Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education

In this episode, DB talks with Amy and April from the FANTASTIC podcast Shameless Sex! It's the final episode of Season 12 all about pleasure, and we're talking all about blowjobs (or blowies -- or blobbies?)! Let's dispel some myths and talk all about how blowjobs can be pleasurable for everyone involved. Content warning This episode discusses coersion around oral sex -- both oral sex that has been coerced, and oral sex as a tool to coerce. To avoid this conversation, skip from minute 14 to minute 20. Take care of yourselves! Guest Details Amy is a Sex and Relationship Coach, Certified Sex Educator, lead educator for Uberlube, and was voted both 2022’s and 2024's Sexpert of the Year. April is a Certified Sex Educator, Vice President of a sex toy company called Pipedream, and was also voted 2024's Sexpert of the Year. Together, Amy and April combined forces to create the Shameless Sex podcast, inspiring radical self-love, sexual empowerment, and shame-free intimacy. To learn more or to order their latest book Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path to Unlock the Sex Life You’ve Been Waiting For, go to shamelesssex.com Product details Some products we mentioned in this episode: Überlube (SEXEDWITHDB for 10% off) The Magic Wand Waterproof throw Tenga Eggs Wicked Sensual Care butterscotch-flavored lube JIMMYJANE Hello Touch Pro finger vibes Use code SEXEDWITHDB for 15% off at Lion’s Den! ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.comSubscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

In this episode, DB talks to a real couple living in long-term monogamy and still getting so much pleasure and chemistry from each other. This couple's story is so sweet and fascinating, with some interesting twists and turns, culminating in a sensual routine that helps them stay connected. Looking to get that spark back with your partner? This couple's solutions may be less "spiced up" than you'd expect. Between Us is a new episode format where we speak with folks living through what some of our experts from other episodes have discussed! We're excited to bring you more intimate, one-on-one conversations with real people living their real lives about how sex and sex ed impact them every day. Learn more about the Bluebella Community Campaign here!www.bluebella.com/modern-sensuality ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.comSubscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

In this episode, DB talks with Dr. Lexx about SO many different kinds of pleasure and how to keep pleasure centered in a long-term monogamous relationship. It isn't always just about sex -- pleasure can come from so many different parts of our lives, our senses, and our relationships with others. Let's learn about all the different types of pleasure we can embrace right here right now. As Dr. Lexx says: pleasure is a birthright! (Editor Wil note: updated audio!) Guest Details Dr. Lexx is a premiere sexologist leading the field of sexuality with shame free sex education and innovative sex therapy skills. As an AASECT certified sexuality educator and supervisor, Dr. Lexx provides education and therapy from womb to tomb through her practice The Institute for Sexuality & Intimacy, LLC, keynotes, panels, and curriculum design. ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.comSubscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

This week, DB reflects on last week's fantastic conversation with Certified Sex Therapist Claire Perelman. Let's take a moment to really unpack jealousy and envy, no matter if you're ENM or monogamous. What does jealousy say about us -- and what does it not? There's a sense of shame around jealousy that we can move past using our emotional honesty and by naming what we're feeling. Plus: a vocab lesson on jealousy versus envy. They're different! JEALOUSY SCRIPTS YOU CAN STEALWhen jealousy pops up mid-scroll: “Hey love, I’m feeling a jealousy pang. I’m going to take 10 minutes to breathe and journal, then could we do a quick check-in about Friday’s plans? I think I need a clearer start/stop time so I can plan something for me.” When you need reassurance without rules: “I’m not asking you to stop seeing them. I’m asking for a reassurance ritual--a goodnight text and a Saturday morning debrief. That would help my nervous system a lot.” When you want to celebrate your partner but still have feels: “I’m happy you had a great date, and I’m noticing some jealousy in me. Could we carve 30 minutes tomorrow for us? I want to reconnect.” Repair after a jealous blow-up: “I got flooded and got snappy. I’m sorry. The story in my head was ‘I’m being replaced.’ Here’s what I’m going to try next time: pause, breathe, then ask for a check-in.” ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.comSubscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

In this episode, DB talks with Claire Perelman all about the pleasure of non-monogamy! ENM, polyamory, swingers, monogam-ish -- there's so many ways to be non-monogamous, and so many reasons living a life outside of monogamy can be a tremendous joy. Non-monogamous listeners, we see you! Monogamous listeners, this is a great moment to learn about what makes ENM so appealing to so many. Guest Details Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish, Certified Sex Therapist and Educator living and working in the Bay Area. She is passionate about creating accessible sex education and normalizing play, pleasure, and sexuality through her work with clients, workshops, and across social media. Like many therapists, she channeled her greatest source of pleasure and heartbreak into her area of focus, leading her to specialize in relationships, sex, and intimacy for couples, individuals, and polycules. You can find her at @sexclarified (on all platforms) and www.sexclarified.com ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.comSubscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

In this episode, DB talks with TammyJo Eckhart, a BDSM activist who's here to dispel some myths about M/s, or Master/slave, relationships -- in the long-term! Don't let the title fool you; just like all BDSM discussed here at Sex Ed with DB, TammyJo talks about how not only can M/s relationships be consensual, but also caring, freeing, and therepeutic for everyone inolved. Between Us is a new episode format where we speak with folks living through what some of our experts from other episodes have discussed! We're excited to bring you more intimate, one-on-one conversations with real people living their real lives about how sex and sex ed impact them every day. Guest Details TammyJo Eckhart has been a BDSM activist, author, and educator since 1989. Her fiction work crosses genres including contemporary, fantasy, historical, horror, and science fiction. Eckhart lives as the head of her poly, omnisexual, and kinky household. Join her on Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/tammyjoeckhart) or check out her website (https://tammyjoeckhart.com/). ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.comSubscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

In this episode, DB talks with Midori, a sex eduator and artist who focuses on domination and power play for anyone who identifies as a woman. What does femme domination look like -- and why can it be so intimidating to tap into? Learn to tap into your domme side with tips from Midori on how to get there, and why domming is often so much simpler and sweeter than people might think. Guest Details Midori (she/her) is an educator, artist, and provocateur reshaping how we understand kink, consent, and connection. For over three decades, she has inspired people around the world to explore desire with courage, curiosity, and a touch of mischief. Born in Japan and forged in 1990s queer San Francisco, she brings a multicultural perspective to topics like Shibari, power dynamics, and playful negotiation. Founder of ForteFemme and Consent Dojo, she trains mental health professionals, educators, and everyday people in kink expertise, cultural competence, and trauma-informed care, making learning both profound and delightful. Event listing and all that Midori offers: https://planetmidori.com/ For great resources, class videos, live zoom events, and more : https://www.patreon.com/c/PlanetMidori ForteFemme Women’s Dominance Intensive: https://www.fortefemme.com/ -- Register for upcoming intensive! November 14-16, 2025 Midori's socials https://bsky.app/profile/planetmidori.bsky.social https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/ https://www.facebook.com/PlanetMidori/ https://substack.com/@planetmidori Midori's books Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage - https://www.twistedmonk.com/collections/bondage-education-books/products/seductive-art-of-japanese-bondage/?rfsn=264649.d9eeca Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink - https://www.therippedbodice.com/aff/hello_34966/book/9781881943228 Silk Threads: Three Tales of Passionate Japan - https://www.therippedbodice.com/aff/hello_34966/book/9781626015302 An Intersectional Approach to Sex Therapy: Centering the Lives of Indigenous, Racialized, and People of Color - https://www.routledge.com/An-Intersectional-Approach-to-Sex-Therapy-Centering-the-Lives-of-Indigenous-Racialized-and-People-of-Color/Malone-Stewart-Gary-Smith-Wadley/p/book/9780367471958 Fundamental Concepts and Critical Developments in Sex EducationIntersectional and Trauma-Informed Approaches - https://www.routledge.com/Fundamental-Concepts-and-Critical-Developments-in-Sex-Education-Intersectional-and-Trauma-Informed-Approaches/Malone-Gilbert-Dukes-Fonte/p/book/9781032615431 DB is proud to be an affiliate of The Ripped Bodice! We may receive a percentage of profits from books purchased using our link. Thank you for supporting us by shopping The Ripped Bodice! ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.comSubscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

In this episode, DB talks with her friend Beatrice (aka Triss) about sex after gender affirming surgery. If you think you know what "bottom surgery" means, you might have more to learn than you think! Hear from Triss about her choice to get an orchiectomy, how the surgery and recovery went for her, and the changes she's experienced since -- plus, her ritual for the wet specimen she took home with her. Between Us is a new episode format where we speak with folks living through what some of our experts from other episodes have discussed! We're excited to bring you more intimate, one-on-one conversations with real people living their real lives about how sex and sex ed impact them every day. Guest Details Beatrice (better known online as Triss) is a Bay Area based Mexican American musician and maker. She's been out as a proudly sapphic trans woman since 2015. As an ADHD brain with an endless thirst for fun facts, Beatrice will happily nerd out over music, video games, DIY electronics, and sex (among other things).  You can catch her tearing up the stage with her band Dirty Twenties (@dirtytwentiesband) and/or watch her solo projects on TikTok (tiktok.com/@trisstunes) and YouTube (youtube.com/trisstunes)." Listen to "Force Femme Your Dad" by Dirty Twenties!   ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.comSubscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

In this episode, DB talks with Jamie Joy, a trans sex educator, to talk all things trans sex. Trans listeners, tune in for some fascinating conversations on things like hormones and finding what feels right for you. Cis listeners, there's tips for you too -- not just on how to give pleasure to your trans partner regardless of their anatomy, but how you might find more joy in yourself as well! This is a vital time to be tuning in to what our trans communities need, inside and outside of the bedroom. Guest DetailsJamie Joy (they/them) is a queer trans Jewish certified sex educator whose life and work is committed to spreading joy, consent, and pleasure through community organizing. They have been educating on a wide range of topics related to sex and sexuality for the past 10+ years with experience in K-12 schools, health clinics, college campuses, adult sex shops, national conferences, BDSM dungeons, non-profits, community organizations, and more. Jamie Joy loves to stay up late, throw an unforgettable party, and teach people about the wonders of fisting and fire play. They are always excited to connect and collaborate - find them on Instagram @thebadjewboy or their website www.jamiejoy.com Products Mentioned A blindfold Pleasure Feather Boundless Pleasure Wheel (pinwheel) The Magic Wand! (Try it over the clothes!) Silicone rings Sliquid Naturals Satin (menopause-friendly moisturizing lube) DB's FAVORITE lube -- SEXEDWITHDB for 10% off SpareParts Joque Harness Clone a Willy Kit Use SEXEDWITHDB for 15% off at Lion's Den! ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.comSubscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

Have you ever had an experience that you did not consent to but that was enjoyable, transformational, or even pleasurable? This week Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Dr. Avgi Saketopoulou (@⁠avgolis98⁠), queer psychoanalyst and author of ⁠Sexuality Beyond Consent: Risk, Race, Traumatophilia⁠, to discuss queering consent. As part of our discussion, Avgi shares stories of times when clients experienced events outside of their consent, including in sexual situations. Consent is a very nuanced topic, but it tends not to be talked about that way. We do not live in a vacuum and as such consent can be messier than people tend to want to consider. For example, think about our favorite, Teenage Bounty Hunters. When Sterling gathers her courage and kisses April, she doesn’t ask for her consent first, and knowing April it probably would not have gone over too well if she had. Even though April may not have consented to this kiss, she finds that she enjoys it. This is a transformational experience for the two of them, and it happens outside of the realm of consent. As queer people, we have quite a good amount of experience of running opposite to societal norms. We step beyond our comfort zones just to exist in a heteronormative world. As such, we tend to better understand that many transformational experiences rely on our willingness to step beyond safety. Even so, we tend to still prize consent in a way that is more fantasy than reality. It is just not nearly as cut and dry when applied to real life situations. Follow along on BlueSky, Facebook, Instagram and TikTok @lezhangoutpod and answer our Q & Gay at the end of every episode. Find our hosts individually: Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster) and Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Want to support Lez Hang Out while unlocking a bunch of awesome perks like access to our exclusive Discord community, 25+ bonus episodes, weekly ad free episodes, exclusive merch and more? Join us on Patreon at ⁠bit.ly/lezpatreon⁠.