EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

Register for the FREE Communication WebClass TONIGHT April 12th If you are in Arizona, or close to, registrations for the in person Couples Workshop in Arizona on May 12th, 2022 is now open! About the Episode: You've had this thought in the middle of an argument right, "what are we really arguing about right now?" This is a very common feeling about being lost or unclear about what is being fought about or what started it. If you think about it, when you find yourself in a place like this, is it likely you can easily find your way out if you don't even know what got you here? Likely not! But this is not just you, arguments have different layers and if you are unclear, like even about what your desired outcome is, how can you expect to be anything but confused and ineffective?! That's why in today's episode you are going to hear our takeaways from the book "Thank you for arguing" and how we even used it to understand more about an argument we had (yes it's true we have arguments ourselves!). As you will hear though, all relationships have arguments but there is one key that leads to a healthy relationship, or ones that eventually end! On top of that you are going to hear the 3 sources of arguments as well as the 3 methods of arguments so that you can better navigate arguments in your own relationship and bring them to a win-win resolution to be more connected and understanding of each other. Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) The referenced book for the episode: Thank You For Arguing by Jay Heinrichs

NEW COMMUNICATION WEBCLASS on April 12th 2022: Don't miss this live weblcass to end frustrating patterns and better understand each other. https://onlinecouplesworkshops.com/ Is the following communication pattern at all familiar to you? Partner A- attempts to share a feeling or need. Partner B- wasn't prepared and then gets defensive. Partner A- gets triggered by the response and feels invalidated. Partner B- starts shutting down and disengaging. Partner A- gets reactive and brings up the past or blames. Partner B- retreats and withdraws their attention, energy and love for a day or even a few. Imagine if you could finally break this pattern! That is what this episode is all about and you will see a key way to interrupt this pattern to go from disconnection and frustration to connection and understanding. Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You know those moments when you're frustrated or disappointed in your partnership? Have you thought about what the ROOT cause of the frustration is? Don't worry, most people we talk to haven't identified it, which is why we're covering it on today's episode. This principle will be ESPECIALLY helpful if you tend to run into the same thing over and over again or you feel like "we'll never see eye to eye on this." By the end of this episode, you will know exactly what to reflect on personally AND discuss to help eliminate most upsets. Also, schedule a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. We take you through our powerful expectation process and you will know how to handle things differently together. Read the details and book one of the 5 spots HERE. Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

All relationships go through seasons of adjustments when "bigger" life events happen. The goal isn't to avoid big life events or challenges, or even try to just make it through it. These seasons are the opportunities to grow the most in your relationship. To do that however you will have to be more flexible, proactive in your communication, and have more grace for each other so that you stay together and not have the event create separation. Our big life event has been having our baby, who is now 3 months old! Many of you are of course interested in our specific parenting updates around what is working well for us, what challenges we have faced, and how we have gotten even closer together. In this episode you will hear just that, but also the tools that we use ourselves so that you too can maintain your connection no matter what life season you find yourself in. Resources For Your Relationship: You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Parenting Resources From Episode: Dreamland swaddles & blankets - 20% OFF EVERYTHING using code: Freemans15 Go Diaper Free elimination communication book and potty training program Wonder Weeks - developmental leaps app Taking Cara Babies newborn programs

We posted this question on IG and got a TON of interesting comments. A bit of a range in answers from "NOPE, definitely not" to "Shouldn't we focus on sacrificial love and put others before ourselves"? So we're going to address some of the nuances of the comments and some specific points to really answer this question. We admit that like a few comments, it's not just a yes or no answer. So in this episode we will cover what needs to be in place and how can needs/wants get communicated to not run into having to sacrifice but find what is best for the relationship. Resources For Your Relationship: Sign-up for the 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Not too many people have the most ideal relationship that they would like. Even if your relationship is going well, you are on the same page about the direction of life, you have the jobs and life that you enjoy and you manage things well together... there is still a place you would like to be even a little better. It might seem like this has been a sticking place for a longer period of time and it seems like it is difficult to really make that change. The reason is that this is a subconscious pattern driving the same actions and reactions within you. In this episode you will hear how to initially access this subconscious pattern and then identify where (in your past with your parents) this is coming from. Resources For Your Relationship: The nature of this subconscious pattern makes it difficult to identify and change on your own. So if you would like support in this area you can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) PS: for a limited time if you review the book on Amazon, you can be entered into a drawing for a free course from our Empowered Couples University!

Intimacy is a huge part of a relationship and if you have been listening here for a little while, you know we are big on both emotional intimacy through communication as well as physical intimacy. For many partners too, if emotional intimacy is missing it's hard to want to be physically intimate let alone be able to explore and expand this area. We are always learning and open to expand any of our own limits and boundaries in our own relationship From society you probably think of sex mostly as penetration, or from the purely sexual dynamic. But that's often rushed without the consideration of the other styles of intimacy. When the energetics aren't there often the sex isn't that satisfying. There is a subtle and critical interplay with the energy between a couple that can quickly deflate an intimate interaction. In this episdoe you will hear the profound lessons we learned as we went through the practice together during an intimacy/power dynamic sub/dom class on our trip to Hawaii. Resources For Your Relationship: FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice! Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice! Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful. So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that women feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that women are experiencing in mariages right now! Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice! Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful. So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that men feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that men are experiencing in mariages right now! Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts Feb 7th, 2022. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship and even get a FREE book! Ever wonder WHY your partner does things the way they do? Or maybe why they WON'T do something a certain way (like the way you asked them to)? The latter is more likely to happen which is then what leads to saying something like "I would like you to stop _____ " or "why can't you just _____". In either case you are looking for a change in behavior. When it doesn't happen, you just get more frustrated. Todays' episode will reveal the deeper way to understand their psychology and what drives their choices and actions. Plus, it'll help you understand yourself more as well and why you even do the things you do (or don't do)! Think of todays' episode as the only way you can ever really change a pattern you feel stuck with. Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.