Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt

Joey Vaillancourt
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Oct 6, 2025 • 17min

97.The Echo Effect: How to Overcome Quitting Too Soon When Making Big Changes

👉 You’ve chased every win, hit every goal… and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: https://joeyvaillancourt.com/the-30-day-challenge/ Have you ever tried manifestation, positive affirmations, or goal setting… but gave up because you thought it wasn’t working? 🤔 Do you feel like you’re doing everything right in your personal development journey, yet the results don’t show up fast enough? ⏳ What if the reason isn’t that manifestation doesn’t work  but that you’ve been missing the hidden principle almost no one talks about? 😮 In this episode of Real Influence, we dive deep into the Echo Effect, a powerful mindset principle that explains the lag time between when you set new intentions and when they actually manifest in your life. This single shift can completely transform the way you approach the law of attraction, reprogramming the mind, and personal growth. You’ll discover: 00:00 – Why affirmations don’t work right away 03:17 – The 3-step framework for consistency 05:00 – Spotting old programming vs new evidence 07:01 – Trusting the process without burnout 09:57 – Why alignment matters more than success If you’ve ever struggled with impatience in your manifestation practice or felt discouraged in your personal development journey, this episode will help you finally understand what’s really happening beneath the surface. 🌱 ✨ Imagine this: instead of feeling frustrated when old patterns show up, you’ll recognize them as the “echo effect”  proof that the old program is dissolving. You’ll learn to reprogram your subconscious mind, celebrate small wins, and stay consistent with your new habits until the results catch up with your vision. This is for anyone who’s ready to:  ✅ Achieve big goals without sacrificing health, relationships, or joy  ✅ Stop chasing success and start actually living in alignment  ✅ Develop consistency habits that support a fulfilled, balanced life  ✅ Experience real freedom by embracing patience in success 🤓 Whether you’re into manifestation, mindset shifts, or simply want a practical and refreshing perspective on self-growth, this episode will resonate deeply. Remember: your order has already been placed with the universe. Now it’s time to relax, enjoy the process, and trust it’s on its way.   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/ https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence   Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV. https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. https://sens.ai/realinfluence   #LawOfAttraction #PositiveAffirmations #PersonalDevelopment #GoalSetting #PositiveThinking #EchoEffect #PatienceInSuccess #Alignment #ReprogrammingTheMind #LifeAlignment #TrustTheProcess #ConsistencyHabits #Manifestation #ReprogramYourSubconsciousMind #BiggerVision #SuccessWithoutBurnout #AchieveBigGoals #MindsetShift #realinfluence #joeyvaillancourt #livingunfenced
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Sep 29, 2025 • 27min

96.The Truth About David Bayer: What I Learned After Investing $100k+

👉 You’ve chased every win, hit every goal… and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: https://joeyvaillancourt.com/the-30-day-challenge/ Have you ever wondered if mindset coaches are actually the real deal? 🤔 Are personal development programs like David Bayer’s coaching really worth the high investment? 💸 Or is it all just another hype machine promising transformation but leaving you stuck in the same old patterns? Here’s what you’ll discover in this video: 00:00 – Is David Bayer a fake guru or the real deal? 🤔 02:00 – What the Powerful Living Experience event is actually like 🎤 06:30 – Does the David Bayer Mind Hacks course deliver long-term results?  08:15 – Is investing in a high-ticket coaching program worth it for entrepreneurs and leaders? 💸 15:00 – How transformational coaching helped me find clarity, courage, peak performance, and authentic living 🌱 In this honest review, I share my personal experience investing over $100,000 in David Bayer coaching, programs, and events — including his Powerful Living Experience, Legendary Program, and David Bayer Mind Hack course. This isn’t just another highlight reel. It’s the raw truth about whether his mindset transformation methods actually lead to life mastery, inner transformation, and authentic living. I’ll take you behind the scenes into what it’s really like to be coached by David Bayer, including the breakthroughs that helped me stop self-sabotage, unravel limiting beliefs, and align my life with what matters most. 🌱 This video is for anyone who’s ever asked: “Should I invest in mindset coaching?” or “How do I break free from the hustle and grind and live with true fulfillment?” If you’ve been searching for real reviews of David Bayer coaching programs, this will give you the inside scoop. By the end, you’ll know whether David Bayer’s transformational coaching and Legendary Program is the best decision you’ll ever make — or whether you should run the other way. Either way, you’ll walk away with practical insights on mindset transformation, success mindset, and how to create life transformation without burning out. If you’re ready to break patterns, stop chasing success the hard way, and finally experience inner transformation and authentic influence, this episode is for you. 🚀   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/ https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence   Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV. https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. https://sens.ai/realinfluence   #LifeMastery #BreakingPatterns #HighInvestment #DavidBayerMindHacks #LivingExperience #SuccessMindset #AlignYourLife #InnerTransformation #LegendaryProgram #MindsetTransformation #LifeTransformation #TransformationalCoaching #AuthenticLiving #RealDeal #DavidBayer #BusinessCoaching #ClarityAndCourage #PeakPerformance #LeadershipCoaching #MindsetCoach #BreakFree  #realinfluence #joeyvaillancourt #livingunfenced
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Sep 22, 2025 • 23min

95.Hustle Less, Live More: A New Success Formula

👉 30-Day Challenge 🚀30 days.  30 questions. From empty wins to deep fulfillment—start your Great Life Experiment today. https://joeyvaillancourt.com/the-30-day-challenge/   🤔 Do you ever feel like you’re constantly grinding, pushing, and hustling… yet deep down, you still feel unfulfilled? 😓 Have you ever asked yourself why success feels empty, even after hitting your goals? 🌱 What if slowing down, practicing self-reflection, and redefining what success means could be the secret to true happiness and freedom? In this video, we dive deep into how to escape hustle culture and finally break free from the endless grind mentality that leaves so many people burnt out, dissatisfied, and disconnected from what really matters. If you’ve been chasing achievement after achievement only to ask yourself, “Is this all there is?” — this conversation will resonate with you. 💡 You’ll discover why doing less but living better isn’t laziness, but rather one of the most powerful productivity hacks you’ll ever learn. Instead of fearing that slowing down means you’re falling behind, you’ll see how creating space allows you to reconnect with your values, find hidden blessings in the everyday, and actually achieve more with less stress. 😄 If you’ve ever struggled with the pressure to do more, achieve more, or constantly “prove yourself,” this is your reminder that success without fulfillment is failure. True happiness comes not from how many hours you work or how many goals you check off, but from living in alignment with who you really are. ✨ This video is for you if you’re tired of hustle, ready to embrace work-life balance, and want to finally experience the freedom that comes from slowing down without falling behind. Together, we’ll challenge hustle culture myths, uncover the hidden blessings of reflection, and reframe what it really means to be successful in today’s world. By the end of this video, you’ll walk away with:  ✅ A new perspective on why hustle culture isn’t sustainable  ✅ Practical steps to break free from the grind mentality  ✅ Tools to create success and fulfillment that lasts  ✅ A mindset that values balance, gratitude, and living in the present moment   In this we’ll talk about: 00:00 – Why hustle culture leaves us feeling empty 03:45 – The grind mentality: Why “more” never feels enough 09:12 – How to escape hustle culture without losing your drive 15:38 – Doing less but living better: Practical steps to slow down 18:55 – Success and fulfillment: Redefining what truly matters   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/ https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence   Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV. https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. https://sens.ai/realinfluence   #StartLiving #FamilyAndWork #GrindMentality #StopChasing #HiddenBlessings #HustleCulture #EscapeHustleCulture #WorkLifeBalance #SelfReflection #LessIsMore #BreakingFree #GrindMindset #HowToBeSuccessful #SuccessAndFulfillment #SlowingDown #OvercomingFearOfFallingBehind #ProductivityHacks #HustleMindset #ThePowerOfNow #DoingLessLivingBetter #realinfluence #joeyvaillancourt #livingunfenced  
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Sep 15, 2025 • 13min

94.Why Everything I Did Never Felt Like Enough

👉 30-Day Challenge 🚀30 days.  30 questions. From empty wins to deep fulfillment—start your Great Life Experiment today. https://joeyvaillancourt.com/the-30-day-challenge/ 🤔 Have you ever achieved the goal you worked so hard for… only to feel empty inside? Have you ever thought, “If I can just make more money, build the business, or buy the house—then I’ll finally be fulfilled,” but found yourself right back in the chase? Why is it that no matter how much we achieve, it still feels like it’s never enough? In this episode, we explore the hidden reason behind why success still feels like it’s not enough—and the powerful mindset shifts you can make to finally feel fulfilled while still growing and achieving. You’ll learn why achievements alone don’t create inner peace, how to break free from autopilot living, and what it really takes to align your life with what matters most. He shares his own story of outward success without fulfillment—dream job, business ventures, financial wins—paired with the inner emptiness that came with constantly chasing the next milestone. From there, he unpacks 3 life-changing insights: ✨ You’re too focused on outcomes – chasing the next achievement keeps you on a treadmill that never ends. ✨ You’re not addressing your beliefs – limiting beliefs about money, love, rest, and success shape how you experience every win. ✨ You’re not living your life – postponing joy until “someday” keeps you from fully experiencing the life you’ve already built. You’ll discover how to reframe success through practices like gratitude, self-reflection, and intentional living. Joey introduces tools like the “decision matrix” to help you shift limiting beliefs about money and happiness, and he shows why living life as an experiment, rather than a never-ending chase, is the real path to fulfillment. This conversation is about more than motivation—it’s about practical daily shifts that help you step off autopilot, break free from hustle culture, and finally experience what life can feel like when you’re living in alignment. Whether you’re a high achiever, a parent wanting more family time, or someone feeling “crispy” at the edges of burnout, you’ll walk away with clarity and tools you can apply right now. 👉 Inside this episode, you’ll learn: ✨ Why achievements won’t fulfill you if you’re chasing outcomes ✨ How to stop chasing and start living ✨ The truth about why success doesn’t equal happiness ✨ How to reframe beliefs about money, rest, and time ✨ Practical tools for building a life of alignment and purpose ✨ Why gratitude is the key to fulfillment today—not someday If you’ve ever thought “I’ll be happy once I get there,” this episode is your reminder that your best life begins now. 💡 Ready to go deeper? Join the Great Life Experiment 30-Day Challenge—completely free. Each day, you’ll get one powerful shift, reflection, or tool delivered straight to your inbox to help you stop chasing and finally enjoy the success you’ve already built.  ✨ Don’t forget to like 👉  https://youtu.be/k9JT-i5e64c ✨ Subscribe 👉https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRyqlLDxrgpJOHi1W67tFsg and share this with a friend, and drop a comment below on what part of this message hit home for you. Together, let’s normalize living fulfilled, present, and aligned lives.   In this we’ll talk about: 0:00 – The Big Question: Why Success Still Feels Empty 02:35 – My Story: Outward Success Without Inner Peace 06:40 – The Trap of Chasing Outcomes 12:15 – Breaking Limiting Beliefs About Money & Success   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/ https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence   Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV. https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. https://sens.ai/realinfluence   #TrueHappiness #InnerPeaceJourney #FulfillmentFirst #HappinessWithin #ChooseJoyDaily #LiveWithFulfillment #AlignedLiving #PeacefulMindPeacefulLife #AuthenticSuccess #AlignedSuccess #SuccessWithoutBurnout #RedefineSuccess #BeyondHustleCulture #PurposeOverHustle #SuccessWithSoul #AlignedAndThriving #realinfluence #joeyvaillancourt #livingunfenced
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Sep 15, 2025 • 18min

93.The 4D Exercise That Helps You Create the Life You Actually Want

Have you ever felt like you’re doing all the right things but still not living the life you truly want? What if the gap between where you are and where you want to be wasn’t about time, but about identity? And what if you could step into your future self today and watch your reality shift instantly? In this episode, we dive into the 4D Exercise, a powerful tool that helps you design your life from the inside out. It’s not about wishful thinking or waiting years for things to change. It’s about aligning your desires, your current identity, your future identity, and then choosing to live as that person now. What you’ll discover in this episode: Why most people stay stuck repeating the same patterns How your current identity silently shapes your reality The exact steps to create alignment between who you are and who you want to become The mindset shift that turns your goals from “someday” into today This exercise was born out of real coaching experiences and the powerful insights of David Bayer, a leader in mindset and transformational work. It challenges you to go beyond surface-level self-improvement and actually embody your future self now. When you practice this framework, you’ll start to notice: Greater clarity about what you truly want More confidence in your decisions A sense of ease because you’re no longer waiting for “someday” Alignment between your thoughts, actions, and desired outcomes The 4D Exercise works because it reprograms how you see yourself. Instead of being trapped in your current limitations, you begin to step into possibility. You start acting from the perspective of the person who already has the results you want. And when your actions align with that identity, reality follows. If you’ve ever felt like you’re trapped in cycles of self-sabotage, or like your goals are always out of reach, this episode will give you a framework to shift everything. Ask yourself: Who do I need to be right now to align with my desires? The truth is, you don’t have to wait years to live the life you want. You just need to choose your future identity and embody it today. Want to go deeper? Join me for The Great Life Experiment: 30 Days to Rewire Your Reality. This isn’t about adding more to your to-do list, it’s about living differently. Each day, you’ll practice simple but powerful shifts that reconnect you with curiosity, alignment, and the person you truly want to be. Imagine where you could be in just 30 days if you stopped waiting for “someday” and started living as your future self now.   Episode breakdown: 00:00 – Big Question: Creating Your Reality 00:28 – Personal Story & Training with David Bayer 02:31 – Step 1: Creating Your Desires 04:53 – Step 2: Identifying Your Current Identity 08:07 – Step 3: Defining Your Future Identity 12:00 – Living Your Future Self Today   Connect with Joey: https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence https://www.joeyvaillancourt.com https://joeyvaillancourt.com/the-30-day-challenge/   #WhatDoIReallyWant #HowToLiveInAlignment #BecomingThePersonYouWantToBe #DesignYourLife #CreateYourReality #ChangeYourMindsetForSuccess #EmbodyYourBestSelf #BeYourFutureSelfNow #HowToStopImposterSyndrome #FutureSelfVisualization #GoalSetting #Alignment #DavidBayer #HowToChangeYourLife #YourReality #realinfluence #joeyvaillancourt #livingunfenced
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Sep 15, 2025 • 28min

92.Why Positive Thinking Didn't Work for You (And What Actually Does)

Have you ever wondered why positive thinking doesn’t work for you? Why the law of attraction fails even when you visualize every day? Or why manifestation feels hard no matter how many vision boards you create? If you’ve been asking these questions, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I break down why manifestation isn’t working the way you’ve been told and what actually creates lasting results. For years, I was chasing outcomes, hustling harder, and trying to “think positive,” but deep down I felt frustrated, stuck, and even burned out. I discovered that the missing pieces were surrender, acceptance, and learning how to feel my goals into reality, not just think them. What we’ll explore together: Why positive thinking doesn’t work (and the real missing link to manifestation) The hidden trap of chasing outcomes instead of building a life you actually love How to use the Decision Matrix to rewire limiting beliefs and end self-sabotage The Echo Effect and why your external reality always lags behind your inner shifts The truth about overachiever burnout and how to get results by doing less Why the subconscious mind is the real driver of success and how to reprogram it Whether you’ve tried affirmations, vision boards, or endless mindset coaching sessions, you’ll learn why those tools sometimes fail and how to shift into an abundance mindset that feels effortless. This is where ease over hustle becomes the secret to creating not only success, but genuine fulfillment. Practical strategies you’ll hear: How to stop chasing outcomes and start enjoying the process of your life How to overcome doubt in manifestation and believe in your goals How to create a life of alignment instead of living on autopilot How to attract success effortlessly by feeling into your vision How to build momentum and produce results while spending less time This isn’t about quick fixes or surface-level motivation. This is about personal growth, mindset shifts, and lifestyle design that actually last. If you’ve ever thought “manifestation not working for me” or “why the law of attraction fails,” this episode will connect the dots in a way that finally makes sense. So if you’re ready to stop the cycle of self-sabotage, let go of limiting beliefs, and start living from a place of abundance mindset and surrender, hit play now.   Episode breakdown: 00:00 – Why Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work 03:00 – Vision Without Surrender: Building from Ego vs. Acceptance 07:00 – Chasing Outcomes vs. Building a Life You Actually Love 12:00 – Feeling Is the Secret: How to Manifest with Emotion 16:00 – Decision Matrix & Rewiring Limiting Beliefs 20:30 – The Echo Effect: Why Results Lag and How to Stay Aligned   Connect with Joey: https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence https://www.joeyvaillancourt.com     #PositiveThinking #ThinkandGrowRich #TheSecret #ManifestYourLife #LawOfAttractionFails #SuccessMindset #LimitingBeliefs #WhyPositiveThinkingDoesntWork #SelfSabotage #AbundanceMindset #EnjoyTheProcess #DecisionMatrix #LifestyleDesign #ManifestationNotWorking #SubconsciousMind #AttractSuccessEffortlessly #OverachieverBurnout #EchoEffect #MindsetShift #PersonalGrowth #Surrender #MindsetCoaching #EaseOverHustle #VisionBoard #LawOfAttraction #Manifestation #BuildALifeYouLove #OvercomingDoubt #ManifestationFeelsHard #FeelYourGoals #LifeAlignment #StopChasingOutcomes #ProduceResultsWithLessTime
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Aug 19, 2025 • 55min

91.Break Free from Money Stories & Heal Generational Wealth Patterns w/ Hannah Chapman (Expansive CEO)

Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same 💸 money patterns you learned from your family? Do you and your partner struggle to talk about money without it turning into conflict or disconnection? What if the key to wealth, love, and parenting wasn’t in spreadsheets but in healing your money stories and breaking generational patterns? 🤯 In this episode of Real Influence, I sit down with Hannah Chapman financial advisor for entrepreneurs, founder of Expansive CEO, and a visionary leader in conscious financial planning. Together, we unpack how to break free from negative money stories, heal the family money beliefs that are silently shaping your life, and step into true alignment with your purpose and prosperity. Hannah shares how she blends Human Design, money alignment, and spiritual financial planning to help entrepreneurs and families find freedom from scarcity, guilt, and self-sabotage. 🙌 We go deep into the financial healing journey where money isn’t just numbers, it’s tied to self-worth, inner peace, and generational wealth healing. We also talk about the struggles couples face when one partner doesn’t believe in spirituality, how to rebuild marriage trust around money, and how to create financial intimacy in relationships without shame or blame. ❤️ If you’ve ever asked, “How do I align with my partner about money and spirituality?”  this conversation has the answers. And it doesn’t stop at money and marriage. Hannah reveals how parenting through self-healing allowed her to create a safe emotional space for her kids especially raising children on the autism spectrum. 🧩 We explore how parents can break generational money trauma, release scarcity beliefs, and show their children what true abundance looks like. This is more than an episode about money , it’s about self-reflection, transformation, and combining inner work with financial success. Whether you’re navigating couples money struggles, searching for a financial advisor with spirituality, or simply wanting to heal your money mindset, this episode will inspire you to rewrite your story. ✨ Topics We Cover: Breaking free from money stories & generational trauma Human Design and money alignment Conscious financial planning for entrepreneurs Couples money struggles & financial intimacy in relationships Rebuilding marriage trust when partners disagree about money & spirituality Parenting through self-healing and creating safe emotional space for kids Healing money trauma and finding financial freedom If you’re ready to change your money story, heal your relationships, and create a legacy of abundance, this conversation is for you. 🚀   In this we’ll talk about: 00:00 – The Real Reason You’re Still Struggling With Money 04:58 – Healing Money Trauma: From Scarcity to Soul-Aligned Wealth 11:32 – Bringing Spirituality Into Business (Without Losing Credibility) 18:22 – Marriage, MDMA, and Mindfulness: A Real Conversation About Connection 24:48 – Conscious Parenting: Holding Space for Neurodivergent Kids 31:07 – Generational Healing Through Inner Child Work 36:40 – Using Human Design & Gene Keys in Financial Coaching 41:13 – Legacy Building Through Emotional Safety & Self-Awareness   Connect with Joey! https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/  https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/  https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/  https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence  https://www.joeyvaillancourt.com   Connect with Hannah! https://hannahrchapman.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahrchapman/ https://www.instagram.com/hannah.chapman.cfp/ Video resources/links of things mentioned https://expansiveceo.com/products_services #ExpansiveCEO #MoneyStories #HealYourMoneyMindset #GenerationalWealthHealing #ConsciousFinancialPlanning #HumanDesignAndMoney #FinancialAdvisorWithSpirituality #CouplesMoneyStruggles #RebuildMarriageTrust #FinancialIntimacy #BreakingGenerationalTrauma #ParentingThroughHealing #SafeEmotionalSpace #realinfluence #joeyvaillancourt #livingunfenced #hannahchapman    
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Jul 28, 2025 • 57min

90.No Light, No Noise: The Surprising Power of a Dark Retreat for Overcoming Fear & Finding Clarity

Have you ever wondered what happens when you spend days in total darkness? Can a dark retreat really help you overcome fear, anxiety, and internal chaos? What kind of transformation happens when there’s no phone, no light, and no escape but inward? In this powerful episode of Real Influence with Joey Vaillancourt, we dive deep into an unforgettable darkness retreat and what it reveals about the human mind, emotional resilience, and the power of surrender. 🎧🌑 Matthew Stafford, returns to share his second dark room experience — a journey that took him beyond fear, into presence, and toward a state of profound emotional clarity. This isn’t your typical wellness trend. It’s not about biohacking or chasing highs. This is about facing your shadow, peeling back internal noise, and unlocking deep breakthrough moments in total silence. From spontaneous breathwork breakthroughs to extended periods of wakefulness without exhaustion, Mathew describes the mind-bending impact of 4.5 days in complete darkness — and the surprising physiological effects that followed. Plus, he shares how a traditional Mexican Temazcal ceremony (sweat lodge) right after the retreat amplified his transformation. 🔥💨 💡 What you’ll learn in this episode:  ✅ What a darkness retreat actually involves (no substances, no stimulation—just pure stillness)  ✅ How going inward builds massive emotional resilience in daily life  ✅ The role of breathwork in dark retreats and how it leads to altered states  ✅ The surprising science behind DMT production in total darkness  ✅ Why these experiences offer an alternative to psychedelics like ayahuasca  ✅ What it really means to overcome fear through silence, surrender, and presence  ✅ How the mind resets itself and creates a new story about who you are  ✅ Why so many high performers are now turning to silent retreats for mental clarity  ✅ Insights into post-retreat integration, productivity, and internal peace  ✅ The deeper spiritual impact of a true awakening journey For anyone looking for more than surface-level self-care, this conversation is your invitation to explore the real work—the kind that happens in stillness, not hustle. 🙏 🧠 Whether you're a seeker, an entrepreneur, or simply someone craving inner peace, this episode will challenge your assumptions and inspire you to ask:  What if the next breakthrough you’re seeking… is on the other side of the dark? This deeply personal multi-part story follows one man's transformation through radical self-exploration—starting with a five-day darkness retreat in complete isolation and concluding with a traditional Temazcal (sweat lodge) ceremony. Along the way, he uncovers powerful lessons about fear, surrender, trauma, and spiritual healing. Inside the journey: 🌀 Darkness Retreat – A raw encounter with ego, memory, and inner stillness. 🪞 Reflections – Insights on identity, trauma, and daily triggers that linger after the dark. 🔥 Temazcal Ceremony – A sacred fire ritual of death, rebirth, and ego dissolution. 🧠 Life Lessons – Over 50 insights blending spiritual truths with grounded personal growth. If you're exploring healing, deep self-discovery, or practical ways to reclaim your power—this story takes you far beneath the surface. 👉 Ready to read the full transformation story? 👇 Ready to explore your own dark retreat or learn more? 🔗 View the Full Document Collection: http://bit.ly/419Mi2U In this we'll talk about:  00:00 – Can Darkness Really Heal You? 02:00 – What Is a Dark Retreat? 06:00 – Before the Retreat: Emotional Preparation 12:00 – Awakening in Total Silence 18:00 – The Power of Breathwork in Darkness 23:00 – DMT, Fasting & Hallucinations 32:00 – Mexican Temazcal Sweat Lodge Experience 41:00 – Post-Retreat Shifts: Focus, Calm & Productivity 49:00 – Final Thoughts on Letting Go, Clarity & Conscious Living   Connect with Joey! https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/  https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/  https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/  https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence  https://www.joeyvaillancourt.com Connect with Matthew! https://buildgrowscale.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthewstafforddotcom/ https://www.instagram.com/build.grow.scale #DarkRetreat #DarknessRetreat #DarkRoomExperience #EmotionalResilience #BreathworkJourney #BreakthroughMoments #OvercomingFear #AwakeningJourney #realinfluence #joeyvaillancourt #livingunfenced
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Jun 30, 2025 • 23min

89.1-Year Coaching w/ David Bayer: How I Got Sober, Changed My Life and Re-Wired My Brain

Breakthrough moment alert! Handing over $110K flipped my fear into empowered decisions and rewired my life on the spot. Ready to Face the Fear and Do It Anyway? I reveal my big decision framework for turning life challenges into opportunities for change without regret. This episode shows how breaking through comfort zones to level up isn’t about cash—it’s about choosing yourself with no safety net. We unpack the vision-first, how-second rule plus evidence building for new empowering beliefs so your next leap sticks. Contrast is your greatest teacher—discover why every obstacle is actually a growth accelerator. If you’ve wondered how to outwork your self doubt, you’ll get the power of positive thinking tools that beat hustle every time. The ultimate gratitude mindset shift: see “failures” as stepping stones and watch opportunities multiply. Hear my daily mantra trick for iron-clad commitment—evidence building that locks in unstoppable momentum.Plus, the vision board hack that magnetized new clients and income the second I relaxed into inspired action. By the end, you’ll have a playbook to smash comfort zones, level up fast, and claim the future already waiting for you. 🔥 Hit play, challenge your assumptions, and join the movement for real influence in mindset, partnerships, and life mastery. 🙌 Subscribe, drop your biggest leap in the comments, and share this with anyone still standing on the cliff edge!   In this we’ll talk about: 00:00 Facing Fear: $110K Commitment Leap 03:12 Decision Moment: Transformation Begins Now 07:45 Vision First, Let the How Unfold 11:30 Turning Contrast Into Growth Lessons 15:55 Gratitude Mindset Unlocks Abundant Pathways 20:40 Big Decision Framework: Evidence-Building Blueprint   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms!  https://joeyvaillancourt.com/  / joeyvaillancourt      / joey.vaillancourt.9     / joey-vaillancourt       / @joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence     About Joey: Joey Vaillancourt, host of the Real Influence podcast, helps people overcome apathy, feeling trapped and living a life of resignation by inspiring them to challenge their assumptions and handed down beliefs so they can experience a more purposeful, fulfilled and aligned life.   #BreakingThroughComfortZones #LevelUp #BreakthroughMoment #EmpoweredDecisions #TurnChallengesIntoOpportunities #FaceTheFearDoItAnyway #GratitudeMindsetShift #OutworkYourSelfDoubt #PowerOfPositiveThinking #EvidenceForEmpoweringBeliefs #BigDecisionFramework #realinfluence #joeyvaillancourt #livingunfenced
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Jun 16, 2025 • 27min

88.Feeling Overwhelmed? This Is How You Finally Let Go—Without Regret or Guilt

🔥  Overwhelmed by choices? Wondering how to create a new empowering belief and delete the old, limiting ones? 😅 You’re in the right place! In this episode, I reveal my big decision framework—a simple, 5-step process that turns confusion into crystal-clear action. 1️⃣ Identify the limiting belief that’s fueling your stress. 2️⃣ Create a new empowering belief that instantly upgrades your mindset. 3️⃣ Find real-life evidence to anchor that belief so it sticks. 4️⃣ Unlock fresh ideas and creative pathways you never saw before. 5️⃣ Clarify your 4D vision and move from “busy” to unstoppable. ✨ I’ll share behind-the-scenes stories from coaching sessions and my own life—proof that anyone can break limiting beliefs and make big decisions with confidence. 💡 Whether you’re drowning in tasks or wrestling with a career pivot, this big decision framework shows you how to decide what to keep and what to let go—fast. 🤓 Expect mindset science, practical tips, and a few aha-moments you can apply right now. Ready to move from chaos to clarity? Hit Subscribe and smash the 🔔 so you never miss these high-impact mental upgrades. 👉 Comment below: Which limiting belief are you replacing today, and what empowering belief will take its place? Let’s build REAL influence—inside and out. 💪   In this we’ll talk about: 00:00 Overwhelm Starts Here 02:00 Beliefs Drive Overwhelm Loop 05:00 Five Drivers Framework Explained 08:00 Decision Matrix, Evidence Stacking 12:00 Real-Life Belief Shifts 18:00 Vision, Gratitude, Next Steps   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/  / joeyvaillancourt      / joey.vaillancourt.9     / joey-vaillancourt       / @joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence     About Joey: Joey Vaillancourt, host of the Real Influence podcast, helps people overcome apathy, feeling trapped and living a life of resignation by inspiring them to challenge their assumptions and handed down beliefs so they can experience a more purposeful, fulfilled and aligned life. #CreateEmpoweringBelief #EmpowerYourMind #LimitingBeliefs #OvercomeScarcityMindset #ClarityVsOverwhelm #ShiftFromOverwhelm #ShiftLimitingBeliefs #StopHustleGrind #BigDecisionFramework#realinfluence #joeyvaillancourt #livingunfenced      

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