Fix CPTSD Podcast | Psychology and Philosophy in Narcissistic Times with Richard Grannon

This is a short excerpt from a seminar, explaining that persistent annoying emotions might be unconscious alarms. (00:01) Can You Be at Peace With Yourself About Ex Narcissist? (00:43) Unconscious Sending You Signals (02:07) Panic Attack Signals (03:27) Reality Tunnels Built Around Beliefs

Whenever you've heard of "having no ego", "letting go of your ego", "killing your ego" etc. Remember that it's mostly watered-down, consumer-friendly western versions of very, very old eastern concepts. (01:59) Self-esteem Coming From the Unconscious Observing Your Actions (03:55) Definition of "The Ego" (05:44) "Having Ego" vs. Attachment to the Ego (09:07) The Maturity of Eastern Cultures (10:27) Everything is Context Specific (Including the Teachings) (12:01) How to Find a Better Source of Self-esteem

In a long-term relationship, nothing is more important than its foundations. The real reasons why you're together. Just imagine: if you travel far away and it will take a lot of time and effort, you better make sure you're going in the right direction. And what is the right direction for you specifically, anyway? (00:03) Bonding to the Source of Pleasure is Not a Basis for a Long Term Relationship (02:23) I Do Believe in Them - You Just Have to be Careful (03:41) Evolutionary Basis for People to Be Together (06:40) There Are Many Different Models for Relationships That One Can Choose

The cultural standards of masculinity can really badly impact men mental health. Every human need the connection and the ability to just be OK with what he feels. How great would it be if we could change these societal expectations towards men. (00:01) The Issue of an Implicit Culturally Indoctrinated Expectation on Men to Be Strong (04:00) Being Incompetent and Vulnerable is a Natural Human State (07:33) We Need to Create Some Kind of Space in Which Men Can Feel Okay With Saying “I’m not okay” (10:43) Balancing Yin and Yang (15:05) Bullying Men Because of Their Vulnerability (16:46) The Young Guys Need to See Other Guys of Their Age Coming Out and Admitting That They Struggle (20:57) We Just Need Simple Human Connection and Compassion for Each Other (26:41) Guys Admitting They Don’t Feel Good Needs to Be Hyper Normalized (30:02) Goodbye

Ok, I get that: it's not that useful to overlabel or overmedicalize things. Yet, in SOME situations, with certain people you find yourself abondoning what's good for you. In certain contexts you just go along, not really knowing why. So what is really going on there and how can we better tackle that? Listen in now to find out! Find the course mentioned here: https://spartanlifecoach.com/coachingsummomingtheself/ (00:03) So You're Not Really a Codependent, BUT... (03:44) Better Psychological Terms for the Issue? (05:50) Importance of the Sense of Self in a Collective  (08:56) It is Now Fast Becoming a Crime to Have Individualized Self (13:23) Certain Contexts That Trigger Codependent Responses

We operate in the world thanks to our internal maps. Have you found yourself always ending up in the same place? What could happen if you change these maps then? Check it out now! (00:01) Getting Started (00:40) Internal Maps Based on Meaning and Value Moving Into Morality (03:50) If You Are Trying and Failing to Overcome a Trauma, the Only Route Out That's Gonna Last is a Deep Change in Your Philosophical Outlook (07:04) Talking About Neuroplasticity (12:05) Responding to Comments (15:29) Talking About the New Star Wars and a Deliberate Attack on Quality and Storytelling (18:45) Do You Believe There is a Difference Between BPD and CPTSD? (20:45) Answering a Question About Sam Vaknin (23:05) "We need a wiki page for Richard's channel" (26:03) "Why are narcissists everywhere in society? How can anyone cope?" (28:11) "Do you think the US is way more traumatized than the rest of the world?" (30:05) "How did you get the Sun" on the inside?" part 1" (34:57) "How did you get the Sun" on the inside?" part 2" (37:42) "Do you think ubuntu or a co-op society can work with modern humans aka no central government?" (40:59) "How could I find out if I'm projecting?" (44:17) Goodbye

"Do they have broken self worth....one half perceiving they are wonderful the other half thinking they are dreadful?" They have no self worth. Now, wait for this because it's a mind twister:  The NPD has no "healthy narcissism". The two halves you speak of are the two halves Sam talks about that form the NPD personality: true self and false self. Or "authentic" self and "hyper idealised" self. It's a constant desperate fleeing from one polarity to another. The NPD is created by being torn and twisted between two polarities. One in which I am a worthless piece of shit, running barefoot and naked to the promised land in which I am God like and all powerful. The tragedy is of course both are false, both caused by a traumatic break from reality.

How to rapidly recover through contacting our emotions, a technique for that, 1984 propaganda, and more, including Q&A session. (01:33) What Happens When Someone is Traumatized (05:34) How to Deal With It (10:31) Magic of the Right Question (15:11) Mind Map Steps (17:55) Positive Emotions and Exercises (20:38) Past Emotions and Exercises (24:21) Contact With Your Emotions Will Help You (28:55) Codependence & Placebo Connection (39:12) Inquisition Game Through Ages (47:18) How to Resist (50:54) Social Media and Dolphins //Q&A Section// (52:42) "What happens to a narc when they are exposed beyond all doubt?" (54:05) "How do I forgive?" (54:40) "Do you have any hard measured data you could refer to?" (55:29) "How can you suggest we all move through our day/tasks empowered?" (56:43) "So what you're saying is... Dolphins in captivity are living in a bubble?" (59:10) "Why does autism get mistaken for narcissism?" (1:00:03) "What is the role of the father?" (1:06:09) "How to escape the living false reality that it and those in it don't want you to heal from your traumas at all costs?"

Affirmations are bit tricky when it comes people with CPTSD. The risk of triggering is much higher. Why? And why would an affirmation trigger anyone? Despite the risk, used properly, affirmations can be a great tool in your recovery. In this episode, we'll dive into the specifics of how to help yourself with affirmations. (00:04) Hello (00:50) What If Your Thoughts Do Create Reality? (05:58) Conditioning And Strengthening The Mind (08:02) The Universe... What Does That Even Mean? (12:18) We All Live Inside Language (15:20) Affirmations Construct The Belief System (20:54) Richard Talks About How He Was Love Spelled (25:58) Why Do People With CPTSD Struggle With Affirmations? (31:14) You Must Not Run From Pain (34:27) The Idea Of Dharma (38:11) The Idea Of The Fetishist Split (40:24) How The Inner Critic Refuses To Accept The Affirmation (45:30) What Is The Solution? (50:50) Not Many People Really Want To Overcome Trauma (54:56) How To Construct Your Affirmations Part 1 (1:00:23) How To Construct Your Affirmations Part 2 (1:05:30) How To Construct Your Affirmations Part 3 (1:10:37) "Is this why some people have a hard time with compliments?" (1:11:17) "Did you use external reminders for these affirmations?" (1:13:27) Answering A Question About Sexual Attraction To Narcissists (1:17:47) Answering A Question About Using Affirmations To Stand Up Against The Abuser (1:22:51) "You must not run from pain, so true. How to do this at workplace vs relationships?" (1:24:19) "Can things that got lost in a divorce become a part of your CPTSD?" (1:25:59) "Would you consider the emotional response of crying as a flashback?" (1:27:05) "How do you un-catholic yourself?" (1:30:12) "Could you address how to deal with idealizing and unwanted memories of a narccisist?" (1:34:05) Answering A Question About Being Sexually Attracted To People Who Frighten (1:35:39) Using Affirmations To Deal With The Emotional Flashbacks (1:40:26) Answering A Question About Going Into Therapy With An NPD Husband (1:44:32) "Can you be more specific on the terms of your affirmations please?" (1:48:00) "What do you think about ayahuasca?" (1:51:16) "How do you use affirmations to stop self-isolating and at what level?" (1:54:49) "Nobody wants to deal with mental health issues, I understand that. Do you think that most suffer from mental issues too?" (1:57:13) Answering The Last Questions

How to understand what boundaries are (both external and internal), why they are a MUST HAVE, what happens when we're lacking them and how it connects with drug use and relationships. Get the course mentioned here: https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ (00:18) We Formulate Meaning by Creating Attachments (02:42) Disclaimer of How I Use the Term 'Codependency' (06:58) Interesting Comparisons in Vampire's Stories and Codependency (11:07) Why Codependent Has No Boundaries? (12:58) People Die Without Their Skin (15:41) The Castle Metaphor for Internal Boundaries (18:22) Dropping the Act and the Fantasy of Going Egoless (22:23) Internal Ego Boundaries for Impulse Control and Safe Attachment (25:48) Codependent's Usage of Drugs and People