It's A Lot with Abbie Chatfield

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TW: In this episode we talk a lot about vulvas, being two cis women who have only slept with cis women, our language defaulted to binary and cis language. I just wanted to say that we both acknowledge that not all women have vulvas and not all vulva owners are women, and we still have work to do in fully converting our language.  This week Abbie is joined by her friend Ellie who is the founder of Comfortable In My Skin. Comfortable In My Skin is a project started by Ellie in which she photographs vulvas whenever and wherever she can to help with vulva acceptance. Her website, https://www.comfortableinmyskin.com.au/ is an amazing resource.  Abbie and Ellie discuss how to pleasure a vulva, how to ask your partner for oral, the nightmare that is Bacterial Vaginosis and how we can grow to love our vulvas, and be "Comfortable In My Skin" (ha ha ha).  Contact Ellie at @comfortableinmyskin_ or via her website  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

HABITUAL NUTTER This week Abbie is joined by Lillian Ahenkan akaFLEX MAMI!!!! Flex is an absolutely glorious human who has made critical thinking *cool* again with her card game REFLEX along with her incredible IG stories full of reddit threads, and her two podcasts (Bobo and Flex and Whatever I want).   Flex and Abbie play REFLEX, asnwering a question each, then go on to answer a listener's question about her consistently lack lustre sex life (which inevitably leads the girls down a path comparing porn watching habits, duh.) They then chat about Flex's career, her journey with sexuality and how she got to the place that she is today and finish off with some quick fire questions from the podcast group!  If you like It's A Lot, remember to rate and review on Apple Podcasts and share with a friend! You can find Flex at @flex.mami on Instagram, and all things Flex related can be found https://linktr.ee/flex.mami    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Abbie dissects a tweet that says the following: I'm the kind of girl that says I want a boyfriend but any time a guy tries to get to know me I'm like "nah not you"??? I'm the reason I'm fucking single". Lotsa issues but nothing we can examine!  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Grrr!! This one is full of anger. A listener DMd Abbie a message asking how to deal with her D-Bag of an ex who is attempting to slut shame her. Gross.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's been a couple of days because Abbie needed a mental health break. Today Abbie rants about anti-vaxxers and conspiracy theorists in a very niche facebook group she is in. She gives advice on how to deal with being ghosted, how to just be "better" in bed (and how to deal with someone not being able to cum or get hard) and how to deal with being bisexual... even though she doesnt really know yet either.  Here is the link to the Ask Abbie mentioned:  https://www.popsugar.com.au/love/how-do-i-ask-for-what-i-really-want-in-bed-47723030   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Abbie talks about the anxiety of that first sexual encounter after a dry spell, and how to ease some of that anxiety!  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Abbie had a break on Saturday so is giving you a 20 minute lockdown episode. She talks about femme men, performative actions that become habits and what that means for the body positivity movement being co-opted by thin white women (perhaps including herself) as well as the low down on going to therapy and finding a therapist for you!  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Abbie has a laugh about a reply to a nude she received, then answers a question about sexting and sending nudes. Here is the link to Abbie's PopSugar article on sexting! https://www.popsugar.com.au/love/how-to-sext-someone-47331817  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Abbie discusses WAP by Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion and all of the reasons why she loves the banger. If you don't agree, check your internalised misogyny.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.