

Fierce Marriage
Ryan and Selena Frederick
Hosts Ryan and Selena Frederick discuss modern marriage issues with transparency, humor, and gospel-centeredness. Join in for honest conversations, light-hearted hilarity, and more than enough grace to go around.
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Aug 24, 2021 • 47min
Heads and Helpers, Part 2 (Identity, 4 of 5)
Today we continue the conversation about biblical roles for husbands (as heads) and wives (as helpers) in Christian marriage. Before you listen to this episode, make sure you've listened to last week's Part 1 release. Then, make sure you listen to this whole episode before jumping to conclusions. We trust that as we talk through the implications of God's word, it will edify and encourage you in your walk with Christ and your relationship with your spouse.
Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Aug 17, 2021 • 53min
Heads and Helpers, Part 1 (Identity, 3 of 5)
Few topics ruffle feathers like biblical roles, especially when you talk about ideas like headship and submission in marriage. In this episode we began a conversation (that continues into next week's episode) where we unpacked the what the Bible says about roles in marriage. Next week, we'll look at the implications for husbands and wives who are seeking to live in full light of what Scripture says on the matter. We hope our conversation encourages you and helps shed some light on this sometimes murky topic.
Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Aug 10, 2021 • 43min
Who Are We as "Us"? (Identity, 2 of 5)
You may have heard the biblical idea that "two became one flesh" when they get married. But what does that mean functionally? In this episode we talked through the implications of that statement when it comes to aspects of our individual identities as they are retained (or discarded) in a one-flesh marriage. Thanks for listening, we trust you'll learn something and we pray it blesses you!
ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Aug 3, 2021 • 40min
Marriage Reconstructed (Identity, 1 of 5)
Identity is everything these days. Ideas, politics, gender expressions, race, and sexual orientation, and countless other variables all have one thing in common in today's culture: they can be your identity if you want... and no one can tell you otherwise. The holy grail of our culture is being able to actualize your most ideal self at any cost and through whatever means necessary. But this ability has come at a staggering cost: truth itself has lost its meaning, and this trend has eroded our understanding of marriage and being married people, even among Christians.
This episode is the first in our 5-week series on Identity. Today we talked about the identity of marriage itself, and in the coming weeks we will discuss our identity as "us", biblical gender roles, and more. We hope it blesses you a lot and challenges you as much as necessary. Stay fierce!
ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jul 27, 2021 • 34min
5 Habits to Consistently Feel Joy Together (Joy, 4 of 4)
In past episodes we've looked at why joy is rightfully attached to our emotions. But, we don't have to wait until we feel joy to stir it up in ourselves! In this week's episode we talked about 5 very tangible things couples can do to have consistent joy together. We hope it blesses you!
ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jul 20, 2021 • 48min
Dealing with a Persistent Lack of Joy in Marriage (Joy, 3 of 4)
Every couple experiences seasons where things feel joyless. The question is, What do you do to rekindle the joy in your marriage when those times come? In this episode we looked at ways the Bible instructs us to stir our affections for God and why we can expect to experience joy when we do so within the context of marriage.
ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jul 13, 2021 • 47min
Truly Enjoying Your Spouse (Joy, 2 of 4)
You love your spouse, but do you *like* them? It was affection that brought you together, but what should you do when affection fades and marriage begins to lack joy? In today's episode we talked about truly enjoying each other by looking at three ingredients necessary for a joy-filled relationship.
ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jul 6, 2021 • 58min
The Roots of Marital Joy (Joy, 1 of 4)
Everyone wants a joy-filled marriage—one that's happy and where you feel love for your spouse and you feel their love reciprocated. Life happens, joy fades, and where does that leave us? As Christians, we have the promise of joy as we walk in step with the Spirit. So, what should do in times when joy feels foreign and impossible to find? In this episode we'll look at the biblical roots of joy in the Christian life as we open up this series on what it takes to build a joy-filled marriage. Make sure to subscribe so you don't miss the upcoming episodes!
ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!
It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jun 29, 2021 • 49min
War Story, Part 2 (Steven and Brooke Elliott)
In April 2004, Army Ranger Steven Elliott was deployed with the 2nd Ranger Battalion to Afghanistan. The objective of operation “Mountain Storm” was to kill or capture Osama Bin Laden. On April 22, Steven’s squad was attacked by enemy combatants which resulted in 4 casualties, one of whom was former NFL safety, Pat Tillman.
This is part two of our interview with our good friends Steven and Brooke Elliott. Theirs is a story of tragedy, depression, grace, and redemption. It’s our prayer that by hearing their story you can marvel with us at the goodness of God to repair and restore lives, even when all hope seems lost.
You can find Steven’s’ book, War Story, wherever books are sold or by visiting WarStoryBook.com. Additionally, Steven and Brook are the founders of The Elliott fund, which exists to advocate for reform in how the unseen wounds of war are viewed and treated so that the broken places can be made whole. To learn more, visit ElliottFund.org.

Jun 29, 2021 • 40min
War Story, Part 1 (Steven and Brooke Elliott)
In April 2004, Army Ranger Steven Elliott was deployed with the 2nd Ranger Battalion to Afghanistan. The objective of operation “Mountain Storm” was to kill or capture Osama Bin Laden. On April 22, Steven’s squad was attacked by enemy combatants which resulted in 4 casualties, one of whom was former NFL safety, Pat Tillman.
This is part one of our interview with our good friends Steven and Brooke Elliott. Theirs is a story of tragedy, depression, grace, and redemption. It’s our prayer that by hearing their story you can marvel with us at the goodness of God to repair and restore lives, even when all hope seems lost.
Make sure to listen to the next episode for part two of Steven and Brook’s story. You can find Steven’s’ book, War Story, wherever books are sold or by visiting WarStoryBook.com. Additionally, Steven and Brook are the founders of The Elliott fund, which exists to advocate for reform in how the unseen wounds of war are viewed and treated so that the broken places can be made whole. To learn more, visit ElliottFund.org.