

Fierce Marriage
Ryan and Selena Frederick
Hosts Ryan and Selena Frederick discuss modern marriage issues with transparency, humor, and gospel-centeredness. Join in for honest conversations, light-hearted hilarity, and more than enough grace to go around.
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Apr 29, 2021 • 1h 17min
Boundaries Q&A
We asked our listeners to submit questions about boundaries and the response was overwhelming. In this special release episode, we addressed many of those questions which centered around a few common themes: in-laws, opposite sex friendships, phones, and life as a married couple. We hope you find it helpful!
Announcement! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Apr 27, 2021 • 52min
Boundaries and In-Laws
This is a struggle every couple understands. How do we maintain healthy boundaries with relatives, especially when those relatives (though well-meaning oftentimes) are difficult to be around? How do we graciously communicate when boundaries have been breached? And what do we do to "hold the line" when they refuse to respect healthy boundaries? In this episode we dove deep into what the Bible has to say about family relationships and looked at ways we can love honor our parents (and other family members) without compromising our convictions or values in the process.
Announcement! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Apr 20, 2021 • 53min
Boundaries and Sex
Boundaries are an inherent part of every married couple's sex life. The question is, are your sexual boundaries clear? Are they communicated? And are they actively enforced? In today's episode we'll walk through two critical passages of Scripture that teach us about boundaries and discuss examples of how they can be applied in marital life. Enjoy!
Announcement! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Apr 13, 2021 • 1h 1min
Boundaries and Your Children
Children are awesome, but having kids at home (particularly young ones) can have some not-so-awesome effects on a marriage. Today is the second in our series on Boundaries, and we discuss how and what boundaries are necessary between you and your kids for the good of your union. It was a lively discussion and we hope it blesses you!
HEY! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Apr 6, 2021 • 50min
All About Boundaries
Boundaries are biblical. Boundaries are also intuitive: we all know we need them. Still, why do we feel that our boundaries in and around our marriage are constantly in flux or non-existent? In this episode we looked at three main reasons why we lack clear boundaries in marriage, and talked through some of the underlying principles that help us live with stronger boundaries in marriage. We hope it blesses you!
Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Mar 30, 2021 • 52min
Identifying *and* Explaining How You Actually Feel
Talking is a skill, and not everyone has it. In fact, most don't! This is usually a result of being obscured—or unseeable—to ourselves. A skilled communicator knows how to identify and explain how they feel, and that usually starts with knowing how to examine your own heart and mind. In this episode we talked through the biblical foundation for knowing yourself for the purpose of glorifying God and being more completely known by your spouse in marriage. Then, we talk through some very tangible tools to help you put words to your emotions so you can connect more deeply and fight alongside one another more effectively. We covered a lot of ground, so buckle in and enjoy!
The specific resources mentioned in this episode are available on our website, visit https://fiercemarriage.com/identifying-and-explaining-how-you-actually-feel to access those!
Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Mar 23, 2021 • 51min
The Art of Active Listening
Most people rarely experience being *deeply* listened to; you can give your spouse that gift! Last week we talked about Selective Hearing, which is all about catching every drop of what your spouse communicates. This episode puts that conversation on steroids: learning how to seek out and gain insight into each other and internalize it in healthier ways. If you ACTIVELY listen to this episode, you'll hear us share three distinct incentives for learning and applying this valuable skill in your own marriage. :)
Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Mar 16, 2021 • 52min
Dealing with Selective Hearing
There are three types of selective hearing, all of which have the same result: poor communication. Today we talked through the common ways couples fall into selective hearing habits and cover tangible ways to break the habits in their relationship. We hope this episode helps you!
Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Mar 9, 2021 • 1h 1min
How to Talk About Sex
Every healthy married couple should not only prioritize sex but also communicating on the topic of sex. None would likely disagree (at least, not in most modern contexts), because what can a couple lose by talking about their sex life together? This a peculiar topic because it’s one area where we’ll heartily agree with the culture’s message: it’s right, good, and healthy to talk about sex in marriage! Where we do differ, however, has to do with why and how we believe couples should discuss their sex life.
Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being released monthly!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Mar 2, 2021 • 54min
Talking About Talking
Healthy communication is like breathing: you take it for granted until you can't do it. This week we're starting a series on communication by laying some groundwork and dissecting the Bible's most common verse about communication (hint, it's not actually about communication). Finally, we cover 5 basic habits every couple needs to talk and listen with greater skill and intentionality. We hope it blesses you!
Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being released monthly!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.