

Relationships Made Easy
Dr. Abby Medcalf
The research says the key to a happy life is happy relationships. But how exactly do you make your relationships better? That’s what this show is all about. I’m Dr. Abby Medcalf, psychologist, best-selling author, TEDx speaker, and (according to my kids) the bossy Jewish mom you didn’t know you needed. With decades of experience and millions of listeners in over 180 countries, I give you the no-fluff, research-backed strategies to make all your relationships better: with your partner, your family, your friends, and (most importantly) yourself. Every week on the Relationships Made Easy podcast, I mix straight talk, humor, and science to help you communicate effectively, set healthy boundaries, and stop second-guessing yourself. Because great relationships aren’t built in a day. Great relationships are built daily. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Nov 8, 2022 • 54min
215. Create Connection and Joy this Holiday Season by Doing This One Thing
There’s nothing like getting together with your parents and siblings over the holidays… and then realizing you're plotting their murders halfway through dinner. Being with family members, especially around the holidays, can be tough for a lot of reasons, but the main reason you’re unhappy has to do with your expectations. Today I’m teaching you the three big problems with your expectations and the one tool you can use to create connection and joy this holiday season. Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/create-connection-and-joy-during-the-holidays-by-doing-this-one-thing Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book ____________________________ Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/abbymedcalfphd/ YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oct 31, 2022 • 45min
214. How to Convince Someone to Go to Therapy
It’s hard to watch someone you care about struggling with mental health issues. You know that if they’d go to therapy, their life would be so much better, but they just won’t listen, or you’re afraid to even approach them because they’re so prickly and defensive about their issues. Between the research and my years of experience having these difficult conversations, I’ve identified an effective three-step process that helps others become motivated to go to therapy and take the actions needed to change their lives. They say you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink. That might be true, but today you’ll learn my three-step process to salt the oats. Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-convince-someone-to-go-to-therapy Grab my FREE Questions to Help Motivate Others Handout: https://abbymedcalf.com/motivateothers ____________________________ Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/abbymedcalfphd/ YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oct 24, 2022 • 53min
213. How to Set Boundaries at Work and Avoid Burnout
While there are some who say their work lives have become much easier since the pandemic, the vast majority of people I speak to say they’re feeling overburdened and burned out at work, which ends up negatively impacting their lives at home. As with everything (according to me), the answer is to set healthy boundaries and stick to them. Today, I’m talking about why you’re burned out and my top 5 tips to stop it. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/ how-to-set-boundaries-at-work-and-avoid-burnout Grab my FREE Mindfulness Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/mindfulness-starter-kit/ Grab my FREE Meditation Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/meditation-starter-kit/ ____________________________ Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/abbymedcalfphd/ YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oct 17, 2022 • 45min
212. How to Stop People Pleasing
Do you put other people’s needs ahead of your own? Do you feel guilty when you say “no”? Are you not saying what you really need and feel because you don’t want to upset someone else? Do you often feel resentful, frustrated, unappreciated, or emotionally drained in your relationships? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, today’s show is for you. Today you’ll learn the difference between people pleasing and just being nice or supportive, why you people please, and my top tips to stop people pleasing once and for all! Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-stop-people-pleasing Grab my FREE Mindfulness Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/mindfulness-starter-kit/ Grab my FREE Meditation Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/meditation-starter-kit/ Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book ____________________________ Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/abbymedcalfphd/ YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oct 10, 2022 • 36min
211. Finding Connection Again After an Argument (with Anyone)
Even if you use all the great tools I’ve taught you in the last 200 episodes during an argument, you might still have trouble reconnecting after an argument. When our feelings have been hurt, it can be hard to come back to feeling “normal” with this person again. Our rational minds tell us that it’s time to reconnect, but we just can’t seem to find the motivation or tools to make it happen. Today I’m sharing the one thing you need to do to reconnect, and my best tools to make that happen! Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/finding-connection-again-after-an-argument-with-anyone Grab my FREE RET Tool: https://abbymedcalf.com/RET Learn How to Mediate for 15 minutes in 15 Days: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/learn-to-meditate-for-15-minutes-in-just-15-days/ ------------------------------- Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/abbymedcalfphd/ YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oct 3, 2022 • 43min
210. How to Resolve an Argument (that Didn’t Get Resolved the First Time)
You’ve had the argument, and the dust has settled but no one’s feeling better (at least not you) because you never actually came to any agreement about what you were fighting about! You want to find a way to finish this conversation without it turning into a fight again, but how? In today’s episode, you’ll learn my easy four-step process to resolving that argument once and for all. Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-resolve-an-argument-that-didnt-get-resolved-the-first-time Grab my FREE list of Collaborative Questions: https://abbymedcalf.com/collabques Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book ____________________________ Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag, or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/abbymedcalfphd/ YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sep 26, 2022 • 1h 3min
209. The 5 Signs of Healthy Relationships
With a career spanning over 35 years in multiple countries and having worked in every environment you can imagine, I’ve learned a lot about what it means to be in healthy relationships. Today I’m sharing the top five things I see over and over in successful, happy relationships. And this doesn’t just apply to your romantic relationships! These five signs apply to work relationships, friendships, and other family members too. Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/the-5-signs-of-healthy-relationships Are you putting your faith in fear or love? Use this Vibrational Cheat Sheet to check in with yourself: https://morning-voice-5477.ck.page/65b1f435be Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book ____________________________ Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/abbymedcalfphd/ YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sep 19, 2022 • 54min
208. The Secret to Managing Your Emotions: A Step-by-Step Guide
Do you have a hard time managing your emotions when life gets stressful? Have you tried tips and tools before, but can’t find anything that works consistently for you? That’s likely because you were given the wrong types of strategies for your particular stress style. Today, I’m breaking down the two main ways our brains respond to stress and my top tips for how to manage your emotions for each of those ways. If you’re ready to get in charge of your feelings, today is for you! Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/the-secret-to-managing-your-emotions-a-step-by-step-guide Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book ____________________________ Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/abbymedcalfphd/ YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sep 12, 2022 • 58min
207. How Your Attachment Style Affects You at Work
Last week I taught you how your attachment style affects your personal relationships. Today, we’re applying all those same principles to show how your attachment style affects your work life. After all, your work environment is all about relationships too! Today you’ll learn not only the things you need to watch out for given your particular style, but also the strengths you bring (yes, we’ve all got them) and my top tips for managing your particular attachment style at work so you can be happier and more productive. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-your-attachment-style-affects-you-at-work Grab my FREE Mindfulness Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/mindfulness-starter-kit Grab my FREE Meditation Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/meditation-starter-kit Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book ____________________________ Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/abbymedcalfphd YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sep 5, 2022 • 1h 2min
206. How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Personal Relationships
The research has consistently shown that how you attached to your parents or caregivers as a child affects how you connect in your current adult relationships. Your attachment style affects everything from what romantic partners (and friends) you choose, what issues you’ll repeatedly face in your relationships, and even how your relationships will end. Today you’ll learn to identify your attachment style so you can begin to understand why you do what you do in your various relationships, why you get stuck and how to move forward. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-your-attachment-style-affects-your-personal-relationships Grab my FREE Mindfulness Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/mindfulness-starter-kit/ ____________________________ Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/abbymedcalfphd/ YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.