Speaking of Sex with The Pleasure Mechanics

Shame is one of the most common sexual struggles. Almost all of us struggle with some form of sexual shame – from body shame to faith-based shame, from kink shame to genital shame, almost everyone holds some shame. Shame tells us we are broken, sinful, gross or otherwise unworthy of love. Shame tells us if […]

A Sexplanation is a new documentary, hitting the film festival circuit now, that offers a joyful exploration of what’s happening with sex education in North America, and the very personal impact of the past 40 years of abstinence only sex education in schools. Going far beyond the classroom, Alex embarks on an epic journey into […]

Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life by Emily Nagoski is a must-read for anyone interested in human sexuality – and since you are here, we bet that is you! This book introduces you to research-backed frameworks that help you understand your own experience of sex. You’ll get […]

Intimacy, pleasure and erotic arousal all require a sense of safety to emerge. In this episode we explore why the human body needs to feel safe before pleasurable play, creative joy and erotic connection can authentically emerge. We look at the anatomy of social safety, fear vs. excitement, and the autonomic nervous system. Then we […]

A crucial step in understanding your erotic imagination is making a clear distinction between FANTASY and DESIRE.  Many people try to start talking about sex by saying something like “Tell me about your fantasies. . .”  While this is a great question to ask, you can run into trouble if you mix up Fantasy with […]

Since 2006, we’ve been The Pleasure Mechanics, dedicated full time to exploring the power of pleasure, intimacy, joy and connection. It’s been our mission to remember the role of pleasure in our human experience and the creative, generative, healing force of eroticism. Here’s just some of what we believe about pleasure. Ready to explore with […]

Love it or hate it, Valentine’s Day rolls around every year – as some version has for over 2500 years! With it’s roots in pagan fertility festivals and it’s future as a multi-day festival celebrating all kinds of love, Valentine’s Day is here to stay. So it is time to rethink Valentine’s Day, again! In […]

Our friend and teacher Dr. Alexandra Solomon has spent over 20 years working with couples as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and teaching the popular Marriage 101 course at Northwestern University, and is the author of two bestselling books on love and erotic intimacy. Dr. Solomon is one of the teachers we most love […]

Big thanks to Marie Jenicek from This Thing Called Movement Podcast for allowing us to share this beautiful interview. In this interview between Charlotte Mia Rose and Marie Jenicek, discover: how Charlotte got into this work originally why Chris and Charlotte started Pleasure Mechanics why touch is an underestimated essential for our wellbeing how shame gets […]

Here’s how to set erotic intentions – for the New Year or any time you want an erotic reboot. Intentions are how we align our daily actions with our values and desires. Intentions help us live with integrity and be active creators in our own lives. This episode is a must-listen if you want to […]