Behind the Seal

Too many leaders assume trust should be unconditional — but Scripture tells a different story.In this season finale of Behind the Seal, bestselling author and Proverbs 31 Ministries president Lysa TerKeurst reveals why unconditional trust is not only unbiblical, but unsafe — and how to rebuild trust with wisdom, boundaries, and Spirit-led discernment. Lysa unpacks the difference between blind trust and wise trust, why forgiveness is ultimately about your freedom, and how to discern between a triggered fear and a legitimate red flag. She also shares from her own journey through heartbreak, healing, and surrender — and what it truly looks like to walk forward without becoming hardened, bitter, or closed off. If you’ve ever been hurt, betrayed, or left wondering if trust is even possible again — in ministry, leadership, or life — this episode will meet you right where you are.About Lysa TerKeurstLysa TerKeurst is president and chief visionary officer of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of eight New York Times bestsellers, including I Want to Trust You, but I Don’t, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes, Forgiving What You Can’t Forget, and It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way. She enjoys life with her husband Chaz and her kids and grandkids. Connect with her at www.LysaTerKeurst.com or on social media @LysaTerKeurst.Additional Resources·       I Want to Trust You, but I Don’t – Lysa TerKeurst·       Forgiving What You Can’t Forget – Lysa TerKeurst·       Good Boundaries and Goodbyes – Lysa TerKeurst·       Therapy & Theology Podcast with Lysa TerKeurst, Dr. Joel Muddamalle & Jim Cress·       American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) – for counseling referrals·       ECFA.org/LeaderCare – Resources for healthy, trustworthy leadership·       Proverbs 31 MinistriesIf this conversation encouraged you, share it with someone navigating hurt, healing, or rebuilding trust.💬 Comment below: What part of Lysa’s wisdom on trust or forgiveness resonated with you most?🎧 And don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more conversations on healthy leadership, emotional integrity, and stewarding influence with wisdom.

Most leaders push past their own emotions without ever slowing down long enough to ask, “What’s happening in my soul?” In this episode of Behind the Seal, Bill & Kristi Gaultiere—founders of Soul Shepherding and authors of Deeply Loved—share how empathy isn’t weakness; it’s oxygen for the soul. In a conversation packed with insight and vulnerability, they unpack why emotions matter to God, how Jesus models empathy, and why healthy leaders must learn to receive empathy—not just give it. From spiritual formation to burnout prevention and the “4 A’s of Empathy,” this episode gives leaders permission to breathe again. If you’ve ever felt pressure to be strong, keep moving, or “power through,” this conversation will meet you right where you are—and remind you that you are deeply loved by God. About Bill & Kristi Gaultiere Bill & Kristi Gaultiere are the co-founders of Soul Shepherding, a ministry dedicated to helping pastors, missionaries, and Christian leaders thrive in emotional and spiritual health. Together they lead the Soul Shepherding Institute, train spiritual directors and coaches, and host the Soul Talks podcast. Bill is a psychologist and spiritual director; Kristi is a psychotherapist, spiritual director, and executive leader with a passion for emotional intelligence in Christian leadership. Their newest book, Deeply Loved, guides readers into experiencing Jesus’ empathy through Scripture, prayer, and community. Their ministry has helped thousands of leaders learn to rest in Jesus’ easy yoke, receive God’s grace in deeper ways, and lead from a whole, healthy soul. Additional Resources·       ECFA.org/LeaderCare·       Learn more about Soul Shepherding·       Deeply Loved by Bill & Kristi Gaultiere·       Soul Talks Podcast·       Soul Shepherding Institute Retreats·       Find a Soul Shepherding spiritual director or coach If this conversation encouraged you, share it with a leader who needs a reminder that their soul matters. 💬 Comment below: Which of the 4 A’s of Empathy do you most want to grow in? 🎧 And don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more conversations on healthy leadership, emotional integrity, and caring for the souls of those who serve.Timestamps 00:00 – Intro01:21 – Michael welcomes Bill & Kristi05:57 – Leaders’ inner life: why “under the hood” matters08:22 – Kristi’s story: emotions, shame, and the healing power of empathy12:00 – Why some Christians misunderstand empathy15:00 – How emotions and thinking are meant to integrate18:13 – Unconscious resistance: why leaders block empathy without realizing it21:00 – Bill’s story: learning to feel after a lifetime of stuffing emotions27:10 – Receiving empathy vs. rushing to solutions32:09 – The 4 A’s of Empathy (Ask, Attune, Acknowledge, Affirm)38:04 – Empathy prayer and connecting with Jesus’ emotions45:19 – Empathy as oxygen for the soul47:17 – Boundaries, burnout, and stewarding empathy50:49 – We all need a safe place to process emotions52:48 – Empathy + Truth + Responsibility = Growth56:17 – Empathy Fatigue: How to set healthy boundaries with empathy1:00:04 – A word of encouragement for weary leaders1:04:35 – Outro

How do you lead when five generations share the same mission—but not always the same mindset?In this timely episode of Behind the Seal, David Robbins, Global President of Cru, joins host Michael Martin to explore the challenges and opportunities of Cross-Generational Leadership.From Gen Z’s boldness to Boomers’ steadfastness, David shares how understanding, repentance, and relational trust can transform generational tension into unity. Drawing from his global leadership experience and years leading FamilyLife, David offers real-life lessons on building trust, cultivating humility, and leading at the Lord’s pace.If you’re navigating a multi-generational team, board, or ministry, this episode will help you build bridges that strengthen your mission—and your people. About David Robbins:David Robbins serves as the Global President of Cru, a worldwide Christian ministry helping to fulfill the Great Commission through evangelism, discipleship, and leadership development.Over the past 25 years with Cru, David and his wife, Meg, have served in a variety of ministry contexts—from discipling college students and young professionals in New York City to leading FamilyLife, a global ministry focused on strengthening marriages and families.David and Meg live in Orlando, Florida, with their four children. Their family embodies his leadership message: serving together, learning together, and following Jesus faithfully across generations. Additional Resources:ECFA.org/LeaderCareLearn more about CruLearn more about FamilyLifeThe Emotionally Healthy Leader by Peter Scazzero       

Leadership transitions can either strengthen a ministry or splinter it.. The difference often comes down to one word: humility. Nearly half of all successions fail, leaving organizations fractured, donors unsettled, and missions at risk.In this episode of Behind the Seal, Michael Martin sits down with Steve Woodworth, CEO of Masterworks and author of Lost in Transition, to unpack why succession isn’t just about replacing a leader — it’s about safeguarding the future of an organization.From “gone too soon, stayed too long” dynamics to the five key truths of leadership transition, Steve shares hard-won wisdom and practical strategies for navigating change without chaos. You’ll learn:Why every leader is an interim leaderWhen to start the succession conversationHow boards can prepare for healthy leadership handoffsWhat “no-drama succession” looks like in practiceHow humility, not ego, makes or breaks the processIf you’ve ever asked “How do I leave well?” or “How do we choose the right next leader?”—this conversation is essential listening.📖 Learn more in Steve’s book Lost in Transition 🎧 Subscribe to Behind the Seal for more conversations on leadership, faith, and organizational healthAbout Steve Woodworth: With over forty years devoted to advancing Christian organizations, Steve Woodworth brings a wealth of expertise in marketing, management, and organizational development. He steered World Vision’s direct marketing and donor services through a decade of annual double-digit growth in the 1980s and 1990s. Since joining Masterworks in 1992, Steve has been instrumental in establishing it as the premier marketing agency dedicated to aiding hundreds of Christian organizations in achieving their mission. Steve also gives back as a volunteer on boards, as a convener of industry leaders and continues to lead the Communications Working Group for The Lausanne Movement. Additional Resources: ECFA.org/LeaderCareLost in TransitionMasterworks Agency

What happens when churches prioritize productivity over people?Doug Sauder, Senior Pastor of Calvary Chapel Fort Lauderdale, has lived through the fallout of leader neglect—and the transformation that comes when soul care becomes a core value.In this powerful conversation, Doug shares his journey from a culture of overwork and burnout to one of rest, accountability, and sustainability. He opens up about:·       Surviving the ripple effects of a senior leader’s moral failure·       Resisting the “Messiah complex” of nonstop ministry·       How Calvary Chapel restructured to prioritize Sabbath, family, and health·       Why sabbaticals are a game-changer for leaders—and how his own shaped his identity beyond achievement·       What it takes for boards and staff to cultivate healthy rhythms of work and restThis is a hopeful, honest episode packed with wisdom for pastors, nonprofit leaders, and boards who want to protect their leaders, steward their people, and create ministries that flourish for the long haul.About Doug Sauder:Doug Sauder is the Senior Pastor of Calvary Chapel Fort Lauderdale, one of the largest churches in the U.S. He is known for his heart for families, his leadership in crisis, and his commitment to building a culture of health and soul care among leaders. Doug and his wife, Suzanne, have three sons and have served as foster parents to more than 50 children. Additional Resources:·      ECFA.org/LeaderCare·      Learn more about Calvary Chapel Fort Lauderdale·      PastorServe – Coaching & Soul Care for Leaders·      The Emotionally Healthy Leader by Peter Scazzero       

What if the biggest threat to your leadership isn’t burnout, bad strategy, or lack of vision — but neglecting your own body?In this episode, Jedd Medefind, President of the Christian Alliance for Orphans (CAFO), opens up a conversation many leaders avoid: the role of physical health in shaping how we lead. From sleep and diet to movement and screen time, Jedd shares how small choices in our daily lives fuel resilience, creativity, and longevity in leadership.This isn’t about prescriptions or checklists—it’s about learning to lead from a place of wholeness. Whether you’re a pastor, CEO, or ministry leader, this conversation will challenge how you think about leadership health and give you practical ways to build strength for the long haul.In This Episode:Why leaders often ignore physical healthHow sleep, diet, and movement impact leadershipThe hidden cost of our relationship with screensWhat thriving leadership looks like over the long termHow boards and organizations can better support leader well-beingAbout Jedd Medefind:Jedd Medefind serves as President of the Christian Alliance for Orphans (CAFO), which unites 300 respected organizations in joint initiatives to better the lives of vulnerable children and families. Previously, Jedd led the White House Office of Faith-Based and Community Initiatives under President George W. Bush. He also held a range of posts in the California State Legislature. Jedd has worked, studied, and served in more than thirty countries, from Christian Life Bangladesh to Price-Waterhouse in Moscow. He’s authored four books and many articles, and speaks frequently on issues related to effective leadership, child development and health, technology, and more – from large events to media outlets ranging from the Wall Street Journal and NPR to Christianity Today. Jedd and his wife Rachel live in Falls Church, VA with their five children. He loves time with his family and friends, especially flyfishing, backpacking, or anything else in the great outdoors. Additional Resources: ECFA.org/LeaderCareCAFOIf this conversation resonated with you, don’t keep it to yourself—like, share, and subscribe for more insights on healthy leadership. 

What happens when truth itself feels up for grabs?In this episode of Behind the Seal, host Michael Martin sits down with journalist and author Bonnie Kristian to unpack what she calls our epistemic crisis — a breakdown in how we discern truth in an age of misinformation, conspiracy, and cancel culture.Together, they explore how fake news and social media shape our faith and politics, why Christians are especially vulnerable to conspiracism, and what it takes to reclaim a thoughtful, redemptive discourse culture. From the dangers of mob mentality to the hope of cultivating habits of discernment, Bonnie’s insights offer a path toward restoration, clarity, and Christ-centered truth in a noisy world.Learn more about Bonnie’s book Untrustworthy and discover how to live faithfully, think clearly, and love well in the age of information overload.Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more conversations that strengthen leaders and ministries.About Bonnie Kristian:Bonnie Kristian is the editorial director of ideas and books at Christianity Today. She is a fellow at Defense Priorities and author of Untrustworthy: The Knowledge Crisis Breaking Our Brains, Polluting Our Politics, and Corrupting Christian Community and A Flexible Faith: Rethinking What It Means to Follow Jesus Today. Additional Resources: ECFA.org/LeaderCareBonnie’s Substack

Finishing well is the exception—not the rule. Far too many leaders start with conviction but end with compromise. It rarely happens overnight. Most drift quietly—through small compromises, unchecked ambition, and a subtle shift from purpose to performance.In this powerful episode of Behind the Seal, Peter Greer (President & CEO of Hope International) joins us to unpack why leaders lose their way—and how to stay mission-true in the face of pressure, success, and fatigue.From the story of Solomon to the shadow side of ministry impact, Peter offers hard-earned wisdom and practical safeguards for pastors, nonprofit leaders, and Christian CEOs who want to lead with integrity and finish faithfully.About Peter Greer: Peter Greer is president and CEO of HOPE International, a global Christ-centered organization working to alleviate physical and spiritual poverty in more than 27 countries around the world. Peter’s favorite part of his role is spending time with the remarkable entrepreneurs HOPE serves. A graduate of Harvard’s Kennedy School, Peter has co-authored 15 books, including Lead with Prayer, Mission Drift, and Rooting for Rivals. He lives with his wife, Laurel, and their four children in Lancaster, PA. Additional Resources: ECFA.org/LeaderCareHow Leaders Lose Their WayLead With PrayerLearn more about Peter GreerLearn more about Hope InternationalSpiritual Integration Resource15:5 Weekly Check-in If this conversation resonated with you, don’t keep it to yourself—like, share, and subscribe for more insights on healthy leadership. Drop a comment and let us know: What helps you stay mission-true?

Is your leadership costing you connection?In this honest and thought-provoking conversation, Walter Kim, President of the National Association of Evangelicals, joins ECFA President Michael Martin to explore the emotional and relational challenges leaders face behind the scenes. From the illusion of transparency to the power of biblical vulnerability, this episode uncovers what it really takes to build meaningful friendships in ministry—and why you can’t lead well without them.Whether you're a pastor, nonprofit leader, or executive, you'll find practical insight and deep encouragement to help you lead from a place of connection, not isolation.About Walter Kim: Walter Kim is President of the National Association of Evangelicals. He earned his PhD at Harvard, was a chaplain at Yale, and has served in diverse pastoral ministries. He is on the board of World Relief, Christianity Today, and The Salvation Army, USA. He is often sought out for his theological and cultural commentary on issues facing the church and society.Additional Resources: ECFA.org/LeaderCareWalterKim.orgNational Association of EvangelicalsNAE PodcastsCall to Action: If this conversation resonated with you, don’t keep it to yourself—like, share, and subscribe for more insights on healthy leadership. Drop a comment below with your biggest takeaway, and keep the conversation going!

What happens when no one’s asking the hard questions? ECFA President Michael Martin talks with David Ashcraft, CEO of the Global Leadership Network, about the urgent need for accountability, care, and clear guardrails in leadership.From the isolation many pastors and nonprofit leaders face to how transparency can rebuild trust, this episode offers practical insights and a call to action for leaders, boards, and teams alike.Discover why vague expectations create hidden risks—and how intentional conversations and well-defined boundaries can protect leaders and strengthen organizations.If you care about healthy leadership and culture, this episode is a must-listen.