThe Daily episode with Ocean VuongMalcom GladwellHughes Network SystemsDwarkesh PatelKevin KellyMK Palmore on LinkedInLeadership Student NewsletterBeauty PillProducer Ben Ford Questions AskedWhen did you first understand the power of questions?Do you know what you were brought in for, or what specialty skills you brought to the table?What's on the ticket for this week?What's on the ticket for today?How many cases do I have?Were there any particular courses or books that the FBI uses to train the agents?What did some of that training look like?What were some of the ways that you kept that even keel?What are you doing internally to keep your cool?What set you apart, or why do you think that you were successful?What is the motivation that you have for leaning into the uncomfortableness?When did that process and that confidence start?What are a couple of components or examples of mind talk, or any of your other strategies?Any thoughts on the question that I just posed?Do you run through your CV before you give a talk so people know who you are?Do you just jump right into the topic to make sure that you grab them?How might you use questions in your preparation for a talk that you're gonna be doing or something that you're pulling together?What are they here to hear about?What do they think is going to be presented to them?What's the pain point that you have around this particular issue?Any particular questions that you found helpful or lines of thinking with questions that you found helpful in your conversations with folks?Can you help us figure that thing out?Is this something that you experience in your own organization?Who are the cybersecurity folks in the roomWhere's all of this going?What kind of position do we need to be in to protect against stuff that's gonna happen in the future?Does your technology work?What examples do you have of it working for other people?Can it be helpful to me?What questions are not being asked often enough in the cybersecurity world?How much of it can we ship?How much of it can we sell?How much of it can we make?What step would you encourage folks to take in understanding that element better?How has Curiosity played a role in delivering you to where you are today?Can I learn this?Can I then take what I've learned and then provide some learning to other people about it?Do you think curiosity is a skill that you can improve?What is a nuance that most people miss about people-centered leadership?What am I going to get done with this group of people that I have here?How comfortable do you think people feel in their current work environments to have those kinds of very transparent conversations with their bosses?What's next for me?What can I do to help you get there?What roles do questions and inquiry play in that process of leadership development?I had a rough interaction with someone. What role did I play? Or my baggage or my, positioning in that scenario, what role did I play in that?Do you go back and review your journals, and what is your process for how you use them?How do I reconcile my decision to do something really hard with what my reality is on the ground?What is your right now question?Have I done enough to go venture off on my own?Am I prepared?Have I done enough?Am I ready to put out my own shingle and do my own thing?

Episode Notes[00:00] Introduction and Career Advice[01:04] Host Introduction and Show Purpose[01:25] Tony Kennedy's Football Journey[02:47] Transition to Professional Football[04:05] Experiences with the Dallas Cowboys[06:32] First Impressions and Rookie Challenges[08:42] Memorable Moments and Regrets[11:59] Lessons from the NFL[15:00] Mentoring Young Athletes[17:27] Guiding Athletes Beyond Sports[18:36] Successful Transitions Post-Sports[20:10] Kennedy Sports Group Philosophy[20:35] Heartfelt Representation and Jerry Maguire[22:32] Overcoming Jealousy in Sports[23:47] Dealing with Career Transitions[25:35] Finding Confidence After Sports[27:29] Advice for New Athletes[28:24] The Reality of Professional Sports[29:25] Starting a New Career Path[29:43] Financial Planning for Athletes[30:51] Defining Success Beyond Wealth[31:56] The Importance of Leaving a Legacy[32:29] Mentorship and Vision[33:54] The Crab Bowl: A State All-Star Game[35:01] RX Sports: Pain Management Solutions[39:09] Final Thoughts and Reflections[40:36] Summary and Takeaways Resources MentionedKennedy Sports GroupRXSports.netDallas CowboysWashington CommandersMoneyball (Film)Jerry RiceEmmitt SmithMichael JordanKareem Abdul-JabbarShaquille O'NealMagic JohnsonJamal MashburnAlbert KingLarry BirdBarry SandersStudent Athlete Compensation NIL (Name, Image, and Likeness)Maryland Crab BowlHarriet Tubman MuseumUnder ArmourCannabidiol (CBD)Tetrahydrocannabinol (THC)Red EffectBlue MajicBeauty PillProducer Ben Ford Questions AskedWhen did you first understand the power of questions?Were there any particular questions that kind of shaped that journey for you or might have been impactful for you during those, various pivots or phases?What happens here?What happens there?What are we supposed to do when you are supposed to go from fifth round to whenever?What am I supposed to do?How are we supposed to act?What time we supposed to be here? Where do we live?What was that moment like for you?Why me?Why this time?Why did I go to one of their best teams in history, as far as how deep they were, the players?Were you in the headspace to even have that conversation?What are we going to do afterwards?What kind of questions are you using with these athletes as they're coming up?Can they run on the field?What questions might you be using to position yourself so that you are caring first and foremost for the athlete with the right mindset?Why am I doing this?Why am I waking up?Why am I calling this many people?Why am I here?Are you really happy for that person?Are you jealous that he made it?How did you work through that jealousy?Was it an issue for you?How did you get to that level of confidence?What might be some questions that you think athletes should be asking, whether this is early on or later on in a career?What do I wanna do?What is success?When you leave this earth, did they name a park after you? Did they name a school? Did they name a ward after you?How many people did you touch when you were here?Were there any mentors or coaches that used any particular questions with you that have stuck with you over the years or those are, might have been pivotal moments?Was there any particular questions that you used in evaluating these different opportunities?What do you see as the opportunity for folks with RX Sports?Do you have any other thoughts or encouragement about questions that we haven't necessarily explored?Who do you hang with?How can you apply the "What are we going to do afterwards?" question to a milestone in your life?What basic "Why" questions would it be helpful to revisit?What unresolved personal disappointments are sabotaging your service to others?

Episode Notes[00:00] Understanding the Real Reason Behind Lost Sales[01:00] Introduction to Curated Questions[01:37] Meet Patrick Dubois[02:41] The Power of Questions in Sales[06:18] Patrick's Journey into Sales[07:34] Early Sales Experiences and Challenges[09:33] Transition from Veterinary Aspirations to Sales[14:02] Lessons Learned in Sales[19:26] The Importance of Curiosity in Sales[23:18] Misconceptions About Sales[26:13] Sales Techniques and Strategies[40:18] The Role of Questions in Sales[46:16] Embracing Your Strengths[48:27] Understanding the Buyer's Perspective[50:13] Handling Rejections with Curiosity[52:02] The Importance of Matching Energy[54:50] Using Self-Deprecating Humor[58:25] Identifying and Embracing Your Values[01:09:44] The Role of Therapy in Self-Discovery[01:15:48] Balancing Multiple Passions[01:19:28] Navigating Business Challenges[01:23:26] The Power of Communication in Teams[01:26:19] Engaging with Patrick[01:28:04] Key Takeaways from the Conversation[01:28:16] Questions as Relationship Currency[01:28:58] The Power of Self-Discovery Resources MentionedSales Growth TodayStellar Ridge VineyardWhose Line is it AnywaySales Growth Today - ResourcesJames HarrietDiSCMyers-BriggsStrengthsFindersQBQ, The Question Behind The QuestionDr. Kelly Starrett at The Ready StatePatrick Dubois at LinkedInBeauty PillProducer Ben Ford Questions AskedWhen did you first understand the power of questions?What was the foundation for you to be able to succeed doing that?Are you sure?Where did you get some of your early sales training?How did you develop some of your own technique as you went through your career?What was one of those factors or the situation that drove you off that primary track?Hey, you're in the animal world, you know, what is it like being a rep, and what are the challenges?What were some of those early lessons that you learned as you were earning your stripes as a salesperson without all the training?Was curiosity your primary asset that you carried with you to each of those conversations?What are they really good at?Is this still a good time for us to talk?What kinds of questions do we ask right now?What's that customer going through right now that I need to find out what that is?What do you think that most folks might misunderstand about sales?What is not sales?Can I ask you questions about what you need?Would you like to buy my product or my services?Why should I give you my business?Are there any particular resources that you would point somebody that's new starting up?What are things that I do well that I don't know about, or that I should know about?Why did you ask that question?What does it do?How does it do it?What questions do you think are underutilized?What are some of the major challenges that this owner is facing?What would you want the rep to ask you?How can questions help identify and remove barriers?Is there a better time today, or is there a better time next week?How do I be more likable?What was it exactly that prevented you from buying from me, or using my product, or my services?What is your turn rate on that bottle?What has your profitability been so far?What's one or two of those good questions that you're able to turn things around with?Does he want a pen?How can we make that a little bit easier?What does that conversation look like at that point?Where can we come to visit?Where can we find your wine?What is your right now question?Is this gonna work?How's this going to go?How's this going to go for the year?

Episode Notes[00:00] The Importance of Questioning[01:21] Introduction to Curated Questions[02:20] Meet Kevin Kelly[03:56] Kevin Kelly's Mentor: Stewart Brand[05:33] The Role of Questions in Intellectual Traditions[06:47] Disequilibrium and Growth[10:21] Embodied Questions and Exploration[11:11] Balancing Exploration and Exploitation[11:50] The Inefficiency of Questioning[15:53] The Abundance Mindset[18:39] The Inevitable and Quality Questions[19:26] Hill Climbing vs. Hill Making[22:28] The Challenge of Innovation[24:13] The Beauty of Engineering and Innovation[24:34] Navigating the Frontier of New Technologies[25:33] The Role of AI in Question Formulation[26:43] Challenges in Advancing AI Capabilities[29:11] The Long Now Foundation and the 10,000 Year Clock[29:56] Transmitting Values Over Time[31:03] Ethics in AI and Self-Driving Cars[33:26] The Art of Questioning[34:04] Photography: Capturing vs. Creating[36:12] The Inefficiency of Exploration[38:36] Daily Practice and Long-Term Success[40:17] The Importance of Quantity for Quality[43:22] Final Thoughts and Encouragement on Questioning[46:24] Summary Takeaways Resources MentionedWired MagazineWhole Earth ReviewWELLHackers ConferenceWhat Technology Wants by Kevin KellyThe Inevitable by Kevin KellyCool Tools ProjectLong Now FoundationStewart BrandSocratic MethodKoanRené DescartesConde NastVougeOlivetti TypewriterTrolley ProblemTerry GrossLex FriedmanTim FerrissKK.orgKevin2Kelly on InstagramRecomendo NewsletterExcellent Advice for LivingBeauty PillProducer Ben Ford Questions AskedWhen did you first understand the power of questions?Can I do that?Can that be something that you can learn?How did questions function differently between Eastern versus Western intellectual traditions?What role do you think embodied questions those we explore through doing rather than thinking play in developing wisdom?What's on the other side of the hill?What happens if you go to the end?What's the origin of this?How should one think about the exploratory in one's life?Is there anything that you would add to your list of 15 statements that define what makes a quality question?Is there a qualitative difference between the questions humans are asking and the questions our AI systems are beginning to formulate?What do you think would help them get there?Any idea on a forcing function on how we get them [LLMs] to ask the better questions so that they might improve in that direction?What were some novel questions that broke your brain at the time in thinking about this 10,000-year clock or beyond?What's it good for?What would you use it for?What else could you do over the long term for 10,000 years?How do you transmit values over time?How do you evolve values that need to change, and how do you make a difference?How do even know what you don't want to change?What do you want to continue?What's the most essential aspects of our civilization that we don't want to go away?What are the rules?What is the system?How do you pass things along in time and not change the ones you don't wanna change, and make sure you change the ones that are more adaptable so they can adapt?What do you think about questioning itself as an art form?How has being a photographer influenced the way you question reality, visually compared to verbally?Are you a photographer that takes photos or makes photos?What will happen?What will happen next?What are your right now questions that you are wrestling with or working with in your life?Can someone else do what I'm trying to do here?Am I more me in doing my art or more me in doing the writing?Do you have any other thoughts or encouragement about questions that we haven't explored?What makes a good question?How do you ask a good question?What questions do you dwell on to be in purposeful imbalance?What is your practice in embracing the inefficient nature of questions to achieve breakthroughs?What are the new hills you can build and frontiers you can explore?How can you use your curiosity and humanity to pursue questions that trend toward the fringes?

Episode Notes [00:00]The Misleading Spark in Dating[00:47] Introduction to Curated Questions[01:35] Meet Tim Molnar: The Dating Strategist[02:21] The Power of Asking Better Questions[06:06] The Analytical Approach to Dating[08:34] Reverse Engineering Love[13:35] Picking A Date Number[15:40] Self-Awareness in Dating[18:12] Emotional Rewards and Protections[22:58] A Predictor of Long-Term Happiness[30:30] Healthy Relationships and Happiness[32:11] The Role of Dating Apps[35:48] Evaluating Potential Partners[38:03] Designing a Dating Process[39:25] Proactive Dating Strategies[40:32] Creating Rigid Implementation Intentions[41:40] Building Confidence Through Tracking Progress[43:05] The Role of Accountability in Taking Action[45:09] Handling Disappointment and Rejection in Dating[46:48] Understanding Ghosting and Its Implications[47:51] The Impact of Digital Communication on Empathy[48:53] Questions to Ask When Facing Rejection[53:28] The Role of AI in Modern Dating[54:17] Ineffective Questions in the Dating World[01:00:25] Probing Questions to Reveal Deal Breakers[01:02:37] Navigating Long-Term Relationship Changes[01:03:49] Creating Space for Relationship Growth[01:05:55] Balancing Self-Development and Dating[01:11:32] The Importance of Growth Mindset in Relationships[01:13:23] Hunting Field Mice or Antelope[01:20:42] Final Thoughts and Encouragement[01:23:07] Final Thoughts Resources MentionedDate Smarter: A Strategic Guide for Navigating Modern Romance by Tim MolnarDebbie MillmanJohn and Julie GottmanLove LabHarvard Study of Adult DevelopmentRobert WaldingerJames ClearAdam GrantRamit SethiNewt GingrichTim Molnar's websiteBeauty PillProducer Ben Ford Questions AskedWhen did you first understand the power of questions?Would you like a cookie?Can we please have a cookie today?Why the switch going from all things lawyer like over to this new world?Can you just give some background on what that looked like?How does that academic background influence your questions about dating?How might someone without research training develop similar analytical skills?How can I meet someone who's gonna be a great life partner for myself?What does my perfect day look like five years from now?What was I eating for breakfast?Where did I wake up?Who did I wake up next to?What type of books was I reading?What was my physical health like, my emotional health, my social health?Was I traveling?Was I active?What was I doing for work?What did my finances look like?Is there a way to reverse engineer that?Has there been research done on this?Would you be interested in going on a date with me?Can I have a light for my cigarette?Can I have directions?Would you like to go grab a coffee, go for a walk, or grab some dinner?What are those dating roadblocks?Have I been getting outside of the house?How does self-awareness inform one's approach to dating?What do you really want out of this?What do I actually need to get over just this next hurdle?What are the lowest-friction actions that we can take?What are some questions you work through with clients to help understand that?What emotional rewards, maybe even protections, did you learn to seek in your earliest relationships?How did I try to seek emotional reward?Was it every time I cleaned up my room?What kind of emotional protections did you need to develop?If you didn't do those, were there consequences?How do those inform what you're searching for in your current dating life?What am I trying to optimize for?Are there certain things that I've been trying to optimize for that are actually standing in the way of a healthy relationship?Was that healthy?What worked about it?What was right and loving and just, and then what perhaps may be a little off?How do you think about balancing that out, the feelings versus other metrics,Was there a spark here?Is there chemistry?How am I feeling in my body at the end of this date or during this date? Do I feel safe? Do I feel seen? Am I energized?Is this someone that I can make hard decisions with?When one of my parents, who's dealing with dementia, needs to make some difficult decisions around end-of-life care, is this someone I can do that with in a productive fashion?How does that connect with the analytical piece?Does this person make me feel like I'm on a rollercoaster?Is this person six feet?Does this person make a hundred thousand dollars?What types of questions can we be asking ourselves to suss these out earlier in the process?How important this is to you?When would we have met one another?How do you get a hundred thousand swipes?How does this person treat someone who they have nothing to gain or who they gain from?How is this person going to show up in three months or three years when things get difficult?How do I find my person?How do I design a dating process that reflects my values, protects my energy, and increases my odds?How do you proactively move that work outside of the home to some third space?How can you be the catalyst and the change maker to really galvanize that change?What is the behavior, when am I going to do this, and here is it going to happen?How can I improve my chances of taking action towards those steps that I've identified as being helpful for getting me to where I want to go?How do we encourage ourselves to get up at six in the morning and keep with our Monday, Wednesday, Friday gym schedule?How should they think about going forward?How do you work through that?What's a good way to navigate that moment?Can you tell grandma I'm not coming?What kind of questions can we ask ourselves to remind us that what is playing out is very often not about us?What could be going on here?How do I say this in a way that's tactful yet honest?What ineffective questions continue to be asked in the dating world?What religion are you?Do you do drugs?Are you addicted to meth, or do the occasional edible while you're out on a camping trip?What does that look like for you?What are your definitions?What are your traditions?Was this date at least a six out of 10?Am I willing to do this again?What role does surprise play in the dating relationship?What did you have here?What deeper probing questions might reveal these potential deal breakers earlier on?How can we investigate that?Is this someone who could be a good partner?Is that really what you're trying to optimize for, or can you ask thoughtful questions to determine your true values?What am I really wanting?How should one think about the longer term?Are there things that we should think about in these earlier days that might help us in later years?What kinds of questions can we ask on a day-to-day basis, or even week-to-week, month-to-month basis, to have that check-in that doesn't require three or five days?What's been on your mind lately that we haven't talked about?Not how much growth do you need to do before you're going to be ready to date, but who is the person that's going to help you grow, and who you're going to be able to help grow?Have you checked out where the local courts are?Are they looking for you to never change?Are you gonna be able to embrace change for your partner, is your partner gonna embrace it for you, and what does that look like?What does it look like to have some of those conversations?What questions do you personally carry and revisit?Am I hunting field mice or am I hunting antelope?Am I spinning my wheels doing things that give me that false feeling of productivity, but aren't likely to hit in a bigger way?Are you listening to anything good?Do you want me to go on ahead, or do you wanna go ahead, or do you wanna keep chattingDo you have any other thoughts or encouragement about questions that we haven't touched on yet?Where's the best place for folks to track you down and see what you're excited about and understand all that you've got going on?

Episode Notes[00:00] Introduction to Winning Behaviors[00:33] Welcome to Curated Questions[01:07] Meet Dave Reynolds[02:20] Dave's Leadership Journey[02:44] The Influence of Pablo[03:53] Pablo's Leadership Style[05:04] Learning from Pablo[06:44] Dave's Growth and Development[14:48] Rumin8 and Its Mission[15:09] Strategic Use of Questions[19:32] Discovery Phase in Consulting[23:25] Implementing Coaching Culture[27:36] The Art and Science of Questions[28:16] Radicle Growth Explained[38:06] Formal and Informal Coaching[46:11] The Power of Specific Feedback[47:38] Balancing Emotional and Logical Responses[48:47] Choosing the Right Medium for Communication[50:20] The Importance of One-to-One Coaching[50:29] Fostering Genuine Curiosity in Coaching[51:40] Going Beyond Surface-Level Questions[55:28] Proactive Coaching Preparation[57:23] Setting Expectations for Coachees[57:50] Holding Coachees Accountable[01:00:55] The Impact of Intensity in Coaching[01:01:46] Underutilized Questions in Coaching[01:05:03] The Value of Strengths and Opportunities[01:09:00] The Fish Under the Table[01:11:19] The Role of Questions in Leadership[01:17:54] Final Thoughts and Encouragement[01:21:42] Final Observations and Takeaways Resources MentionedRumin8 GroupRadicle Growth: Transform Into an Unstoppable Leader Through Mastering The Art of QuestionsPablo BattaroDamon JonesSusan Scott of Fierce ConversationsTiger WoodsJim RohnPareto PrincipleJim CollinsDave Reynolds on LinkedInRumin8 Group on InstagramBeauty PillProducer Ben Ford Questions AskedWhen did you first understand the power of questions?How did Pablo give you the space for the deep self-reflection that you mentioned?Do you have any idea where or how he developed that?Do you know any of that backstory to how he fell in love with questions?And what else?What do you think Pablo saw in you that you didn't?Did he have that kind of overt conversation with you, or was he just pulling you along through the process?Who's taking your replacement?Have you mentored them to perform at the same level you have?What did that look like for you, going through that almost apprenticeship, if you will, in learning?What are we focusing on?What are we going after?What was the most important thing we talked about?What was the commitment we made from the call?What should we be following up on?How are you doing?How's your family?How are the kids?How long were you with the organization and working in that relationship with Pablo?How are you using questions strategically at Rumin8?How do I wanna start putting this together?Do they know what their next role is?Is it clear?Do they have a plan?Is there a support?How is it that you choose the questions that you choose?What is your process for really understanding and getting to the most powerful questions that you can?What does the current coaching culture look like?How often are coaching conversations happening?Is there a specific KPI that they're talking about?How are people measuring success?What didn't we know before we started that we know now?Why is that data important to the objective that we want to accomplish?How do we do something long-lasting and long-term?Do you have a set of questions that you always go in with?Do you find that that's the case?How are the people connected to the process?How is process connected to performance?How is performance connected to the product?How have you seen that change the organizations?What do those changes look like?How do we get to that same destination by asking a question versus telling them what they need to do?Why do you think they put that sign up?What do you think is happening right now with the dynamic with your team?What part of what you're doing is feeding the ducks?how can we stop feeding the ducks and getting them to feed on their own?How do we reframe some of those questions so they're problem solving independently?How do we get them to be more proactive on how they're approaching scenarios?How do they, we get them to come with a solution versus ask for a solution?Where does a seed grow?Is it growing under the surface?How do you help them work through the shift?How has that conversation gone?How does the conversation go in helping a organization go from whatever they've been doing historically to really this being a part of the part of the culture?How many times are you coaching in between to influence the next time you come to the next formal?Are you coaching on the fly?Where do you think we could have improved with this section of the call?What's another phrase or what's another area that we could have tapped into?In between those two formal coachings, how often do they get off the line or off the road?When are we correcting them to kind of stay back on there and stay focused?How do we coach and develop informal coaching as a culture and as a system?How do we improve the forum on whether we are doing the right cadence?What would be the characteristics of that individual who chooses to walk the floor?Is that an introvert or extrovert thing?What are some of the files we're working on?What ones you're most excited about?How's the progress going?Is there anything that you've taken away from this file that has changed your perspective on how we should approach the strategy?Am I leaning into the uncomfortable conversations that I know I must have just on a daily basis?How many times have I been uncomfortable this week?What's the value of having the conversation?What's the fear about having the conversation?Why didn't you tell me last week?Why couldn't we have had this conversation last week?What's the most important conversation you should be having right now?When did you realize that you should be having that conversation?How's that conversation gone?How is the person gonna react now that there's this much delay?How's this gonna impact them?How do we want to have the conversation?How do we not make it reactive?How do we get them to own the conversation, own the next steps?Is that an emotional response or is that a logical response?How does that sound?Is this something we should pick up the phone and have that conversation?How do we really curate the right conversations in the right environment with the right amount of timing in a logical sense?How does a coach move past boilerplate questions and foster genuine curiosity in the coaching relationship?How can you do that intentionally to really foster the curiosity such that those follow up questions are genuine?How are sales?Where are you at for the month?What was the goal you set?What are you trending for the month?How do we get deeper into the actual conversation?Did we get ownership over the conversation?Do we increase the value in the relationship?Do we have a plan?What is often elusive in a coaching relationship?What do you expect your coachee to come prepared for the session?Is the coach willing to hold the coachee accountable for not doing that?Where are you at in this relationship?Where are they thinking right now about their growth strategy?What questions do you think might be underutilized, whether it's this particular question or a group of questions?How do you measure success?Why is that important and how often are you measuring it?And are you successful right now?What's the one thing that you're not doing that if you were doing, you would see more growth and progress?Why are we avoiding it?What's the challenge?How do we make it consistent?What's the one behavior that you do on a regular basis that is the highest level of ROI?What's the thing you do that gives you the most growth?What does winning the day look like?Where are you bringing the most value?What is your secret sauce that you bring to the table?How are we positioning ourselves to unleash that every day, such that the world has a better place as a result of us showing up with this talent and skill?What kind of questions do you carry with you and revisit that are just a part of who you are?What are your biggest strengths and why?How did you get strong in that area?How are you evaluating your strengths?how are you utilizing your strength?It's not a matter of how can I make my weakness, my strength?How do I improve my strengths, and how can I optimize it more?How many people have you shared that strength with that could learn from you in that particular category? 'What do you see as your biggest opportunity for growth right now?If you were coaching yourself, what feedback would you give on your biggest gap or your biggest opportunity?Why is that such an important opportunity for you?How would that help you?What would be the impact on your career?Why is coaching important in your role?Why is it important to you?Who benefits from you being a better coach?If you were to master that skill, how would that help you within this organization or beyond?What's a conversation that you're not having that you should be having and with who?How did the conversation go?How quickly can you get the fish on the table and have that conversation?How do you want to approach that relationship?Do you have a system that holds you accountable for having that conversation?How am I leading today?How could I lead differently through Radicle Growth approach?Do I have the right follow-up systems?How can I ask a question?How can I turn this into a question?How can I lead with questions versus telling people what they need to do?How do I influence my teams or the people I work with from being dependent to more independent?What is your right now question or questions?How do I add the most value to every interaction that I have this year, this day, this week, this month?Where am I adding value?How am I adding value?How is value being perceived?Do I feel like I added value to everybody they interacted with today?Where could I have added more value?Did they perceive that as valuable?How do you mirror as a strategy?How do you paraphrase?

Episode Notes[01:13] Meet Lisa Wimberger: A Story of Resilience[06:22] The Lightning Strike Incident[08:34] Living with Seizures: A Hidden Struggle[11:01] The Turning Point: Embracing Inquiry[16:52] Discovering Neurosculpting[19:19] The Power of Neuroplasticity[21:37] Creating the Five-Step Process[24:05] Implementing the Protocol[28:30] Refining Meditation with Neuroscience[34:25] Dangers of Meditation for Dissociative Nervous Systems[36:16] Understanding the Freeze Response[39:36] Predisposition to Freeze and Early Trauma[41:47] Personal Trauma and Resilience[44:08] The Power of the Nervous System[48:16] Balancing Modern Inputs with Nervous System Health[51:29] Working with Police and First Responders[55:56] The Role of Questions in Healing[01:00:49] Living with Courage and Purpose[01:04:20] Final Thoughts and Encouragement[01:07:26] Episode Reflections and Summary Resources MentionedNew Beliefs, New Brain by Lisa WimbergerNeuroplasticityDr. Michael MerzenichNeurosculpting.comNeurosculpting on InstagramNeuroPraxis on Apple PodcastGurudev Sri Sri Ravi ShankarArthur C BrooksBeauty PillProducer Ben Ford Questions AskedWhen did you first understand the power of questions?What would it be like if we could go?What kind of questions were with you between that lightning strike and neurosculpting?What is going on with me?Something's wrong with me; what could that be?How could I get more in touch with well-being?Everyone else seemed to not care at all, so why should I?What was your process for really diving into the questions that got you to the pathway of, as you say, your destiny, your purpose?What if it isn't normal to have these kinds of seizures where I need to be resuscitated?Where can I find out more?What can I learn in order to intervene here?What resources do I already have that could support a practice that could move me in the direction neuroplasticity says I can go?How can I adapt them and fill in the gaps they're missing so that I'm using sound neuroscience principles to position my nervous system so that I can rewire it towards healing?What could my body do differently?What does this wanna do in the world now?What does Neurosculpting need in order for it to get to more people?What is missing from it?How do I recruit the prefrontal cortex activation?What is the percentage of the population that fall into that category that traditional meditation may be less helpful because they fit into this category?Who are you going to rush to help?How much can this be learned or amplified based on the environment or conditioning that occurs beyond mere predisposition?What makes you predispositioned?How do you use questions to help folks adopt these new modalities outside of the mainstream?How do I get this to the people who need it?Would you like to get into that nervous system and find a little bit more resilience?Are you a human?Do you have a nervous system?How does this most effectively serve the police force?Where does that really resonate with them?Just because it was true, then, is it true now?How might questions be used for healing or interrupting the stories that we tell ourselves?What do you do to relationships when you're not present to what they are now and you keep referencing 10 years ago?What do you do when a new neighbor moves in and they look just like "that kind of person," and you have no present time experience with that human?What questions are you currently wrestling with or working through?How can I show up  more to be a catalyst for harmonious human community and growth and connectivity?How can I do that?Do you have any other thoughts or encouragement about questions that we didn't cover that came to mind as we prepared for this conversation?Where is the best place for folks to engage with you and find out what you're excited about?How can you inspire this same sense of urgency to encounter this unique power for the challenges in your life?What areas require a pattern interrupt in your life?What are the right questions to ask to cause it?What untapped resources are available to you to solve existing problems?