Speaking of Sex with The Pleasure Mechanics

Context is perhaps the most important factor in how you experience your sexuality. Context is all of the factors in the external environment AND in your internal landscape that create the story of each moment. Human sexuality is incredibly context dependent – meaning even small changes in the context of an erotic encounter can create […]

We humans are pleasure and rewards seeking animals – we must actively seek out the food, hydration and human connection that sustain us. The Zuckerman Sensation Seeking Scale is one framework that looks at the range of the ways we relate to adventure, novelty, risk and boredom. Developed by psychologist Marvin Zuckerman, Ph.D. in the […]

Social distancing has quickly changed all of our lives – but in very different ways. Some of us are alone, some of us are together with family and no respite in sight. How is social distancing impacting our erotic connections? What parts of social connection – or aloneness – are you missing and yearning for? […]

Mutual Aid is an ethos of care that has risen out of multiple communities – including the disability rights movement & immigrant communities- that invites us to consider our interconnected webs of strengths and vulnerabilities, needs and assets. Rather than relying on “charity” models of giving that maintain power imbalances and systems of harm, we […]

A quick dispatch amidst all of the disruption and overwhelm of the global coronavirus pandemic. Our home ground during this global emergency will be https://www.pleasuremechanics.com/care During this time of global emergency, Pleasure Mechanics online courses are open to all. We can support you with tools & strategies to nourish one another with touch, connect with those […]

Please visit PleasureMechanics.com/care for updated resources on this global emergency – we love you – stay safe, stay connected. This podcast was recorded on March 11, 2020, after we were recovering from family illness during the first few weeks of the global coronavirus outbreaks. As we watch this global situation unfold, this episode is a […]

In this encore of Speaking of Sex episode #178, we discuss the difference in the experience of “making love” vs. “fucking” – which of course is not a simple binary and yet resonates for so many of us. Sometimes, we want tender, emotional and deeply personal sex – “making love.” And sometimes, many of us […]

In this interview, Alexandra Solomon PhD joins us to discuss her new book Taking Sexy Back : How To Own Your Sexuality & Create The Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020) Ready for a masterclass in intimate relationships? Join us in Dr. Solomon’s new online course Intimate Relationships 101 It’s time to flip the script […]

Want more romance? Want your partner to be more romantic? Want to be more romantic and be able to express your love? Let’s start with thinking about what being romantic even means! Beyond the package deal scripts of Valentine’s Day style romance, what does it mean to be more romantic? How can we approach romance […]

We all develop pleasure ruts – our most reliable pathways to pleasure, arousal and orgasm. How do we break out of ruts and find new pleasure pathways? How can we encourage exploration in our relationships – without losing any of the reliable standbys that we might depend on for accessing pleasure? This is an encore […]