The New Paths Podcast with Dan Johnson

No matter what stage you're at in your freedom journey, there is one essential key that you must have if you want to experience real freedom. Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠⁠newpaths.me/plan

You may or may not fully realize this, but you have patterns. So much of what we do on a day to day is in autopilot mode. In fact, studies estimate that 95% of the thoughts we have are the same as the previous day! We're creatures of habit. And this is absolutely the case with the porn habit. When it comes to your habit of watching porn, there are predictable patterns that you fall into. But the good news is that you can easily start to become aware of these patterns. And the GREAT news is: awareness of your patterns supercharges the power of your plan. If you can be fully aware of your pattern, you can enhance your potential for freedom in a massive way...real, lasting, exhilarating freedom. That's what you're going to walk away with in this episode. You're going to quickly and easily start to see what your patterns are. AND, I'm going to give you a tool so you can USE the knowledge of your patterns to your advantage. This tool I'm going to give you was one of the biggest game changers that accelerated my path to freedom, and it's a tool I still use virtually every day. So let's go! Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠newpaths.me/plan

Back a couple episodes ago, we looked at three "mistakes" that I was making for many years in my pursuit to be free from porn. And I believe that these are very common mistakes that so many guys are making right now, possibly including yourself. In the previous episode we drove a bit deeper into the first mistake that I was making, which was tracking my streaks rather than my wins. And in this episode we're going to dive a bit deeper and get a little more practical around the second mistake that I was making. This second mistake that we're going to dive into today is viewing the urge to watch porn as an enemy, rather than as a friend simply trying to help. Now, you may not even be fully aware of how you SEE that urge. You may not even be THINKING about how you THINK about your struggle! I never did. It never dawned on me to explore how I VIEWED that desire within me. But this is absolutely huge to explore for yourself, because how you view your desire for porn will directly determine how you HANDLE and RESPOND to that desire when it hits you. The way you see your desire for porn is your internal roadmap, your automatic response, to how you will handle that urge when it hits you, and whether that response is an effective strategy, or an ineffective strategy. This is why our perspective on our struggle is not only essential, it will significantly (if not absolutely) determine whether or not you will achieve freedom, and how QUICKLY you will start experiencing it. This is why it's so important to examine and discuss your PERSPECTIVE, and how you view your desire for porn. In this episode we're going to discuss why viewing this struggle as an enemy, rather than as a friend, hindered my progress rather than helped it. I'm going to give you one specific exercise you can do immediately that will help you make this shift, and put you in a better position to effectively handle and process the next urge that you feel, and build that skill that will lead you to the exhilarating freedom that I know you desperately want for yourself. Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠newpaths.me/plan

In the last episode of this podcast, we looked at three mistakes that I made in my pursuit of freedom, and which I believe most guys are making as well. Most importantly, we discussed what to do INSTEAD. When I made these pivotal changes, that's when I finally started experiencing the freedom that had been alluding me for over 20 years. In the next three episodes, I'm going to dive a bit deeper into each of these mistakes, because they were absolutely game changers in my journey. And I believe it will be for you as well. In this episode we're going to discuss Mistake #1 that I was making: tracking my "streaks." You're going to discover why this approach just doesn't line up with reality. And as always, you're going to walk away knowing exactly what you can do INSTEAD, that will fuel your journey and accelerate the exhilarating freedom that is absolutely possible for you! Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠newpaths.me/plan

When trying to stop watching porn, there are a few default habits that we tend to fall into, ways of going about trying to pursue freedom. We usually don't question the approach we're taking. We just start doing what seems to make the most sense. And if we're not seeing results, we figure we just have to try harder. Back in episode 41, we discovered that when it comes to HOW to pursue freedom from porn, what appears "obvious" is often not the case. We sort of default our way into the HOW, not realizing that the default, common sense way of doing it may actually not be the most effective. And actually, the common sense way can actually hinder our progress. This is what I gradually discovered when I finally started experiencing the exhilarating freedom that I didn't know was possible. When I shifted my approach, freedom came not be trying harder, but by doing things differently. As I discovered a different way to take steps towards freedom, there were three specific things that I had gotten in the habit of doing previously. They seemed to make perfect sense, but I started to see that they were not helping me. They may have actually been part of the reason WHY I had been experiencing freedom in the first place. In this episode, we're going to look at each of these three "mistakes" that I made, and that I think most guys are currently making as well. And most importantly, we'll discuss what you can start doing INSTEAD, that will help you finally start to gain some serious traction. And if you make these changes, you'll begin to experience massive progress towards real freedom! Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠⁠newpaths.me/plan

In the last episode, we looked at the barriers in your life, those internal obstacles that seem to block you from living in true freedom, and becoming more of the man you truly want to be. We uncovered how those barriers are actually difficult emotions that you run up against in the moment. Let's recap briefly, and then we're going to take it a step further, and discuss the "How." We're going to get very practical, and look at some actionable, concrete things that you can DO, both in the moment when you are feeling that intense feeling, and a quick daily tool that you can practice in ADVANCE, that will help you take the necessary steps when you are IN that intense moment. Maybe for you, you want to be a good husband or significant other, but you get in those moments of anger and resentment, and those intense feelings stop you from being the husband you truly want to be. You want to be a good father, but the kids disobey, you get frustrated and angry, and the way you respond is not in line with that vision of the dad you want to be. Or, you want to stop watching porn, but you get that familiar, intense craving to pull up the computer or phone and you feel powerless against it. Those obstacles of difficult feelings that arise in the moment, are actually where your growth and progress BEGIN. In other words, they are not barriers, they are doorways. Those difficult feelings are your frontiers. And if you can learn the skill of moving through those difficult emotions, on the other side is that vision of the man you truly want to be. On the other side is freedom. So how do you actually move through that frontier? How DO you turn that obstacle into a doorway? That's what you're going to walk away with in this episode. So let's dive in! Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠newpaths.me/plan

Do you ever have those moments when you say or do something, and there's a voice inside you that says, "This is not in line with the man I want to be"? You intuitively have this image or vision of the man that you are striving to become. But sometimes, the things you do or say are not in line with that vision. It's like there's some sort of block, an internal barrier that prevents you from becoming more like the man you want to be. In this episode of The New Paths Podcast, you're going to discover what that internal block actually is. And, we'll discuss how it isn't a barrier. It's actually a doorway. It's a FRONTIER, beyond which lies your freedom and growth! Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠newpaths.me/plan

"That of which we are not aware, owns us." "No freedom is possible, no authentic choice, where consciousness is lacking." -James Hollis So in other words, if we want to live a life of freedom, rather than repeating the same behaviors that we regret, over and over and over, consciousness and awareness are regular tools that we absolutely must be using. Why is this the case? And what can you actually DO in order to become more conscious and aware, so that you can really live in freedom? That's what you're going to be equipped with in this episode of The New Paths Podcast! Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at newpaths.me/plan

What is freedom? What does it actually look like in real life? After two decades of struggling with porn, and now being on the other side and experiencing the fresh air of freedom, I have realized that freedom comes down to learning a specific skill: The skill of effectively processing the urge when you feel it. That's it. It's a skill to learn. How do you learn any skill? You simply practice. You get in your reps. If you do this, it's inevitable that you WILL learn this skill.   This is what we're exploring in the newest episode of The New Paths Podcast. And as always, we'll get very practical. You'll walk away with some specific next steps that you can take, so you can start living in the fresh air of freedom! Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at newpaths.me/plan

Have you found yourself in a repeating cycle of giving into watching porn, promising yourself that you won't do it again, only to give into it again the next time? There's actually a very good reason why this happens, and you can blame your brain! Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at newpaths.me/plan