We’re told that self-care is essential to our well-being; it’s practically a duty! But it’s easy to confuse self-care with self-indulgence–and while indulgences can be fun, they don’t necessarily improve our well-being. In this episode, we explore the difference between self-care and self-indulgence, so that you can make sure that the time, energy, and money you spend on self-care is actually moving you toward your goals.  Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

For example, you’ve decided you want to start exercising after work, or you’ve resolved to not drink wine on the weekdays or to cut out the pastry that you always order with your afternoon coffee. You have lots of good reasons for doing this. You’re convinced it’s in your best interests. But when the moment to follow through on that plan comes, you have a thought that somehow justifies NOT following through. It’s been a long day. Or, you deserve a treat. Or, it’s too late to get in a full workout so why bother. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

Quitting can start to become a habit--or even part of our identity. But so can Not Quitting. Which habit and identity would you rather strengthen? Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

Takeaways:Frustration is not necessarily a sign that things aren’t going well. By working through frustration, you have created more durable learning.Reframing the feeling of frustration as a positive sign can make it less frustrating and more fruitful.Frustration is actually an opportunity to refine your thinking or beliefs, to set up more robust systems or revise your tactics - and to really learn. Mentioned: Is Frustrated Learning Key To Building Creative Problem Solving Skills?Lab ExperimentThe next time you feel frustrated, stop and ask yourself what your frustration telling you. What data is it conveying?  How can you use either that information–or the feeling of frustration (which is a desire for change)–to fuel positive growth? Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

When people are trying to achieve a certain goal or outcome, they often look for a regimen to follow. After all, that's how we've been trained to approach these things. And while a set of rules or instructions may help you create a specific result, it rarely leads to long-term change. For that, we believe you need more than a regimen. You need a system. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

A lot of us have a vision of ourselves in 10 or 20 years. But what we don't realize is that future is (or isn't) being created RIGHT NOW. Every day.  We think we're going to get started on our healthy habits or whatever actions are going to help us reach our goals–"soon."  The problem is that "soon" never comes–unless soon becomes NOW. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

The reason we asked Marieka on this episode is that we think it’s really valuable for you, someone who is in the process of making big changes (in any area of your life) to have concrete evidence that change really is possible (even when it’s a change you’ve been trying to make for a long time!) Monica and I can give you advice like crazy and assure you that “this stuff works” but it means a lot more coming from someone who has experienced it from the other side. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

Questions to Ask YourselfHow invested are you in success/solutions (as opposed to excuses/rationalizations)? Do you really want to create this outcome or do you just want to say you “tried”? What have you already tried and why didn’t it work—or why did it work only partially or temporarily? Did you experience some taste success but feel like you need help to get over that last hurdle--or move up to the next level?Are you feeling overwhelmed or stymied by the number of choices and glut of information available to you? This can manifest itself as short attempts at many different approaches - none of which are given a chance to have an impact. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

You’re listening to the Change Academy podcast, so we assume that you have some sort of aspirations or goals. Things about your health or your habits or your lifestyle that you’d like to change. A vision for a future that’s a little different–and a little better–than the reality of today. But if you’ve been listening for a while, and not much has changed, you may be suffering from consumption.  And we don’t mean the old-fashioned disease that all the heroines of 19th-century opera die of. Our challenge for each and every listener of this podcast is to send us an email this week. Tell us three things:1) what you most want to create in your life that is not yet a reality.2) how long you’ve wanted this3) What action you are taking this week to move toward itWe will respond to every email we get. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

You may remember meeting Molly in episode #49 of the Change Academy, where we talked about changing the unchangeable.Molly first shared these basketball life lessons with her newsletter subscribers a little while back and we immediately wrote to ask her if she’d be willing to record them for you–because we think you will appreciate them as much we did. If you enjoy this little tidbit of Molly’s work, be sure to check out her Alcohol Minimalist podcast wherever you listen–or visit her website mollywatts.com Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★