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In this episode, you'll learn: Why women connect past and present experiences while men focus only on what's happening now The brain science behind women's ability to read nonverbal cues (and why this superpower can sometimes bite us in the ass) Real strategies to work WITH your brain differences instead of fighting against them Ever feel like you and your partner are speaking totally different languages? Like you're saying words in plain English but somehow they're not computing on the other side?True story from my life: My husband comes back from trips, drops his suitcase on our bedroom floor, and... that's it. The damn thing sits there for weeks, clothes spilling out like some kind of fabric explosion. Last month after his third trip, I lost it: "This happens EVERY SINGLE TIME you travel! The suitcase becomes furniture!" His response? Complete confusion. "Why bring up other trips? I just got home yesterday."This isn't a character flaw. It's brain wiring. And I'm not the only one dealing with this disconnect. When I talk about this with my female friends, they instantly get it. They also connect past events with current ones - not because they're holding grudges, but because their brains naturally link related experiences together.Here's what we're told: "Good communicators stay present and don't bring up past issues." But what if your brain is literally built to connect patterns across time? What if that's not immaturity but your actual neural wiring?Today our guest is Steven Furlich. He's a professor who's studied gender communication through both social science and biology lenses. After seeing the same patterns across different cultures and time periods, he started looking at brain structure and hormones to understand why these differences stick around no matter how much society changes.Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/398 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, you'll learn: The shocking physical and emotional changes nearly every woman faces but nobody talks about Real strategies for managing symptoms when your doctor just shrugs How to flip the script and use menopause as your portal to becoming the badass wise woman you were meant to be Ever notice how life comes at you in phases? One minute everyone's getting engaged, the next they're having babies, and just when you think you've got this adult thing figured out, there's a whole new transition waiting around the corner.I'm turning 40 this year, and suddenly menopause has appeared on my radar. Not because I'm experiencing it yet, but because I'm starting to realize it's this massive life event that nobody talks about until it's happening. And by then, most women are completely blindsided.It's wild when you think about it. We get the puberty talk. We have baby showers. But menopause? Complete radio silence. Like we're all supposed to just silently suffer through one of life's biggest transitions because... periods are icky and aging is scary? Give me a break. Half the population goes through this, and we still can't talk about it without whispering.Today our guest is Tamsen Fadal. She's a news anchor who found herself collapsed on a bathroom floor from symptoms nobody had warned her about, only to discover she was in menopause. After being left to figure it out alone, she's now fighting to change how we handle this universal female experience.Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/397 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, you'll learn: How to identify your human design type and what it suggests about your natural decision-making process Practical ways to work with your energy instead of constantly fighting against it How to rewrite limiting stories that come from comparing your path to people with completely different designs Have you ever noticed how we're all expected to work the same way? Focus on one thing. Follow a linear path. Stick with it until you "succeed."I spent years feeling like I was doing something wrong because I couldn't make myself fit that mold. I'd get excited about a project, dive in deep, then feel my energy shift to something completely different. And instead of trusting that shift, I'd beat myself up for being "unfocused" or "lacking commitment."Sound familiar? Then I stumbled across human design. It gave me a fascinating lens to see myself differently. I was a Manifesting Generator with wiring that craves variety and multiple channels for my energy.What's stuck with me is how it's shifted the story I tell myself about who I am. We all carry these stories. Stories about being "too much" or "not enough." Too slow or too impulsive. Too quiet or too loud. And we base these stories on comparing ourselves to people who might be operating from completely different blueprints.Your human design suggests why certain people thrive under pressure while you need space to process. Why some people can make snap decisions while others need time to feel into what's right. Why pushing harder often gets you absolutely nowhere.It offers something powerful – permission to stop forcing yourself into someone else's mold.Today our guest is Erin Claire Jones. She's helped thousands of people explore their human design and use it as a tool for better decision-making and stronger relationships. She's offering a perspective that might just change how you see yourself and others.Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/396 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, you'll learn: How to create your own "frequency medicine" for different emotional states Practical techniques for using music to strengthen neural pathways for focus, creativity, and emotional regulation How to use the science of entrainment to create deeper connections with others through shared musical experiences Ever notice how music has this weird power to completely change your state in an instant? One moment you're going through the motions, and then—boom—a certain melody catches you off guard and suddenly you're feeling everything. It's like different songs hold different keys to unlock different parts of us. The right sound at the right moment can crack you open, give you chills, or transport you to a memory so vivid you can almost smell it.Scientists have caught cells talking to each other through vibrations, not just chemicals. It's a whole language happening inside you right now. When these frequencies sync up, you feel clear, balanced, healthy. When they're scrambled? That's when the physical and emotional crap hits the fan.External sounds literally reprogram your internal rhythms. That's why a chaotic, noisy Target run leaves you drained, while the right playlist can reorganize your scattered brain into something resembling sanity.Most of us have no clue this is happening. We're unconsciously tuning – or mistuning – ourselves all day through our environments and especially through what we listen to. We're walking around letting random frequencies dictate our internal state without even realizing we have a choice.Today our guests are Sara and Mort Sherman, authors of "Resonant Minds: The Transformative Power of Music One Note at a Time." Sara is a classical pianist and founder of Mozart for Munchkins, while Mort brings decades of experience in education and mindfulness practice. Together, they've created a practical approach to using music as a tool for transformation.Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/395 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, you’ll learn: Why mainstream science might not be telling the whole story about reality and consciousness How questioning what we’ve been taught can shift the way you see your life and your own potential The subtle ways information is controlled—and how to think for yourself in a world full of noise What if everything you thought was solid, unquestionable truth… wasn’t?**Not in a paranoid way, not in a lose-your-grip-on-reality kind of way, but in a way that cracks open possibilities you never even considered. Because here’s the thing—most of us don’t choose our beliefs. We inherit them. From school, from the media, from people we trust who probably also inherited them.But what happens when we stop blindly accepting and start questioning?I had this moment a few years ago when I realized how many of my core beliefs—about the world, about my own potential, about what was possible—weren’t even mine. They were just things I absorbed. And once I started really looking, I saw just how much of my reality had been shaped by things I never even chose to believe.So, let me ask you—when’s the last time you questioned something you’ve always assumed was true? When’s the last time you considered an idea that felt too out there… but you entertained it anyway, just to see where it led?Today, our guest is Mark Gober. Mark is a former investment banker turned researcher and author, whose work explores the nature of consciousness, reality, and the hidden structures shaping our world. His books and podcast challenge conventional thinking, pushing the boundaries of what we consider fact.Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/394 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors mindlove.com/magic  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this conversation, you’ll learn: The four biggest barriers that keep people stuck—and how to move past them How to cultivate everyday audacity, even if you don’t think of yourself as a risk-taker The surprising way to reframe fear so it stops running the show Have you ever felt like you’re waiting for permission to live the life you actually want? Like there’s some invisible checklist you have to complete before you’re allowed to take up space, speak up, or go after the things that call to you?Most people don’t think of themselves as risk-averse. They tell themselves they’re just being responsible. That they’ll make the move when they’re more qualified, more ready, more financially stable. But that moment of being ready never actually arrives. And in the meantime, someone else—someone with less experience, less talent, and fewer credentials—is already out there doing the thing you keep putting off.I see this all the time. People with big ideas who stay stuck in research mode. People who wait until they’re 100% confident before they make a move, as if confidence just magically appears before action, instead of being something you build through action.So let me ask you—where are you holding back? What opportunities are you watching pass you by while you tell yourself someday? And what if waiting was actually the bigger risk?Today our guest is Anne Marie Anderson. She’s an award-winning sports broadcaster and keynote speaker who built her career by making bold, audacious choices—even when they scared the hell out of her. When a tragic event early in her career forced her to confront how quickly life can change, she decided she was done waiting. And she’s here to help you stop waiting too.Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/393 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors The Story Alchemist Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, you’ll learn: Why the concept of hell might be more about control than truth How fear-based faith blocks real spiritual growth What it actually means to reclaim your beliefs in a way that serves you What happens when the foundation of your beliefs starts to crack? When the things you were raised to accept without question suddenly don’t make sense? Maybe you've felt it—that moment when your gut tells you something is off, but everything in you resists pulling the thread. Because you know if you do, the whole thing might unravel.I know that moment well. I was raised to believe certain things were absolute. Hell. Sin. Salvation. The idea that if you followed the rules, you were safe—and if you didn’t, eternal torment was waiting. No room for debate. No space for doubt. And to be honest, I always had questions. But for a long time, I was afraid to ask them. I thought maybe I wasn’t one of the chosen ones because I had them in the first place. That fear kept me in line. It made me second-guess my own thoughts. It made me wonder if I was broken for not being able to just believe like everyone else seemed to.At the same time, the loudest voices in religion seem more concerned with power than with actual connection to God. It’s not just about personal belief anymore. It’s politics. It’s legislation. It’s shaping entire systems. And the question is—are we willing to look at it for what it really is?Today, our guest is Brian Recker—a former pastor who went through his own deep reckoning with faith. He spent years unraveling harmful religious teachings, redefining spirituality outside of fear, and helping others reclaim their beliefs in a way that actually leads to freedom.Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/392 https://mindlove.com/reframe  Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, you’ll learn: The subtle difference between love and attachment—and why most people get it wrong How to allow your relationships to evolve instead of holding onto old dynamics The key to loving others without losing yourself Have you ever outgrown a version of yourself but felt guilty for it? Like you’re supposed to stay the same person you’ve always been because it makes other people comfortable? Maybe you’re the “fun” friend who’s suddenly craving quiet. Or the overachiever who’s realizing that success at all costs isn’t actually success. Or the person who’s spent years in a relationship, but something inside you is whispering: You’re changing.Real love—whether it’s romantic, platonic, or self-love—requires evolution. It asks us to stop clinging to what was and start creating something new. It asks us to let go of attachment, control, and old expectations so we can build relationships that actually support the people we’re becoming.Today, our guest is Yung Pueblo aka Diego Perez is a meditator and #1 New York Times bestselling author who is widely known by his pen name, Yung Pueblo. He has sold over 1.5 million books worldwide that have been translated into over 25 languages. Online he has an audience of over 4 million people. His writing focuses on the power of self-healing, creating healthy relationships, and the wisdom that comes when we truly work on knowing ourselves. Diego’s new book, How to Love Better, is available for preorder and will be released in March 2025. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/391 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If fear of judgment has ever stopped you from sharing your story, this episode is for you.For years, I held back parts of my truth—worried about what people would think, convinced I needed to clean it up before I could own it. But here’s the truth: Confidence isn’t something you wait for. It’s something you build.Inside this episode, you’ll learn:✅ Why confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you create.✅ How to stop overthinking and start owning your story—even if you feel like a total mess.✅ Why fear of judgment is actually a sign you’re on the right path.Your story isn’t just about you. It’s about the people who need to hear it. And they can’t find you if you stay quiet.🔗 Take the next step: Get your free guide, Unlock Your Story Magic, and learn how to find and share the story you were meant to tell: mindlove.com/magic Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, you'll learn: Why you keep falling back into old patterns (and the weird brain science behind breaking free) The real reason most people fail when trying to change themselves How to tell if your personality traits are helping you grow or just keeping you safe and stuck   What if everything you believe about your personality is just an elaborate story you've been telling yourself? You know where these stories come from, right? That voice in your head. You know the one. It's got you totally convinced about who you are. "I'm just not good with money." "I'll always be anxious." "This is just my personality." But here's the thing about personalities. They're not set in stone. They're more like stories we tell ourselves over and over until we believe them. And trust me, our brains are really good at finding evidence to support whatever story we're telling.Think about it. Every time you react to something, your brain is basically taking notes. "Oh, this is how we handle stress. Got it. Filing that away for next time." Before you know it, you've got these deep grooves in your brain. Like a record that keeps playing the same song because that's where the needle naturally falls. Here's where it gets good though. Science is showing us something pretty wild: these grooves in our brain? They're not permanent. Every single experience you have is literally rewiring your brain. Creating new pathways. New possibilities.Today our guest is Olga Khazan, staff writer at The Atlantic and author of "Me, But Better." She's done the research, run the experiments, and found out what it really takes to change who you are. Not just on the surface, but at your core.Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/389 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices