Finding Brave

The festive season is upon us! And while this time of year is traditionally dedicated to friends, family, and celebrations, it is often accompanied by stress and looming deadlines. It is also the time of year when many of us feel the very real effects of burnout, especially after laboring under consistently high levels of stress for most of the year. Today on the solo podcast episode, I take a closer look at the prevalence of burnout in modern culture today. I break down the reasons why I believe burnout to be an epidemic today (and research supports that belief) and offer advice on what can be done to address and prevent it. In my recent Forbes article Why Burnout Is An Epidemic and 3 Powerful Ways to Address it, I outline my observations and provide strategies and tips for shifting our behaviors and habits in ways that pave the way for reduced stress and burnout, and allow for more self-care, and emotional and physical restoration. Listeners who wish to do further exploration on this topic and learn more about how to “find brave” every day to build a happier, more rewarding and fulfilling life and career on your own authentic terms, can find helpful support in my latest book, The Most Powerful You. Today, you’ll hear a breakdown of how a confluence of unprecedented factors — such as the COVID-19 pandemic and the rise in remote work — have contributed to new highs in burnout rates. I unpack some key psychological concepts that important to understand, including perfectionistic over-functioning and its effects, and I explain how these habits affect our loved ones and contribute significantly to burnout. I also discuss how we can learn to identify what is within our control (and what isn’t) and begin to shift our habits and address burnout head on, in our own daily lives.   It may seem that there is simply too much outside of our control to enact meaningful change within our lives. But by making small tweaks to your mindset and introducing calming, self-restoring and balancing rituals, you can learn to identify small changes that make a big difference. To learn more about this important subject and how to create real and lasting positive change, don’t miss this episode, especially now, as we embark on a new holiday season.    Key Highlights From This Episode:  Kathy’s definition of burnout and the symptoms that can arise as a result. [03:15] Why we are experiencing an epidemic of burnout. [04:03] The concept of perfectionistic over-functioning and how it is affecting women. [06:13] How to gain greater awareness so you can make greater choices. [08:21] Understanding the changes that have happened in your life to lead you to experience burnout. [10:21] How to determine which stressors are in your control, and which are not. [11:53] What you can do to address the stressors that are in your control. [13:51] How therapeutic support can help if you are feeling depressed or burnt out. [17:18] How to value yourself and your well-being 10% more. [22:40] Why we aren’t doomed to a condition of burnout. [26:07]   For More Information:  Kathy Caprino Kathy Caprino on LinkedIn Kathy Caprino on YouTube Kathy Caprino on Instagram Kathy Caprino on Twitter   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:  Get your copy of Kathy’s book The Most Powerful You Check out Kathy’s Forbes article, Why Burnout Is An Epidemic and 3 Powerful Ways to Address it Access the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, aamft.org For a helpful locator of a marriage and family therapist in your area, visit the AAMFT therapist locator Get smarter in just five minutes with the Uptime app! Learn how your relationship with parents who were narcissists could be contributing to your Perfectionistic Over-Functioning. Read the helpful book, Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers KEY RESOURCES FOR CAREER AND LEADERSHIP GROWTH The Most Powerful You, Now in Paperback and on Uptime! My book The Most Powerful You (which is being translated into Arabic, Chinese and Polish) has now been published in paperback! And it’s being featured in Uptime, an app that offers 5-minute summaries (or “hacks” as they call them) with key insights and powerful action steps from the world’s best books. To check out the Uptime app on your phone, use the link bit.ly/uptimeMostPowerfulYou.   Ready to Take Your Professional Life and Leadership to the Next Level? Take Kathy’s training and Become The Most Powerful You! In reading a great deal about leadership today, and interviewing top leadership experts, I’m recognizing a disappointing trend - that the general concept and understanding of leadership has become so vague and watered down that most of it isn’t helpful at all, and it’s not suited to a majority of women who want to lead differently. The Most Powerful You training goes deeper. It helps you recognize and understand more about yourself as a person and the leader you want to be, then take empowering, transformative actions to operate in your role in a way that takes your leadership and your career higher, making the impact you dream to. If you truly want to help your team, staff and organization become “The Most Powerful We,” this is the right training for you.  Take this course individually or bring it to your workforce and teams today! Click here for more information. And stay tuned in January for news of the open enrollment of Kathy’s new LIVE 8-week training/coaching course on how to close the 7 power gaps and thrive at the highest level in your career and professional life!  ———————- Calling all coaches!  Do you run a coaching business that focuses on supporting professional women? If so, I’ve got some exciting news about supporting your coaching growth, success, and impact. Right now, we’re opening the enrollment of my private (1:1) coaching training program called The Amazing Career Coach Certification, which is a 17-week, hands-on training program that certifies female coaches in my proprietary 16-step career growth model, which is perfect for coaches who want a deeper dive into learning powerful, proven coaching frameworks, concepts, and skills that teach the 16 most essential steps to building an amazing career that your clients need to know. And this training will help you become far more effective and impactful in supporting women to thrive today in their jobs, roles, and careers. And through the program, you’ll get access to a powerful Small Business Acceleration program called The Rapid Growth Academy, delivered by my friend and colleague, award-winning business growth expert Matthew Pollard. Through Matthew’s program, you’ll be taught critical business and sales growth info that will help you grow your business success in the quickest way possible. In my view, there’s nothing on the market like for both new and more seasoned coaches because it targets the two critical aspects of success: how you support your clients to thrive, and just as importantly, how to grow your own business to the next level. For more information, visit certification.amazingcareerproject.com and check out the details. Join me this Winter!   ——————— Order Kathy’s book The Most Powerful You today! In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here. If you enjoy the book, we’d so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon! And check out Kathy’s digital companion course The Most Powerful You, to help you close the 7 most damaging power gaps in the most effective way possible.  Kathy’s Power Gaps Survey, Support To Build Your LinkedIn Profile To Great Success & Other Free Resources Kathy’s TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up & Free Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy’s Amazing Career Project video training course & 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz ——————— Sponsor Highlight I'm thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today! Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer   Quotes:  “The deal is you cannot change or address that which you're not aware of.” — @kathycaprino [0:08:36] “What makes you most stressed, worried, and anxious? If you woke up tomorrow, and you weren't stressed and anxious, how would you know?” — @kathycaprino [0:10:08] “There are a lot of (negative) words that are thrown around about people who seek therapy, but they're mistaken. You need to be strong to admit you need help. That's strong. That's brave. That's not weak.” — @kathycaprino [0:18:19] “If you don't have 10% more to give to yourself, you are stuck in a cycle of over-functioning and being a martyr.” — @kathycaprino [0:24:57] “We're not doomed to a condition of burnout.” — @kathycaprino [0:26:07] “It's probably more than just a tiny tweak. It's a consistent change. It's a consistent change in your mindset. It's a consistent change in how you feel about yourself and how you love yourself and how you accept yourself and validate yourself and honor yourself.” — @kathycaprino [0:26:58] Watch our Finding Brave episodes on YouTube! Don’t forget—you can experience each Finding Brave episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my YouTube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show!

Are you feeling frustrated because you’ve been passed over for another big promotion? Do you want to develop the skills you need to excel in senior leadership positions? Well, you’re in luck! Alex D. Tremble literally wrote the book on Reaching Senior Leadership, and he’s here today to share 10 essential growth strategies to help you rise to the top. Alex is an award-winning speaker, author, executive, and leadership expert who advises some of the nation’s most senior leaders on how to shape their company’s culture to attract, retain, and develop highly effective leaders. He is also the host of The Executive Appeal Podcast, which is focused on providing ambitious leaders with the leadership and career advancement skills required to excel.  Today, you’ll find out why mentorship, strategic relationships, and political savvy are oftentimes more important than hard work and you’ll learn how you can invest your time and energy into leveraging your strengths. Alex also reflects on workplace tokenism and the effectiveness of today’s corporate diversity, equity, and inclusion programs, and he shares valuable insights on exactly how diversity can be expanded in senior leadership ranks and how those individuals in underrepresented groups can attain the leadership roles and impact they have earned and deserve.  For all this and more, don’t miss today’s conversation!   Highlights From This Episode:  Why Alex believes that it takes a whole lot more than hard work to get you to the top. [03:31] How to be politically savvy, influence people effectively, and stay true to yourself. [08:21] Workplace tokenism and why it’s important to create diverse mentorship programs. [14:28] The essential role of strategic relationship building and networking for your success. [17:53] Reality check: prioritizing people isn’t bad and healthy relationships are transactional! [19:35] Top three essential growth strategies, starting with the value of investing in yourself. [26:54] A mindset shift to embrace power and money as tools to enable you to do good. [33:44] Where you can find more eye-opening leadership development tips from Alex. [35:22]   For More Information: Alex Tremble Alex Tremble on LinkedIn Alex Tremble on YouTube  Alex Tremble on Instagram Alex Tremble on Twitter   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Get your copy of Alex’s book, Reaching Senior Leadership: 10 Growth Strategies Every Government Leader Should Know Get more powerful, confident and impactful in just five minutes with Kathy’s book the 5-minute “hack” of Kathy’s book The Most Powerfl You on the Uptime app!   Ready to Take Your Professional Life and Leadership to the Next Level? Become The Most Powerful You! In reading a great deal about leadership today, and interviewing top leadership experts, I’m recognizing a disappointing trend—that the general concept and understanding of leadership has become so vague and watered down that most of it isn’t helpful at all, and it’s not suited to a majority of women who want to lead differently. The Most Powerful You training goes deeper. It helps you recognize and understand more about yourself as a person and the leader you want to be, then take empowering, transformative actions to operate in your role in a way that takes your leadership and your career higher, making the impact you dream to make. If you truly want to help your team, staff and organization become “The Most Powerful We,” this is the right training for you.   Take this course individually or bring it to your workforce and teams today! Click here for more information.   And stay tuned for the opening of the enrollment for the 8-week LIVE Most Powerful You course with Kathy! Enrollment opens in January! ———————   Calling all coaches!  Do you run a coaching business that focuses on supporting professional women? If so, I’ve got some exciting news about supporting your coaching growth, success, and impact. Right now, we’re opening the enrollment of my private (1:1) coaching training program called The Amazing Career Coach Certification, which is a 17-week, hands-on training program that certifies female coaches in my proprietary 16-step career growth model, which is perfect for coaches who want a deeper dive into learning powerful, proven coaching frameworks, concepts, and skills that teach the 16 most essential steps to building an amazing career that your clients need to know. And this training will help you become far more effective and impactful in supporting women to thrive today in their jobs, roles, and careers. And through the program, you’ll get access to a powerful Small Business Acceleration program called The Rapid Growth Academy, delivered by my friend and colleague, award-winning business growth expert Matthew Pollard. Through Matthew’s program, you’ll be taught critical business and sales growth info that will help you grow your business success in the quickest way possible. In my view, there’s nothing on the market like for both new and more seasoned coaches because it targets the two critical aspects of success: how you support your clients to thrive, and just as importantly, how to grow your own business to the next level. For more information, visit certification.amazingcareerproject.com and check out the details. Join me this Winter!   ———————   MORE RESOURCES FROM KATHY:Order Kathy’s book The Most Powerful You today!   In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here. If you enjoy the book, we’d so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon! And check out Kathy’s digital companion course The Most Powerful You, to help you close the 7 most damaging power gaps in the most effective way possible.   Kathy’s Power Gaps Survey, Support To Build Your LinkedIn Profile To Great Success & Other Free Resources Kathy’s TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up & Free Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy’s Amazing Career Project video training course & 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz   ———————   Sponsor Highlight I'm thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today! Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer   Quotes: “What are those key leadership qualities, key leadership behaviors, things that you’ve got to know to differentiate yourself from the rest of the group, from the rest of the pack? Because if you’re not remembered, you’re not selected!” — @AlexDTremble [0:06:21] “That’s what political savvy is: it’s really understanding how, what, when, where, and who to communicate with.” — @AlexDTremble [0:11:51] “You can’t be a leader unless you know how to build relationships, especially strategic relationships; that is intentional relationships with individuals who can help you reach your goal.” — @AlexDTremble [0:18:18] “Society pushes us to think that everyone has to be the same. That’s just not the reality. We only have so much time, only [so many] resources [and] energy to feed into these relationships. You need to know who you’re putting your time into.” — @AlexDTremble [0:25:50] “You have to be willing to invest in yourself. Yes, absolutely take advantage of any training opportunities your company is providing to you if they’re willing to support [this] or pay for that or whatever it may be—but you’ve got to pay for yourself sometimes.” — @AlexDTremble [0:28:32] “Yes, there are bad actors in this world, absolutely, and they do learn these skills too. But you know how you fight against that? By you learning these skills and you getting into those positions of influence and those positions of power.” — @AlexDTremble [0:34:53]   Watch our Finding Brave episodes on YouTube! Don’t forget—you can experience each Finding Brave episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my YouTube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show!

If you are feeling overwhelmed by marketing trends and the current social media landscape, then today’s episode is for you. Our guest, Andrew Gottlieb, is an expert in digital marketing and joins us to share his insights on essential marketing trends, along with what small businesses need to know and how best to capitalize on current trends in social media. Andrew has a host of credits to his name, not the least of which is being the Founder & CEO at No Typical Moments, a highly specialized digital marketing agency that serves purpose-driven businesses with a focus on having a positive social impact. He is also the co-author of The Two-Week Notice and has an extensive list of testimonials praising his many years of client work.   In our conversation, Andrew breaks down the key concepts in social media and digital marketing that small businesses need to understand. He offers a roadmap on how to navigate various subjects, from the tracking issues caused by the Apple iOS14 update to how businesses should respond to the rise of TikTok. He also explains why you shouldn’t commit to a single social platform, the best tools for taking control of your tracking, and why going the extra mile for your client is a fantastic way to define your brand. While social media has given small business owners more advertising power than ever before, it has also required an entirely new skill set that constantly needs to be updated. Andrew has gained a wealth of knowledge from his years of experience and offers listeners a host of key insights and valuable tools that can help them thrive in the next phase of their marketing journey. If you’re tired of feeling overwhelmed by digital marketing and social media, then you won’t want to miss this informative and insightful conversation on all things digital marketing and social media.   Key Highlights From This Episode:   Andrew unpacks the pitfalls of being committed to one social media platform. [05:05]  The unique opportunity that businesses, entrepreneurs, and creators currently have to build a following on TikTok. [11:27] Andrew’s advice on how to determine whether you should use your resources to be on TikTok as a small business or entrepreneur with limited resources. [14:14] What to do if you’re experiencing FOMO from not posting on TikTok. [15:13] Examples of the demographics of social media platforms and how they shift over time. [15:46] A breakdown of how to study TikTok to help you position your brand. [18:51] Andrew’s recommendations on which tools to use to figure out your tracking if you are marketing on platforms like Facebook. [21:06] How to distinguish between your brand, marketing, and sales. [25:44] The importance of reputation and how to build a strong brand by showing up for your customers. [27:44] Andrew’s advice to small business owners who want to become more aligned with the people they want to help. [33:34]   For More Information:  Andrew Gottlieb Andrew Gottlieb Email Andrew Gottlieb on LinkedIn Andrew Gottlieb on Instagram Andrew Gottlieb on Facebook No Typical Moments The School for Humanity   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:  Be sure to check out Andrew’s book The Two-Week Notice Use Google Analytics to measure and track your advertising ROI Discover how advanced software like Wicked Reports can help you uncover critical data insights for all of your paid marketing activities Implement Facebook’s Conversion API (CAPI) to gain fresh insight into your analytics Start your 10-hour learning journey in understanding marketing and branding with The Digital Marketer and Gary Vaynerchuck on YouTube   Ready to Take Your Professional Life and Leadership to the Next Level? Become The Most Powerful You! In reading a great deal about leadership today, and interviewing top leadership experts, I’m recognizing a disappointing trend - that the general concept and understanding of leadership has become so vague and watered down that most of it isn’t helpful at all, and it’s not suited to a majority of women who want to lead differently. The Most Powerful You training goes deeper. It helps you recognize and understand more about yourself as a person and the leader you want to be, then take empowering, transformative actions to operate in your role in a way that takes your leadership and your career higher, making the impact you dream to. If you truly want to help your team, staff and organization become “The Most Powerful We,” this is the right training for you.  Take this course individually or bring it to your workforce and teams today! Click here for more information.   ———————- Calling all coaches!  Do you run a coaching business that focuses on supporting professional women? If so, I’ve got some exciting news about supporting your coaching growth, success, and impact. Right now, we’re opening the enrollment of my private (1:1) coaching training program called The Amazing Career Coach Certification, which is a 17-week, hands-on training program that certifies female coaches in my proprietary 16-step career growth model, which is perfect for coaches who want a deeper dive into learning powerful, proven coaching frameworks, concepts, and skills that teach the 16 most essential steps to building an amazing career that your clients need to know.  And this training will help you become far more effective and impactful in supporting women to thrive today in their jobs, roles, and careers. And through the program, you’ll get access to a powerful Small Business Acceleration program called The Rapid Growth Academy, delivered by my friend and colleague, award-winning business growth expert Matthew Pollard. Through Matthew’s program, you’ll be taught critical business and sales growth info that will help you grow your business success in the quickest way possible. In my view, there’s nothing on the market like for both new and more seasoned coaches because it targets the two critical aspects of success: how you support your clients to thrive, and just as importantly, how to grow your own business to the next level.  For more information, visit certification.amazingcareerproject.com and check out the details.  Join me this Winter!    _______________ Order Kathy’s book The Most Powerful You today, new in paperback! In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here. If you enjoy the book, we’d so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon! And check out Kathy’s digital companion course The Most Powerful You, to help you close the 7 most damaging power gaps in the most effective way possible.  Kathy’s Power Gaps Survey, Support To Build Your LinkedIn Profile To Great Success & Other Free Resources Kathy’s TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up & Free Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy’s Amazing Career Project video training course & 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz   ——————— Sponsor Highlight I'm thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today! Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer   Quotes:  “For the first time ever, Facebook had a decrease in users to their platform. And there's new platforms that are emerging, like TikTok that are just more fun to be on. So you just shouldn't be married to one platform being the be-all and end-all for the next 40 years.” — Andrew Gottlieb [0:07:46] “What's happening on TikTok right now is exactly what happened to you (Kathy) on LinkedIn in 2014. It's really a supply and demand equation that's going. There's not enough content creators on the app right now. But the number of users who are downloading TikTok is just skyrocketing.” — Andrew Gottlieb [0:11:34] “You have a unique moment in time to capitalize on building a follower base on TikTok right now.” — Andrew Gottlieb [0:11:59] “Rein in your FOMO. And just be aware that eventually over time, Tik Tok is going to have an older demographic.” — Andrew Gottlieb [0:15:46] “I think when you have a good reputation, you have good branding, and good marketing that's getting your business out there in a really genuine and authentic manner, it allows the business to come to you versus you having to be on the hunt, going door to door.” — Andrew Gottlieb [0:29:30]   Watch our Finding Brave episodes on YouTube! Don’t forget – you can experience each Finding Brave episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my YouTube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show!

So many “successful” working professionals have followed the traditional path, yet ultimately find themselves deeply unfulfilled in their jobs. Our guest today was one such example. With his good grades at school, Steve Oehley went on to graduate from college to pursue a well-respected job as a veterinarian, only to find it brought him no joy. He has since embarked on an inspiring journey of self-awareness, founding Escape the nine to five, a podcast and coaching program designed for college-educated professionals looking to discover a career path that truly resonates with them. Given his background in veterinary medicine, Steve’s passion lies in sharing his life-changing framework with other professionals in the field. In this episode, Steve fills us in on the darker side of the veterinary profession and what can make it a stressful occupation for some. We learn about Steve’s background; what led him to the veterinary world and what moved him to pursue a new direction, as well as the inspiration for and evolution of ‘Escape the Nine to Five’ work. Steve has a very unique perspective with so many wonderful insights on what it means to escape the nine to five and how you, too, can find a more meaningful and rewarding professional direction. Simply pivoting without taking time to truly understand yourself can set you back, which is why Steve advocates for identifying your strengths within your own industry and moving forward from there. He shares advice for those looking to change careers, particularly those who feel stuck in current role and field. If these feelings of professional entrapment resonate with you, listen in to find out key steps to begin to explore shifting your career in a more productive and meaningful way.   Key Highlights From This Episode: Why Steve decided to narrow his target audience to medical professionals and veterinarians. [04:17] The dark side of the veterinary profession and what led Steve to pursue a new direction. [06:24] Steve’s background and career journey, and advice for those looking to change careers.[10:02] The inspiration behind Escape the Nine to Five, and what it means to do so. [14:59] Steve’s journey to self-awareness, and what he learned about himsel in the process. [19:00] The danger of pivoting without self-awareness. [22:29] The critical importance of living a full life outside of your profession. [25:51] How to free up time by evaluating your spending habits. [27:59] Steve’s advice for those who feel stuck in their current 9-5 role. [30:15] A summary of Steve’s framework for change. [35:32]   For More Information: Steve Oehley on LinkedIn Steve Oehley on Twitter Steve Oehley on Instagram Email Steve Oehley Escape the nine to five Ready to Take Your Professional Life and Leadership to the Next Level? Become The Most Powerful You! In reading a great deal about leadership today, and interviewing top leadership experts, I’m recognizing a disappointing trend - that the general concept and understanding of leadership has become so vague and watered down that much of it isn’t helpful at all, and it’s not suited to a majority of women who want to lead differently and more authentically to their own approach, style, and values. The Most Powerful You video training program goes deeper, and helps you recognize and understand more about yourself as a person and the leader you want to be, then take empowering, transformative actions to operate in your role and leadership in a new way that takes your performance and impact higher, making the difference you dream of, doing work that matters deeply to you. If you truly want to help your team, staff and organization become “The Most Powerful We,” this is the right training for you.  Take this course individually or bring it to your workforce and teams today! Click here for more information.   ———————- Order Kathy’s book The Most Powerful You today, now in paperback! In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here. If you enjoy the book, we’d so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon! And check out Kathy’s digital companion course The Most Powerful You, to help you close the 7 most damaging power gaps in the most effective way possible.   Kathy’s Power Gaps Survey, Support To Build Your LinkedIn Profile To Great Success & Other Free Resources Kathy’s TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up & Free Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy’s Amazing Career Project video training course & 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz   ——————— Sponsor Highlight I'm thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today! Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer Quotes:  “The reality is with any business you’re in … is that you really do need to niche down and find your target audience.” — @steveoehley [0:04:17] “The first thing I would say for anyone looking to change career is, before you go and look at what other jobs are out there [and] what things you might be best suited to, you really need to emotionally understand yourself.” — @steveoehley [0:13:14] “If you identify your strengths within your own industry, you can then potentially get quite a respectable job that pays relatively well and is heading you in the right direction towards what you might ideally be your dream job in five or ten years’ time.” — @steveoehley [0:24:13] “Reducing the amount that you’re spending might enable you to go from your 40-hour five-day-a-week job to maybe a four-day-a-week job.” — @steveoehley [0:29:06] “The only person that really cares about your career is yourself.” — @steveoehley [0:32:14] “The things people regret the most in their life are not the things that they do do, but the things they don’t do.” — @steveoehley [0:34:34]   Watch our Finding Brave episodes on YouTube! Don’t forget – you can experience each Finding Brave episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my YouTube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show!

From cubicles to open floor plans, from conference rooms to Slack channels and Zoom calls, the workplace has changed a great deal over the years. There is one thing that never changes, however. You’ll always have to deal at some point with workplace jerks who can wreak havoc in your professional life, career and role. Joining us today is Tessa West, a Professor of Psychology at New York University, where she is a leading expert on interpersonal interaction and communication.  Tessa has published over 60 articles in the field of psychology's most prestigious journals, and has received multiple grants, including from the National Science Foundation and the National Institutes of Health. She is the recipient of the Theoretical Innovation Prize from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology and writes regularly about her research in The Wall Street Journal. Tessa is also the author of the book, Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them. Today, we take a closer look at the seven types of jerks that she describes and dive into her definitive guide for dealing with (and ultimately breaking free from) the overbearing bosses, irritating coworkers, and all-around difficult people who can make your work-life miserable. To learn how to spot a jerk and also how to ask for the right kind of feedback you need to prevent you from becoming a jerk yourself, plus helpful strategies for dealing with workplace jerks, tips for finding great allies, and so much more, don’t miss this episode.    Key Highlights From This Episode: How Tessa landed on this topic and what compelled her to write about it [02:55] Cultural norms that steer us away from conflict and why we need to learn to face it [04:46] The seven types of jerks and how to identify them [11:25] What these jerks might have experienced in childhood that drives their behavior today [17:10] The fascinating origins of the term ‘gaslighting’ and how it relates to narcissism [29:32] Proven strategies for handling each type of jerk [30:32] Tips for reframing your work relationships and finding trusted allies [32:30] Encouragement and advice for dealing with jerks and toxic coworkers [36:35] How to recognize if you're the jerk at work [37:44]   For More Information: Tessa West Tessa West at NYU Connect with Tessa on LinkedIn and Twitter Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Tessa’s book, Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them, on Amazon and Audible. Take Tessa’s free tests to find out “Am I a Jerk at Work?”, “Am I an Effective Ally?”, or submit your workplace problem for direct feedback Kathy’s viral article, ‘6 Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away: How To Recognize Them In Yourself and Change Them’. ——————— Ready to Take Your Professional Life and Leadership to the Next Level? Gain the confidence and strength you’re ready for, and become The Most Powerful You! In reading a great deal about leadership today, and interviewing top leadership experts, I’m recognizing a disappointing trend - that the general concept and understanding of leadership has become so vague and watered down that most of it isn’t helpful at all, and it’s not suited to a majority of women and men who want to lead differently. My Most Powerful You training goes deeper. It helps you recognize and understand more clearly key aspects about yourself – as a leader, communicator, manager and uplifter of others. And it guides you to take empowering, transformative actions to operate in your role and career in a way that takes your leadership and your career higher, making the impact you dream to. If you truly want to grow your leadership and influence, help your teams thrive, and build an organization where all can say they are “The Most Powerful We” together, this is the right training for you.  Take this course individually or bring it to your workforce and teams today! Visit The Most Powerful You training HERE. ——————— JOIN KATHY IN HER AMAZING CAREER PROJECT 16-WEEK ONLINE COURSE, STARTING OCTOBER 6TH AND BUILD A HAPPIER CAREER THIS YEAR! ('m thrilled to share that the enrollment window for the Fall session of my 16-week Amazing Career Project course is open now! Learn more and register here: Amazing Career Project This Fall session – which starts October 6th – teaches professional women and men how to take the 16 most essential steps to building a rewarding, joyful, and successful career in the fastest, most direct way possible.   Through the four months of the course, you’ll get: 16 jammed-packed instructional videos on the 16 essential steps for building a successful and rewarding career 16 weekly live group coaching calls with me  16 tailored homework assignments that move you forward fast An amazing online support network of members to help you My own hand-picked collection of premier resources for additional help PLUS: Great lifetime discounts to my private coaching programs and events And so much more!  Check out amazingcareerproject.com today for some fantastic bonuses and savings. Truly, this is a powerful investment in you and your career and there is nothing to lose and so much to gain.  I’d love to work with you this Fall!   ——————— Order Kathy’s book The Most Powerful You today! In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here.   If you enjoy the book, we’d so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon! Other resources:Kathy’s Power Gaps Survey, Support To Build Your LinkedIn Profile To Great Success & Other Free Resources Kathy’s TEDx Talk, 'Time To Brave Up' & Free Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy’s Amazing Career Project video training course & 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz ——————— Sponsor Highlight I'm thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today!   Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer ——————— Quotes: “We don’t learn this stuff. We don’t learn how to detect jerks early. We don’t learn how to have conflict early. A lot of these problems stew. Eventually, we maybe get fed up [or] we turn to coping mechanisms that don’t work.” — @TessaWestNYU [0:03:45] “You imagine conflict more than you actually [encounter] it. That perception is what leads us to avoid these situations.” — @TessaWestNYU [0:08:29] “We know that adult attachment styles don’t just affect your personal relationships; they affect your workplace ones as well.” — @TessaWestNYU [0:17:33] “Gaslighters cause the most long-term damage out of all these types [of jerks]. The psychological warfare they engage in is just next level!” — @TessaWestNYU [0:27:24] “This stuff is hard. If anyone comes to you and says, ‘There’s a quick fix. If you just did X, Y, and Z, these problems would go away,’ don’t believe them!” — @TessaWestNYU [0:36:47] “It’s all about the small behavioral changes. Little things accumulate. Don’t try to hit [the problem] with a hammer. Just go slow and steady. That wins the race here.” — @TessaWestNYU [0:37:25]   Watch our Finding Brave episodes on YouTube here! Don’t forget – you can experience each Finding Brave episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my YouTube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show!

Believe it or not, everyone has a personal brand, whether you’ve taken the time to plan one or not. Today, you’ll hear from Dr. Cindy McGovern, the author of a new book on personal branding titled Sell Yourself: How to Create, Live and Sell a Powerful Personal Brand. Cindy is also the Founder of Orange Leaf Consulting, a sales and management consulting firm, and the author of the Wall Street Journal bestseller, Every Job Is a Sales Job: How to Use the Art of Selling to Win at Work. Known as the First Lady of Sales, Cindy speaks about personal branding, sales, and leadership topics all over the world. In this episode, we dive into creating your legacy through your personal brand, what it takes to thoughtfully and intentionally craft an authentic personal brand and live it, and why Cindy believes that learning to sell like a sales professional will make you more successful at selling your most important product–you. This episode illustrates the importance of understanding how your personal brand impacts those around you and why selling yourself needn’t feel ‘icky’ or uncomfortable. Plus it’s jam-packed with useful tips and practical advice for focusing on your impact– the outcomes you’re uniquely able to generate, using the perceptions of others about you and your work to your advantage, being very intentional about the words you choose to describe yourself, and so much more. Tune in now to learn how to build your personal brand and leverage it for greater impact today.   Highlights From This Episode: What Cindy means when she says that simply identifying your personal brand will not make that brand powerful or effective. [05:57] Common mistakes you might be making with your own personal brand. [07:12] Selling yourself as a sales job and why sales needn’t be manipulative, uncomfortable, or dishonest. [07:45] The value of asking the right questions to uncover what you can offer, uniquely and powerfully. [12:44] Why so many corporate professionals struggle to define their personal brands. [14:11] How to thoughtfully create an authentic brand and then live it, day in and day out. [17:35] Tips for testing your brand by soliciting valuable and candid feedback. [20:00] Using prejudice to your advantage by elevating different facets of your brand. [22:18] Carefully examining the words you use to describe yourself and the impact they have. [27:47] The importance of activating your network in order to create a lasting legacy. [31:54]   For More Information: Dr. Cindy McGovern Dr. Cindy McGovern on LinkedIn Dr. Cindy McGovern on Twitter Dr. Cindy McGovern on Instagram Dr. Cindy McGovern on Facebook Dr. Cindy McGovern on YouTube Orange Leaf Consulting Orange Leaf Academy   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Pre-order Cindy’s latest book, Sell Yourself: How to Create, Live and Sell a Powerful Personal Brand Get your copy of Cindy’s Wall Street Journal bestseller, Every Job Is a Sales Job: How to Use the Art of Selling to Win at Work Read Cindy’s blog post on why many corporate professionals struggle to create their personal brands   JOIN KATHY IN HER AMAZING CAREER PROJECT 16-WEEK ONLINE COURSE, STARTING OCTOBER 6TH AND BUILD A HAPPIER CAREER THIS YEAR!(Register by September 24 to save $500 and get 6 great bonuses)! I'm thrilled to share that the enrollment window for the Fall session of my 16-week Amazing Career Project course is open now! Learn more and register here: Amazing Career Project(Only 30 spots are available!)This Fall session -- which starts October 6th – teaches professional women how to take the 16 most essential steps to building a rewarding, joyful and successful career in the fastest, most direct way possible.   Through the four months of the course, you’ll get: - 16 jammed-packed instructional videos on the 16 essential steps for building a rewarding, successful and rewarding career - 16 weekly live group coaching calls with me   - 16 tailored homework assignments that move you forward fast - An amazing online support network of members to help you - My own hand-picked collection of premier resources for additional help - PLUS: Great lifetime discounts to my private coaching programs and eventsAnd so much more!    Check out amazingcareerproject.com today for some fantastic bonuses and savings for early birds. The enrollment window closes October 1st. Truly, this is a powerful investment in you and your career and there is nothing to lose and so much to gain.  I’d love to work with you this Fall!    ——————— Order Kathy’s book The Most Powerful You today! In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here. If you enjoy the book, we’d so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon! And check out Kathy’s digital companion course, The Most Powerful You, to help you close the 7 most damaging power gaps in the most effective way possible.  Kathy’s Power Gaps Survey, Support To Build Your LinkedIn Profile To Great Success & Other Free Resources Kathy’s TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up & Free Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy’s Amazing Career Project video training course & 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz ——————— Sponsor Highlight I'm thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today! Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer   Quotes: “It’s more than having a brand and saying, ‘I want to be known as these words.’ It’s how you exemplify those words through your actions, [how you] create and craft your legacy, and — more importantly — how it impacts those around you. Without the impact, you don’t have a legacy.” — @1stladyofsales [0:06:36] “I don’t actually sell someone on something. I invite them to buy.” — @1stladyofsales [0:10:41] “You are not the company brand. You are not what is in your email signature line. You are whatever [impact] you are making on those around you.” — @1stladyofsales [0:15:15] “I’m going to walk into this room, and they are going to underestimate me. How am I going to use that to my advantage? How am I going to elevate the facets of my brand to show them, sell them on the fact that I can do this?” — @1stladyofsales [0:22:52] “If I don’t have a story to tell about you, you don’t actually have a legacy.” — @1stladyofsales [0:30:03] “It’s the way you show up, the way you consistently keep the message going. You’re truly being your authentic self, but you are activating your network to want to help you sell. That’s how you actually create a legacy.” — @1stladyofsales [0:32:31] Watch our Finding Brave episodes on YouTube!Don’t forget – you can experience each Finding Brave episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my YouTube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show!

Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! “Instead of working and giving my life and my family the breadcrumbs of time, why don’t I turn it over? My family, my time, whatever it is that is important to you. It could be work or whatever you actually love. If you do that, here’s what happens: you think you won’t have time to do the things that actually have to get done to work and get paid. Not true. You actually [get more] creative in getting those things done in less time.” — Richie Norton Are you looking to find your motivation, prioritize your ideals, and create a flexible work-life lifestyle that allows you to enjoy expansive freedom? Today’s Finding Brave guest believes that you can do all of the above, no matter how busy or successful you are, using what he calls Anti-Time Management! Today, you’ll learn about the power of Time Tipping from award-winning author and serial entrepreneur, Richie Norton. As an executive coach to CEOs, Richie has been featured in Forbes, Bloomberg Businessweek, Inc., Entrepreneur, and the Huffington Post. Pacific Business News recognized Richie as one of the Top Forty Under 40 ‘Best and Brightest Young Businessmen’ in Hawaii, and he is considered one of the world’s leading thinkers and is included in Marshall Goldsmith’s Top 100 coaches community. He is also the CEO and Cofounder of PROUDUCT, an INC. 5000 company and a global entrepreneurship solution that helps businesses go from idea to market with full-service sourcing, product strategy, and end-to-end supply chain, and the author of several books, including Anti-Time Management, The Power of Starting Something Stupid, and Résumés Are Dead and What to Do About It.  Richie and I go back nine years to when I wrote about his second great book, The Power of Starting Something Stupid, for my Forbes blog in 2013. In today’s episode, he shares some of the valuable frameworks from his latest book, Anti-Time Management, and how you can implement them to stop managing your time and start prioritizing your attention. For poignant and practical advice from someone who has learned the value of living in a way that helps him lean into his fears, make a difference, and live without regret (and wants to help you do the same), make sure not to miss this powerful conversation with Richie Norton!   Key Points From This Episode: Insight into why Richie decided to write this book and why now. [06:46] Work for meaning, not money: what to do when the success you’ve had no longer works for you. [08:54] How you can use Time Tipping to learn to value your time, not time your values. [14:29] Overcome fears about money by rethinking how you get paid, not how much. [17:10] A look at how you can benefit if you stop managing time and start prioritizing attention. [19:20] Employing the concept of ‘project stacking’ to align your attention with your goals. [24:39] An understanding of Richie’s prolifics, practices, purposes, and payments framework. [29:17] Why Richie believes that, in some cases, a full calendar equals an empty life. [35:34]   For More Information: Richie Norton PROUDUCT Richie Norton Email Richie Norton on LinkedIn Richie Norton on Twitter Richie Norton on Instagram Richie Norton on Facebook Anti-Time Management The Power of Starting Something Stupid Résumés Are Dead and What to Do About It.   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:  Get Richie’s FREE Anti-Time Management Toolkit! The three times that Kathy featured Richie in Forbes: ‘Longing to Start Something Stupid? How Pursuing 'Stupid' Will Transform Your Life’ 'How Stephen Covey Changed The Life Of One Young Entrepreneur Through A Single Powerful Phrase’ ‘Forget Time Management: Use Anti-Time Management To Get To Your Real Goals’   ———————   Ready to Take Your Professional Life and Leadership to the Next Level? Become The Most Powerful You! In reading a great deal about leadership today, and interviewing top leadership experts, I’m recognizing a disappointing trend - that the general concept and understanding of leadership has become so vague and watered down that most of it isn’t helpful at all, and it’s not suited to a majority of women who want to lead differently. The Most Powerful You training goes deeper. It helps you recognize and understand more about yourself as a person and the leader you want to be, then take empowering, transformative actions to operate in your role in a way that takes your leadership and your career higher, making the impact you dream to. If you truly want to help your team, staff and organization become “The Most Powerful We,” this is the right training for you.  Take this course individually or bring it to your workforce and teams today! Click here for more information.   ———————   Order Kathy’s book, The Most Powerful You, today! In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here. If you enjoy the book, we’d so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon! And check out Kathy’s digital companion course The Most Powerful You, to help you close the 7 most damaging power gaps in the most effective way possible.  Kathy’s Power Gaps Survey, Support To Build Your LinkedIn Profile To Great Success & Other Free Resources Kathy’s TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up & Free Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy’s Amazing Career Project video training course & 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz   ———————   Sponsor Highlight I'm thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today! Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer   Quotes: “Value your time, don’t time your values.” — @richienorton [0:14:29] “It’s not how much you’re paid. It’s how you work. Change how you’re paid, change your life.” — @richienorton [0:18:39] “Time management means they control your time. [Anti-Time Management means] you control your time. Time management: they tell you what to do. Anti-Time Management: you decide what you want to do. Time management: they take up space. Anti-Time Management: you create space.” — @richienorton [0:21:11] “It’s not what you’re doing. What you do can be anything. How you operate changes how much time, freedom, autonomy, and flexibility [you have].” — @richienorton [0:26:40] “Aligning payment with purpose changes the way you work and helps you become more successful.” — @richienorton [0:35:10] “When you practice Anti-Time Management and Time Tipping, you create space so that, when things happen—even things that are unexpected, good opportunities and the ones you need to figure out—you actually have room to do something about it without just reacting.” — @richienorton [0:37:05]   Watch the video of this episode! Don’t forget – you can experience each Finding Brave episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my YouTube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show!

Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! “Now that I’m older, I truly think about it differently. Every single rejection you get, I have learned, if you listen and observe carefully without all the defensiveness and the ego getting hysterical, it can unlock amazing doors for you.” - Kathy Caprino  Rejection, both from others and from inner selves, is a common issue faced by the many thousands of women I have heard from and worked with. This is why in this episode of Finding Brave, I talk about the different aspects of rejection and how we can handle it in a new way - one that fuels and expands our success instead of crushing it.  How you handle and feel about rejection will directly determine the degree to which you can experience growth, fulfillment and excitement on the journey to your goals. Some time ago, I posted an image with a quote about rejection on LinkedIn, and it resonated with many folks, with over 55,000 views and 1,100 likes in just a few days.   It may be hard to believe sometimes, but rejection can and will lead to amazing success if you approach it the right way. Today I share my own personal, and often painful, experiences around being rejected, and I share 5 positive lessons rejection can offer that can fuel your success, rather than demoralize you and set you back.  As always I would love to hear how this episode resonates with you, and I’d love to hear how you’ve overcome rejection in ways that opened door to more thrilling opportunities that you’re grateful for. Please reach out to me by email, or on social media via LinkedIn, or on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Pinterest to say hello and share your ideas!   Highlights from this Episode: The ways I reacted to rejection when I was younger versus how I think about it today [6:07] How rejection can lead to making valuable changes to your idea, project or product [9:17] Why the timing, and actually being ready for success, matters so much [14:36] The reason I’m such a fan of research regarding new products and programs but why your friends shouldn’t be the ones you turn to for it [16:47] The way to approach feedback so that you’re not limiting your own success unintentionally [18:57] How you can begin to recognize how amazing you are and why this is necessary to live the best life you can [21:42] What to identify in order to share a more authentic self [24:28] How to know when “perfectionistic overfunctioning” is holding you back [30:02]   Resources Mentioned:  Kathy’s Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy’s Close Your Power Gaps private coaching program Kathy’s article – 3 Key Steps to Moving from Self-Rejection Toward Self-Love Kathy’s TEDx Talk “Time to Brave Up” Kathy video and post: What Is Feminism and Why Do So Many Men and Women Hate It Kathy’s Forbes post: How Being Raised by a Narcissist Affects Your Self-Esteem Kathy’s Forbes interview: What Selling Three Million Copies of ‘The Dance of Anger’ Has Taught Harriet Lerner Kathy’s Forbes interview: What the Most Rejected Person in the World Can Teach About Triumph and Creating Work We Love featuring Daniel Seddiqui     CHECK OUT MY “MOST POWERFUL YOU” VIDEO COURSE! Based on 16 years of coaching thousands of women around the world, and from my own personal learnings in transitioning from unhappy corporate VP to therapist, to now career coach, speaker, writer and executive trainer, and with instrumental strategies from over 30 of the nation’s top experts in fields essential to professional success, this course gives you a clear roadmap for the exact steps to take to close the 7 most damaging power gaps that block us from reaching our highest potential.    Take this 8-module course, close your power gaps, and become more confident, resilient, energized, and successful in work you’ll love and feel proud of, with an inspiring support community to help you thrive and grow for the duration of your professional life. If you’re ready to close your power gaps and become the MOST POWERFUL version of you, CLICK HERE to learn more and register! Order Kathy’s book The Most Powerful You today!  In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here. If you enjoy the book, we’d so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon!    Other helpful info: Private One-on-One Career & Leadership Breakthrough Coaching from Kathy If you are longing to personally experience more power, confidence, authority and self-esteem in your work and career and want more hands-on, private coaching help, join me in my Career Breakthrough Coaching program today! Here’s more information.   QUOTES:   “I love to look at what the big challenges are so that we can address those with eyes wide open, and so we can move forward faster, better and easier.” [2:46] “What I see in so many thousands of women that I hear from and work with is there’s a lot of self-rejection going on.” [3:44]  “10 years ago nobody cared about professional women’s challenges. That’s the difference 10 years can make.” [14:04] “The Universe sometimes pushes back on an idea and makes you wait until it can come to fruition, because the timing wasn’t right.” [14:24] “Feedback, which can be rejection-oriented, can actually inform you, but you’re not going to hear it and you’re not going to understand it if you are too busy defending yourself and being angry at it.” [20:14] “You’re not self-absorbed and you’re not narcissistic just because you love yourself.” [25:13] “You will develop more self-love the more you put yourself out there.” [27:31]   Sponsor Highlight   I’m thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today!  Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer   Watch video versions of my interviews on Finding Brave!  Don’t forget – you can experience each Finding Brave interview episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my Youtube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show!  Please share your positive ratings and reviews! If you love the show, we’d be so very grateful for a positive rating and review on Apple Podcasts! These great ratings help us reach more and more people who are interested in boosting their careers, businesses, and their leadership, and keep in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts in countries around the world. Thank you!

Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! “The goal of the conversation is not to convince. It’s not to compel, and it’s not to control. It’s not to try to get the other person to think something different. As soon as we believe somebody is trying to control us in that kind of way, we resist. So the very effort to convince, it makes you less convincing.” – Joseph Grenny Contrary to how many people feel in our world today, it is possible to tell the truth and avoid alienating a friend or colleague or engendering terrible and painful conflict. With so much distrust among family, friends, colleagues and our leaders, it’s vital to not to take the two standard approaches – being silent or violent — on core issues but instead, we need to learn the essential skills behind expressing yourself candidly yet cordially.  Today’s Finding Brave expert guest reveals how it’s not having different opinions that’s the problem in our conflicts, rather it’s how and why we express those opinions, and the approach we take before even entering the conversation.  Joseph Grenny is a four-time New York Times bestselling author, dynamic keynote speaker, and leading social scientist for business performance. Joseph has spoken at some of the world’s premier leadership conferences. His books have been translated into 28 languages, are available in 36 countries, and have generated results for 300 of the Fortune 500. I had the honor of interviewing Joseph and David Maxfield in my Forbes blog in 2015 in a piece on Gender Bias Is Real: Women’s Perceived Competency Drops Significantly When Judged as Being Forceful, on their groundbreaking research on gender bias, and I’ve often quoted the information that their research uncovered that proved gender bias is not imagined, it’s real – and their research showed on how women’s perceived competency and perceived worth drops exponentially more than men’s when they are are perceived as forceful or assertive. I’ve featured their work in my TEDx talk Time to Brave Up, and in my new book The Most Powerful You and my Most Powerful You Course which is why I’m so excited to speak with Joseph today and bring you his expert insights and perspectives on navigating crucial conversations. This episode is part of our “Summer Pick series” which features a selection of the most popular and downloaded shows we’ve aired in the past several years.   Highlights from this Episode: Why Joseph was first drawn to topics around communication and crucial conversations [5:36] The real reasons he feels that many of the conversations happening today are so volatile [9:01] Why your internal and external approach to a conversation will often be the key to achieving a successful outcome with the other person [12:57] The way that our fears, or the threats that we perceive, will impact how a conversation unfolds [15:22] A technique he recommends to disarm perceived threats by both parties [16:06] The 3 different types of stories we tell ourselves, and how to begin mastering them today [20:30] A time that Joseph made a stand to have his voice heard, and the role that setting ground rules beforehand had in doing this [23:44] What the goal of every conversation should be, and what we shouldn’t be trying to do [27:24] How I was able to diffuse a difficult situation that I faced in my professional career [32:18]   For More Information: https://josephgrenny.com/  www.vitalsmarts.com https://www.linkedin.com/company/vitalsmarts/  https://twitter.com/vitalsmarts https://www.instagram.com/vitalsmarts/    Resources Mentioned: Ready to become more confident, powerful and successful in work you love?   CHECK OUT MY “MOST POWERFUL YOU” VIDEO COURSE! If you’re tired of working so hard in a career that just isn’t working for you, this is the course for you! This transformative 8-module training course, based on my bestselling book The Most Powerful You, will help you close the 7 most damaging power gaps that keep 98% of professional women from thriving at the highest level, and reaching their most thrilling potential. In the course, you’ll be taught transformative actions, strategies and mindsets that will help you experience exponentially more positive power, self-mastery, confidence, communication skill, leadership, and influence over what transpires in your life, career and relationships (both at work and at home).  Based on 16 years of coaching with thousands of women around the world, and from my own personal learnings in transitioning from unhappy corporate VP to therapist, to now globally-recognized career coach, speaker, writer and speaker, and with amazing strategies from over 30 of the nation’s top experts in fields essential to our success, this course gives you a clear roadmap for the exact steps to take to become more confident and influential in work you’ll love and feel proud of, with inspiring leaders, colleagues, and mentors who will help you thrive and keep growing for the duration of your professional life. If you’re ready to close your power gaps and become the MOST POWERFUL version of you, CLICK HERE to learn more and register! Order Kathy’s book The Most Powerful You today!  In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here. If you enjoy the book, we’d so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon!  ___________________________________________________________ Other resources mentioned: Joseph’s Book, Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High & His Other Works  Untangling the Mind: Why We Behave the Way We Do by Theodore George, M.D.  Kathy’s Forbes Blog with Joseph Grenny and David Maxfield, Gender Bias Is Real: Women’s Perceived Competency Drops Significantly When Judged As Being Forceful Kathy’s Forbes Post, What Is Feminism, And Why Do So Many Women And Men Hate It? Kathy’s Power Gaps Survey, Support To Build Your LinkedIn Profile To Great Success & Other Free Resources Her TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up & Free Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy’s Amazing Career Project video training course & 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz   Sponsor Highlight   I’m thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are now sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today!  Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer QUOTES:  “The only way norms get reset, and the only way that biases become apparent and addressable, is through conversation. That’s the only mechanism that gives us any hope.” [4:00] “Time and time again, we’ve found that almost any area of pain within an organization, what kept those problems chronic and turned them from an incident into a pattern, is peoples’ inability to confront, discuss and resolve [the issues].” [6:02] “All of us are really hardwired for failure around complex social dynamics. However, we have the software to learn. We have the capacity to rise above our thinking and our patterns, and to create new ones.” [10:25] “The words that come out of your mouth will have part of an effect, but if there’s a contradiction between what I read from your face and what I read from your mouth, I’ll trust the face.” [14:15] “There’s a huge opportunity for us to de-escalate our own emotions, if we recognize that this is just a perceived threat, and not a real threat.” [16:03] “When you behave in a way that’s inconsistent with their story, you help them dismantle it.” [34:41]   Watch video versions of my interviews on Finding Brave!  Don’t forget – you can experience each Finding Brave interview episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my Youtube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show!  Please share your positive ratings and reviews! 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What brings you joy? What makes you feel energized? What makes you, you? Loving yourself starts with understanding yourself and learning to accept yourself for who you are, rather than fixating on who you think you “should” be. Self-love is one of the most powerful things that we, as human beings, can do to enhance our lives. Today’s guest is Kate Northrup; entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and mother who has built a multimedia digital empire with her husband which supports hundreds of thousands of ambitious women to light up the world without burning out!  When it comes to work, less is more! According to research, working 49 hours+ per week is linked to a decline in mental health. This negatively impacts productivity because happier people are more productive. During this episode, Kate explains the personal experiences that led her to discover how to do less to live better. Nobody is lying on their deathbed wishing they had more money; give yourself permission to be happier!    Key Points From This Episode:   Kate shares the personal experiences that motivated her to do less. [04:32] Self-sourced scheduling; a brief overview of the system that Kate created. [08:30] How tracking her cycle catalyzed Kate’s journey of reconnecting with herself. [10:23] You are what you are, love yourself for that. [13:04] Advice for figuring out what to let go of. [15:22] Exploring the hyper-productivity trauma response. [18:37] What research shows about the impact of working hours on women’s mental health. [23:47] The benefits of shorter working hours, and how to take radical responsibility for your life (even if you work in a corporate environment). [24:23] The three most important lessons that Kate has learned during her life so far (and the number one thing she has learned from being a mother). [27:25]   For More Information:  Kate Northrup  Kate on Instagram  Kate on Facebook  Kate on Youtube Kate on Twitter   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:   Kate’s Latest Book, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms &  Do Less Planner Kate’s First Book, Money: A Love Story & The Money Love Course Kate’s Books on Audible Her Membership Site, Origin® Collective The Kate & Mike Show Podcast  Kathy’s Amazing Career Project & Blog Post, The Top 5 Regrets of Midlife Professionals The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware   Ready to Take Your Professional Life and Leadership to the Next Level? Become The Most Powerful You! In reading a great deal about leadership today, and interviewing top leadership experts, I’m recognizing a disappointing trend - that the general concept and understanding of leadership has become so vague and watered down that most of it isn’t helpful at all, and it’s not suited to a majority of women who want to lead differently. The Most Powerful You training goes deeper. It helps you recognize and understand more about yourself as a person and the leader you want to be, then take empowering, transformative actions to operate in your role in a way that takes your leadership and your career higher, making the impact you dream to. If you truly want to help your team, staff and organization become “The Most Powerful We,” this is the right training for you.  Take this course individually or bring it to your workforce and teams today! Click here for more information.   ——————— Order Kathy’s book The Most Powerful You today! In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here. If you enjoy the book, we’d so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon! And check out Kathy’s digital companion course The Most Powerful You, to help you close the 7 most damaging power gaps in the most effective way possible.  Kathy’s Power Gaps Survey, Support To Build Your LinkedIn Profile To Great Success & Other Free Resources Kathy’s TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up & Free Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy’s Amazing Career Project video training course & 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz   ———————   Sponsor Highlight I'm thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today! Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer   Quotes:  “We have a tendency to live outside ourselves. When we are outside ourselves we don’t make the best decisions for ourselves because we are operating in essentially a separate universe where we are completely other-focused versus self-focused.” — @katenorthrup [0:08:11] “Tracking my cycle and noticing how I felt was one of the most profoundly loving things I could do because instead of trying to be different, I was noticing how I am.” — @katenorthrup [0:11:51] “It needs to bring you results or it needs to bring you joy.” — @katenorthrup [0:16:45] “When said with love, the truth heals.” — @katenorthrup  [0:28:55]   Watch the video of this episode!  Don’t forget - you can experience each Finding Brave episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my YouTube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show!