EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

Every interaction is either a deposit or withdrawal from your partner's "love account". Meaning, every little remark you make or thing you say either deposits love and connection or it takes some away. The thing is, less "love deposits" are made for couples who are together a while or find themselves in busy seasons of life. Most couples will go through seasons like these where they need to be making more deposits but they are actually making more withdrawals unconsciously. This isn't just a relational "nice idea" because the level of your love accounts determines how on edge, reactive, and snappy you are to each other. The hardest thing about having a low account is that you are much less willing to do the thing you need, to fill it back up… Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) *It would be an amazing baby gift if you would leave a review for the book. As content creators, that is a huge deposit into our love accounts!*

There has always been a focus on the future that we each want to create. As a couple this can be in the form of setting goals or establishing your vision statement. This is a great thing because you can't get anywhere if you don't know where you want to go. But sometimes this can leave you feeling disappointed that you are "not there yet" or be discouraged when you feel you are not making as much progress as you would like. In this solo episode with Aaron you will hear how there is a gap that gets created from this thinking, which can cause you to feel more disappointed about the relationship, when really you just need to change a particular focus. You will hear how you can close the gap between where you want to be and where you are now, so that you are not left feeling discouraged about your current relationship or your partner. You will easily gain appreciation and gratitude by making this one small shift. Episode Resources & Links: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) The Gap and The Gain book by Ben Hardy HERE

The Danish people have ranked as the "happiest people on earth" for 40 years in a row starting in the 70's, only to be rivaled by Norwegian and Finish people over the last several years. And their happiness isn't dependent on things like: the weather or low taxes (it's actually pretty cold and dark there, and they have relatively higher taxes)....so they must be doing something else right to be so happy. So in today's episode we cover 3 of the traits that they focus on to be the happiest people. Many of the traits we KNOW are critical to having a happy marriage. Of course just being a happier individual will lead to a happier relationship, but you will be able to know exactly what traits to improve in your relationship, so that your own happiness is intentional and not just based on better life circumstances. Episode Resources & Links: If you're a parent, attend the WebClass taught by parenting expert, Amy McCready, on November 10th. Details and registration HERE. Read the book we referred to in the podcast, The Danish Way of Parenting HERE Read our book, The Argument Hangover and claim $200 worth of bonuses HERE. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Episode Resources & Links: FREE Parenting WebClass with Amy McCready on November 10th HERE Hypnobabies Program for Natural Birth HERE Pelvic Floor Birth Program (One Strong Mama) HERE The Conscious Parent book by Dr Shefali HERE Video on baby communication sounds HERE Elimination Communication (Go Diaper Free) HERE There are many ways to parent a child and even the way of "let's just figure it out as we go". We wanted to take this episode to share with you about our prep for becoming parents this coming December. As we are so into communication and emotional intelligence between couples, you shouldn't be surprised that we are learning about how to do that with our own daughter. Of course reading and listening is not the same as the "as lived experience", there are a number of philosophies and parenting guidelines that we are committed to implementing so that we can be truly conscious parents. Being conscious parents will allow us the best opportunity to raise a conscious child. By no means are we saying we will be perfect or that we are judging any other ways of parenting, we just wanted to be open with you all about our journey and to even see the correlations to being a great partner. We believe that if you want your children to have great relationships, you have to have one yourself! In this episode, we discuss: Our preparation for natural birth and helpful programs Non-mainstream techniques for parenting intentionally Conscious parenting and raising her to be the best version of herself Developing "Emotional Intelligence" in our parenting approach (just like our marriage) What we've learned from different cultures (outside the United States) for developing happy human beings Additional Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

If you are a parent (or soon to be) you must attend the FREE Webinar with our guest Amy McCready on November 10th at OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com/parenting because she's takes all the topics today even deeper to the specific how-tos! As you can already tell we have a guest on this episode and it's none other than nationally renoun parenting expert Amy McCready! Amy is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, parenting contributor on the TODAY show, best-selling author, and creator of The 7-Step Parenting Success System that has helped over 100,000 parents of toddlers to teens bring peace into their homes. During this episode you will hear: What to do if you disagree on your parenting philosophy like authoritative vs her method of Positive Parenting Solutions What to do if triggered by your kids and preventing an argument with partner and How to make sure your partnership AND your parenting thrives at the same time. Don't forget to register for the follow-up FREE Webclass that Amy is doing for our community only at: onlinecouplesworkshops.com/parenting On the webinar you will get: The 5 Steps for No-Yelling consequences ALL parents can agree on How to find common parenting ground — even if it feels like a battlefield 3 action steps you can take TODAY to unite in parenting Resources For Your Relationship: If you missed the Nov. 10th webinar... Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Every one of us humans has needs that need to be fulfilled to have a good life. Part of this search to fulfill these needs is what leads you to get into a relationship in the first place. You might think about survival type needs to begin with like food and shelter, but these are emotional needs that all of us seek to have fulfilled. Since these 6 needs are emotionally based it can be easy to not pay attention to them which leads to it being easy to let them decline. Though it isn't immediately obvious, the lack of these needs is what leads us to all our actions. When they are low in a relationship, it can lead to taking small innocent actions that lead to bigger issues of trust and disconnection. In this episode you will hear the 6 human needs that were made famous by a Tony Robbins TED talk, but you will hear examples of how this places out in your relationship. We give you two actions to take to figure out your top two needs and the way to make sure you are always on top of where your partner's level of fulfillment is at. Resources For Your Relationship: Get 50% OFF The On-The-Go Communication Course to enhance your communication skills, even during your busy life, by using the code: PODCAST About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Be honest: have you and/or your partner been nit-picking, critiquing or questioning each other more lately? Being real, we have noticed this in our own relationship over the last couple of weeks and it's something we're bringing awareness to shifting between us. We noticed that these additional (and mostly unnecessary) remarks to each other were leaving us feeling unaccepted by each other. Not only that, but also a bit depleted and more on edge around each other at home. Maybe you've felt this too? In this episode we cover: The bigger "danger" of the build up of nit-picking and questioning each other 2 critical mindset shifts to make within yourself so you're not doing this to your partner too much 3 simple, but powerful questions to ask yourself in the moment before you make the remark Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) We talked about knowing what is important in the moment, and our communication audio course has the best skill for you to determine the real level of importance. Check out the Communication Course for yourself! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How many of your past arguments and conflicts actually get fully repaired? Do you feel that from every emotional impact, your partner has fully understood you, that they acknowledge the role they played in you feeling that way, and you believe things will be put in place to make the necessary change for it to not happen again? These are just some of the points that need to happen to fully repair from a conflict in your relationship. Just saying I'm sorry to move on often doesn't cut it. In this episode we will share about a shocking and surprising life event that happened this week and how it shows us that we do not have life to waste being unresolved about conflicts in our marriage. You will feel the same level of urgency to not waste your life being disconnected or resentful toward your partner and have key ways to improve your "apology" so that you truly repair from any challenge and emotional impact in your life! Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here. There are some misconceptions about resolving conflicts in a relationship. What doesn't actually resolve anything is trying to jump right to a solution, or distracting yourself long enough where the high level of emotion has subsided. This will only build into resentment or at a minimum, start to seed disconnection and discontent within the relationship. In today's podcast episode you'll hear: The 3 questions to ask yourself to actually start the repair process and not have lingering emotions get stored up for you to react to later. Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here. You cannot blame your behavior in the "mid-conflict" stage on your partner! Nope, you must take ownership of your patterns if you're going to have any chance of changing them. But that's why we call them patterns….because patterns can be changed and you aren't stuck a certain way! In today's podcast episode you'll hear: The importance of humbling yourself and taking ownership of your default patterns during conflict What happens to your brain when emotion kicks in Steps to break these destructive patterns in the mid-conflict stage Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.