Sometimes guilt is appropriate: it links us to our moral compass and spurs us to right our wrongs. But too often, guilt crosses the line into inappropriate. It keeps us stuck, ruminating about the past, and, unchecked, can lead to depression. So what should you do if you feel as guilty as a teenage boy with a freshly erased browser history? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 7 ways to let go of guilt. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/shake-it-off-7-ways-to-let-go-of-guilt Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

Inequality, privilege, and injustice blare from the headlines. When faced with an unjust world, how do you cope? Do you dwell on unfairness? Or do you stay out of the fray? This week, by request from Melissa in San Francisco, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen reveals the surprising truth about how each of us is wired for justice and revenge. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/does-revenge-work-our-minds-on-vengeance Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

We all find our soulmate, are successful in our chosen field, fulfill our dreams, and live happily ever after, right? No so much. Occasionally life is a bed of roses, but often it’s a briar patch. What to do when life inevitably lets you down? Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 ways to deal with life’s disappointments. Read the full transcript at Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

The #metoo movement has shed much-needed light on sexual assault and harassment. But sexual abuse of another kind remains hidden even today. In the United States, it is estimated that 1 in 6 men was sexually abused as a child, which means that in the U.S. alone, more than 25 million men are survivors, living with and trying to heal from the effects of childhood sexual abuse. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and comedian Paul Gilmartin discuss the myths shrouding sexual abuse and how survivors can start to heal. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/the-hidden-epidemic-of-childhood-sexual-abuse-of-boys Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

Comparing yourself to others inevitably leads you to feel bad about yourself. Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 ways to stop pining for that greener grass. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/stop-comparing-yourself-to-others-with-these-5-tips Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

Almost everybody struggles with it. But no one talks about it. What is it? How to discreetly sniff your own armpits in public? How not to buy the free sample after you just ate three of them? Not quite; it’s the mysterious process of making friends as an adult. This week, in a twist on the usual episode, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen presents an audio excerpt from her debut book, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

Usually, awkwardness gets thrown around as a personality trait,as in, "I hate parties because I'm so awkward." Or, "I have a hard time meeting new people because I'm awkward." But this week, This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen discovers that Melissa Dahl, journalist and author of Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness, looks at awkwardness in a different way: as an emotion. And that’s a feeling we can all relate to, whether we’re Sheldon Cooper, Michael Scott, or you or me. Read the full transcript at Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

The recent tragedy of Robin Williams's suicide—and the ensuing media storm—raised awareness of suicide as a mental health issue, but also generated a lot of misinformation. This week, the Savvy Psychologist cleans up after the headlines. Read the transcript: http://bit.ly/1u8Rnmi

They may not be lions and tigers and bears, but they are dogs and cats and bunnies, not to mention all sorts of other critters. Who are they? Emotional Support Animals, and they’re becoming more and more common on planes, in college dorms, in restaurants, and elsewhere in public life. This week, by request from an anonymous listener, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen explains what exactly emotional support animals are, and whether or not you really have to sit next to one at your favorite restaurant. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2e5UZDK

Heartbreak hurts, plus it affects our judgment. Suddenly, driving by our ex’s house “just to see,” posting overwrought poetry on our blog, and a six-pack nightcap all seem like good ideas. Is there a quicker and healthier way to make it through the heartache? Fear not. This week, by request from listener Thy, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen tackles 4 ways to heal a broken heart. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/4-ways-to-heal-your-broken-heart Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com